 Oh boy. Alright, so I just uploaded a different Elmills video and then some stuff went down on Twitter involving iNabber and Elmills and there's going to be some topics that we need to discuss about bullying as well as setting boundaries. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health and what I like to do is pull different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and I don't know if you got the memo yet but the long-awaited podcast is finally starting so go subscribe to our new channel Unsolicited Advice. We are premiering it tonight. It will be uploaded on our podcast platforms tomorrow but it's with my buddy Matt. He actually is the one who did my last Elmills video that I uploaded a little bit earlier so go subscribe to that. We are doing the first episode tonight and we're actually going to be diving more into the topic of Elmills mental health, YouTuber burnout and yeah it's gonna get a little crazy alright so make sure you subscribe. So here's a little story about what happened. So when I uploaded the last video after I do that since the YouTube notification system isn't always working for everybody I take advantage of social media. So I use Instagram, Twitter on our discord and our Facebook groups. I love everybody know. So by the way follow me on Instagram and Twitter if you're not yet because that way you know when new videos go up and you get to talk with me and all sorts of stuff. Well anyways I was going on there and I was like am I following Elmills because I was gonna tag her in my tweet about it and because Matt did a phenomenal job with that video like please go check it out it'll be linked up in the info card. So anyways I go to Elmills Twitter and I see this and I'm like okay am I tripping like what's happening like why can't I load Elmills page. So then I go up in the search and I start typing in Elmills and you know how like Twitter will just like start suggesting kind of like Google does and it said Elmills and then the next suggested one was Elmills hate and I'm like what the heck is happening right now. So I start scrolling through trying to figure out what's going on. I started seeing a lot of people saying that Elmills is being bullied then people saying that you know she was bullied off of Twitter and I'm like what's going on. I see some mention of a tattoo and I don't really know what's going on then I see iNabber said something about it so I'm like okay and I keep going I keep going and then I see this tweet right here from iNabber and he basically said this about Elmills tattoo so yeah Elmills got a tattoo in Comic Sans that says tattoo all right. So iNabber tweeted out making a joke but you know a bunch of people on the internet went in on Elmills which led to her deleting her Twitter and I'm gonna save some of my comments and things like that for our podcast tonight but I do want to talk about a few different subjects we're involving bullying and setting boundaries and all that. So Elmills as we all know she's been on this mental health journey since last year and you know she's been doing like this kind of world tour of talking about the importance of mental health and burnout and all of this and I've made comments about this on Elmills as well as many other creators where it's like get therapy. So one of the things that is fascinating to me is Elmills has made videos with Katie Morton and one of her last videos with Katie Morton was about Elmills weight loss journey right awesome weight loss is amazing I actually went to the gym this morning did a couple miles on that treadmill you know what I'm saying listen to my audiobook so I get it physical health very important but what we're seeing and one of the reasons I have this channel to get through to all of you physical health is important yes but we need to focus on our mental health as well because what we're seeing with somebody like Elmills is that it is very apparent that she is putting more time effort and energy into her physical health rather than her mental health okay we need to recognize this there there is a balance that comes along I get a lot of comments and things like that saying like physical health physical health physical health all these other things and it's like yes like working on your mental health does not mean that you shouldn't work on your physical health okay like we are we we have this weird kind of idea that doing this takes away from that and it's not always the thing like when it comes to mental health as a whole or life as a whole balance is the key word balance and everything how much you're working how much you're putting into your mental health how much you work putting into your physical health all these things are balanced so now did I never bully her I don't I don't think so like the thing is we need to recognize that you know people people make jokes people make fun and stuff and like some people can't handle it you know what I mean but if you're very sensitive twitter is not the place to be you know in fact being a youtuber is not the place to be something that I'm learning as my channel begins to grow like I'm gaining even more self-awareness some of you have seen the collaborations I've been doing I'm trying to grow as a person as well and something I was actually just talking to my beautiful girlfriend Tristan about was like I put myself in this position okay and that's something I've talked about over and over and over with other youtubers like we need to take responsibility for the position that we put ourselves in now Elle Mills is younger okay so but we all need to realize that like I told you