 أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاة والصلاة والسيد المرسلين وعلى آله وصحب إجمعين أعوذ بكلمات الله يتامل تم يشارما خلق صلى الله تعالى سيدنا محمدين وعلى آله وصحب إجمعين برحمة الله الرحمن الرحمن الرحمن أولا من المساعدة هو أن نصر يقول أولا من المساعدة هو أن نصر يقول أريد أن أكون مسلم في كل طريقة وإن أن يكون لطاقة لأنه يبدو like the culture of the Muslims لأيضا أن يكون لطاقة ولكن العربي صلى الله عليه وسلم was the most on-time person في تصميم أنه لم يكن لطاقة لن يكون لطاقة وأنه always honored time لأن time is sacred and it's from Allah وإن الله سبحانه وتعالى بسبب time لأن الله لا يسأل بأي شيء مهمة وَلَعَصْرِ إِنَّ الْإِنْسَانَ الْأَفِي خُصُرِ أردت أنه يقوم بأسر الله يقوم بأسر وَالْفَجِرْ وَالْيَالِنْ عَشْرْ وَالْتَمَفْفَجِرْ لذا الله يقوم بأسر بأسر وَدَحْرَ لأنه يقوم بأسر الله يقوم بأسر ونحن مستقع في وقت وفي مكان لذا يجب أن نهره ولكن أردت أن نكون مخيفين أردت الزاق الله خير لكي تصميم إن شاء الله today is the last class of the four week course on the Gulistan of Sa'adishirazi one of the thing about the poets that separates them from everybody else is that the foundation of Islamic teachings is what we call the Akhla or the ethics of Islamic teachings is Adab and without Adab there is nothing in our civilization I'll give you an example if someone has a lot of money and they have you know they're very wealthy and they even give charity without Adab nobody appreciates it so if they just throw it in your face here you go here's $100,000 for your mosque just throw there's no Adab in it so that money has no value if you give a gift to someone without any Adab even if it's an expensive gift and you throw it at them without Adab it has no value this is why the person they said بارغة سابسو توفي دربشان that even a leaf of a tree which is the most worthless things on the planet because they just keep falling right everywhere there's leaves of trees if you give it with Adab like a دربش would give it has more value than you know if somebody gives gold without Adab so knowledge what is the foundation of knowledge so there's a prerequisite in every science there's a prerequisite so you can't go get calculus if you don't have pre-calculus right can't get algebra if you don't have so all of these sciences that we study like English class when you go to college I have a class one of my college together here with a college they do a test and then if English is good they give it the English 1A if it's not good they give it a well when you were back in college you said 100R which was like the writing and 100W was the writing in the reading classes so those were the classes you have to take in order to get to English 1A and then so you're ready for it so knowledge in itself this this ailment that Allah is talking about in the Quran and our Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم presenting to us has a prerequisite to it and the prerequisite of learning is Adab you have to have Adab Adab in reality the meaning of Adab obviously means comportment it means but the reality of it is to put things in their proper places that's what Adab is so there's Adab of dressing right so you know everything goes in its place so you put the ring you know the sunnah fingers you know these are the sunnah fingers right that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم put the rings so you don't put the ring you know some people put it in here and it's just it's lack of Adab like literally he was an adib the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said that he has perfected that level of Adab I mean this is ادبني ربي فأحسنة عديبي Allah has taught me Adab and how beautifully he has taught it to me so he learned Adab from Allah Allah taught him how to be because this is he is the best exemplar that Allah put on earth so we can emulate him right so he's this is the pinnacle of of Adab that he's that he's embodying in his action in his words so what separates the poets from everybody else is that they have Adab with words so they put words in the proper places I'll give you example if I tell you a line in prose right because they're like if you get like people who are interested in Farsi you can get the Musnari of Rumi commentary by Gulpin Adali the great Turkish scholar so what he did he put the poem the actual Persian Farsi poem and then he put a Nasser he put the poem in a line just like in prose so what it means because a lot of you they read the line and they can't really understand it fully so then he put it like just in regular Farsi like in prose and then he did a shah on it but if you read the line first it doesn't affect you when you read the poem it affects you why is that because the line is there just it's kind of like it's like two buildings you look at one is a building that was built just for purpose built for let's say dormitory or for an apartment complex where they say how could we make a building where a lot of people can fit in there and the least amount of space right then you look in another building that they build it how could we make this a beautiful building that architecture