 Right, I know I'm gonna have to wait a little while and let's see what's going on Well, I'll tell you ready to you too Now let me see why I tell you what Let me see some real quick. Why I tell you why why I tell you Oh raggedy you too. Hey y'all now hold on let me see if I could cut off that other live cuz I had Man, I had lie. All right. Now y'all bounce back pretty quick now y'all handle that let me see some Yeah, it just went out on over here. Somebody probably trying to tap my phone Government trying to tap my phone. Let me see some real quick Y'all hold on real quick. Let me see some Boy, I tell you Something I Tell you let me see something Real quick. Oh Raggedy you too Well, I tell you Let me see some y'all give me one Sam. I'm just trying to see They got me live. It's still say live now. They got me live on another live Well, I tell you So I Y'all forgive me. I don't know what you two did you two tried to set him up YouTube over here glitching It just went it just went out on me. It just went out. It just went blank I don't know if somebody tried to call me the government. I'm trying Probably what the SBA loan calling me. Uh, yes, sir What you doing with that alone? But I don't know what happened just Cut out on me Tony Jordan God bless you Tony say our a nine y'all forgive me because Let me see now cuz it was it was something a couple y'all had sent some question Let me see something real quick though a couple a couple people hadn't sent some question and The thing got me see love God bless you now God bless you Well raggedy you to a YouTube y'all got to give me a call cuz y'all over there trying to sabotage But the Lord trying to do let me see if I could do something real quick on her This thing say I'm still alive y'all give me some trying to cut off the other line Yeah, it just went off on me y'all got to forgive me See love. God bless you down. God bless you. I so appreciate you now. You should be Showing up and showing that. Yeah, I don't know what's going on with the YouTube Blessing haven't been on in a while glad to have the time to watch live again School has been no joke. Hey, God bless you now y'all let me see cuz see on the other one I a y'all got to forgive me cuz on the other one. It was some questions up top that I was trying to get to Kimberly W. God bless you and I didn't get to him and I can't really I Can't see him now. I can't even see him So I feel I feel bad about that Let me see How do I heal from a man I have to see every week? well Shenita that's gonna be real hard and To be honest with you. That's sometimes the price that we pay When we take in we take a gamble on love It's sometimes the price that we pay and so you have to realize that until life Until destiny changes to where you could change jobs or if y'all got kids together and kids get past 18 Until that situation change or you can move to another apartment complex or change churches Until that situation changes Then you got to do everything you can outside of that mean you got to read all you can study all you can Talk to people all you can You got to do everything you can outside of that until the situation Allows you to change your destiny, but understand that because Y'all hold on right quick. I'm gonna see if I could Pull up this other live and see if I could see them couple questions. I miss On now being that is me Keena God bless you How to ask my boyfriend for balance between me and his son? He takes so much pride in being a father. I want to be sensitive in my delivery Well, Jay, you got that what you have to ask yourself Jay for show is Do you want to be with a man with a child? Because that's his seed. That's his child. So what's gonna happen is that child gonna come before you When you get with somebody who got a child that child on hierarchy that child is ahead of you Because you're a girlfriend not a wife. So you have to understand that so you got to realize that You got to get in where you fit in the other thing is you got to be proud of the fact that he is a good father and That's what you and when things would naturally progress see The more he gets to know you the more he trusts you he would naturally start to find balance But why he's not he's not finding balance because y'all are in the order of his priorities. He don't really know you The left boyfriend slash baby daddy says he will always be here for me and Never calls and isn't showing signs of change. I'm willing to move on What should I see from him to know? You didn't see you see all you need to see you didn't seen all you need to see If the man say he'll be there for you, but he don't call and he don't show signs of change and then he lying So that's what you need to see. That's what you need to see from he's showing you Faith where's a good place to meet men as a 24 year old? at 24 and J gop at 24 you walk from the dodeo mailbox and you gonna meet me at 24 Now if you were 54, that's different But 24 grocery store gas station restaurant Drive through 24 you gonna meet you can meet me anywhere right now. It might be kind of hard because remember all you can do is smile with that mask on Angelic God bless you now see y'all what I'm doing right now y'all got to forgive me because I'm getting them questions from the other live that you to the messed up and had live and Ain't nobody on there and and it's still a hundred and thirty people still over there on that live that I'm not on But people have asked questions. So I pulled it up to see if I could answer the question that had popped up and Jell-it God bless Tony. I have trust issues with the father of my child and we want to work things out But he is against seeking coaching slash