 This makes the narcissist come crawling back to you. The narcissist may have discarded you, but they will often come back to you. If you do this, the narcissist may have moved on to other sources of supply, people who validate their false self, people who support the illusion. But when you don't give them attention, they're going to focus on you because they need attention and validation. They cannot live without it. Every day they are seeking attention and validation, especially from the opposite sex, because they're very insecure. They have doubts and fears that maybe they're not as attractive or successful as they should be. So they need people to constantly validate them. They don't like to reflect on their insecurities. So it comes out as arrogance and entitlement, where they expect to receive compliments and praise. But when you're the one person who doesn't give that to them, they're going to focus on you. They're going to come crawling back to you because while they may have other sources of supply, validate their false self and support the illusion. Deep down, they know that they've manipulated them. They know that under a spell. So it doesn't really count. Narcissists are always on social media. Many of them have thousands of people liking their pictures. It feeds their ego until their ego inflates. They do this for attention and validation to reduce their doubts and fears of them not being enough. And if you don't validate the narcissist, they're going to be confused. They're going to be wondering if they're good enough because narcissists look outside of themselves for validation while healthy people get it from within. They validate themselves based on their passions and accomplishments. That's how healthy people get validation. But narcissists will always look outside of themselves for approval. They may have plenty of other people who are viewing their social media and liking their pictures. But when they discard you, they post these pictures just so you can view it because they want you to look at it. Because they're very insecure and if you're not paying any attention, they will come calling back to you because they want your approval. They may have discarded you. They may have decided that they don't want to be with you anymore. But then you move on and focus on your own life. And then they hoover you. They come calling back. It's always a cat and mouse game with narcissists. They always seek approval from people who don't want them. But as soon as you give them the approval they're looking for, they will get bored. And then they will move on to something else. You may remember a time when the narcissist popped up out of the blue. They hoovered you. But then as soon as you started talking to them and asking if they wanted to see you, they said they're busy or they said they had something else to do. When they were the ones who came back to you and you had forgotten about them and moved on with your life, it's like as soon as you start focusing on yourself, the narcissist comes calling back because they're just looking for validation. They want reassurance that even though they discarded you and disappeared for a few months, you still want them. But as soon as they know that you want them, they no longer want you because now they've already got what they were looking for. They've already got your validation. But if you don't give it to them, they will come calling back to you. Because they desire validation. They crave validation and they cannot live without it. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching queries. You can email me at coaching.narc-survivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.