 وَأَقُولُ فِي القُرْآنِ مَا جَاءَتْ بِهِ آيَاتُوهُ فَهُوَ الْكَارِيمُ المُنزَالُهُ وَأَقُولُ قَالَ اللَّهُ جَلَّ جَلَالُهُ وَالْمُصْطَافَ الْهَاديِ وَلَا أَتْ أَوْوَالُهُ إن الحمد لله نحمده ونستعينه ونستغفره ونعوذ بالله من شرور أنفسنا ومن سيئات عمالنا من يهدي الله فلا مضللا ومن يضلل فلا هاديلا وشدوا لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له وشدوا أن محمد العبد هو رسوله يَا يُوَ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ حَقَّةُ قَاتِهِ وَلَا تَمُوتُنَّ إِلَّا وَأَنْتُ مُسْلِمُونَ يَا يُوَ الْنَاسُوا اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ نَفْسٍ وَاحِدًا وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهًا فَبَتَّ مِنْهُمْا رِجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِيسَاءًا وَالتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالأَرْحَانِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِكُمْ رَقِيبًا يَا يُوَ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَقُولُوا قَوْلًا سَدِيدًا يُصُلِحْ لَكُمْ أَعْمَالَكُمْ وَيَغْفِلَّكُمْ دُنُوبَكُمْ وَمَنْ يُطُعِ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ فَقَدْ فَازَ فَوْزًا عَظِيمًا أَمْ مَا بَعَدٍ فَا إِنَّ أَصْتَقَ الْحَديْتِ كِتابُ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى وَخَيْرَ الْهَدِ هَدِي ارفاق ببناخ ماacă المستقبل今日 سنبدأ سحقا MJ وطلع بها بألوهات الفيديو ب applause لديهami يَا يُلَذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوَو أنفُسَكم وَأهليكم نارا وَقُ Очُودُ هَنَّاسُ وَالْحِجارا وَاَلَيْهَ مَلاقيَتُ غِلَاضٌ وَشِدّادٌ يعصون الله ما أمرهم ويفعلونا ما يؤمرون The ayah is in Surah al-Tahreem ayah 6 So this inshaAllah is a series that we are starting It is going to revolve around the Tafseer And the explanation of this particular ayah inshaAllah Before I go into the topic at hand I wanted to start by saying That having a family Whether it be brothers Whether it be sisters Whether it be children Having a wife And having parents It is all one of the greatest من أعظم من نعم الدنياوية It is one of the greatest worldly blessings Allah سبحانه وتعالى He gives And He bestowed upon us سبحانه وتعالى Imagine you came here Imagine you came to this world And you had no one You were alone You have no shoulder to cry over You have no one to tell your secrets to You have no one to converse with All of these are من نعم الله It is from the blessings of Allah That you have a family to be part of And so what is required from us When Allah bestows a blessing onto us What is it that is needed from us In response to this blessing What is needed from us Is that we come with gratitude A شكر Gratitude To the one who blessed us With this particular blessing And has allowed us to have A wife and children And parents and brothers and sisters And how is it that we should Come with gratitude How should we come with a شكر In this particular issue The way that we should come with it It is to deal with our families Our brothers, our sisters Our parents Our wives Our children That we should deal with them على وفق ما أمر الشرح In the way that the شريع Are legislated And that insha'Allah Is what the lecture is about Practical steps Practical steps In which we can respond To the blessing of Allah Has given us subhanahu و تعالى And how we can benefit them From the إخوة is that We teach them Or we strengthen them with Or we guide them towards Learning beneficial knowledge Also aiding them to come With righteous actions Warning them From things that will harm Their religion And even their worldly affairs Whatever will harm it This is from the صور Of شكر From the forms Of how gratitude Can be expressed to Allah Subhanahu و تعالى And this would be Allah will then say For you The blessing that He's given you Through this شكر That you've expressed And you've shown Allah will protect for you The blessing that you have He will allow that blessing To remain with you How is it that Allah Is going to allow the blessing Of family to remain with us Is that Allah will allow them To reunite with you On the hereafter As He said واللدينا آمنوا Those of you who believe واتبعتهم ذريةهم And their family Followed them بإيمان And they follow them in belief Allah who Subhanahu و تعالى He says الحقنا بهم ذريةهم We will make their families Catch up with them And be with them And so what they did was They made sure that their family Was righteous And upright And steadfast And then what happened was They helped their families Deen By doing what By telling them To take on beneficial knowledge And righteous actions So when they showed that شكر And they came with that Their families took it on board And when their families Took it on board They left with what They left with The blessing of having To be united with their families The day of judgment Allah said that In Surah Tuttur ayat 21 واللدينا آمنوا واتبعتهم ذريةهم واتبعتهم ذريةهم بإيمان الحقنا بهم ذريةهم So this muhadra Insha'Allah And lecture We revolve around this particular point And how is it That one can Establish An upright household And what is a family A family is Who you originate from Who you come from It is a people that you Are around The people who Look out for your good And your interest وَلِذَالِكَ اللَّهُ سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَهِ He said وَإِنْخِفْتُمْ شِقَاكَا بَيْنِهِمَا If the wife And the husband Have a conflict And they don't Come to terms And there's a Problem between the two of them الله سبحانه وتعالى Instructed us And he said to us فَبَعَثُوا حَكَّمًا مِنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَّمًا مِنْ أَهْلِهَا Bring from the woman's side And the man's side A family يُريد إصلاحا If both of them The man and the wife Both of them Want to perfect the situation And they want To make the marriage work يُريد إصلاحا If they want to be good يُوفِّق الله بينهما الله سبحانه وتعالى Will give them To fulfill the ability صورة النساء ayat 35 So here Allah tells us That when it happens When it happens That the wife and the husband Are not in agreement And they can't Understand each other But they really want This marriage to work Both of them want it to work That they should go to A family member From his side And his side These are the people Who are looking out for Your what Your مصالح They're looking for Your interest and your good And the way that They're going to deal with this Issue Is the way that it should be Because that's what The family do في الغالب Of the majority of the times The person That the person People Or a person who's practicing The people that He should first start with To warn them To benefit them To advise them Is his family members His children His relatives Is that they protect them From the Hellfire Allah says in the ayah يا يولدين آمن And those of you who believe قو أنفسكم Save yourselves و أهليكم نارا And your family Is from the Hellfire و قودها الناس و الحجارة The fire It is lit with Okay And the It's lit with humans And stones And rocks عليها ملائكة Protecting the Hellfire Is angels غلاض شداد These angels are very Strong and tough لا يعصون الله ما أمرهم They don't disobey الله تبارك و يفعلون ما يؤمرون And they do As it's required from them و لذلك قتادة said When it came to this ayah إبنو جنير It brings the statement of Qatada What does this ayah mean He said يأمرهم He commands his family members بطاعة الله وبين الله This is how he protects his family This is the practical way of protecting your family He commands them His family بطاعة الله بابين صبالله و ينهأهم And he prohibits them from And he stops them from عن معصياته The disobedience of Allah و أن يقوم عليه بابن الله And he stands For them باستن the command of Allah سبحانه وتعالى He stands up for his family He's a fez و أن يقوم عليه بأمر الله باستن the command of Allah سبحانه وتعالى He commands them و يسعيدهم عليهم He aids them إليابين صبالله He physically aids them They need something If your family member can't drive for instance What do you do You say I will drive you don't worry You want to come to the mosque with me don't worry You're going to come with me I know it's me going out of my way But I will aid you and do that for you إن شاء الله يتعالى فإذا رأى معصياته And also the way قتال دمانشنز is that If he sees a معصيات taking place in his household His family members are doing it What does he do He stops them from it He calls them away from it And he warns them from it الله سبحانه وتعالى He tells us about the prophets And the righteous people That this is what they used to do They used to call their people And they used to call out their people They used to call their people To the abiness of Allah And to stay away from sins And they would do the same In their own households الله سبحانه وتعالى وكان يأمر أهله بالصلاة He used to come on His family members The prayer Was zakati And he used to come on them To give charity وكان عند ربه مرضية And with his Lord He was one Allah Was pleased with سبحانه وتعالى سورة مريان آية 55 Also الله تبارك وتعالى He told us To be patient with our families When we advise them And we call them to Allah الله سبحانه وتعالى وأمر أهلك بالصلاة Come on your family The prayer واصطبر عليها And be consistent And continuous In patience with them سورة تقطاها آية 132 And also The aya that Tik talks about Helping one another And aiding one another And supporting one another In what? In good Families fall under that الله تبارك وتعالى He says سورة المائدة وتعاون وعلى البر وتقوى Help each other in good Support each other in righteousness And steadfastness And piety ولا تعاون And do not help one another على الإثم والعدوان The disobedience of Allah and sins Don't help each other on this So the family fall under that And as you all know نبي الله نبي الله موسى What is it that he did? What is it that Mousa did? He made a dua He said واجعلي وزيرا من أهلي حارون أخي وأشرك في أمر He wanted his brother to participate with him And he wanted his brother To be part of those Who get the reward Of conveying the message of Allah ولي ذلك the scholars they say رحمهم الله ركبه القيم And others That there is no gift A person gave to another Greater than what Mousa gave to his brother حارون He asked Allah for his brother To make him a prophet And حارون Received That منزلة That station of being a prophet Based on the supplication of his brother So the أبياء and the رسول This is what they want to each other That what did he want واتعاونه على البر والتقوى He wanted his brother to help him be good And participate in that good with him و لا تعاونه على الإثم والعدوان The Prophet SAW He told us As Imam Ibn Hibban narrated in his صحيح الشغناصر رحمه الله He graded his hadith to be حسن In his كتاب جامع الصغير شغلبان رحمه الله He authenticated that hadith Which is that Allah has placed A responsibility over his slaves And this hadith is the hadith Of Abdullah Ibn Omar رضي الله تعالى عنهما That the Prophet SAW ألا فكلكم راعي Oh People Every one of you is a shepherd Everyone كلكم The children are shepherds The parents are shepherds The brother is a shepherd The sister is The father is The wife is Everyone is The hadith says ألا كلكم راعي Everybody is a shepherd و كلكم مسؤول العرعيتي And every single one of us Is what? Is responsible over The flocks that he has been given The flocks of sheep That you've been given That you've been Place responsible Responsible over You'll be questioned Of it in the day of judgment أنا سيبنو ماليكين Narrated Okay The one Abdullah Ibn Omar Was بقال المسلم Like in the أنا سيبنو ماليكين The wedding one Is أنا سيبنو ماليكين Is one is أبنو حبان Narrated it And Shaykh Nasser Graded it to be Hassan Which is that إِنَّ اللَّهَ سَا إِلُنْ Allah is going to question you كل راعن Everybody عما استرعاه That which he has made Responsible over Allah is going to ask Everybody Because Allah made Everybody a shepherd And everybody is going to be asked About their flocks That they were given أحفظ ذلك أم ضيع Has he come with Responsibility that was upon him Or did he forsake حتى يسأل الرجل عن أهلي بيته Until a man is asked About his family members This means the husband This means the brother This means the son It means everybody حتى يسأل الرجل A man will be asked عن أهلي بيته His family So it's not just the wife That he will be asked about He will be asked about his parents He will be asked about his brothers He will be asked about His family members He will be asked about all of that And today if we look towards Our right And we look towards Our left And we listen to the people's News And the things that they bring us We will realize that This issue is a sad reality That the society is being destroyed The society is being destroyed Because of the deviation That has happened to the household And so at a time like this There's nothing greater Than speaking about this Particular topic The Sahabas who were young Even realized the responsibility And that which was upon them And they forsake it And they knew that What was upon them Is to go back to their family And to guide them And to talk to them And to advise them And to teach them And educate them And Imam Al-Bukhari And Muslim both narrated On the authority of Abu Sulayman Malik Ibn Al-Huairith رضي الله تعالى عنه Malik Ibn Al-Huairith Was a young companion At this particular moment He said أتيني إلى النبي We came to the Prophet of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم ونحن And we were youngsters We were youths We were young متقاربونة We were close in age فأقمنا عنده 20 يوم We stayed with the Prophet For 20 days And 20 nights We stayed with him عليه الصلاة والسلام وكان رسول الله The Messenger was one Who was رحيم الرفيق He was very merciful The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم Was kind and merciful The Messenger of Allah فلما ظن أن قد اشتهينا أهلنا When the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم He came to realize And he came to see That his companions Malik Ibn Al-Huairith And the others who were with him That they missed their families And that they want to somehow Go back to their families He asked us سأل عمان تركنا He asked us Who did you guys leave behind Who did we leave behind And so we informed him صلى الله عليه وسلم The people that we left behind And then the Prophet said ارجعوا Go back to your families Go back to your parents Go back to your brothers and your sisters Go back to your family members فاقيموا فيهم And remain with them وعلمواهم And educate them about the religion Teach them الله أكبر The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم He mentioned the first point That we're going to mention سنشاء الله وتعالى Which is to educate your family And to teach them And he said كمان بهم كمان بهم Of that which Allah has made Obligatory on them So what is required from us Is our youngsters today Our youth Of this particular time يقتدوا بشباب الصحابة That we tread on the path Of the noble companions That we take their way And the way they were And that we feel the responsibility That Allah has placed upon us That we feel there's a responsibility here That we know Allah has placed A responsibility on us And that Allah has honoured us سبحانه وتعالى With this responsibility That Allah has honoured us سبحانه وتعالى With this responsibility Also that the man Realizes the seriousness Of this point Which is to educate And to teach And bring knowledge The man she teaches his wife She takes her time out To teach them And if he knows That teaching You will not be The best way for her To attain that knowledge Then facilitate for her A place An institute A حلقة In which she can come to And she can benefit And learn the deem from Is very important And this is what you would find At the time of the Prophet So this insha'Allah brings me To my first point Which is كيفية What is the way Of protecting Your family From the Hellfire Point number one اتناع بتعليم him That you give importance to teaching them The book of Allah سبحانه وتعالى And the sunnah Of the messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام And that you also teach them Anything important that they need The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم He said in a hadith This hadith is found In صحيح البخاري And Imam البخاري Booted under the chapter Of باب تعليم الرجل The man teaching His what أمته Teaching his slave girl And his family And his family Under that chapter بخاري The hadith of أبي موسى الأشعري And the hadith of أبي موسى الأشعري That the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم He said ثلاثة لهم أجراني Three people Three types of people They have two reward They have what They have two reward And from the three The Prophet mentioned رجل كانت عنده أمته From the three The Prophet mentioned The one that concerns us now Which is A man Who has a slave girl فأدبها He disciplined her فأحسل تأديبها And he perfected the disciplinary That he took with her وعلمها He educated her فأحسل تعليمها And he perfected the way he taught her ثم أعتقها And then he freed her And does not keep her as a slave فتزوجها And he marries her As a free woman With her own will أما He marries her off فاله أجراني has two reward This man has two reward إبن حجر رحمه الله He says Because this hadith talks about what A slave girl This is talk about anybody other than that So an Imam حافظ ابن حجر And Bukhari's bab is different The chapter of Bukhari is what The chapter of Bukhari is The man teaching his slave girl And the hadith doesn't mention The family So half of them The hadith said مطابقة الحديث The relationship between the hadith And the chapter is That the hadith mentioned The Emma The slave girl بنصي Textually وفي الاهلي بالقياسي And the family fall under that By way of analogy قياس What type of قياس لكن قياس الأولى That this is more befitted If you do that for a slave girl Then what about a family member That you do this for إذ العتلاء بالأهلي Because the importance that is given To the family الحرائر هو free في تعليم فرائر ضل الله In teaching them The obligatory things of Allah And as soon as The voluntary things أكد من العتلاء بالإباء Is more important Then the slave girl إنتها كلامه رحمه الله So this shows us what That the man teaching his wife And the man teaching his family members What is he attained from that He attained from that فله أجران He gets to reward Imagine you taught your daughter You educated her You perfected her And the way you nurtured her And then you married her off To somebody He married her And when you married her off What happened You received two reward from this Based on the حليث But the حليث teaches us something Very powerful That the تأديب The discipline And the education Is being separated from one another The Prophet said فأحزل تأديبها He disciplines her And he educates her And that shows That giving information And teaching the person information Is not enough What is also needed from the person is Disciplining them Practically teaching them What to do or what not to do You shouldn't drink with your right A left hand You should drink with your right hand You shouldn't do this You shouldn't do that Having a تأديب Disciplining them ضحاك المقاتل They both said حقود على المسلمي The right of a Muslim The responsibility of a Muslim Is that he teaches his family He educates One of the rights that the family members Have on you Is that you educate them It's the حقوق and the right On the family On a family member That he educates them And he teaches them And he even educates his slave girl And if a slave boy What does he teach them ما فرض الله عليه That which Allah has made obligatory on them وما نهاهم عن And that which Allah has prohibited them from He teaches them that There is no benefit You go to حلقات No حلقات But