is alive in this building so when you look at this building you're like oh my you're awestruck when you look at the other building you're like it's just it's a it's a building another building you pass by it doesn't even attract your eyes so look at it second time but a beautiful building you keep looking and you stop and you want to take a photo because it's amazing the same thing with poetry poetry is like the they're like architecture like actual poetry like architect that they they beautify word because they put it in beautiful places so one of the thing that the poet said he said look at your face he said look at your face if you take the eyebrows from there and put it below the eyes you will be ugly it's perfect where is it at Allah has designed everything it's like the adab of the face how everything is exactly where they're supposed to be right the eyes the nose the teeth the lips the everything in the human body is exactly where it's supposed to be and that's it's it's you know that's where we have the potential to become people of adab are ugly and inwardly so they have adab with words and that's what affects people and this is one of the thing that in our tradition poetry was at the foundation of teaching I don't remember having a class with one of our teacher Dr. بركة الله حفظ الله with you know we studied under him that every class there was a line of poetry or something that would or a proverb that he would bring up and the thing with poetry in proverb is that it explains something so complex in a very simple way you have Odu proverb English proverb Persian Arabic every language have proverb but Proverbs they come from poetry is the the gullustan of Sa'adi is filled with proverb but they're all poetry in motion is words in motion that becomes poetry so we will finish today Insha'Allah going over a few more of the stories from the gullustan of Sa'adi a book of real masterpiece of Persian literature it is probably one of the greatest books that was ever written in the history of of literature not just Persian the likes of it is impossible to find and within the Persian literature either because nobody could everybody kind of like salute the gullustan so it's a book and in a category of itself and there was a lot of copycat that came there's a lot of people that try to imitate it nobody can imitate this this style because he was such he was such a genius and he was as we mentioned the first session but he went through in life the 30 plus years of traveling and being in a dungeon of of of the you know during the Crusaders and and just all of the life experience because one thing that مولانا رومي says is that if you look at the name which is that the symbolism for Insan al-Kamil in the Musnari the the flute is that if you look at the name because he started his book a room he started his book with the name like Bishna was name شون هكوية ميكون I'd listen to the weed bed that the the flute it's telling his story he said the reason why it sounds really good there are a few things and you know the scholars have talked about this but I I was fascinated by the name for many many years and I've been doing a lot of research on the name like what's why would he use the name why not a guitar why not something else why in the name as a symbolism for himself for Rumi that he is the name there are a few aspect today arekill the great power of India said I started a blog까 him come a seven he he said that reason why need we this this high station on of singing this beautiful is because it abandoned there leaves what about the leaves is called right these are attachment that on the path the Tach of itself from the things of this word so and ثم يذهبون من تلك الصحة so they're smooth on the outside ثم everything that's inside is denied, they take it out It becomes hollow from the inside And in those of us we call spiritual diseases of the heart like kiber and arrogance and envy and similar And all of these diseases of the heart, spiritual diseases of the heart They take these out of the naive فإنه يبدو أنه ينزل من الإنساء، من كل شيء that is other than Allah. في ذلك، في ذلك، هذا ليس فعله. يرى أن الكثير من الناس يذهبون بأول أسفل. ربما أم أزاهد. لا أعلم أنه يأخذني إلى العالم، لكن يجب أن يدفع الإنساء. يجب أنهم يعتقدون أنهم أفضل من الناس. أم أزاهد أنهم أفضل من الناس. أعطيهم لأسفل. أم أفضل من الناس.ukan للتغفل لأنه كل شيء يتعرفون. في هذه المتحدة سع Addam mentioned about a man who gets up for a fraternity prayer and people were sleeping and he prayed and in that morning he said these people were sleeping while he got up and then my brother made a prayer and he just goes on about his house and look at these guys, they were all sleeping in the city of Gifla and they became forever, and then when Saidad said I wish you would have slept not pray for you are done to get up and look down upon everybody that it gives you arrogance that you're better than anybody and then you're backbiting the whole day collecting sins and seeing people as lower than yourself so your sleep would have been better than your prayer as a prayer