 Welcome back to every way woman. So let's chat about the book extra large love recently released by Sarah Barney and in it she tells the story of obese girls who are having riskier sex And they're taking more health risks Because they're larger You're me. I mean you made a face Stacy. Yeah, that's tough Self-image, I can't say how important self-image is and for a young woman who's overweight Who we've told her because society would tell you because she's not gonna see anybody magazine It looks like her that she's not important the first man who says the right things to her. She is going to absolutely Absolutely go and make her Feel like she's important, but I don't I don't think there's a point to that That would be any girl any size who's having issues of self-worth. You're right And it's someone who's having issues of self-esteem self-worth, which we were talking about earlier You're right. If you say the right thing then yes It will open up that girl to have risky sex at a very young age become promiscuous I think it may be a reason why it might be more of an issue with obese girls is there's no going around it It when you are when you allow your child or if your child is obese at a very young age They start to develop Much faster than other girls do you know? I recently read that some girls who are obese are starting their menstrual cycles as early as first or second grade That could happen to you but wait man Let me cuz I want to make sure I'm hearing you to correct So you're saying that even young women that are not obese What was your point about I'm saying even young women who are not obese but who are having issues with self-image Maybe they're too thin maybe they're anorexic and they have issues with their body And they have this body dysmorphia and a man comes along and he makes them feel loved and makes them feel wanted But they might the difference is those society we will be more embracing of someone who's thin Then someone who is morbidly obese Okay, but yes, Stacey you're taking the point of society if you are in the mind of A woman who is too thin or the mind of a woman who is overweight? That's not about what society feels. That's about how they personally are feeling about themselves in that moment We contribute to that let's take that part out of it And we just focus on let's say it is because it is the child is obese or the young lady is obese And I think a big part of it is Which we kind of glossed over a little bit is that they're developing a lot earlier as early as person second grade Wow, that's huge. Okay, but aside from that they're being developed earlier They're getting poked on picked at the hot Can you imagine what the boys and the other kids are like at that age? And what kind of things that they must say and to to that young girl who's developed so soon And then the kind of attention she's getting from boys who are two or three grades above them I mean how many third fourth graders do you know that think about? Yeah, but but okay, you know you have the young then you have these young girls who are in their classes and that's Available to them, but I wonder why are they making riskier choices? What is it that it's already been laid out for them? Yes, they're not worth it So they don't have to use a condom or be careful having constant contact with them at a very young age When girls are supposed to get it later when they develop in their teens But if they're getting it before their teens that implant has already been put in their minds for it's a seed That's been planted very early on age and boys are promiscuous teenage boys are promiscuous So they see these young these women as an easy target Oh, I can just you know I see fat Susie and I'm gonna get with her that's one notch on the belt and because the fat Susie is not valued That's what I don't want us to dismiss what we do to that. I don't need internally we can do that But so they do they just pick them out It might just be Susie's got some tits Let's not just it of girls Obese boys too, because you know biologically when you're heavy the man part which is referred to as the penis Right, okay, I'm learning all kinds of You know what, okay, let me give you a little shout on that for every 50 pounds. You're overweight Right no matter your age you lose an inch of your size true story So those obese young boys as well are probably feeling like oh, you know what let me Any type of relationship I can have Yes, I'm just gonna do this because we as a society don't dismiss the job we I work in HR. Let me tell you somebody come in fat. We automatically make a judgment So you can imagine a person. What do you want me automatically make a judgment? What do you make a judgment that they're not disciplined? Discipline interesting because they're not being disciplined in their sexual life, nor are they Nutrition so you've got a person who's going through all these hormones and these feelings and somebody rub up on it You know what you That is a real issue for them. And so now nobody talks to them They just figure I'm gonna just go out and have sex and here's where we are It's interesting though because they're receiving the same kind of sexual education Well, no, but I mean like through this one would assume they show you a video in school. Yeah, that's all they do Because the girls are maturing earlier I think because they're developing earlier if they're being approached in a much younger age So they're more apt to be open to exploring but yes, if you take it and enjoying their curves Yes, but if you also take it in the face of wanting to feel loved of a self-esteem thing too Then yeah, maybe they will be willing to step out there and do things that most girls wouldn't do They want to ladies no matter your size play it safe. We'll be right back with more every way woman