counseling and giving me access to his phone advice on building back trust You wasting your time You wasting your time Angelic if he don't if he don't want to get coaching But one you need to get coaching if he don't want to get coaching and then to if he don't want to get coaching You wasting your time that mean he don't want to grow and if a man don't want to let you have access to his phone That mean he got something to hide because if ain't nothing hot he gonna want you to hold that phone a Yeah, you hold my phone for him. He gonna he gonna be give you the phone Yeah, you hold his phone a Google something on my phone When a man faithful, we be trying to get that phone in your hand just so you can see our faithful ability But when a man don't want you to come nowhere near that phone It's a reason why Now now y'all I'm gonna see I think I got got them questions Over there and the beyonds with you I can't um look like it's done but So yeah, hey, I'll take y'all y'all them blessings that y'all be sending me I'll take that real serious So I had to log in over there and now let me see if I can get these over here Jw a y'all got forgiven. I'm all over the place now devil trying to Block what the Lord trying to do Jw God bless I am in my 50s. I keep getting approached by younger men for one thing only How do I get me in my age to approach and get to know me and want a relationship? I'm approachable well You can't worry about that What you got to do is though and stop thinking about it and what you got to ask yourself is What can I do? What what am I supposed to be doing right now? You know, it's my book done Is my foundation started is my for-profit company started do I have my LLC? Do I have my website? Did I take the life code certification and my own my mentor that life? so you got to shift your focus because what cuz you walk around and you look and puzzle and That's why the men your age they didn't seem too much They read they read too deep into it and they look at you and you look and puzzle So you they looking at you and you looking like Because you wondering why these young boys keep coming up to me But me and my age and coming up to me so to me and your age they looking like why she's looking like that That's men of all and so they confuse Chantel God bless your height on it together ten months great man Character loves God exactly what you say a man should do when courting is it a red flag that he suggests the prenup before marriage? I'm stable two kids. He is 38. No kids Um Okay, I'm stable to get okay. You didn't say your age on now Chantel but I mean do he have something to pre-nump? I mean do he have something to not pre it's like now if he's saying let's get a pre-nump And he ain't got none to not pre then That's a red flag Now if he is a me now Then okay, it's understandable, but it's like brother about it won't that 1972 Buick that you got Like what what do you got you you 38 your SSI is not popping like that your full 1k is not jumping Like the club 411. So it's like what does he have now if he a me now? Okay? What that mean is oh he 33 here police officer Tell you ain't got none to pre-nump Nobody want a little police officer salary living to defund the police anyway What are you trying to pre-nump? So what this is? You say you stable What this sound like to me is Jedi mind trick sound like to me. He's seeing your stability He see he see your full 1k. He so he might throw out pre-nump to make you think he there And he ain't got no no motors that he don't want your full 1k. He don't want your SSI He ain't got no motors So then you say no, why we got to have pre-numped so then you don't want no pre-nump Then he able to go ahead book get you get married book get half be gone But the police talking about pre-nump Okay, I'm thinking he bouncing balls which He could be other kind of balls one thing he like LeBron James cuz I'm like pre-nump I am the God bless you. Hi, mr. Gaskins got this guy takes care of me We met on Twitter found out recently. He's 23 years old. I'm 18 can't break it Oh, he won't leave me alone. Oh Okay. Wow. He take care of you. Okay. Now. Where you at? It was Zara Z. A. R $70 Zara Zara now where's now where are you on the way is Zara cuz I'm kind of I'm wondering We're 23. Oh man in the world got the money to take care of 18. Yo Oh, then Zara I'm wondering where y'all that let me know where y'all that but I'm gonna tell you like this right here A man won't leave you alone cuz you don't want to leave you alone But if you want a man to leave you alone, he'll leave you alone a man know when you want him to leave you alone You don't Ozara's Africa. Yeah, what kind of oh 23 years older. Oh Okay, he oh, okay. I missed that er on there. Mm-hmm. Yeah and y'all in Africa Okay 2838 41 41 years now listen I yonder You need to let him know Tonight, what time it is over there? It's in it's in the middle of the morning over there in Africa. Ain't y'all six hours ahead Now listen I yonder you need to let him listen Listen 23 years old of South Africa. All right, I yonder you need to let him know. Okay, Lou yonder Now you follow I'm gonna let you know I'm gonna call the boys in blue You need to let him know you're gonna call the police on him He'll stop calling you because it went a man 41 and he dealing with an 18 year old woman. He nasty Because you young enough to be his daughter So he's nasty and when you deal with that kind of man, you keep playing with it You got to cut them off seriously. You got to really let him know otherwise You keep playing with them. You're gonna be chalked up in somebody's suit You gonna be you gonna be chalked up in somebody's suit. You hear