 Welcome back to every way one. So I was talking to our producer Yolanda the other day and she was saying to me It is so hard to be a woman Yeah, I see it all over your face How many hours did it take you to look like this But my my whole you know Opinion about it is look at my face like women have to put on makeup I mean, I don't know how long it takes Sometimes it takes a woman to get ready in two hours. Well for me You know, I'm just an eyeliner kind of person. So it takes me two minutes But there's all these expectations of women generally in our culture to not only maintain Our faces and our hair and our nails and our skin that that's a lot of work and it's expensive Yes But I think yes, you're absolutely right and then there's on top of that which is self-care Then there's care for the family if you have kids and there's care for your parents If you know if you have parents that need taking care of then there's care for the husband or boyfriend If you're married or dating someone you gotta be the caretaker and look good. Well, in fact, that's all your work And if you are caring for someone and they want you to look good while you're caring for them Yeah, absolutely. I mean I actually dated a young man once very briefly. I might add Um That's intentional because he basically he communicated after we've been dating a few months He communicated what he was looking for in a wife Now one of the reasons he was attracted to me was because you know, I'm I'm educated. I'm intelligent You know, I have multiple graduate degrees. That's some that is something that drew him to me And then when he turned around and told me what his expectations were with for his wife Um, he basically wanted the madman treatment. I mean he specifically said I want her to greet me with A drink when I come home. Uh, we went to a we went to a function and his friend's wife brought the husband a plate Wow, look at session such it would be sure it would be nice if I could get a plate And so he wanted and he let me know that his plan for housework included gardening and cars You know what I I don't have a problem with it because quite frankly, I will fix my man a plate No problem, but the way he was looking for there was an expectation And it was the servitude that the level of servitude he was expecting because it that built in with everything else And I think that's part of what's happening now in society as well is that men want us to be everything And because they're like, wow, wow, you can you say you can be everything or be everything Go out and work get a career be a mom And by the way, you don't have any time to sleep because there's just no time in the day to do it all And it's hard to do it all. Do you guys sleep? You don't the mom, you know what? I try to sleep like I got on my husband I said, look man, you want me to cook you want me to clean wash these kids and then do it to you And you got to do it with a smile on your face Yeah, okay, well we're kind of on the topic is it true that married couples schedule sex Yes, yeah When you have kids, okay, do you like to say Thursday? And you just hope something happens I started dating someone regularly now and he has kids too and I have kids So we're only we can only see each other every other weekend. You know what I do every other weekend, right? It takes a lot of work, I mean you don't have kids and you even have to like you don't sleep That's I was asking you do you sleep because you know the whole thing of perception after me to have children in a family I think being Latino like one day I would want that now, but growing up I never did I never did. I mean you can ask me one the people that you know when I was eight years old Like why why even like were you thinking no because it was just too much work, you know, I grew up in church So I literally uh Was a missionary My whole focus was you know, just uh religion church, you know stuff like just God, you know, and I'm not saying that I lost God already Like I think that you were being true to yourself and sometimes women have pressure to have children have a family I agree that we we can have that pressure put on, you know, we'll get on my nerves though We'll get on my nerves is the fact that I'm sleeping on the couch and my kids They know like because they come to work with me. They know mommy is sleeping and they're like And I'm up here like oh try to sleep and then my husband can sleep on the couch But me I get bothered with I get told what I'm taking to work at the ice cream and then all of a sudden I'm still being harassed Like I mean, are you exhausted? Absolutely. I mean, yeah the the hours I work multiple degrees. Yeah You know, I sleep I sleep now more than I'm finished with school thankfully But no the hours I work, you know, I mean I have to be at work at 7 30 and even though I leave at 5 30 You know, there's so much that I carry with me because a big part of what I do is solving people's problems You know, that's not something you can just shut off at 5 30 and so that combined with you know life in general You know, I well you can solve the world problems on a treadmill. That's what I try and do. We'll continue the conversation Yeah We'll be back with everyday fitness