 Like what is actually scary about that? Today we're gonna talk about how to stop focusing on your fear so that you can actually start getting stuff done and move into the direction that you want. And I've got a really great story around this. So this past weekend I was at an event that I am a mastermind that I'm a part of. And there's about 80 of us in this mastermind. And the speaker who was on stage was Mike Tyson this weekend. And it was cool to see Mike Tyson talk because one of the questions that was asked of him is somebody said, hey, Mike, when you were about to go into the ring and fight some of these people, we're talking about, Mike Tyson fought some of the most dangerous people alive. And the guy said, hey, you know, you fought some of the most dangerous people that have ever existed. Did you ever feel fear when you were about to walk into the ring? Mike Tyson was super honest. And he said, I am literally a terrified person, like my entire life. I'm afraid all the time. And he said, when I would find out, before I would find out who I was about to fight, I'd be terrified of who that could possibly be. As soon as I'd find out who the person was that I was fighting, I would be terrified to fight that person. For the six months up until the point where I stepped in the ring and I was training every day, every night, every day, every night, the whole time I was training, I was terrified just thinking about this person and what we were gonna do in the ring. Almost every night I had trouble sleeping because I was so afraid of this person who I was going to step in the ring with. I was terrified the night of the fight. I was terrified walking in to the ring. And the only time that I wasn't terrified is as soon as the guy said, okay, fight. And at that point in time, I just kind of went on to autopilot. And it was cool to see because what he said was super important. He said, I felt fear all the time. But the one thing that I didn't do was doubt myself. Let me say that again. But I felt fear all of the time. But the one thing that I didn't do was doubt myself. And the reason why I didn't doubt myself was because I know that there are very few people in this world who put more action into becoming the greatest they could possibly be than myself. My level of preparation was beyond what other people would put into it. And you start to think about that and you realize this is a guy whose job was to go in and fight and try to knock people out while they were trying to knock him out. He felt fear his entire career. And then you think about the fact that we feel fear all the time. And we think that there's something wrong with that. We think that that fear is bad. And then because of the fear, we don't do what it is that we're supposed to do. And it holds us back from taking the action that we need to, but it also holds us back from, if we don't take the action, it holds us back from not having the life that we truly deserve. But he was overprepared. The thing that was great about it is he didn't doubt himself because of the fact that he took so much action. Another thing that reminds me of, I remember hearing a story that I heard from Jeff Hoffman, who is the founder of PriceLine.com. About five years ago, I interviewed him. And he was talking about how he was really good friends with Evander Holyfield, who just so happened to get his ear bitten off by Mike Tyson. But he was friends with him and he remembers he was going through this workout. Then the workout had 300 sets. And it was this crazy, intense workout that like no human could do. He had 300 sets of this workout. And he was sitting there counting them for Evander Holyfield as he was almost done. And he finished one of the last sets and he said, hey, Evander Holyfield comes up to me and goes, hey, was that 300 or was that 299? Jeff Hoffman goes, oh, I think it was 300. And he looks at him and he goes, was it 300 or was it 299? And he said, man, I think it was 300. And he looked at him in the face and he said, listen to me, was it 300 or was it 299? And he goes, I don't know Evander, what does it really matter? I think it was 300. And he said, what is it? And he said, he got really looked him dead in the eyes and terrified him. And he goes, the difference between 299 and 300 is the difference between everybody else in the world and the heavyweight champion of the world. That's the difference between 299 and 300. And then he went and did an entire other set. And Jeff Hoffman said at that point, he finally understood what made him great because they put in so much action that they don't doubt themselves. Another example of this, which is another fighter, there's so many different fighters that I have these great stories on that reminds me of, is I have a podcast episode coming out in the next few months with George St. Pierre, who's considered one of the top five UFC fighters. George St. Pierre is one of like the sweetest, most humble, kindest guys. It was amazing to talk to him, he's just so humble. And he hates fighting. He doesn't like fighting, but he happens to be one of the best fighters that has ever lived. He just happened to be really good at it. And it was something that could make him a lot of money and get him out of the place that he was in. He just saw it as a way to make money. And he said he hated fighting, terrified him all of the time. He was so scared of fighting