me? You can't play cuz a man that old he nasty Okay, Zara. All right. Now. This is Zara. Y'all throwing you throwing that one oh five hundred and five. What is it over here? I think that's Think that about eight dollars over here Shoo. All right. You spending that man money on his life because he 23 years older I know he's gonna be fire hot to find out you spending his money on this live asking questions about him Lola God bless you. Do you think a man without kids? Okay, so yeah, okay, so Lola I Think I answered your question, but you probably was on that wrong line Do you think a man without kids without a child will still want to marry a woman with one child? Or should I look for a man with kids? Now I don't know maybe I saw that in the chat. I can't remember Lola if you was on the other chat still But what I was saying about that. Oh, I was answering your question when it cut off on me That's what it was. That's what it was. Oh raggedy. You too. You too. Y'all need to give him a call Y'all need to give him a call cuz y'all playing around around here. They just cut the video off. It just went blank That ain't never happened. You know the devil busy now Let me tell you what I was telling you before it cut off on me a man Don't care how many kids you got if he like you only time a man have a problem with your children is When you not hit you're not the one Like I was saying you could have a whole you can have 11 kids You can have a football team that y'all yeah, I see y'all team called the mama's boys And you got 11 kids, you know what? So that man gonna be he gonna be on the sideline Hey run blue 42. Hey John get up all the crib He gonna be out there coaching all your 11 sons. You hear me if he like you He's gonna be hug hug. Hey, hold on One family on three one two three one family Yeah, baby if he like you if he don't like you you can have a half of a child Meaning you could have thought about having another man child. He gonna Yeah, I'm not really gonna be able to be with you just cuz you had a thought about having kids one day Awesome, so I ain't gonna be able to be with you when he's not for you So that's what you got to understand is it really come down to the connection between a man and a woman a Man would be as excited either lady Step daddy if he like you a laundry. God bless your message has been a blessing in my life Hey, bless you. No, no y'all forgive me because there's a lot of questions coming in here and I'm trying to keep up with you Okay, Gina. I'll find you right here fiance V told me having any male friends at all for any reason no messaging calls, etc Is this reasonable or controlling want to be respectful? The question is do he have women friends? If he has no women friend that you can sniff a text You can't find a text message with a woman To say your life then it's reasonable because when you in a relationship when you get married Your spouse need to be your best friend of the opposite sex Okay, you don't need to have friends of the opposite I don't have any woman friends my wife don't have any male friend Now she got a male trainer and they just got a couple sessions because I don't like the size of his muscles So I don't change my mind on that at first. I was okay with it I said no and I understand he outside of her scope or what she attracted to because he's a Caucasian But still stuff could happen. I said you not you're not finna be flexing in front of my wife And I'm around here trying to get my body back together. So I let my wife. I said listen Yeah, Tom will be in there, you know, I just I just want to tell you like I've never dated a black girl But if anything ever happens with you and your husband, like and I don't want to be forward and hope you won't report me to the me-too movement, but It's just doing all these workouts with you Like I've just been feeling something and so I told my wife I say listen after the last couple sessions you got You know how to get a woman trainer cuz I don't like the way Don't like the size of muscle and so just understand him You know why because it's human nature. So your fiance, he knows men He know the way men are he know that even if you faithful, there's no such thing as a male friend a man Who is quote-unquote your friend if he liked women he waiting to pounce He waiting on his opportunity to pounce like Simba on the pride land on On on Nala you waiting to pounce understand that the Simba and Nala was friends Chuh, so you thought some were waiting for that opportunity That they're making all the heels they're rolling and praying and playing doing all that playing Nala thought she had a friend No, Nala, you wait. You get a little old or something the alright Bridget God bless you Why do I keep being in situations ships and not in her and not a relationship? I haven't had a relationship since my divorce of eight years You're gonna need to heal you got to heal you got to learn you got to grow Sometimes when you don't get the new knowledge you can't read the flags the red flags Let me see That was Gina question. Let me see Got Lola question now. I'm trying to catch all questions now Okay, baby girl. I'll see your question here now y'all got to do something with your screen name It's got you got me calling you baby girl my wife. I done Then when I get off this, I'm like, who would you only call a baby girl since when you start all the way baby girl and Then I'll be in a like demand on my video from early today No, that was a screen name My childhood love came back in my life four months ago He says he loves me But lives with his ex We only talk on the phone right now. What should I do? Change your number move on with your life block his number move on with your life You finish be entangled right now what you working on is an entanglement and And you ain't got that kind of celebrity and that entanglement will take you out because He don't live with his ex he live with his girlfriend when you live with a woman That's your woman ain't no if and about somebody that is your woman that woman. Thank you her man Because she go get her own place. She live in there because she think they in a relationship They know ex that is his woman and guess what you will end up on the wrong side of a snap episode y'all watch snap No oxygen you end up on the wrong side of a snapped episode meaning she living and You don't go on to meet the Lord cuz she sent you to meet him early when you dealing with a man who living with another woman Don't don't don't don't get caught up in oh, I knew him before she knew him. All right She gonna know him after you know him when she gets you up out of here See people ain't playing by the other half because it's becoming so scarce people getting ready to You see what I mean? So he live with that woman. All right. Hey play what a little nice in you God bless you. I wish you the best. I think it's best that you lose my number though Because you live with a woman ain't no hard feelings. It's just strictly business. I don't like to be in no entanglements. So Also, the visa also the way go Jody God bless you Tony in your opinion is a 49 year old woman. Okay to date and marry a 39 year old man Great chemistry same life outlook love each other personality I mean it could work now. I mean it could work. I don't personally recommend it that that 10 year age difference because Typically a man is not looking for a older woman He looking for a younger woman when when a man looking for a older woman It typically is either for security Cuz cuz your SSI getting ready to kick in in the decade and he just broke-minded Or your 401k or you already got a house. So you got a nice car You know, you look like you live a comfortable lifestyle and he needs some help He wants somebody to split the bills with and 39 year old women Just not on the security level that he wanted to be on typically is that or He's a notch in his belt. He want to see what that old wine skin tastes like you said I mean he want to age the wine because he tired of he didn't have 39 year old wine Now he won't take some 49 year old wine Chardonnay Right Pinot Noir Gurgels Yeezy old Pinot Greasy old and so that's typically what that is and You could be an exception to the rule But you probably gonna need a coaching session and really so dive deep to see if you are an exception miss Concediality Love your messages. Check out my question above Recently ghosted by a man who really liked me and I really like him. I just heard back from him after four days But good explanation. I need a session with you Yeah, get on get your session now. Let me ask you. No, let me tell you You can't ever speak for a man You like him You don't know if he liked you and a man who liked you not gonna ghost you So that's that right at the end of that Cube face J. God blessing that. All right. No, I gotta start whispering y'all screen name. I don't have me in trouble Cube face J Guy at work always been a gentleman to me always shows interest But doesn't be direct told me the other day he'll take care of me He'll take care of me. I just have to trust him. He's in his 40s. I'm almost 28 No, you 27 could age be an issue. Absolutely. Absolutely You're a work toy. Okay, you're a work toy You Guy at work. Okay. Yeah, you're a work toy. You his work wife. You like to work concubine See back in the day men have wives and they had concubines. That's what he used you you to work concubine Yeah, you're gonna take care you just for a little fun Little fun in the sun. He wanted to get you in that break room The one that only fit up one person at a time He wanted to get you in one of them bathroom stalls when everybody at work He wanted to ask you to come to the bathroom He want to get you behind the building in the back seat with the dark tent That's what you want to use you for gonna run gone about your business. He too old old enough to be a daddy Sergeant L. God bless. So I cheated on my spouse and I continued to do it several times I'm very remorseful and went to and went to show her that I only want her. I know it's not ego Now yeah, that's ego. That's ego you lying to yourself and you lying to her You don't want you don't want a woman that you cheat on several times mobile So this is her Sergeant L. You got to get that together. You don't want her you do not want her Because if you want her you wouldn't risk her life with all them STD that you was I bought to contract If you want her you wouldn't broke her heart. That don't make no sense That's like and see sometimes you got to look at love in a different way So sometimes you got to look at it like is if you have a daughter and if you have a daughter are you going to Take your daughter to the shelter Every month and leave it out for three days and then keep coming back and picking up. Oh, I love you I just want to drop you at the shelter for a few days. Are you gonna do that to your daughter? What is gonna do to her gonna traumatize her so what the same thing when you look at love for your daughter look at love for your mama Look at love for your mama Look at love for your grandma now look at what you call in love for this woman You don't know that one you don't know that one because you hate yourself So you're incapable of loving her You're incapable of loving her because you hate you and because you don't like you because you're not happy with you Because you're not happy with your level of success Now you taking you getting your feel in the world so on your wild oath and then you want her to put up with you You want her to settle for you want her to put up with your mess, but you don't deserve her You don't deserve her because if you really wanted her you would never got caught up like that You would have failed you might have made a mistake You would have got up brush yourself off before she knew anything about it took it to the Lord and prayer As for forgiveness turned over a new leaf and then love her like a queen treated her like a queen But you kept doing it doing and doing until you got caught No You don't deserve them. You don't deserve so what you need to do let her go Heal your heart let her hear her heart and then you move on and you find you somebody that you think you really want and Start fresh because you don't deserve her and she don't deserve to live in that prison or the memory of you cheating on her multiple times Tina God bless your question from Shanita Watkins. What does it mean if a man pursued you, but then ghost you? Thank you Tina for getting that question for Shanita Tina work make the dream work. Oh It means that He thought he liked you then he found something else that caught his attention you know, you ever see a dog walking somewhere and Then he supposed to be going on a walk But then he's still leaf that he want to go get and he go get that leaf and he start chewing on their leaf and Then he just start chewing on their leaf and he walking then he still lizard. He want to chase. That's what that that's what that mean He thought he wanted any change in mind Question from Julie. All right, Tina B. Mustn't got to a SBA loan Tina he'll ballin out of control asking all y'all question for y'all Tina God bless you Lord I'm being good to you bless your part in her life. Lord bless her. Give her 100 fold question from Jalisa speaks. Is it possible for God to put a pause on a divine relationship? Proceeding marriage and why would he do that? It's possible for God to do anything, but God don't second guess himself So the relationship is not divine if it paused Because God not not in the game the Bible say God's not author of confusion Bob I tell you that a double-minded man receives nothing from the Lord. So the Lord not gonna be double-minded So Lord ain't gonna say okay. I'm seeing the divine relationship. Oh, it's like I'm gonna take a bag Okay, here you go again. I have to take it back again. Okay. The Bible say God tempts no man God tempts no man. So right there. It's not divine relationship Because and and if it is about divine relationship, God didn't put it on pause That's the adversary attacking y'all and the adversary have the right and Opening to attack you because that's what he there for that's why he attacked Job You see what I mean? So God ain't playing the games. All right That's the adversary playing the game and if it's meant to be then God to get y'all the strength the wisdom Knowledge the know-how to escape the temptation to get past the test to overcome the test and to fall deeper in love miss Antonia God bless your 25. No kids in career own a business fit and outgoing. How can I protect my? sexual market value In vetting the man for my future When men find I have no kids they rush commitment Rush commitment. Um, now, I don't know where you learn that word from SMV But I'm gonna tell you whoever you learned it from you need to unfollow them immediately Because that is the dumbest term ever Because it's not about your sexual market value because you're not a sex object You're not on the market for said you know I'm saying you want you not even on the market You are human with a heart and it's about love. You ain't got no SMV. You don't man So whoever taught you that turn you need to unfollow Immediately because that's the dumbest thing in the world. They didn't ever taught you so understand this right here the way you protect yourself is protecting yourself from soul ties and protecting yourself from entanglements and Situationships so the way you do that is you have to learn What is a real man? You're gonna learn that on this hit channel. What is a real woman? You're gonna learn that what is a real Relationship what is a healthy relationship look like see when you get that knowledge now when you deal with somebody You know somebody you get to know them you able to tell if they real or fake You're able to tell if they real or fake and then when you realize and you recognize the red flags You're able to leave and in the midst of that time you getting to know them you keeping your legs closed That's how you protect your soul. That's how you protect your spirit and That's what's gonna help you now. Kylie. God bless your try Breaking it off with a guy. I'm talking to I don't feel the same way about him But he insists on us being together don't want to hurt him because He has a heart condition Um Well, if you don't want to hurt him that bad to where you break his heart Then you got to cut it off soon. You got to cut it off earlier the longer you, you know Let it go the longer it goes out there then The worst it's gonna get so if you don't want to hurt him too bad You got to go and cut it off and he gonna be alright. He gonna be alright. You can't you can't Hold that against yourself. He gonna be alright You can't be trapped in something because you fearing the unknown and something ain't got nothing to do with you That's like When you're in a talk situation and you getting ready to leave somebody and they tell you they gonna take they self out They gonna take they lie That is abuse. So if he using that old don't leave me cuz I got a heart condition and he might ain't say that But you thinking that Don't don't you know, don't give yourself that much credit. He gonna be alright He gonna be alright. It's his world this old Hayden world ain't took him out You leave him. He gonna be alright. He didn't see him worse. He didn't been through worse Lotters, God bless you. Where do I begin? 10-year marriage? Alright, right. You began with coaching coaching when you say marriage in your marriage three kids Great for the first seven years cheated with my BFF while under the influence of alcohol Been gone all Weekend with her for the second time Well, I tell you what the glory be to God you don't have your own episode of snap Because I will have a whole series of snap If I was in your shoes, so thank God keep the strength Make sure you get on my mentor that like get a coach tonight Go to my mentor that like tonight book your coach if all you can afford is $25 hour coach You just need somebody to talk to you need somebody to talk to and don't don't don't blame it on Don't blame it on that alcohol like Jamie Foxx It had nothing to do with alcohol. He had nothing to do. I heard they did what they wanted to do Cheated with your BFF. All right. I'm gonna take no, no, I ain't no I'm not even gonna condone. No violence. I ain't even gonna take BFF Okay Yeah, I kept these hands All ten fingers Yeah, I ain't gonna condone nobody's on here. Hopefully y'all can't hear me on this here microphone when I talk low Natasha garbage height on that. I love to run I run every day How can I make myself approachable without running at the park? I Feel guys may not know if they can approach no They cannot approach when you when you're running, but what you can do is have a seat on the bench That's a long the running trail sit down on that bench and and just sit there and Do you breathe in technique about five ten minutes? It's about ten minutes in not don't breathe too hard You've been over high ventilated But sit down about ten minutes just gather yourself See you got to be still because if you running and a man jogging up beside you to talk to you That's gonna feel like Ted Bundy. And so you think you want that But when it happened it probably gonna scare you so bad So just sit down on the bench about ten minutes fifteen twenty minutes. You can stretch Stick a leg out there. You really don't want to have your head all between your legs Just cuz a man not gonna approach you like that, but just stick a leg out there lean. Oh, okay touch Touch so uh-huh like that. Get the other leg enough. Okay. All right. Get it here behind the head behind it Okay, get this you see what I'm saying. That's how you sit there prepare and then you position and and y'all think y'all think that's a joke, but That's real man come right up to you Right up to you But if you running ain't never gonna say nothing cuz it's just to me, you know with the me-too movement right now It's just a lot of Nasty men out there. And so a good man don't want to be seen as a nasty man And he don't want to get you know Karen calling the police Man ran up beside me. Tell my hello Called send the police out here. He's he ran. I'm jogging. He ran beside me and said hell. Oh The first three of the letter Let me know where he wanted to send me the old doesn't even count you said I mean it's so many Karen's out there A man not gonna approach you like that See love God bless and not God bless is it wrong to reject a man who tried to get my number who was in an electric Cart my first thought was literally I'm not trying to become a home health nurse off the bat I take care of myself and want the same So the man just rolled up on you just rolled up on you in the car And ask you for your number. I mean that's bold. That's bold That is bold now And you really got to appreciate his confidence because the way he rolled up on you and That's that's the tough one doesn't see love because a lot of men scared to walk up to you. He rolled up He rolled up on you and just I was walking past. Okay. Wow Hmm. He bold now, but hey You know with me and today you have to look him in his face and you have to see if You know how you feel about his face how you feel about his spirit his voice is just his energy You know, don't just turn people down cuz some cuz a man deep in the day Thank women gold digging so much that man could product a Run fast you same boat and sitting in that chair. You said I mean you just never know Well, he might be sitting on all kind of money and and just don't want to a woman to want them for his money So he just testing testing your spirit. So sometimes you just really got to look at the situation And instead of Jeff, you know that outside judgment Just look at the situation and it's always okay to talk to a man a little bit and it's okay to cut him off Say hey, I don't think it's going anywhere and I don't want to lead you on. That's all right Chantel God bless you. I was in an off-and-on emotionally unhealthy relationship for 10 years. I'm now 31 no kids really trying to heal Do you recommend coaching? See seeking a therapist or both. What is the difference? Um, you could do both if it's affordable The healing from the relationship could take therapy Because in therapy is where you talk about trauma bonds and things of that nature coaching We don't deal with labels and diagnosis and things like that coaching is it's more practical, you know So it's not really into labels and treatment plans. So there's a difference a therapist can touch on those labels You know and they can they can go there into the trauma and those deep things that a coach is more so you talking