 This is the only type of relationship that will work for the narcissist There is only one type of relationship that narcissist want It has to be a relationship that suits their agenda. It has to be on their terms The narcissist targeted you Because they believed that you were going to be a suitable source of supply for them They believed that you were going to fit in well with their plans They were not looking for someone to love or care for They were not looking for someone to share anything positive with Narcissists are looking for doormats They're looking for people that they can walk over and While you may not have been that in the beginning Narcissists know whether or not they can mold you into what they need you to be They need someone who is going to believe everything they say They need someone who is going to doubt their own intuition Someone who is going to do whatever they want Someone who isn't going to stand up to them. They need you to be submissive They need you to follow their lead They need to be the ones who make all of the decisions So that everything can be under their control They want you to abandon your identity And adopt their ideas and preferences They want you to be like them So that you can support their agenda While neglecting your own interests and needs Because they really don't care about you They're self-absorbed and they lack empathy. They only care about themselves But they need people to serve them They need people to regulate their emotions They need an emotional punching bag They need an emotional tampon Someone to carry their emotional baggage Someone who they can unload all their pain and trauma onto Someone who will attend to the things that they don't want to deal with and that is why they target empaths That is why they target kind caring people People who want to help People who want to fix things People who are people-pleasers Because they know that you want them to like you They know that you want them to approve of you And they use that to their advantage They use it to make you jump through hoops Because that's what gives them supply When they can make you do all of these things to try to win them over To try to get their validation And they hold it in front of you like a carrot on a stick But you're never going to get it Because they can't even validate themselves They're very insecure And that's why they need you around To feed their egos To validate their false self To make them feel important While they don't even care about you While they treat you like you're worthless And beneath their consideration Because all they want is attention and validation from you They want you to feed their souls And they also want any resources that you have to offer Narcissists want money and power And if you have that, they will try to take it from you They will try to milk it out of you They will try to claim it as their own While professing that they love and care for you When really it's extortion, they're just using you Narcissists do not care about anyone but themselves But they don't like it when you speak on it There has to be this elephant in the room Where they're doing all of these things but you can't talk about it You have to keep this code of silence You have to pretend like everything is okay Because all they really want is the fantasy They want you to validate the illusion that they are trying to portray And as soon as you try to deviate from that They will intimidate you They will pressure you into returning to the box that they have created for you Because all they really want is someone who will reflect back to them Just how powerful and in control they are Even though the opposite may be true They don't care about the truth All they care about is what they believe about themselves Which is a reflection of what people believe about them Which is why they're so focused on their image of reputation They're so focused on managing the impression that people have of them Not because they care about other people But because they care about what is being reflected back to them People commonly misconceive That all a narcissist cares about Is how other people see them But really that only matters to them Based on how it pertains to them All a narcissist cares about Is how they see themselves And this can be affected by how other people see them But really they're so self-absorbed That the only thing that matters Is the reflection they get of themselves People are just pawns in this strategic game of chess That they've created in their own minds Which they use to change how they see and feel about themselves Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching Inquiries You can email me at coaching.narc-sur-fiver.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon