 The fact that you're here in my community, my class, you're probably, you tend to be more of a caretaker. Okay, and I honor you for that because the world needs caretakers and people need caretakers and it's, you're gonna be rewarded abundantly if not in this life, at least in the next life. So good karma for caretaking. And at the same time, caretaking is enormously energy consuming. Whether it's an elderly person you're caretaking for or a baby, right? Like both end of the spectrums are very extremely time consuming and energy consuming. And also discombobulating, it's like you can't plan. It's hard to calendar. You might capture and categorize, but the calendar part, it's like, forget it. It's like, my dad needs me now or my baby needs me now or whatever. It's like, so that's hard. It really is, please comment below if you have any tips for other caretakers. I haven't been in that situation for a long time. I know that's probably coming up for me. So I don't feel like I'm qualified to speak to it other than to name that that is a clear sense of overwhelm. And I'm calling out your ideas and tips for those of you who are in that situation of caretaking, how do you manage your overwhelm regards to that? Because you can't plan your time. Or see, so this is the one part where from a non-caretaker side, which like I said, I think I have that non-caretaker privilege, which I'm gonna speak into the caretaker situation unfairly right now, but let me speak since beside maybe I'm less biased than you are because you're in that situation. I'm not from the non-caretaker side. We can just say that's easier for us. It's easier for me to keep boundaries because I can close the door and not have a baby on the other side or an elderly person on the other side saying, I need help right now. You got to drop everything right now in caretaker for me. So I can close the door, right? Like boundaries. And I have learned over the years to deal with the guilt of my parents saying, I don't visit enough. So I have a sense of caretaking in that way because I'm one of three brothers. I'm one of the brothers that's closest. So I really should go visit them more often, taking a flight, short flight to Las Vegas, blah, blah. But yeah, and I just have had to, so in a sense, I've had some long-distance caretaking and setting emotional boundaries to say, no, I'm gonna just visit a few times a year. And brother, no matter what guilt you give me and parents, I'd still boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. You can take care of yourselves for now before I visit. And so it is essentially, I don't know how to say it, but it's the exposure to feeling mean and callous and realizing, really, this is a real thing. It's like all of us are so nice. The exposure to what does it feel like to set boundaries and feel guilty and like a bad person and like a bad fill-in-the-blank, child, parent, friend, neighbor, fill-in-the-partner, fill-in-the-blank. The exposure to feeling that, realizing that, oh, I feel that way, but is it objectively true that I'm a bad parent, child, friend, partner? No, because nobody can say how much time you objectively need to spend time with your dad or with your child or with your partner or with your friend or neighbor. Who's to say, do you spend 98% of your time is that enough or is 80% enough or 40% enough or 20% enough? And how much time and energy do we spend with the loved one that starts to enable their lack of caretaking for themselves? Now, again, people who are literally on the hospital bed, that's different, right, or babies, that's different, maybe. That's different, but there's always a spectrum because babies can learn to walk and people in hospital beds, I don't know, they learn to self-regulate in their own ways. I don't, again, speaking from a point of privilege here and unfairly into your situation, so I apologize, but I'm just giving you some perspectives to reflect on and seeing whether there is something you can do in every garden. Let me go ahead and pause the chat and see, pause my recording and see if people are yelling at me, so give me a moment. Yeah, and there is a thread here in the chat about the importance of asking for help. And in my situation, my brother says, hey, I can't visit parents this month, I'm on a business trip, will you go? So that's him asking me for help, and at the same, ironically, I'm turning this around now. And I could say, sorry, I just visited last month and I'm already planning to visit again in Christmas and I'm visiting the in-laws this month. So no, I can't go. And that's an example of setting boundaries as, no, they can take care of themselves while neither of us are visiting this month. And thankfully, right now they can. And if something happens, they know how to ask for help, and they can ask, and we can ask for help too, but yeah, it's the situation where, so many of you, I don't know, maybe you, because you're so nice and you're so accommodating, you've become like the person to take care of others in your family. And that dynamic is obviously not healthy for your business. It's healthy for their lives, but, you know, so anyway, I'll stop here because this is a topic fraught with emotions and potential resentment, maybe towards me for not understanding your situation. I totally get it. No, I don't. I totally get that I don't understand your situation, that I get. And so I look forward to your comments below to see what would you say to yourself or what would you say to another caretaker about this situation? So yeah, so I think that's a good point to end this particular segment here and then we can go on to the digital discussions. And I'll just say one more thing. I mean, from a kind of a, I don't know what the perspectives would be, ontological or philosophical or spiritual perspective, each of us is essentially born into this life alone. And each of us is essentially alone throughout our whole lives. And I had to learn this lesson too because in my relationship early on with my wife, I was really needy and she taught me this lesson. And it felt really bad to learn it because it's like once I got married, I'm like, oh, I will never be alone anymore, emotionally or physically or otherwise. Never be a feeling of loneliness ever again. Those of you who are in relationships, long-term relationships are laughing, right? Obviously that's ontologically, I'm not using the word correctly, maybe. I don't know, I'm what the word is correctly. But, and maybe existentially, each of us is alone, our whole lives from birth to death. And when someone comes in and helps us, it's a blessing, it's a gift, it's a temporary relief from the deep loneliness that is, I think, true of each of us born into this life born into this life with the veil, not seeing what I would call the unconditional, outpouring love of God and spirits all around us. Truthfully, I believe we're never alone. But the veil is so thick from here to the other side. It's so thick that we can't literally see our guardian angels right now placing their hands on our shoulders and saying, no, you're embracing us completely. Like that's where faith comes in, right? Like nobody is ever alone in one way. And physically, all we can see physically is, and touch is we're all alone, always, until death. And so from that perspective, caretaking, your caretaking for someone else isn't huge gift for every second you spend making them not alone is a huge gift, in my opinion. And yeah, and if you do that, when they get accustomed to it, they get attached, they get dependent, and they forget that they, as all of us, must regulate and deal with the existential fact of loneliness. And that nobody, nobody is entitled to caretaking, nobody. It's all a gift. And so when someone complains or puts guilt, they're just still learning about this existential fact of aloneness, something like that. I hope this is helpful in some way. And remember, on the flip side, they are never alone. Even when we're not there, they're never alone. I look forward to your comments below.