حلقات You go to so many circles of knowledge And you go to so many places to learn But your wife at home doesn't know how to pray She doesn't know The أحكام الحيض If it happens to her She doesn't know anything You've not taught her anything You've not educated her This is the rights that the wife has on you And as you go to see later Many people will say to your family problems And one of the reasons why they do Is because the family were not nurtured upon knowledge The wife would complain about her husband You see the wife is a student of knowledge She's learning She's taking the knowledge serious But she keeps conflicting with her husband And the reason why is because She's a student of knowledge The way that she thinks The way that she sees things The way everything for her Is قال الله and قال الرسول He isn't So there's a problem here The same is with the husband He's going to circles He's going to حلقات He's going to so many places He's going to جمع and جماعات And his wife is at home She's watching Bollywood She's watching what She's watching Hollywood She's watching TV So what happens to him When he goes home Your family's hearts are dark and dull So when you try to speak to them And you try to tell your parents And your family members They're not willing to listen to you The reason is because You've not sat down to teach them anything You've not taught them anything And so years have gone by Allah tells the Quran وما نزل من الحق ولا يكون كالذين أوتوا الكتابة من قبل فطال عليهم الأمد وفقست قلوبهم The situation has become too long now Ten years has gone by فقست قلوبهم The hearts have become dark and dull Of course now if you talk to them It's going to be hard for you to get penetrated through their head And get to them It's going to take years for you to bring back the darkness Take away the darkness from the heart And bring back a clean heart from them وقال So the man should teach his family He should teach them the religion وذلك The Prophet ﷺ Was known To even designate a time And a place for the women A time And a place to teach them privately عليه الصلاة والسلام بخاري شابتن في الصحيح بابه هل يجعل للسائي يوما على حدة في العلم؟ بخاري شابتن الباب بابه هل يجعل للسائي هل يجعل للسائي هل يجعل لباته هل يجعل لباته فالباته يوما يدى على حدة فالباته لما يدونه And then أبقاري when asked that question قلت حديثة أمي سعيد للخضري. قالت النساء where the women came to the prophet للنبي and they said صلى الله عليه وسلم غلبنا عليك الرجال the men have taken all of your time of all your time we've got nothing with you all of your time is excited towards the men and we have nothing with you فجعلنا يوما من نفسك you choose a day for us make a time that is for us فاوعدهن يوما so the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم a particular day he reminded them لقيهن فيه which he met them فاوعدهن وامارهن he gave them a reminder and he also commanded them نظر رواية by سوهيل بن أبي صالح عن أبيه حريرة that the story went by the story says موعده كنا that your promised place so he made a day for them and this is why I mentioned that the prophet said that the place that you're going to be met is في بيت فلانتين so and so's house إن شاء الله that's the place I'm going to meet you all he said فاوعدهن then the messenger came to them فاوعدهن and so what did he do he gave them reminders عليه الصلاة والسلام and he educated them so what did he do he made for them خصصا لهن موعدا زمانيا ومكانيا the prophet specified for the women a particular time and he specified for them what a particular place عليه الصلاة والسلام عبد الله عباس سن إن حديث ألمام البخاري المسلم وثليريتن خرجتهم عن نبي I went with the prophet خرجتهم عن نبي عليه الصلاة والسلام I went with the prophet يوم فطري يوم فطري the day of fitr عيد الفطري أو أضحة or maybe أضحة فالصلاة the prophet prayed he prayed the salah ثم خطبة and then the prophet خطمة ثم أتنساء then the messenger came to the women فاوعدهن he reminded them so they shared with the men the general reminded them he really gave that to them when the prophet did the خطبة who is that for the men and the women and then after that he came to them عليه الصلاة والسلام فاوعدهن he gave them a reminder وذكرهن and he informed them وأمرهن بصدقه he told them to give صدقه حافظهن حجر the benefits that he took from this hadith is إستحباب وعظنساء that is recommended to place reminders with the women and to teach them the rules of Islam and to remind them all بما يجب عليهن that which is obligatory on them and that the person urges them pushes them to give صدقه that the women are told to give a lot of صدقه وتخصيصهن بذلك and all of this is specified for them alone it's only for the women فاوعدهن فاوعدهن in a gathering which is detached from men just for them alone ومحلو ذلك كله but all of that he says it's in place إذا أمينات الفتنة if there's no fitna that is scared of ولمفصده and corruption and harm will not come from it إذا أمينات الفتنة if there's no fear of fitna and there is no fear of مفصده that it becomes that it becomes permissible but if there's fear of fitna and there's fear of مفصده then the Hanith don't apply also it is upon the man أن تحقيقون رحمة صدري his heart is open he takes the questions he accepts the questions he also even accepts اعتراضاتهم this is your family members all of this I mentioned brothers it applies for you to give reminders to your family members your cousins your aunties your uncles your female relatives your male relatives your family members all of you all of this is that the man when he's giving a reminder أن يكون رحمة صدري your chest is open family members are strong in their statements they're tough in what they will say to you they'll say things to you that normal people won't say to you you get off your high horse you come down and you accept it from them they're not the ones who call you stand and sheikh and student of knowledge they're the family members so when they talk to you they'll talk to you by your name they'll discredit your efforts and your hard work and they won't take it serious so you're open the person who has an open chest يستقب الأسئلةهم you accept their questions some of their questions are not a question is اعتراض they just want to prove inconsistency in what you said you accept that your heart is open when you're answering that that question that they put at you which is not a سؤال مبابل استفادة from the angle of benefiting it's what إعراض to oppose you and to prove you wrong but the way that you respond to it is what بوجه بشوش you smile when you answer it like it