all the time. But the thing that he wasn't scared of was the fact that he had put so much work into himself and he had such great abilities because of all of the work that he put into himself. And he didn't doubt himself. And when he said, his lack of doubt came from over-preparation. His lack of doubt came from over-preparation. And he said that he would be terrified as soon as he found out who he was fighting, the whole time for the two, three, four, five months that he was in training camp, he would be terrified for the entire time that he's sitting out there and thinking about and trying to fall asleep and going to dinner. He said like in dinner, in the middle of dinner, he'd be thinking about fighting and thinking about fighting. He'd have to, he was just terrified the entire time. And he was terrified up until the one point where it was about to be his time to fight. He would go to the mirror. He would look at himself in the mirror and he would say to himself, you're better than this guy. You're the best fighter that's out there. You're better than this guy. You're the best fighter that's out there. And he would talk to himself in the mirror and what made his fear disappear was him building himself up and talking about how amazing he was. And he said that he would then put on a mask he imagined where his name is George St. Pierre. After talking to himself, he would call himself GSP. It was like his alter ego. He would pretend that he was somebody. He would pretend that he was this killer, this guy who was not afraid of anything, who had no doubt, who had no fear, none of those things. And so he literally would step into being a different person and he would be that person the entire rest of the night. That's when he said he would go on autopilot because he was so overprepared. His body knew better than his mind for what to do in all of these fights. So why do we say this? I bring up three of the greatest fighters who have ever existed. And the beautiful thing about them is that their fear is not like our fear. Like if you have the fear of public speaking, what's the worst that could happen? I mean, you might mess up. You might screw up a few lines. I mean, if you're really terrified, maybe pee on yourself, like that would be the worst than it could, you could pass out, I guess. Like the fact that the chance of that happening is not really gonna happen, but what's gonna happen? You could stumble on a few lines, you could mess up. Some people could see it and see you screw up. But no one's gonna punch you in the face and possibly knock you out in the middle of thousands of other people and millions of people online. So if these guys had as much fear as they did and they still took action, are you really going to let other people's opinions of you, what other people think of you, of what could possibly happen about your parents judging you because you wanna switch careers and you don't wanna be an electrical engineer anymore and you wanna decide to be a painter? Our fear, if you really think about the fears that are holding you back from everything that you want in this world. Like if I ask you, what is your number one fear that's holding you back? And I don't mean like spiders or heights. I mean like, what is your fear that's holding you back from doing what is what you want? It's not really that big of a deal. And when you look at it that way, it's like, oh yeah, I'm really just afraid of what other people might say about me. Am I gonna die if other people say things about me? No, if my parents don't approve of the degree that I get, am I going to die? No. And you look at all these things, you're like none of these things that I actually fear around are scary. I'm making them to be these massive, scary things. I'm making mountains out of molehills. It's like they're not a big deal, but we make them to be so big in our mind. These guys are literally going into a place of potential death and they're still taking action to get themselves there. You're not going into a place of potential death. You're possibly, you know, if we talk to go back to public speaking, what are you doing? You're getting on a stage and talking in front of people. There shouldn't be that much fear if you really break it down to its simplest forms. To its simplest forms, here's what's happening. Your physical body is going onto a platform that's a little bit above other people. Maybe those people are standing up, maybe they're sitting down, maybe they're taking notes, but your physical body is raised a little bit higher than other people's physical body. You're going to stand in front of them and you're going to create sounds from your face for 20, 30 minutes and then you're going to be done. At its simplest form, that is all that you're doing. What is actually scary about that? You're on a platform, physical body, people are lower than you and they might be sitting down and you're going to make sounds from your face. Is that really terrifying? It's not. And when you break it down, it's almost comical the things that we're quote unquote afraid of, the things that we have fear over. So when you think about this, how do I make it easier on myself if public speaking is the example that I want to get? The two biggest fears in the world, number one is public speaking, number two is death. Jerry Seinfeld has a joker on that says people would rather be inside of the box than giving the eulogy at a funeral. When you think about it that way, what can I do to make sure that there's less fear but absolutely no doubt in my mind when I'm going to go out there? The best way for you to be, if public speaking is the thing that we're going off of, the best way for you to be the best public speaking of the best presentation is to be overprepared for every single thing. For you to know your subject, the best that you possibly can. And so what I'm gonna do is I'm going to overprepare in every single aspect of what it is that I could possibly do so that I might still feel the fear and you probably will still feel the fear. You will still feel it but it doesn't matter because I'm not doubting myself. I'm so overprepared, I'm so ready to go into it and I know what it is that I'm going to do that the fear is there but it doesn't really matter. And one of the things that Mike Tyson said was amazing is that fear is just a natural human emotion. That's it. You're gonna feel fear the same way that you feel tired sometimes, the same way that you feel excited sometimes, the same way that you feel happy, the same way that you feel sad. But when you're happy about something, you don't go, oh my God, I'm happy, I can't jump onto this stage and do public speaking. No, it's just a natural human emotion. What he said is that the beautiful thing about fear is it allows us the strength to build up courage because you can't have any courage unless there's some sort of fear in front of you. If I were to walk up to any person and say, hey, would you like to be seen as a person with courage? Would you like to be seen as somebody who is courageous to other people? Everyone would be like, absolutely, because courage is a beautiful emotion, it's a beautiful trait to have. You can't have courage in the absence of fear. Courage can only be built when you have fear that's around you. So you have to think of that, same way that you can't grow your muscles unless you go in and lift heavier weights. You can't have courage and be more courageous and more courageous unless you are in the presence of fear often that you're working through all of the time. So if you want to be a courageous person, you have to think to yourself, I've got to see fear. I've got to feel fear. There's always going to be a fear present. I feel fear all of the time. Every successful person that you could go out and see and Elon Musk and all of the most successful people in the world, you go to them and say, hey, do you feel fear sometimes? They're all going to say yes. The difference is the feeling of fear does not stop them from taking the action that they need to in order to get their goals. So next time you feel fear, realize what that's showing you is it's showing you the edge of your comfort zone. You don't feel fear in your comfort zone, but when you're starting to step out of your comfort zone, like public speaking, the example that we're giving, when you start to step out of your comfort zone, you're going to feel fear. Doing something new is scary to the brain because the brain only cares about your safety. So it doesn't know that when you walk onto stage that you're going to be safe and you're not going to die because we're tribal people. The brightest lights gets the most arrows. So you have to realize that, oh my gosh, standing in front of people, it leaves me up in front of people to possibly be attacked. We're not going to be attacked when we're in front of people speaking in front of your team meeting in front of 14 other people. You're not going to be attacked, but you have to realize that fear is just this natural emotion that you need to learn to dance with. You don't need to get rid of fear and in fact, you'll never get rid of fear. So just get used to it. You need to learn to dance with your fear and go, okay, what am I feeling? I'm feeling fear. That's okay. There's nothing wrong with the feeling of fear. So what am I feeling fear around? I'm feeling the fear around this. Okay, is that fear stopping me from still taking action that I need to take? No, it's not at all. Okay, so can I still take the action? Yes. All right, Rob, go ahead and take the action. And that's how you get what it is that you want in life is to notice that fear is omnipresent. It's going to be more present than most other emotions if you're trying to create the life that you want. If you're trying to step out of your comfort zone, if you're trying to do things you've never done, fear should be omnipresent, but it doesn't mean that because fear is there, you're not going to be able to work through it. The same way that Evander Holyfield, the same way that GSP, the same way that Mike Tyson all felt fear, the beautiful thing about it, and the thing that made them some of the greatest in the world is that when they felt fear, they did it anyways. They never doubted themself, they over-prepared, and in that state, they were able to build more courage than anybody else around them. So feel the fear and do it anyways. Hey, thanks so much for watching this video. If you want to learn even more about Master Your Mind, click right here and watch this video as well. So I'm going to take a guess that I probably know 95% of you, what your fear is. How many of those can kill you? The answer is zero. We're actually born with only two fears, the fear of fear and the fear of fear.