 Today, we're going to talk about the slap hurt around the world at the Oscars Will Smith and Chris Ross Jada. I love you GI Jane to can't wait to see it. All right That was a nice one. Okay, I'm out here. Oh Oh Wow will Smith to smack out of it Wow, dude, yeah, it was a GI change up. I'm going to okay So I could oh, okay All right, Greg what do you got? Yeah, so a lot of people will say this is staged and marked you're going to cover a lot of stuff around staging But what I will tell you is you look for signs of fight or flight and if you look at will Smith in the beginning Let's well Let's take a step back if you look at Jada pink at Smith when the joke is delivered You'll notice that she's not pleased and when you're in a relationship you pick up on those signals now What we didn't see is him change, you know, we didn't see him looking at her That doesn't mean he didn't see out the corner of his eye We can't tell where that happened But she rolled her eyes she showed displeasure and then suddenly he gets up and starts to move Chris Rock one point that is important is he probably was a funny guy's whole life not just on stage And if he's been a funny guy's whole life, then he probably uses humor to diffuse situations and that comes up in the play As he's walking up if you notice will Smith's Demonstrative body language. He's walking up as if he's angry He looks wooden and then he walks up and he slaps now I'll tell you this in my career yet working at seer We would use a slap to the face as it as an insult one of the most powerful insults you can do to a man Don't know if that was will Smith's plan. No idea But as he goes up and he strikes him people will also say that Chris Rock who was standing there Didn't put his hands up to guard himself. Well, how often do people charge this stage in the Oscars? Especially a nominee to come up and injure you so I don't think that's anything to make it look like it's staged When he does slap him if you look at photos You'll see his face is rinsed off to the side and then as will Smith turns around You'll see anger in his face drawn sides of his mouth His eyes are focused pretty hard and then when he walks back and sits down He has a he has a chin jut and his teeth are exposed His eyes are set steely and hard and narrow as he's screaming at him And he's enunciating that cadence slowly to drive his point home You'll see all of that all that is pre violence and fight-or-flight. You can't miss it If you see that in a person you probably are close to them doing something to you now What's going through his head? Don't know can't read his mind can see that something was enough of a stimulus to cause him to go and do this and then later we'll talk about His apology if we get to that but this is about him walking up to do this behavior in response to a stimulus in my opinion Mark, what do you got? Yeah, so definitely a real slap not staged the big indicator for me having staged fight after fight after fight The main thing you have to get the key thing is eye contact between the two people in the fight And if you don't have eye contact it goes badly badly wrong and in a staged fight Even if it's a slap if if the palm hits the temple here somebody gets knocked out They hit their head on the ground or a piece of scaffold or so and now we're we're all in hospital And it's a terrible disaster. So if it had been staged that would have been sorted out Also, we would see somebody's hand come up to take the slap or somebody's hand come down to their thigh To make the slap sound you would never hit somebody on stage It's just too dangerous too many people have had accidents or even died in that situation So in a theater or in film you don't make contact. You just don't have to there's no reason for it Because also what you do at the end of it is you sell it You make a big deal of the impact of it and there isn't a big deal on the impact made here You make a big deal on the impact because you want people to forget about the slap moment So they forget that they didn't really see anything truly make contact. So real slap really happened So rock normally he's big and demonstrative. He lands that joke He sees in jade smith that uh that it doesn't have the effect and with the audience that he wanted because We get in jade a bitter taste in the mouth discussed eye roll. She targets with her eyes as well She clamps down her hands and suppresses. So it's dislike contempt disagreement anger and suppression bad combination He knows it's gone badly because we get some word salad from him I can't quite work out what he's saying before uh oh and the uh oh means he knows Something bad is about to happen or it's not going as intended. We've already seen him minimize I believe that's why he puts his hands behind his back and lowers his head Yes, he does step forward over that white line But I think that's somewhat to take some territory maybe but also to get closer to see what's coming Towards him, but he's minimized uh there and lowered his eye contact because he's trying to de-escalate what's coming towards him Uh smith comes in a lot of velocity I don't quite think well look what we're missing out on is that moment where Will smith because he's laughing at the joke He's laughing along with other people or just along with the event or maybe doesn't understand the joke Or maybe actually finds the joke funny. I don't know which one it is, but certainly he's truly laughing at it We've got to expect he then clocks his wife realize this is this is bad He's laughed at a joke that's affected her she has seen that and the rest of the world has potentially seen that And my guess is he get trick gets triggered in what am I going to do now? He doesn't have a plan. So up he gets full velocity in there I think the slap is a kind of a last minute idea last second idea because he comes off Balance and then as he walks away We see that he adapts a couple of times on his waistcoat I think he's unsure about whether he did a good thing the right thing whether what how it's worked for him I think he's totally mystified himself by what's what's gone on here