hasn't affected you in any way or form any way shape or form you accept it an example for this is our mother عائشة رضي الله إبن أبي موليكال said عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها كانت لا تسمعوا الشيء اللى تعريفوا إلا راجعت فيه عائشة would never hear something from the prophet except you would question him but it doesn't mean and I'm not saying عائشة would do إعتراض of the prophet كلا ثم كلا that's not what I'm saying but what she would do is that she would ask when he said something if he said something other than what he said here that she didn't understand she would relate the two where other people may be shy of saying that to the prophet عليه الصلاة والسلام but عائشة would have the courage to say that to her husband the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم anything she didn't understand she would ask so the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم one day said in her gathering من حو سبا anybody who is accounting and accountability is placed on them رذب it will be punished if Allah accounts you then you're going to be what رذب you're punished عائشة when quiet she said أوليسة يقول الله تعالى doesn't Allah say فَصَوفَ يُحَاسَبُ فَصَوفَ يُحَاسَبُ حِسَابًا يَسِيرًا didn't Allah say that they're going to be accounted accounting which is easy didn't Allah say that so how is that everybody who is accounted who is being judged is going to be punished how can that happen she didn't see how they can go together and we explained this in details in Surah 2 and in Sheqaq where it's in ayah 8 we explained it in our تفسير sessions but the prophet gave her the answer what did he say he said إِنَّ مَا دَانِكَ الْعَرْضِ عَائِشَا the ayah that you're talking about فَصَوفَ يُحَاسَبُ حِسَابًا يَسِيرًا here it means الْعَرْضِ when it's be presented to them وَلَاكِنْ مَنُوقِشَ عُذِمْ but the one who is being told when did you do here when did you why did you do this why did you okay why did you do this this person is being punished by the question the question is destroying this person this person is being destroyed so look at عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها the prophet didn't say how dare you are you trying to say I'm contradicting to myself I'm a messenger of Allah I don't contradict myself he didn't say that to her he explained it for her عليه الصلاة والسلام I educated her in that regard so the person should be one who is open for his family's points and then don't say to them when they speak to you I spoke about it all day you didn't hear what I said repeat it again for them if what you were saying in the lecture 5-10 minutes you were giving them a reminder and then within that they ask your question that you've already established don't say what you're listening this is an opportunity you should be the most welcome person or else they're going to run away or if they ask your question that you see to be very simple and easy you say really really blame yourself don't blame them so my family members are asking me whether you should read فاتحة in the صلاة or not rather blame yourself that your family is at that point and you're at the point where you're studying مخارج مسلم it's embarrassing so don't blame them teach them and it should actually hurt you it should actually hurt you when they talk about themselves they used to say that if my brother ever came and asked me for finance they would actually cry because they believed that my brother should have reached a point where he would need to ask me why didn't I understand that my brother was in need the family members reaching a point where they need to ask questions like فاتحة something we have to read in the صلاة is actually something that makes you sad that you didn't realize that your family is knowledge is at this level the fact that they had to ask you that question shows you you did not take the responsibility on yourself to go out there and to educate them and teach them so the person that should be blamed is yourself ولي داليكة the صحابes would educate their families even at their last moments look what عمر said to his son when he's sorry he's دوطة حفصة when she cried and she saw her father عمر رضي الله عنه and she cried and then عمر said محلد calmed down by دوطة calmed down ألم تعليب أتعلمي did you not know did you not know of أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال that the messenger said إِبْنَ الْمَيْتَةَ that the dead يُعَدَّبُ بِبُكاءِ أهلِهِ عليه that the dead the deceased will be punished on the crying of his family the wailing that they come with the deceased will be punished for it and this حديث has an explanation which is that if the man used to teach his family and he used to say to them if I die and I pass away then it's upon you to wail over me if that's what he used to say then he will be punished for that every time they cry he will get a punishment for it as for if he didn't call them to it then other people's sin would not be placed on his scale as Allah said in the Qur'an وَلَا تَزِيرُ وَازِيرَةُ وِزِرْ أُخْرَى that a person does not take the wrongdoing of another person unless though he played a role in this person's wrongdoing it will be added to your scale so the person brothers should teach his family educate them teach them the book of Allah the sunnah of the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم I'm going to finish at this particular point by speaking about what are the things that a person should teach his family number one القرآن you should teach them the Qur'an what is it that you should make them learn from the Qur'an at least the bare minimum that you should teach your family member your mother your father your aunt your uncles your wife your children is the book of Allah but the bare minimum that you need to teach them is that which they can pray their Salah with I can promise you all if you go back to your family members and you sit with them and you have conversations you might come across some family members who don't even know صورة الفاتحة that's the sad reality that some of us may stand see a family member who doesn't actually know صورة الفاتحة I've seen aunties some of aunties who said to me I was married to my husband for so long and I never learned how to pray the Salah no one ever taught me it no one ever taught her it the old generation the old Somali generation they weren't taught the prayers and the knowledge wasn't taught to them the Somali the awakening that you see that hijab and what not and Salah and