 Hey guys, it's David here and in this video. It's a little bit of a more advanced video, but I want you to stay with me just for a few minutes because this is Such an important concept that It's actually based on a question someone sent me Ask you if you're watching this is based on your question and it's based about her question was around Compassion real compassion because I talk in my videos about how to get in touch with more of a Compassionate mindset for yourself and that goes For no matter what you're trying to do in life. If it's just compassion you're interested in there is a compassionate voice You can get in touch with but if it's to be more productive or to have a goal or whatever Compassion is your best weapon for that. It's your best tool compassion and weapon. That's probably doesn't make a lot of sense But it's a useful tool compassion works But here's the thing. Here's the kind of more advanced thing. I want you to stay with me on we have two Mindsets that we can be in one of them is unhelpful It's very negative very critical and the other one is useful. It helps. It's compassionate Night and day you can only be in one of the two It's really that simple now the thing is A lot of the time we find ourselves in this one, which is the critical voice We focus a lot of our time here This is what we hear throughout our day often and we have all the negative feelings that come from Giving our allegiance to this kind of mindset Okay, and that can be due to many different factors mainly it's down to our past and our conditioning that we're taught to kind of Buy into this and eventually we can drop it, right? But why is it so hard to drop? Why are we here so often and not in this compassionate mind? Well, the problem is fake compassion It is such a key A key to unlocking all of this right Who in the right mind would actually pick this over this Okay, it doesn't make sense that you would consciously go on. Yep. I'm going to pick negative emotions for myself today It's gonna be great. I'm gonna have a horrible day and my feelings are gonna be all over the place Nobody would do that Given the clear choice everyone would pick this for themselves compassion We're beginning to see here. I think that because it's not such a clear choice That's why we pick this and it's because this Mentality whatever you want to call it with this mindset realizes that you're not stupid It has to sound nice some of the time in order for you to to Believe in it to think it's useful to think it will work so How does it do that? Well, sometimes it uses kind of things that are appealing to us One of the main things it does is it has you chasing a nice sounding persona in other words It's telling you that you're going to become a better person someday in the future This is what this will tell you All the while it reinforce in the fact that no, well, you're not that now Compassion on the other hand looks very different compassion is look Right now you are enough Your starting point is self-acceptance right now exactly the way you are. That's good enough for right now Very different to this which is always critical of the now and it's holding out like a carrot for you to someday become this good thing and That's sort of why it sounds appealing sometimes like it's helpful to us like it's encouraging us Now this on the other hand, this is the thing. I want you to realize when when when The negative voice is promising you do these things. It will never get you there Everything every real change in your life starts off with accepting where I am right now. That's enough Now who I'm going to be next month. That's a different question But I know where I start is enough. I am good enough. I'm going to accept myself exactly as I am I'm not going to criticize myself right now. I'm just going to accept it fully and embrace it My situation in life my feelings my personality anything it comes from Radical self-acceptance. That's what true compassion is. That's the difference So I don't know this is it's kind of like it explains why we do feel attached to the negative so often We think it holds some promise for us when really it's leading us down a Dead end and it will never bring us to that place of someday will be this perfect person Nobody's interested in perfect over here What we should be interested in is authentic real and it just happens that that's more loving to and compassionate so What we need to start doing is look I'm going to drop this this notion of chasing this persona chasing this thing in life That I think other people will admire about me Who am I trying to impress you know and fully enough? It's that chasing that persona that because of that it leads to all those negative feelings Compassion is a way to just embrace all feelings. It doesn't matter what they are But there's no criticism involved in it when you start to realize this a lot of things become very clear a lot of past attempts to change And why they didn't work might become clear when you realize actually I don't think I was that compassionate to myself that last time that was kind of a fake compassion. I was using So that's They're compassion Let's try and move away from the fake compassion into more radical self-acceptance. I'm gonna leave it there Thanks again for watching guys, and I'll see you in the next video