Uh, so uh rock is frozen Um again still minimized And smith sits down. He's got glossy eyes Some almost tears there emotional sadness anger Lupita Nyong'o next to him pleasure laughing, but then there's shock or fear sadness concern It's it's a it's a complete car crash Situation what I love in the speech afterwards is that he then put it down to a battle between god and the devil Which is a fantastic piece of spin piece of genius chase. What do you got on this one? Yeah, I agree with the guys and Chris has been an entertainer his entire life decades on stage dealing with hecklers and all kinds of Having to improv a ton And there's one moment in here. We see him stomp with his left foot and you can see it in the video And then people are saying that this is him bracing or this is him Accentuating or or kind of getting dominant behavior But he's been doing this stomp since his first performance that I was able to find in 1994 So this is a common behavior of his So let's look past it for a second his arms behind his back. I think are a Way to be dressed down You'll see this in high ranking military officers and you'll see it in the lowest People in the military. So when you're in trouble in the military, somebody's really terror in India That's what you do your hands go behind your back You might lean forward to take it and you might put your head down So that I think is is what's going here Is what's going on here And when he's leaning forward I think it's either a the lights because the lights up on that stage have to be Blinding at that point. They have to be super bright where he's Probably having trouble seeing what's ahead And the second if you ever spend time, I know Mark and I both do and you guys probably do I spend a lot of time wearing a lapel mic in front of lots of people And if somebody starts walking towards me if I'm in the middle of speaking or I'm in the middle of presenting I'm going to lean towards them because I want my ear to have the most distance from that lapel mic as I possibly can So I that's an automatic behavior for me is leaning away from that mic So I think that might be one of the reasons there But there's genuine this upward defensive movement of his arms Right when he's slapped and it's not a moving back like I was injured It's I need to protect myself, which is another one for me that says it's not fake at all But this is also paired with a dominant foot retreat The moment that chris rock is slapped in the face his dominant foot retreats, which is a fighting behavior He's getting ready to fight. Let's talk about smith really quick Smith shows some clear pre-violence indicators. There is a direct line of approach His arm swing gets shorter and tighter at the closer he gets to chris rock He's completely avoidant of eye contact and right after the slap Smith performs this behavior called threat checking So this is holding for a moment just to ensure there's not going to be some retaliation And he does it for a quarter of a second there and you can see that when we go through gunfighting training and stuff like that We They teach us not to do that. They teach us to shoot and then move as fast as you possibly can That's exactly what they call that military threat checking You can go call it whatever you like Finally that one thing I haven't heard yet on this video is the smirk If you go back to any episode people are saying he walks away with a smirk So it had to be faked go back to any episode of fresh prince of bel-air go watch the movie men in black This is the same face he made in these episodes when he got away with something or he did something dangerous So those facial expressions were how he lived his life reacting to scenarios Before the fresh prince even existed So his acting is based off of how he responds to scenarios genuinely So There's also one more piece of data here. There are videos of him slapping people that he was pissed off at in the past so He using slaps as a Disciplinary behavior is kind of a baseline for him. I don't think it was staged at all Scott All right, you guys have covered pretty much everything, but so I'll go quick on these I think that laugh at the top is the when he's when Will gets up and starts walking toward chris and said obligatory obligatory, you know laugh He's always doing that laugh. Anyway, and when he gets close enough I think I see that stop and I see that more as a as a hand slap on you on the knee You know, you go, ah, it's funny or something something showing him that that's that he thinks it's fine He's ready to go along with this bit. That's whatever it's going to be. It's going to happen I don't think he thought he was going to slap it when he walked up there Because I think his his head is down and I think he either sucker punched him And if he knew he was going to do it, he sucker punched him because I think he's looking all the way down He's got his head down as you would in pre-violence. He's walking the way you would in pre-violence His arms are at his sides and arms and Kim always he goes up There's that long stride and the the arms are out and they're the long Stroller wave of the arms and then when he gets up there that thing comes out quick comes out quick And I think Chris Rock sticks his face out there because he's pretending I'm ready for whatever the bit's going to be and he doesn't realize he's going to slap him Not the more I watch this the more I'm not sure will thought he was going to slap him either I thought he was going to go up there and say something or or put his hands on him or something But ended up slapping him So right after the slap you're you're right chase He goes he gets right on balance on that dominant foot and his arm goes back like he's getting ready to start fighting too It's almost that duck duck and you know protect and get ready to fight And that's another thing we we teach and show too when we talk about pre-violence Then things that happen once somebody gets tagged or or hit like that. That's another thing we talk about And his and yeah his speed it grows as he gets closer But I don't think he was on balance enough his weight