 Hello my YouTube family Welcome to another Nark Survivor Live video and this one a very big topic We are going to be talking about When the narcissist Realizes their doom because all of this time They've been doing all of these things to you they manipulated you into this Non-recipical relationship Where you were just giving out constantly and you weren't getting anything back and returned to replenish yourself And they were just draining you Depleting you Because they could see your value, but they never let you know just how valuable you are Just how incredible How wonderful of a person That you were to them Because let's just talk about what you were to the narcissist. You were very kind Loving generous giving You wore your heart on your sleeve You are always there for them Even when they were hurting you Even when they were abusing you You put up with it You took it on your chin and you kept moving You kept being there for them You kept being by their side But here's what happens when a person treats you like that because quite clearly they needed you At some level they did recognize your value while they were using you But it's kind of like throwing a piece of meat to a pack of dogs All they're gonna do is just rip it apart They consumed you They devoured you While not truly appreciating your value But guess what? At some point that comes back to bite them in the ass It really does Because they're so heavily reliant and dependent on you It may be very useful to you It takes you to where you need to go But what happens if you don't take care of it? What happens if you don't clean it? If you don't give it fuel You don't change the tires You don't top up the oil What happens if You don't continue to maintain that car That you love so much That you're using, that's helping you Of course it's just going to fall apart And it's the exact same thing with you and the narcissist They didn't take care of you Even though you were something of value to them You were useful, beneficial But they're not used to having things of value Because even themselves, they have no inner sense of value They get their value from the outside Through manipulating other people Using them, devaluing them That's where they get their value from It doesn't come from within, like with us But that's why they love to be around us Because we can generate this value from within And then they can take it from us And then they feel valuable in that moment It makes them feel better about themselves It gives them that rush, that little bit of energy To help to keep them moving But because they fail to maintain us As their source of value This source of supply At some point that begins to affect them as well Once they depleted us of our energy and resources Then how they meant to use us as their source of supply Of course, if they took care of us Like taking care of a car Then we would be better able to provide things to them But of course, as we know, narcissists do not have this mentality Because with narcissists It's kind of like throwing a piece of meat to a pack of dogs They're just going to devour it and they're not going to think anything of it Narcissists do not think before they act They do a lot of hurtful, mean things And they don't even think anything of it They're not even thinking about what that's going to do to you How it's going to deplete you How it's going to affect your ability to maintain them So at some point, of course, things do go wrong And then they begin to realise their doom They begin to realise that things are falling apart for them They begin to realise that it's not the way as it was before But when that happens They're not going to look at the situation And take accountability Like a responsible mature adult Because remember, they're like emotional toddlers They're like two-year-old children in adult bodies So they're not going to take accountability for anything when it goes wrong All they're going to do is play the victim and blame you And then they're going to use that as justification to punish you And by punishing you I mean, they may stalk and harass you They may make threats, they may intimidate you They may trangle you with another person They may start a smear campaign against you They may try to target you financially They may try to get you fired from your job Yes, these are the types of things that narcissists will do After they have depleted you of your energy And of you being a source of supply to them That's typically what they will do When they realise they're doomed But either way, they're going to take a fall It is going to affect them even if they do blame you And punish you Yes, they do develop their arrogance and sense of entitlement And they may get something more out of you But no matter what they get, it's never enough, they're never satisfied Because they can't generate that energy from within They have to get it from external sources So all they can really do is deplete you And then move on to someone else And do the same thing all over again And that's why they usually have so many exes They go from one supply to the next They just use them up They chew them and then they spit them out They discard them and then they find someone else And do the same thing all over again But there is no source of supply There is no person Who can provide them with what they need, this fuel, forever Because it's never going to be enough to sustain a narcissist It's never going to fill that void It may fill them temporarily But it's fleeting They always return to their usual state of depression Nothing is ever enough to sustain and continuously uplift them They're always going to need more And that really is their doom That is their curse And it's always going to be like that for them No matter what they do, no matter what they have There's never going to be enough It's never going to sustain them Well as we can get that from within That power, that energy that they're seeking from their sources of supply We can generate that on our own And again, yes, that is why they targeted us But as it says in the Bible, do not cast your pearls into swine Like with the analogy I said earlier It's like throwing a piece of meat to a pack of wild dogs All they're going to do is devour it And they will devour it very quickly They won't even think about what they're going to do later that day or tomorrow It's just this mentality, like this is what I want right now And just not thinking about the future So this is how it is with narcissists This is what it's like when they realise their doom Just going to sit down in the sand here Just watching the sun go down Really beautiful view of these mountains on the sea But don't stress too much over these narcissists Don't worry too much about it There's very little you