Ibadah started after the 19th properly but before that if some of the elderly grandparents especially if you sit with them and you ask them questions some of them you realize they won't even read فاتحة in the Salah they just say سبحان الله سبحان الله سبحان الله and I came across elderly people who are like that who were not taught they never went no madrasa no Quran because in our country before the 90s the country was run by a communist leader and religion was fought against it wasn't allowed so people didn't need to learn the point here is the point is see your family members some of them you realize that when you sit with them some family members when you sit with them even if they read فاتحة it's to a mustawa it's to a level that isn't even accepted like this if you go on YouTube there's a video that people have been asked فاتحة in Egypt it's in Egypt out of country they've been asked about فاتحة and they don't know it they don't know they don't know the prophet عليه الصلاة الله who is he they don't know his name they've been asked the name of the Prophet they can't answer it that video is on YouTube so you see a lot of us have these issues I remember an elderly woman came to me one time she came to me and she said to me I did not know that you can't have intimacy whilst you're in your menses I didn't know that ما كنت عارفوا ذلك you didn't know that no I didn't know in this country I never knew that I didn't so I'm telling you when you sit down you teach your family so much things is going on so much things is going to come clear to you you're going to see a lot make them memorize the Quran but how much of the Quran should you make them memorize the amount that they need to pray the salah first if that becomes achieved and accomplished then you move on to what's next you add more onto them but that is the bare minimum that is needed look what Allah has said in the Quran وَذْ كُرْنَا مَا يُتْلَا فِي بُيُوتِ كُنَّا مِنْ آياتِ اللَّهِ وَالْحِكُمَا وَذْ كُرْنَا رَمَنْبَا ما هو it من آيات الله The Messenger, Allah the Almighty the Quran is what should be what is recited and is read in the household and the wisdom is the Sunnah of the Messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام والحكمة هي سنة the wisdom is the Sunnah your household should be a household where the Quran and the Sunnah is being read in not music and films so it takes us to the second thing What is the second thing that a person should do when he does it when he does it المأكد that a person should do. المأكد that a person should do is take the 40 حديث عن الناوي. The 40 حديث عن الناوي. What should you do? He explains this book to his family. And urge your family members to memorize it. Gift them based on it. Say, if you memorize this, I promise I'll give you this. Anyone who memorize this, this is the gift for them. Push your family members, whether they be your wife. Whether it be your children. Whether they push them to memorize this. انتظروا أنه إذا كانوا يتذكرون هذا you would do something for them. I will take you out for holiday. I'll do this for you. I'll do that for you. Make them do it. And place a شرح on it for them. That book is very important. The third thing is العقيدة. Teach your family عقيدة. Teach your family عقيدة. And the best book to teach them is 200 questions that is written is called مئاتي سؤال و جواب في العقيدة. 200 questions and answers in عقيدة. And it's written by حافظ الحكمة رحمه الله. حافظ الحكمة رحمه الله. He wrote a book. It's 200 questions on عقيدة issues. Question answers are on there. Both of them are on there. You sit there and you give them. You take 10 questions every day. You ask them it when they cannot answer the question. Then you say this is the answer. 10 questions every day. You ask them the question. They give up. And then you tell them that you this is the answer for it. If they answer it. Have something to give to the one who answers it. Have something. So what do you do? Teach them question and answers. And this way it's very interactive. Then if you take one book and you go through it. This is interactive. You get their input and you ask them when they answer the question. What made them think that this was the answer to the question? What made them think that? Find their mind what they're thinking of. And what's making them do this. Okay. Now take this answer إن شاء الله تعالى. And teach them it. And try to teach them to take notes. Make them try to take notes. The majority of the family members will choose to just listen. Don't worry. Do it. Do it in that way. It's better than nothing. It's better than nothing. If they refuse to take note and they don't want to do that. Then at least if you just get 10 questions through with them. As time goes on you see them carrying papers and pens. Also the fourth is الفق. Teach them فق. And start with الطهارة and صلاح. الطهارة and الصلاح. Teach them how to do طهارة. And how to pray the صلاح. The book I will tell you to use is for صلاح is شغلاصر's كتاب صفة صلاحي النبي. The way you do it is you don't take the book. You don't open it. إن الحمد لله. You don't do that. You take it and you break it and simplify it. Very simple. You go through each point. And if you can actually physically do it for them is even better. Are we all together? And you do. You ask them. And what is even better is that if you actually ask them what should I do here? And they tell you. And you make it interactive in that way. And so they say to you. This is what you should do. And what do you think? What do you think? What do you think? What do you think? What do you think? When you listen to all of them. You're right. You're wrong. And do it like that. To make it an interactive session is the best. This is definitely good for them in the sense where the reason why many family members watch TV and they speak on the phone for too long is because no one's taking this time. They don't know what to do with the time. Also what you need to teach them if there are women. You need to speak to them about the أحكام الحجام. Talk to them أحكام الحجام. Are we all together? And that's why it's a painful reality that once the woman's taken off the حجام. You bring her to the sheikh. It's a sheikh. But she's been working towards that. Are we all together? She's been working towards that. The same is with the wife. If the wife is more knowledgeable than the husband. It's not a problem that she teaches him as well. She teaches him the things that are for him. So the man when he talked to the