does go back or Will's weight does go back to his right foot Before he smacks him, but it happens so quickly. That's why I think as well It's a sucker punch or just hit him. I'm going to slap this guy So I think he might have lost his temper then and then but chris rock shows unbelievable Unbelievable emotional control over this. I mean that is the high end I've been around the block 40 times because when he smacked him nothing changed He didn't say oh, wow, but then he got right back up like a pro with I think he did it totally professionally I got up there and took his the what I call royalty arms So you have your arms behind your back like that the royal royalty does that when they walk around and talk to it makes them seem I'd say sorry mark, but it makes them seem like they're better than everyone else When they do that. So that's why I was referred to that as royalty arms Then after that that's when a wheel turns around to walk back. He does do that smirk I wouldn't know where the I never watched those will Smith things So I don't I'm not familiar with that face But it was that that little smirk but it looks like a little panic smirk at the same time So it might be the same thing Whether and I think he hadn't made his the decision yet whether he's done something right or wrong He just knows he's done something out of anger at that point Then when he's walking back, you're right. He goes down here or will smith Goes down here and he's pulling on his shirt, but he's got his big arm swinging like that Remind me of stir crazy when uh, richard prior Is walking through the prison trying to act all tough and stuff and try to act extra tough He swings his arm. He walks just like that. Go look it up. It's a stir crazy richer prior In prison really really funny stuff And then Uh, let's see what we got after y'all from trying to get up and stuff y'all haven't done yet I got something from a comedic perspective when after uh, he gets slapped and will goes and sits down We've been over the jade of stuff He says oh, I could like he's gonna say something I'm going to okay And let me tell you those comedians that have been around they've been comedians longer than they they've not been comedians They've been on the earth that long he could have lit him up and said something horrible just About his wife and about him all that stuff He could have lit him up But he didn't do it because I think he's a pro I think that showed that showed a lot of self control there more obviously than will smith has And I think it was real as well. I'll go along with that. You guys have covered everything, but I'll uh I'm gonna go ahead and say it's real as well. Jada. I love you. Gijane too. Can't wait to see it. All right That was a that was a nice one. Okay. I'm out here. Uh, oh Oh Wow Will Smith just smack out of me Wow, dude, yes, it was a gijane job keep my wife I'm going to okay I could oh, okay Let's throw around room and talk about what we've seen and what we think about that real quick Just sum it up in 30 seconds or like last mark where you got Yeah, so I think great example of somebody getting triggered by Looking at his partner there Transitions from one feeling to another not in control of that moment Undoubtedly Regrets that moment as well and is is unnerved and unbalanced by what transformed out of all that um Not excusable behavior by any stretch of the imagination, but uh extraordinary in this situation chase what you think Yeah, I think this illustrates Lifetime of feeling like a person's lacking control and anytime Feelings of lacking control build up. They will always always self-correct in one way or another And it's always based on a person's self-control and self-worth and here's one Main thing that you can take home tonight from a behavior profiler's perspective there is a There is zero connection between net worth and self-worth And we see suffering in hollywood as much as we do anywhere else Greg Yeah chase exactly one of the things I would make a point people are people are people Yeah, you may have a lot of money. It doesn't change anything your dog doesn't have a lot of money That's the way it works And so when a person is dealing with whatever emotion whatever kind of thing is going on That they're still going to have the same kind of response as you do fight or flight now Actors can learn to portray that but if he's acting here He's doing a hell of a job acting because what we saw to me is a person who exhibits all the behaviors Of that thinking brain turning off and that responsive brain going up there We saw the rigid movement. We saw maybe even him at the last minute making a bad decision Turning around sitting down and still so spun up based on the trigger event That he was still shouting and screaming and all of that that shows us that he's not thinking rationally He's behaving and now we're talking about cat brain versus monkey brain Now they're in that cat brain and they're responding last thing I'll leave you with us if somebody walks up to you watch your shoulders pre violence I don't care what kind of violence you're going to do They have to move their shoulders to lift their feet or use their hands. That's it for me. Scott. What do you got? All right I think this is a great example of one extreme to the other someone who is out of control and someone who is in control Will Smith loses control. He goes up and I think the last second there. He decides he's going to smack him Goes really bad for him And chris rock looks like a champ This uh will smith has ruined a lot of things for himself for that his reputation Part of his film career, I'm sure and then whereas chris rock has only been elevated by that So taking the high road was the toughest thing to do and I hate taking the high road. It's always so hard But apparently that's the right thing to do once again history shows So I think that's a great example of the someone losing control someone keeping Control and what happens when when those two come together. I think it's a fantastic example of that All right fellas, I think this was a good one and we'll see you next time Thanks You