can do to change the situation Especially once it's moved past the love-bombing phase Because a lot of times they're just not really even thinking about what they're doing All they're thinking about is what they want They look at you and it's like, yes, I want your energy I want your emotions, your reactions I want you, in the beginning at least I want you to make me feel that then it's rushed you And use you to make myself feel powerful As though I'm superior to you Because that's what they do, they idealise us in the beginning They view us as perfect, they put us on as pedestal To where we're above them And then that turns against them It's like, so we're greater than they are Now they've got to bring us down Now they've got to put us beneath them because they're envious They're feeling secure, they're feeling inferior to us But this is what they do every time When they meet someone new it's like, yes, I've met this new perfect source of supply But of course, you can't both be perfect Because at some point something is going to go wrong You might slip up or they may reveal a flaw or imperfection And then it's all downhill after that But this is just how it is with them because they just can't be human They can't be vulnerable They have to protect and defend this false character That's their false image And if you threaten that If they feel like you're going to expose it Then you become public enemy number one They're only going to hate and envy you and seek to destroy you Because the reality here is that, yes, they do pick people who are greater than they are They do not want to be around anyone who they deem to be less They want to be around people who they can extract something from Things that they don't have Things that are greater than what they already possess But in a way they're like setting themselves up for failure Because of course they're never going to be as great as you are When they're targeting someone who they deem to be so wonderful, so great And yes, that's exactly what you are although you may not know it right now Because you have been devalued You've been gaslit, you've been brainwashed Into thinking that you're so much less than what you actually are Because that's the only way that they can keep you as a source of supply If you truly knew your worth You would have left them at the very beginning You wouldn't have wanted anything to do with them And that is the whole point of the manipulation The devaluation, the gaslighting It's to make you doubt yourself so that you will continue to exist in that space Because otherwise you're just going to run a mile, you're not going to want anything to do with them And they know that Which is why a part of healing from the abuse It's about self-reflection going within Building back up your self-worth and realising just how great you are And that's what I had to do as well earlier along my journey Believe it or not There was actually a time when I doubted myself as well Where I was insecure I had low self-esteem I didn't really believe in myself I didn't realise just how great I actually was But I've spent a few years now Focusing on myself Self-reflecting Looking within, realising my worth And as you can probably tell in my videos I am very confident in myself I believe that I can do anything I value my qualities, my abilities The things that I have worked on Everything that makes me who I am Everything that makes me a man That's what I advise you to do as well Look within to self-reflect To value yourself Don't wait around for the narcissist to value you Because that is never going to happen They're never going to do that for you They're never going to remind you of just how great you are Because of course that would put them at a disadvantage immediately But that's exactly what I do I remind people of how great they are Because I know That no matter how great they are I still Have something to bring to them I still have something of value to lift them up And for me there's no greater gift than that Than to know that I am something of value And sadly that's what attracts these predators to us It's that we do have this value Everything that makes us Everything that we are The problem is that at some point they find their value From turning against us and putting us down Bringing us down to their level once they realise that they can't be us And they can't have the qualities that we possess Then they envy us and it's like alright It's kind of like two kids with a toy And one kid is like If I can't have that toy I'm going to destroy it That's exactly what it's like And that's what we are We are that toy And they've been playing with us for a very long time And that's why I gotta get on here To share this message To remind you That you are so much more than just a toy You're so much more than just Someone's little Puppet Someone's little play thing As they want us to be Because let's be real That's all that we were That's all that we are But it's time That we get a scissors And we snip those strings So that we can be free And then we can create the type of life That we want to live And that's why I'm here That's why I do this Because I want to join you On your journey I want to be there for you I want to uplift you I want to take you to where you need to be And I'd like to hear from you Let me know what you think Am I doing a good job for you Let me know in the live chat Right now down below Write it down Tell me I am making things better for you Because I can get on here And I can say that Because I'm quite confident As you can see And what I'm saying And what I believe In that, yes I do have the power to change lives I often reflect and wonder How many lives have I changed already With this channel And I'm sure I've gotten so many people Out of toxic relationships With abusive narcissists And I've probably Prevented many Undesirable marriages As well as Suicides as well So I'm helping to keep Good people Alive And to prevent Narcissists from destroying The good people That we need in this world Sadly If you look at it There aren't many left But I stand here As a model For a good Innocent And righteous person And I hope that I have done my job To live up to that today Just looking at the live chat here Mickey says Thank you As always A lot of hate I understand that I make people insecure But I'm not going to Tow myself down for anyone Who is beneath me And you shouldn't either CJDV Says thank you bro You're welcome Jacqueline Houston Says yes indeed You are encouraging It has helped me to Understand what I was Dealing with Thank you You're very welcome Jacqueline Rajiv says awesome job Chris Patricia says thank you Alright that's it for this Message today I'd just like to thank you all 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