 Here's what the game. I'm sure everyone's with the game, right? Pretty much everyone in there. He talks about like conscious competence and unconscious competence. I know that's like the holy grail and The thing is when you have when you feel entitled to the girl again, right when you talk to that girl you just feel good about Naturally your tonality is gonna be great. It's gonna be cool So you don't even really need to be conscious of it and the goal is is like as you go out there You do it you get the positive reference points And then because of that you start building those good the good aura the good reference points And then you do feel like yeah, this is gonna go great you hey What's your name? And you're not like use good tonality. It just comes out naturally So that's why I really like it But the thing is like I said the more and more I teach this stuff like year after year It's kind of you realize the same things over and over again And it's like I can't turn it off like I'll be watching TV and I'm like hmm Why do all the broadcasters sound the same and it's like oh because They're trying to be authoritative and have that good tonality and they're not thinking that they're just like my boss had Good tonality or use this sounded this way, right? Especially female like sports anchors, you know, that's how they're like eight on the five o'clock news today Blah blah blah blah it's like what the fuck what else on the same and that's that reason It's that authoritative tone that they want to put out, right? It's funny because they don't have guys they'll take boot camp and they're coming back They'd like I got fired for my job But it's never that extreme but I'm like because I prefaced it at the end of boot camp because they're like Yeah, my boss was like where are the papers and I was like the ride over there Right, so it's funny how like cuz you know and like the in the corporate the corporate world, right? You have like a distinct hierarchy But the thing is is just be conscious of it and realize it and then you can use that to your advantage It works really well You know the one is like bouncer game, right? How are the clubs in London? Are they how to get into I don't go out here Lot are they yeah? No, yeah It's funny because the dude who gets into the club and the dude who doesn't says the exact same thing, right? The dude who doesn't get in he goes to the front. He's like nope. It's like, but my friends aren't here No, I'm just came to have fun. You know, I'm just traveling. I'm I'm from us No, it's gonna be fun. That dude's not getting in right whereas the next I goes he's like hey, sorry Bottles only um no my friends are inside I'm from the US. No, I just came out to have a good night tonight. Oh Sure, right so isn't interesting like how everyone kind of falls into that It's like it really is kind of like you can just Cut your way into kind of any different type of thing and talk to the people But the thing is you don't want to be antagonistic, right with the bouncer you don't want to be like no My friends are inside because it's like they're gonna be like what it's gonna be too far so you keep it below neutral but Yeah, you just don't give your power away, and then you just don't get too antagonistic with it oh Yeah, so yeah two things I was gonna say with that Talk about like calibration, right the thing is this guy's was like well When do I use breaking rapport tonality or commanding tonality? When do I like how should I calibrate? Right a lot of people don't Really talk much about calibration. I I usually do what it is. It's based on Ultimately it comes down to value right so if you're talking to the girl at the very beginning of the interaction I want to convey as much value as possible, so I'm gonna be pretty breaking But the thing is it's not like you're gonna go to the girl at the mall and be like hey What are you doing right? She's like oh like stealing my purse some shit like that, right? But at 2 a.m. On the dance floor the girl who just blew four dudes off. I'm like okay Time to bring the ice. Hey attitude. Hey, look at me when I'm talking to you. What's your name? Hey, come here right and it's gonna be pretty forceful. You say that to the like the fatty She's like oh, where's the cool guy? You know me Right, so that's the other thing is calibrating to like how attractive the girl is usually the more attractive. She is The more I'm gonna kind of go in because I got you got to convey more value