of arrogance, a prayer of just showing off a prayer that I'm better than other people so one of the things they do is that you have to do detach from outside وكذلك يجب أن يكون هناك تفكير من العالم لكن أحد المهم الذي يتحدث عنه هو أنه مرحباً يجب أن يكون هناك تفكير والذي يكون لديه لأنه لا يوجد تفكير من هذا حتى تستطيع المدينة يجب أن تكون لديه المدينة والسيطير فما أنه هو ما يسمى إيجابة العالم إيجابة العالم ستمرك يجب أن ترى شيء جميل. إذا ترى ماذا يأتي. إذا ترى ماذا يأتي. إذا ترى what Allah is doing with you. And some people, they don't, you know, رومي سيد غربحر, زخمي تبورت ينشبي، بس كذلك سيغال ينشبي. And if you get irritated with every rub, how do you expect to be polished and turn into this beautiful perfect mirror, right? So, that's what destiny does. And if you're patient with it and if you learn the lesson from this, the point of all of the trials and tribulations in life is to learn the lesson. If you don't learn the lesson, you will repeat the same, the same thing will come over and over again until you learn the lesson that is all from Allah SWT and you have to submit. So, that's the nail is the experience of life. And Sa'adi did that all his life. And then when he came back to Shearar it was about 32-34 years after he left when he was a teenager, that's when these poems just came out of him and it was right. Outside was beautiful like the nail, inside was hollow like the nail and he had the holes of the experience of life. And that's when it came out and it's so beautiful. So, that's very important to know that these things, it takes time. When Masnavi of Rumi in the first chapter he wrote the second chapter there was a long delay between because there was death in the family and also one of his students passed away as well but I hear there was two tragedies in his life and one of the things that when he starts the second chapter he says This Masnavi it delayed for a period of time you need time in order for the blood to turn into milk and that's what happened when a woman gets pregnant they start having milk, right? But it takes time in the pain of pregnancy they have to go through in the pain of childhood So he said And when he starts the second chapter he says until you don't give birth to this child this spiritual child of yours and anyway you don't go through this hardship of life these difficulties, these moments the night, the sleepless nights and travels and whatever you have to do he said So there are difficulties in learning knowledge there are difficulties in getting these moments in this station of spirituality This is not fast food nation where you can go and say Hey, can I get my burger with extra cheese on top and it comes within 30 seconds Now, this is like when you want real food it takes a whole day to prepare the real food sometimes two days you have to get this stuff you have to marinate it but that's a different food than a burger but now everybody wants fast food spirituality and fast food knowledge Six months course become an island and I'm like What was that when I was young? Okay, so we couldn't do this the last two I don't know if you guys have it or not but the last week we only printed one page it was three pages but if you don't I'm going to read it out loud So this is about it's still in Chapter 2 of the Gholaston on the Bob of the Derwish The Achlokh Derwishon and the characteristics and character of an ethics of the Derwish and Derwish is the people that we call them the people of the door they are the people who have no attachment to the dunya no attachment to the world they don't have anything of the word and they don't want anything of the word they just the people just busy with themselves and their Lord just busy purifying themselves and going through all the things that they need to do in order to get closer to Allah and busy with their worship So it says دوز دي بخانه فورصا يدرمت فورصا means a zahid we've talked about it it means someone who is detached from the word in Persian ظاهد is obviously a more universal term that is used in Arabic in Persian but فورصا is a farsi word دوز دي دوز is a thief خانة is obviously a house فهذا هو الزاهر. فهذا هو الزاهر والذي يذهب إلى الزاهر المنزل من المنزل من العالم شندنك يجب أن يقوم بإمكانه أن يجد شيء. لا matter how much he searched around the house, he couldn't find anything. في أيضاً, لا يوجد شيء كبير من المنزل من المنزل. المنزل من المنزل من المنزل من wetland ليس كبير من المنزل من المنزل من المنزل من المنزل من المنزل من التن意قل من المنزل المنزل من المنزل من المنزل.berries like before, he steals something. He has all of the information in the maps, of the house and all that before he goes in. There is also obstacle that comes in when he goes steal. You know they have money but then it is supposed to be somewhere but then you can't find it. فكيف يمكنك التجاوز؟ يمكنك المشروع أن يتعطيهم من مكان أحد إلى أخر. حسناً، فالشخص جزيزة جداً، بما يجد أن يتكلم في المنزل أن يجد ما يجد موعده، كان يتكلم فيه. كان يجد أن يكون محسنًا، يجد أن يكون موعدًا بكثيرًا ويأتي في المنزل. ويوجد بشكل في هذا المنزل. فهي كان يبدو أن يجد فعاله، يجد أن يتكلم فيه. أعتقد أنه يوجد تفنة في المنزل أن يبحث عن شيئاً لكي يستيقظ غليم يكبران خفطة براءة دوزد انداغ تا محروم نشهد كان يوجد تفنة غليم غليم يوجد كاربت وكثيراً يوجد كاربت هذا الوصول الذي كان يوجد يوجد تفنة فهي رسلت وقلت بك كان يوجد كاربت وقلت بك وقلت بك وقلت بك وقلت بك وقلت بك وقلت بك وقلت بك عندما تفنة يوجد تفنة فهي يمكنك ترى وقلت بك فهي لا تتبع من المنزل من المنزل ماذا يوجد لدينا الناس يجب أن تفكر عنه شنيداً كمردان راهي خدا دل دشمانان راه ناكر دان تان وكذلك فهي كانت تفنة أولاً يسمى ناثر مصجا ونالاً هذا هو المنزل قالت أن الناس يسمى رجال الله يسمى رجال الله يسمى الناس ينجب أن تفكر حدودهم فلن تفكر حدودهم قمت بفرق حدودهم أن ترى ركب وقوموا ونحن وقوموا وما could you achieve this this station right to become a zaheb to become a parsa to become a man of God to become the nay how to become a insan al-qamil كيف تصلت لها في المقام؟ عندما تتحدث مع أصدقاءك هل تحرق أصدقاءهم؟ كيف تعتقد أن الأشياء في الزاهر والأسفالة والأسفالة تحرق أصدقاءهم؟ إذا كانت تحرق أصدقاءهم فإذا كنت أخذتك لأنك تحرق أصدقاءهم وإذا كنت أخذتهم أصدقاءهم وهت北 غريب ورجع ليوم وعيب جيران وتسو también إكبر So أسفال الزاهر صغيرة الأسفال هبه يا إ Uz'ahed طفو لأنه تباً المشاكلة بينك والأجلسة لأنه هناك دوّاً مشاكلة من الناس هذا مهم بالتعلم المشاكلة التي نملك عندما نحدث ومشاكلة التي نملك عندما نحدث لأن المشاكلة هي مهلاً لأنك عندما تتعرق تردت بكتوارتك ويتعرق. يبقص تحديد أجلسك لذا now ماذا ستتحدث بينه؟ ستتحدث عنه؟ هل سوف نتحدث عنها أو سوف نكون نفسها؟ و هذا هو one of the tragedies of our time و أعلم أنه عندما تقوم بالتساعدة فقط أنه يجب أن ترى الناس who were friends for like 10-20 years و they found out that their friends would be training them و they were talking bad about them و الكثير of the things that happened in their marriage life and their family life with their parents with their teachers all at work it's all from their friends and those people that they expected the least and this is why one of the greatest gifts in life is to have a good friend and we've been blessed to have really good friends and now it's kind of impossible to find somebody that actually is a good friend who is the same in front of you and the same behind you who is someone and one time I mentioned this and a friend of mine called me right after my class I think we were in Coney and we had a teaching class on Rumi and I said their friends I think about my friends is that if I have to leave or something happens to me I have to go somewhere and my wife is home alone with all our belonging and our wealth right which one of my friends I would trust to say hey go sleep in my house to protect my wife and my wealth I know that he wouldn't touch either one right and that's how I think and that's how I know who are my friends like these are the people I trust so immediately one of my friend called he goes if ever happens to me you are the only one I said listen you were number one on my list too but I have four people on that list which is amazing to have that that kind of people in your life in any case in one of them sitting in this class is one of my good friends and I trust them with my life you know people that you know for three decades just trust them so that's the prerequisite for trust yeah because all these young kids like your kids when they're a teenager they come and say my friends my friends said okay you think they're friends we'll talk about it 20 years if you remember their name then they're your friends so he said the people of Ahle Safaa what are in front of you are behind you they won't say نتشانون كاسبسات عيب جيران behind you they will not say عيب is deficiency it's a very important word to learn this word عيب because when you have I'll give you an example if somebody is drinking alcohol right you say man for it he's such a good man a hard working man a family man but why he drinks alcohol he has that that's a عيب that's a عيب so he is good he just has an عيب if he removes that he's all good right so you can remove عيب عيب is an attachment to you it's not part of you got it so it's not your essence so logically you have essence and you have accidents right it's not an accident like a car accident but accidents the accident for example the color of a rose is the accident so you can't say oh that's not a rose because it's not red even if it's white it's a rose even if it's blue it's a rose the rosiness is different from the color so عيب is not your essence so people there are people who are good people they give charity they pray five times a day they are beautiful but they are foul language they always use that they are foul language that's an عيب they can let that go they can purify themselves they can say you know what I'm not going to speak foul again and I know people I mean we grew up in this country in high school we used to I mean there was normal but there was a point in my life that I said I would never ever use foul word again in my life and there was point that I really wanted to use it you just get frustrated in this junior and I said I made an oath to myself my lord I'm not going to use it so you can do that people can control their tongue if they want to so that's