woman about the حجام. He talks to her about the زينة of beautification. What's the أحكام pertaining to beautify yourself? And when it happens what should she do? What should she not do? Her post-later bleeding. All of that. He talks to all of those أحكام. He needs to educate her on it. The fifth is when I took ملدروس سيرا. Don't dismiss سيرا. سيرا is that story that will fill the family. Taking the Prophet's biography. Everybody loves to hear stories. I can reassure you this one would be the most enjoyable one for them. If you know the story properly and you've understood it. And you go through the Prophet's life. And as every time you get an opportunity. Whatever point you think the family are lacking. You're stressed on it from the سيرا. And you keep it moving. The سيرا helps a lot. And it will enhance them. Especially the children. Especially your little nephews and nieces and your children. They love stories. And if you tell them about a story. They will sit down and they will listen. So you do that. Also. So. You do الوعد والتذكير. You have sessions where it's heart softening. It's reminders. You talk to them about heart touching matters. جنة. نار. You speak to them about. You talk about the عذاب القبر. You speak to them about reflections of the Hereafter. You bring that to them. To heart to soften their hearts. This is very very important. And if you know. That you as an individual. Cannot get through to your family. Are you teaching them. They're not going to take it from you. Then you should facilitate. Somebody they will listen to. This is very important. Sometimes the wife may not enjoy listening to you. She may not like your doos. The parents may not like you listening to you. And what you have to say. But there's a sheikh in the language. Who if you bought that tape for them. And you put it on. They will listen to it. They will listen to it. He can get to them. It will make their hearts soften. And that is beneficial for them. You'd find that in the Urdu language. You'll find it in the Somali language. You'll find that in the Arabic language. You'll find that. That family members would listen to a. Particularly speaker. Just buying that tape of that speaker. And giving it to them. So you listen to that speaker. Is one of the ways that helps. Especially if they if you put it on. For them. Whilst they're in the kitchen. They're cleaning. They're doing things. You do that. And this brothers. Is also more important. In the noble month of Ramadan. Where the wives spend a lot of time. Which they shouldn't. But they spend a lot of time in the kitchen. And cooking. And making food. And iftar. A suhoor and etc. That particular month. There's no time more important. For a man. To them bring a cassette. Or a tape. Of a sheikh. Who at least. She gets a source of. أيمان increase from that. While she's working on the house. And while she's cleaning. The second thing that. God willing. Is to do to save his family. The first one was to educate them. To teach them. The book of Allah. And the sunnah of the messengers. And all of these things. The second one is. And you have a. Method. Where you keep track. Of them following the obligatory things. أنت لا تخبرهم ، أنت لا تتعلمهم بأن الله قلت هذا و المسجد قلت ذلك لكن أنت لقد قلت أنك ستحصل على طريقة حيث أنك ستحاول أن تأكد إذا كانوا فعلوا ما يجب عليهم خاصة لأسيما الصلاة ، خاصة لأسيما الصلاة إذا كان يجب أن يتحدث ، إنه يجب أن يكون ... أنه يتحدث معهم ، إنه ينقل من المهرب ، فهذا هو ما يجب عليهم أن يفعل إذا كانوا أسيما الصلاة و المسجد القلت ذلك ، هذا هو ما يجب عليك أن تأخذوا على أنك يتكلموا بأنك تنظر لأسيما الصلاة أنت أعطيك أنك تنظر لها ، أنت لا تتخبرها بعد أن تتعلمهم و أنت تقول أنك أستطيع أن أردت أسيما الصلاة إذا كنت أردت لك باستيما الصلاة و أنت تتعلم معك ، لن تقول ذلك هل أنت تنظر لديك أسيما الصلاة و أنت تتعلم معك؟ لا تتعلم لن تأخذ أنك تقول ذلك في صلاة فأما أنك تصنعهم هنا و أنت تعتمد على أعوات ، و أنت تتعلمهم و أنت تفعل مراقبة من جزءهم و أنت تتعلم بما يقلو صلاة بعد أنك تتعلمها ، هل تفعل ماذا تتعلم؟ هل تفعل سرور؟ إذا كانت مجرد منك في هذه المتحدة إلى ما؟ لكي تذهب مع لاني أنك تعرف أنه ستفعلك أني تمره من الصلاح أخبرك هذا لك before brothers يا إخوة قمت بقراء المنزل ليس فقط منه أن يصبح فجر في العالم قمت بقراء المنزل وقراء المنزل تجب أن تتبق قيمة. وقمت بقراء المنزل ووجد أقلت ذلك في الوقت والله تمره بقراء المنزل إن أقوم بفعلك مالذي يتوقفون من عائلاتك؟ مالذي يتوقفون من عائلاتك؟ فاقيدو شيء إلا يُعطي كل هذا سأخبركم إذا أردتكم في الناس يساعدون من عائلاتك مالذي يعتقدون لهم؟ مالذي يعتقدون بشيء ما يقولون؟ وعندما يقولون بأن عائلاتك ليست تستخدم ربما يستخدمون بأنهم لا يردون عائلاتك في عائلاتك لا يردون أن يكونون عائلاتك أنت فقط تردون عائلاتك as a card when you need it ويجب أن تضع عائلاتك معها فلن تتطلق هذا لكنك كبير لا تقلق عائلاتك لا يوجد ربما يقوم بإمكانك وإسلام فلن تستخدمك مع عائلاتك فهذا هو مالذي يتوقفون أن يردون أن عائلاتك يتوقفون أن يكونون جميعا إذا كانوا عائلاتك ستتوقفون من ما تفعل يتوقفون من أفضلك ومعاقك عندما يردونك عندما يردون أن يردونك يقومون أن تردون عائلاتك في حالة المتوقف لا يحتاج أحد لك ويخبروا أنه عائلاتك مرة أخرى أنك بخير أن تردون عائلاتك it's very important أن أفضلك يمكنك أن تأخذ تصدر العائلاتك ويجب أن تردونك ووعدك ويجب أن يقوم بصارتك ويقول أنه يصدر ويقوم بعمل بك فلن تحصلون على هذا فلن تحصلون على هذا وانه قلت لأن الكثير من الناس يأتي لك وانه سيقول لك يومي يبدأ بحياتي يومي يبدأ بحياتي هو الوقت الذي أصدقنا هو أفضل في الوقت الذي كان في الحياتي إلا إلا الله وإلا رجعه والله بعض الناس يخبرون ذلك لي يوجد خطأ now يوجد خطأ all the time يجب أن ينظر الناس وانه يبدأ بحياتي حسنا قبل كانت جيدة كانت رحيل كانت جيدة كانت رفيق كانت جيدة كانت تفهمنا بحياتنا كانت تقل with us كانت تشعر بحياتنا الآن يجب أن ينظر الناس يومي يبدأ بحياتي يجب أن ترى أكثر من قبل لكن نعم في هذه الوقت لا تقوم بإمكانك تقوم بإمكانك من المحرمات والأمر يجب أن تصدقك يجب أن تصدقك الشيخ عبد عزيز مباسي كانت تخبره تغمده الله برحمته والله يجب أن تصدقه الشيخ عبد عزيز مباسي إذا كانت لديه درس عنده درس في المسجد مع صلاة الفجر إذا كانت لديه درس في المسجد بعد صلاة الفجر فخرج إلى الصلاة وقلت إلى الصلاة وخائفة كانت ت sleep هل يجب وعلي أن يرجع إلى البيت هل يجب أن تذهب إلى المسجد إلى المسجد ويجب أن تقوم بحياته even if part of the درس is missed or the lesson in totality he misses it or should he just sit in the lesson this question was put to who الشيخ عبد عزيز مباسي and man left his wife sleeping okay he has a lesson after فجر so he goes to فجر for the prayer should he sit down after فجر and listen to his درس or should he actually go back to his family members and actually wake them up for فجر knowing that they're a family who don't