one of the quotes I remember from a recent book I read was increased levels means increased devils right so like the the more we move up the more stress we're gonna get like a lot of people want the promotion they want to be the business owner they want to you know be their own boss and all that they think it's all easy peasy but with all that comes new stresses so I mentioned this the other day in a video when I was talking about Demi Lovato and it's about expectations right like I'm reading a lot of the things on Twitter like man Twitter is just like this crazy place like I just recently got into Twitter and it is crazy but anyways like we need to look at our our expectations of what Twitter is like I saw a lot of people saying like y'all need to quit bullying y'all need to quit bullying right like do you really think that your tweet is going to just change somebody's whole perception you know what I mean I kind of like look at it like like honking your horn at somebody right like there's some people who are just honk happy but like we need to recognize like do I really need to honk like with this like did my honk just completely change the way this person drives forever or did I just exert some energy that I didn't need to while also annoying all the other drivers around me right so how much is your tweet actually doing doing this right but I always say I preach that it's a lot easier for us to fix us than it is to fix the rest of the world right so we need to look at our expectations like if you ever expect if you ever envision this beautiful day in which nobody on Twitter is going to say something terrible or be a dick you are setting yourself up for failure for some people that is entirely what Twitter was designed for for them to spout off their rude or ignorant opinions that is just what it is okay so lower your expectations of Twitter and social media as a whole people have more anonymity they are more likely to say things that they would never say to somebody's face this is what's going to happen all right and again we're going to dive more into the topic of Elle Mills and this tattoo but briefly I'll touch on it just to give you a sneak peek like Elle Mills getting that tattoo like I wonder what her thought process was or what she expected again going back to expectations what did she expect when she posted that did she think that nothing she wasn't going to get anything but love and support for that tattoo like she kind of did it in my you know I'm guessing in a joking way you know like I don't I don't I don't really know but the next thing and last thing we're going to talk about is boundaries for a long long long long long long time I've been a big believer in don't quit social media all right deal with it it helps strengthen your resiliency and stuff like that but something I'm learning as I begin to grow in the public eye is that we need to set up boundaries and sometimes we need to do things to ourselves like just get off twitter because we don't trust ourselves right like Elle Mills or you even might not be in a place where you can take the crappy people on twitter so you just got to get off of it right so Elle Mills might have made the right decision by doing that you might make the right decision like a lot of people I know who watch my videos you aren't on twitter you aren't on instagram you aren't on facebook right but what we need to think about especially in the world we live in today social media connects us with people that we never would have been able to connect with before you know what I'm saying like we're able to make new friends we're able to have more support like a lot of my dms on twitter are with my support group other creators talking with them about some of the struggles some of the headaches and stuff like that that's where my support group is so Elle Mills is kind of like putting a barrier between herself and the support group I'm sure she has a bunch of their phone numbers but we need to we need to look at this so this is why we should work towards a time where we can be resilient enough to be on these social media platforms like it bums me out that some of you out there watching my videos you are afraid to get on facebook or discord to join our mental health support groups because of the negatives that can come with being on social media and that's driving you away from something that can be really really really really beneficial for your mental health I hope that makes sense so I hope that's something that you start working on okay best option is discord because you can remain anonymous you use like your own little name and stuff like that so it's different than facebook but anyways that's where I'm going to in this video again make sure you subscribe to our new channel myself and matt unsolicited advice brand new podcast where we're going to be talking about youtube we're going to be talking about mental health in youtube as well as addiction we're going to be branching out into news and things like that it will be a much more unfiltered version all right it's not going to be too crazy but it will be more unfiltered we're going to get into some topics that I have stayed away from all right so there's going to be a lot of cool stuff so make sure you go subscribe notification bell on it's every single Tuesday at 4 p.m pacific 7 p.m eastern time all right and then the following day every Wednesday we will be uploading it to streaming platforms like apple podcast and all that stuff all right but anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make 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