the thing is عيب is something so if your friend has an عيب that's not part of the essence for example you have a friend that smokes cigarette or you know or backbite you should tell them in a beautiful way so they can remove that عيب and become that that person that is pure from inside outside instead of talking about it behind their back where they're not there to defend themselves right so we don't know Allah knows like people's situation so he said they would not behind you they would not talk about your عيب and in front of you in other words the word means you know you don't die for you one of the worst relationship is what I call an extreme relationship so when you we can friends with somebody or your family members and then when you see them you're amazing you're great I miss you I love you you just keep going and then the whole night you're like that and then when you leave it's done that is a fake relationship that's how we are because if it was real it would continue after that as well like not you know you would text everyday you would call that's you know that's like 24 hours a day nobody's like that so he's saying don't go to the extreme in front by over praising over loving over doing things and don't go to the extreme in the back we'll say oh you know what look at him talk about this look how hard he works he neglects his children you know just tell them you're working too hard it's good you know you're supposed to work hard that's a good thing but remember just maybe take a couple hours extra off a week spend with your kids they miss you too you know it's important to be getting more you say it in a beautiful way Advice one of the things that I love about the Gulestan and you can see this he's giving advice to all of us but look how beautiful he's giving it to you he's not telling you oh you stupid man who's wrong with you you know if you come to your house you probably get a gun and shoot him look at the people that's not what he's saying he's just teaching us a lesson in a beautiful way so always when you give them advice please do it in a beautiful way so he says that in front of you they don't die for you they don't over exaggerate but behind you they don't see your eyes that's the real the people of purity and if you have friends like that you should do two units of shukr prayer that Allah has blessed you is like that okay so he has a poem but we will go to the next one because I just looked at the time we only have like 20 minutes okay so we'll do one more this is again a khlaka that we've shown khikhaia number 13 so this is the story number 13 second chapter of the of the Gulestan translated obviously in English and other languages people want to follow it in the translation so he says So he says So And That I saw this again really comes here I saw a I saw I saw I saw near a river and and another word he had this ونحن في هذا المنطقة أنه كان مستقبلياً ونحن لم يكن يحرق ونحن لم يكن يحرق لا matter how much medicine he would take لا matter how many doctors would come and he wouldn't get healed لا matter how much medicine he would help him لا matter how long he was in pain, suffering, depression and sadness رانج يبدو رانج رانج is when you are down when you are in pain and suffering when you are down and the sickness can bring you down and make you depressed and this is one of the reasons why the hospitals they all have that nice light blue color انهم were painted because they mixed me happy so people go there are sick people so at least there's symbolism of happiness and now one of my friend my cousin beloved cousin of Manhada surgery kidney surgery he donated his kidney and we went to visit him at Stanford Hospital and I went to his room walked in I saw it it was like a five storey resort and amazing view giant window this beautiful huge I said wow this is amazing was an all my I told the doctor I'm ready to go today like I feel good but I really don't wanna leave this room cuz it's really nice so the Nurse came in and I said is it because you want them to absolutely wanted this will make me feel happy and better and the colors and the window and it's all purposely built so they can get him faster so so this man is basically he's he's down with لأنه لن يجب أن يكون هناك حسابة وحسابة ولكن ساعد يقول وشكر خداي عز وجال على الدواء من قفتي ولكنه في حالة غرارة يقول شكر يا الله شكر يا الله فهي يفعل شكر الله سبحانه وتعالى لا توقف يقول شكر الحمد لله شكر الحمد لله فرسي دن داش لذلك يساعد كشكر چميبي لماذا يقوم بشكر غرارة؟ ماذا يقوم بشكر فور؟ هناك لديك حسابة وحسابة لن يكون هناك حسابة لا يقوم بشكر ويقوم بشكر ولماذا يقوم بشكر؟ يقوم بشكر شكر أنك بمسيباتي غرفتورا نبما قصية لذا نرى أن يقوم بشكر مصيبة ومعصية يقوم بشكر مصيباتي ولماذا؟ كنت أحدث عن هذا قبل أي حسابة مصيبة يقوم بشكر مصيباتي ليست أوليون فهي يقول أن أنا أردت بخير لأن أنا أفلكت بشكر مصيبة بشكر مصيبات من الله ليست بشكر مصيبات بشكر مصيبات بشكر مصيبات من قبل بشكر مصيبات ومعصية ومعصية ومخلصة ومعصية ومعصية وهذا هو الموضوع أن يقوم بشكر مصيب وكنت في المنزل ومعصية ومعصية if you are better you might be in nightclub dancing if you are better you might be drinking if you are better you might be for neck inning if you are better you might be stealing so Allah's wisdom we don't know so He saying Alhamdulillah that I'm sick but I'm not instead of sinfulness and disobedience to my Lord جرمار أزار بكشتم دهدان يار عزيز تانقوي كدران دم غمي جانا ما شد إذا my beloved right is killing me in a worst way right because there is multiple way of of killing like the poet said you know there is a thousand ways to get to get killed but death is one right you die but that there are a thousand ways of getting killed there is a Afghan joke I'm sure you will enjoy this but you can only make fun of your own culture if somebody else doesn't you get offended but you can do it out of your own so they say there's three Afghanis who are who committed crime and they said you're all all three of you need to be killed so they stood them in line and they said you have three choices so the first choice is is the sword and we chop you and hit you until you die oh man that's bad the second one is the gun and the bullet one bullet and then you're done the third one is the Gutan you know you just you put your head you drop it it's the fastest and then you're done for the one man said you man just do the fastest you know I don't want to get torture and get it done so they put his head down and they released the Gutan it came right before his head it blocked it stopped and the man said oh man he must be innocent let him go so he got jam so they let him go he's happy he's dancing he's going to the second one I said what do you want I said man I want the Gutan too you know he's he's hoping you know he gets jammed again so they put his head down he comes right before his head it gets jammed and it stops and then he said oh he must be innocent let him go to the third one I said what do you want he said obviously the Gutan is not working properly so get the gun please so there are many ways to get killed but all of them was the one so he says if I'm getting killed by the beloved I die with a lot of even with torture or whatever way it is right I don't want you to think for a moment that you know because if you're being killed if you're being tortured and killed it's you know you it's painful right and people cry and it's it's human nature like nobody's made out of steel or rocks so people cry so if you are if you see if you see me crying if you see me in the state of just ads he said I don't want you to think that oh I'm worried about my my my my life but I'm oh I have pain so that's not what I'm crying for that's not that's not why don't the the the don't let the form the that you see dilute you that's not it because when you're getting killed obviously someone is going to cry obviously someone is going to be in a state of just shouting or whatever he said I'm not crying because I'm being tortured or because there's pain on my body no no no غوية مزبن دي مسكين شي غونا صادر شو I'm saying what wrong did I do what wrong what sin did I commit كدورو كو تلعزور ده شو دهز من خامعون خامعون أم باشا what wrong what sin did I commit that my beloved is upset at me and he put me through this that is what I'm worried about I'm not worried about oh I'm going to be in pain I'm going to but what sin did I do that Allah is sending this calamity on me right that Allah has upset at me that's what I'm worried about and this is the foundation or teaching of Sa'adi we're living in a time that is the exact opposite of what you just read whenever something happens what's wrong with other people why is he doing this why in Sa'adi in the entire Gholasana there's so many lessons in here as a matter of fact I was reading another this chapter last night again and in this chapter he has beautiful advice that you know when calamities come everybody thinks about what did I do why is Allah sending to me what wrong have I done how could I rectify myself how could I fix myself this is the the the vision now the easiest way is to point finger at other people but like they say whenever you point finger at other people three fingers you're pointing at yourself one at the other because really it is our fault everything that happens we plant the seed every actions of ours has a metaphysical reality you can't have you know if you if you know whether the best commencement speech is ever given and within the western culture not the Muslim culture that I've seen there might be better ones but that thing is John Foster Wallace and it's on YouTube and everyone should watch that every Muslim should watch that it's called this is water and in that he talks about he gives all these stories about he said you know you're driving down the freeway and then here's this guy what is this you're lady with a huge SUV that you know a 12 cylinder that drives by you and you're in your you know you know in your car trying to save gas and save the planet you know and he said like what's wrong with this guy and then you see this guy just cutting you and then going like a crazy madman right and you almost had an accident and just like what's wrong with this person