pray the صلاة على وقتها and whatnot that he go back and wake his family up okay even that some of the درس will miss him or even all of the lesson will miss him what should he do in this situation عبد عزيز مباسي عليه الرحمة الله he said it's upon him to go back لأن أمره لأن أمر أهله because him commanding his family in صلاة is واجب and coming to the lesson is مستحب it's recommended فلا يقدم فلا يقدم المستحب you shouldn't give presidents to the recommended over the واجب وعلي يرجع upon him is to go back لإقاضي أهله to wake his family up so he is very important then a person has a درس he's learning he's coming to a حالقة what is he what is he لا لي أحكام الله حلالا حرام but his family members at home they're very نقل جدو صلاة they don't pray he left them sleeping should he go back to wake them up before the time finishes or should he just watch listen to the dars عبد عزيز مباسي when he said so what does that show us that shows us that this is a serious matter ولدالك الله سبحانه وتعالى he prays نبي الله اسمعين ودي لي say about him إنه كان صديق الوعد he was one who is truthful about his promise وكان رسول النبي and he was a prophet and a messenger from Allah and this is a time الله is praising نبي الله اسمعين الله is praising him look what he mentioned in the things that he's praising him for he said وكان يأمر أهله بالصلاة he used to come on his family بالصلاة وزكاء he would take time out to come on his family to pay the zakat وكان عند ربي مرضية and he was towards his lord what he was towards his lord when he was pleasing ولدالك سبحانه وتعالى العلمة they mentioned that this has a very powerful understanding in it look what Allah said وذكر في وذكر في الكتاب اسمعين like you remember in the book اسمعين إنه كان صديق الوعد وكان رسول النبي الله first of all said he was a person who fulfilled his covenant and his promise what is the biggest promise that everybody has made ويدأخذ الله ميثاق الله says when Allah took a ميثاق and a covenant with everybody which was what ألس to be ربكم قالوا بلا شهيدنا أن تقولوا يوم القيامة إنه كنا عن هذا غافلين the biggest promise and the biggest وعد that we all made and we go to الله as our lord and they were going to obey him we are going to follow his command and stay away from his prohibition so اسمعين was one who fulfilled the covenant and the promise he made with Allah so he was a good person festival and then after that when did Allah say وكارئ أمر أهلا بالصلاح but if you are breaking the promise that you made with Allah can you command your family صلاح and zakat yeah can't it will take it from you as the يوم سيفاق و شيء لا يرطي but who doesn't have can't give if you don't have it yourself then you can't give و لذلك نبي الله شعب what did he say to his his people what did he say to his people when he commanded them he said he's talking to his family members he's talking to his people that he was sent to I don't want to oppose you guys in what I command you I want to set an example I know I'm calling you guys so Allah said in his messenger but I'm never going to do behind your backs when I prohibit so these are examples and things that are needed one of the things that you find is that is obligatory on the family member and عمراء is obligatory on the family member and you see a brother who goes عمراء on the regular basis he's going عمراء and his family have never done عمراء and there's no reason for it other than the fact they can't be bothered to take his family out to حج عمراء these are عمراء if you're not going to take them if they don't see you going out of your way to pay for the حج and there's a cat and you're not going to do that for them and when it comes عمراء then would they take it serious when you say صلاة to them these are things they're equal when they look at they will take serious that you pay for my عمراء are you of course I am I have to help you with the عمراء you just say that to her what's not going to stick with her your family members they're going to look at you and say سبحان الله he's taking the واجبات it's very serious it's very important what is also important is that the person places time to what before I go into that why did Allah سبحانه و تعالى why did the Prophet legislate and make a sunnah to pray the voluntary prayers in the house and the واجبات in the masjid the Prophet told us the hadith he said وَلَا تَجْعَلُوا بُيُوتَهُمْ قُبُورًا do not make your house hold a graveyard why what's a graveyard a graveyard is prohibited for you to pray inside it right don't make your house is a place where deal is deserted from it your children are going to see daddy pray the sunnah your wife is going to see it your family members are going to see it they're going to know your person who prays even though you pray the واجبات in the masjid but even some sunnah here some sunnah here also another example is that if a husband is sending his wife over the country and everywhere without a mahram because go travel without a mahram and he's not exerting effort to find a mahram for her to take her somewhere he tells her travel way no problem travel travel insha'Allah you can travel where you want and the lady says to why don't you fear Allah which you listen you couldn't take it upon yourself to pay for an extra ticket for my mahram in a situation that I'm in how am I going to take it serious that you take Allah's حقام serious are we together nobody will take what you say serious so what does the person have to do the person has to make sure that they exert every effort that they have to their family members when it comes to this that don't travel I will put in place for your mahram Naam parents generally don't listen and they won't listen if they don't want it and some aunties and uncles but try your best to say I'll do this for you I'll put all of this in place for you then at least if it doesn't work based on what you've exerted and the effort that you put in your family knows that you tried and that's what you wanted are we all together but if your family member look at your mom looks at you and says I can't travel because of a mahram or your wife says I can't travel because of a mahram because you can't be bothered to pay for the extra ticket or whatever the case may be صحيح يا إخوة then anything that you say after that will it be taken serious it won't be taken serious I'll stop there I'll take some questions and answers anything which I have said wrong or incorrect is from me and Allah's messenger are free from it سبحانك اللهم بحمدك أشهد إله إلا الله سبحانك اللهم