 When the narcissist makes a big mistake When they assess a situation wrongly and then make an act or judgment that is misguided or wrong When the narcissist first meets you, they believe that whatever they currently perceive of you However, they currently interpret or regard you Is how it will always be in their minds They think they've got you all figured out They think they understand you They've solved you So they think they can predict how you are going to be They think they can forecast what is going to happen in the future, but of course This is all going on in their minds It has nothing to do with reality It's not based on facts or logic It's only based on the fantasy that they have created in their minds They believe that whatever they think about you is true and will remain true Even into the future The narcissist has managed to enter your life and have control over certain things That are of value and significance to you You have talked about yourself and shared your feelings with them You have revealed secret information with them you believe that they were trustworthy But they were never to be trusted They were never to be given access to anything of value or significance in your life because they're a predator and They prayed on you They exploited you They took over many aspects of your life and Even the core of who you are Once they've got in They begin to interfere with your supporting foundations They begin to make unauthorized alterations to everything that you have established Which helped you to become who you are They begin to push and provoke you They begin to irritate you in every way and to an extreme degree and it gradually Diminishes everything that you once were because they always find excuses to be upset and cooperative Childish or stubborn? They habitually overreact and they're always trying to get a reaction out of you They're constantly harassing you to do something They're constantly troubling or annoying you With frequent or persistent requests or interruptions They're constantly nagging or pestering you they always have something to complain about They always have to express their dissatisfaction or annoyance about something They always have to state that they are suffering from some kind of pain or illness And it demands a lot of your time energy and attention It's very toxic behavior Because it takes the focus of yourself It causes you to neglect your own needs and interests Because you're constantly giving your energy away to someone who is very demanding and of course They're giving nothing back to you in return So you end up being depleted It diminishes your soul mind and spirit They pretend to love you one minute But then they hate you the next it's very confusing It makes you nervous worried or irritated It causes you to become tired Which then makes you even more susceptible to them in ablation It makes you more controllable But you don't realize it at the time You develop cognitive dissonance You have two contradictory ideas or beliefs about the narcissist You don't really want to accept that this person who seemed so pleasant Attractive loving and caring at the beginning Could now have turned against you And could now be making justifications or excuses Why they are now acting differently towards you They always have an excuse for the way that they are treating you They always have an excuse for disrespecting you You begin to adjust to these new conditions It makes you want to prove to them that you are worthy of their respect You are worthy of their love You are trying to prove this to someone who is treating you in an unfair and cruel way To someone who is preventing you from having opportunities and freedom And yet you are trying to prove to them That you are worthy of their respect and love You assume that their behavior is not intentional But they do know exactly what they are doing This is not accidental This is not something that just happened by chance This isn't just something that they started doing with you They have rehearsed this behavior for many years With many different people It didn't just occur suddenly out of nowhere They have been doing it for years They have become addicted to having power over people They have become addicted to causing great confusion and disorder in people's lives And they have become addicted to being able to control people through manipulation They groom their victims for this purpose They pressurize them into adopting radically different beliefs By attempting to impress them by effecting greater importance than is actually possessed They are pretentious Too faced There's always another side to them They are never expressing their genuine feelings That is how they manage to deceive you By concealing or misrepresenting The truth of who they really are And that was not a mistake They know exactly what they are doing They know exactly how it affects you They know that it is not right They may even admit to you That they know their behavior is not right But they will still continue to behave in these ways That are not suitable or appropriate in the circumstances There is a big difference between someone who is engaged in this behavior And does not know what they are doing Compared with someone who is engaged in it And does know what they are doing Because that means they know the effects that it is having on you Narcissists are not out of their minds They know exactly what they are doing They just don't care They love how powerful it makes them feel They want to have power over someone who is helpless to defend themselves They intentionally behave in this way To have power over you It is especially satisfying when the person is unsuspecting When they are not aware of the presence of danger When you are confused and you don't know what is happening to you It gives a rush of intense excitement to the narcissist And they become hooked on you like a drug Being a good manipulator and a good liar Is something that they include as a constituent part of them Because it makes them feel powerful It makes them feel like they are more intelligent and more superior than you are So they will continue with their behavior With great pride and arrogance And with the feeling that you are unworthy of their consideration or respect Because in their minds you are not wise enough to figure out what they were doing Even though they deceived you Even though they acted in a secret or dishonest way They see it as though they were being fair They have a distorted sense of reality They go against what is normal, usual or expected Because they believe that they are special or different And that is why they have such a strong sense of entitlement They believe that they are inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment Narcissists generally lack the power to perform physically demanding tasks They have little strength or energy of their own They lack courage They only care if things don't work out for them And many times things don't work out for them Because of their inability to predict or plan for what might happen in the future But that negative and helpful and arrogant side of them will soon come back again Once they've found a new source to help them and take on their responsibilities They will be exactly the same way as they were before You might see a narcissist who might be at a low point in their lives And that might cause them to feel less important or proud But the core of who they really are is still there Once they get back to how they used to be They will continue to engage in the same behaviours just as they did before But these mistakes are caused by their lack of good sense and sound judgement They engage in reckless behaviour With a lack of care and attention for the consequences of their actions Their arrogance deprives them of understanding judgement or perception They cannot see what will happen in the future They cannot plan for those events They cannot see the bigger picture They cannot develop an understanding of a situation that includes more than what is immediately apparent And that is why they are so dangerous to be around That is why they are likely to cause problems Because they cannot see what their actions will produce They only see what is happening now Or whatever fantasy they are entertaining in their minds They cannot see what might be the consequences of their actions Actions that often develop from their own selfish needs and desires For wealth or power That's what drives them to do what they do When they do things which they know are not normal It makes them feel powerful They could have controlled their actions if they wanted to They did what they did Because it's what they felt like doing at that moment It made them feel a little bit better And they didn't care about you They didn't care about how their actions were going to affect you They didn't consider the consequences of their actions They didn't consider that what they were doing in that moment Might later cause problems for them in the future But that was the decision that they made They made their bed And now they have to lie in it They must accept the unpleasant consequences of their actions or decisions And I don't pity them I don't feel any sorrow for them Remember how they didn't feel anything for you When they were fully aware of the effects that their actions were having on you Remember that And then it will be much easier to let them go Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos If you are like the Denay My Paypal link is in the video description Coaches and inquiries you can email me at notfovercoaching at 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