and then you're going to the grocery store and then there's this overweight person in front of you with with hundreds of stuff on her shopping so that when is that going to be over I'm standing in line and and so all of these incidents he talks about like and then at the end he says what if you know what if that lady in a large SUV had a car accident when she was young and she feels insecure in a small car and she has to drive a big car otherwise she can't drive just out of fear what if the man who was driving he has his child in the hospital and she's just called that he's and he's about to die so he is just trying to get to the hospital to get blood or something so he's telling all these in that basically the whole talk is from our perspective is about what's not done to have good opinion of people like when when something's you know when things happen you make an excuse the professor said make 70 excuses for people right and that 70 doesn't mean you know one through 70 that means just keep making excuses for people like we live in age that nobody wants to make make an excuse if you do one wrong many of the divorces in our community and unfortunately it's on the rise in many of the divorces in our community everyone that that I was involved to to mediate has been over stupid stuff and I tell you something sometime I was really hard holding myself from laughter like literally when they were saying this is what this is what I'm like really like we all should have been divorced day three of our wedding like literally if you go by that concept of oh you know like people have to be patient you know you just have to have a person of that like not everything that everybody says they mean it and one of my favorite thing is you know in in the in the in the Persian literature is about the the cursing of a mother because the mother they they they curse their children like they literally say may you die I got a mother would say that which they get upset may you die you know may you may you go to hell like they say these stuff to their children and until you don't become a parent you don't know like there's no way I can explain to you the love of a father to a child there's no until you're your father you know those you know know those we don't know don't know right children would never know what does it mean to be a father what like how much their father loves them and how much their mother loves them they would never know this until they become a father themselves and then it's too late because now their love has gone to their children that they can't give that level of love to their parents because everything within human being is limited there's nothing unlimited and and even the breath are limited your certain breath you inhale and exhale once it's done you you're gone say say say goodbye to your life the last breath you inhale you can't exhale because it's done it's a chest with with with the number of breath that Allah allocated for each and every one of us some of them has only one they they are bored they inhale they can't exhale and they're done some has thousands and whatever number of breath it is allocated so everything is is love is like that too so people you know that's why like when people give all these love to the material things where do you have the love for our law in this messenger in your children in your spouses in your parents in your family in the community so that's the thing that you know like a lot of these these things they fall apart is because we always we don't give an excuse to our spouses to our children like sometimes children say stupid stuff and then we try to you know quote more so that right like literally I remember when I was young I said a lot of stupid stuff I still do sometime I actually had a come I'm one of a good friend of mine I've been helping him out coaching him for a few years and he's beautiful man convert very very smart super duper smart and so he said we were just talking just before the class I that's one of the reason I was late I think I didn't look at my watch and he said that I say stupid stuff so and I'm turning at this age so and I said you know of the of the of the of the of the of the of the of the of the of the of the should I be should I be should I be he said even if you're even if you're the most intelligent human being on this planet know that madness is like a shadow walking with you you can you can say something you will stupid even if you're and how many you have you have seen these I said I said stupid stuff that people like you know like everybody like I don't want to mention I'm even in the West West culture that people that like how could this man were like for PhDs say something so like all these people who are you know the thing they know religion and look at their their their view on the this is stupid something something really like you didn't read anything about Islam where did you read ماذا تعلم؟ وكي تعتقد أنك مجموعة على سنة ونحن نفس الأشياء بالمجانيرين ولكن الأشياء هو في مجموعة الناس يقولون بشكل كبير ولكن أحد الأشياء أنت لا تريد أن تقوم بشكل كبير مع كل شيء that slips out of your tongue أنت تؤكد as you didn't hear it هذا هو أفضل يقولون بشكل كبير أو they just want it ولكن إذا كنت تفعل ذلك أنت تكون أفضل أو five minutes حمد لله أنك لم تفعله أنت تقوم بشكل كبير وكذلك تقوم بشكل كبير إذا كنت تردت أن تفعل ذلك وكذلك لذا هذه المجانات ليس مجددا لأن once that door opened ونحن لا يوجد أهل ونحن أبو وصدر أو أمو وصدر هذا هو مجان لذا يجب أن تقوم بشكل كبير ولكن تتفعلهم بشكل كبير ومشكل كبير ومشكل كبير إذا لم تفعيل لا يعمل في المنزل ونحن في وصدر ونحن في وصدر أعتقد أني أخبرت كل شيء في هنا هل كل شيء في هذا المجان أخبرت؟ أكثر شكرا لكم شكرا لكم ورحمة الله ورحمة الله for all the brothers and everyone who is watching this and Allah bless all of you and this is the work of the great Saadi Shirazi اهل سنة والجماعة سنة and scholar from Persia from Iran and he immense love for Allah the Prophet SAW the Khulafa and if you read the Bostan and just the first poem of the Bostan it will tell you how much love he had for Allah, for his messenger and for the Sahabah in a sense and with the greatest poem ever written about the Prophet SAW there is a lot of poems like the Burda and Imam Buseri the most amazing poem but when I'm talking about a poem I'm talking about the shortest poem about the Prophet SAW ever written and with the highest meaning that everyone in the Arab world in the Ajjam work memorized it and it was when I went to Turkey it used to be hanged in the blue mosque in four corners because it's four little lines in the direction on a huge on a huge frame very beautifully but now they're being renovated as people know in the top coffee so insha'Allah hopefully when it's done they will put those back in there so he says about the Prophet SAW in the shortest most sang phrase of the Prophet SAW who he is he and his family and that in nature is the entire Shama'a al-Akhlaq of the Prophet SAW that everything about him is at the level of perfection his kamal his jamal and his Akhlaq all of them are beautiful and perfect he was the most perfect human being physically that Allah created and we know that he was more beautiful he was more beautiful than Yusuf and اقبال said you know look at the beauty of Yusuf وَحَكَتِتِيْ أُغْلِيَا خُتْشَانْ كَدْجَيَا يَهَا أُغْلِيْكُ دَيْكَر he said when they saw the beauty of Yusuf SAW the woman started to cut their fingers right they give the orange they start cutting their fingers he said my beloved the Prophet SAW is so beautiful that when the moon saw his finger it cut in half شق القمر the splitting of the moon when the Prophet SAW his finger was pointed to the moon مولانا روم he said this moon is one of the lovers of the Prophet SAW he is only one he said there are countless number of lovers of the Prophet SAW like the moon he said دار دلمان دار نقار he said if you look at my heart is the splitting of the moon at every moment is the splitting of the moon at every moment I'm going through that moon when one time I'm going through it at every breath right this is the way of our people these people are lovers of Allah and these are the books that they left in order to increase that love and also to live an ethical life a life based on أخلاق a life of rectifying our wrongs being good to ourselves because our bodies are right over us and being good to other people and seeing the beauty in Allah's creation and seeing beauty in everybody else and not seeing عيب and deficiency and as he said in one of the stories he said I don't see the عيب in him and I don't see the غيب I don't know the unseen so what I see outwardly I don't judge people by saying Oh I think he has bad intention how do you know he has bad intention Allah knows the intention so don't look at people with the eye of deficiency look at people with the eye of beauty and say that which is beautiful or keep in silence and practice these these teachings because if you don't practice it we have done it and the work that he has done and left behind so maybe we can take each one of us one thing from this and that would be not to talk behind our friends and not to excessively praise them in front to be to be just beautiful people because extreme is from shaitan and balance is from what Allah loves in the Prophet ﷺ everything about the Prophet ﷺ was balance and we have made you is the middle umma and Allah has put this verse in the middle of surat al-Baqara literally is in the middle of surat al-Baqara so there is miracles in this verse all of the verses are miracles but just being a person of balance now go to the extreme in this side and that side the same way Aristotle said that all of the virtues is that which is in the middle so you can be a person of bravery but if you become too far to the right you become reckless if you go too far to the left you become a coward but that in the middle is right in the middle is that which is balance and may Allah make his people of balance Insha'Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم صلى الله عليه وسلم صلى الله عليه وسلم صلى الله عليه وسلم صلى الله عليه وسلم صلى الله عليه وسلم شكرا جزاك الله خير شكرا جزاك الله خير