 The sisters are taking over. I'm here with the crew. Today we're talking total honesty, tracking your teen, and my least favorite question of all time. What do stay at home moms do? We're talking all of that today. You guys get back to your job. I'll get to mine. Good show coming up for you today. Corey, Roxanne, Flo, Amy. This is a question that I know. Do I have something in my tooth? Oh, no, you're all good. You're all good, you're all good. No, you're all good. Thanks for asking. That is so good. Listen to this. OK, if you're meeting your husband's boss for the first time and your husband is really nervous, because he doesn't want you to do anything crazy, your husband's going to be nervous about us. You want to make a good impression on the boss, right? So you greet the boss, you all smile, and you see green. Stuck in teeth, do you tell? And here's this. You know I would. I mean, I don't even know why that. I'm getting asked the question, but I definitely would, and I also think that you heard the story of the interview where they do the interview and they say, well, would you lie for our company? And then when you say, well, yeah, I would, then they go, you don't get the job. Because if you'll lie for the company, you know what I mean. Then you're proven that you're lying. But it's not a lie that you're not telling him he doesn't have something in his tooth. He didn't ask. It is, though. It is a form of dishonesty, because if you have respect for him, if you have respect, would you have told me, would you let me go through the whole show like this? Come on now. But that's huge. That's not a thing. That's not a thing. That's not a thing. That's not a thing. But have you, I wouldn't. But have you ever been with a friend and one of them, they rub your nose, and then you think something's in your nose, and then you're both rubbing your nose? She was doing something down. You're like, is there something in her nose? The scripture says love covers a multitude of sins. So if we don't talk about people's sins in public, I wouldn't tell them in public. Something green in your tooth isn't a sin. But it's your husband's boss. I would just say, do you have to go to the restroom? Then I would just follow him to the side. How about this, how about let's do a selfie. OK, OK. Professional setting, just pulling to the side and go, whatever his name is, you know, just, just, just, just, just, just hand him a tissue. Little something in your teeth if you want to take care of it. I'll get a little something in my teeth. OK, all right, well come on with me to this question, because this is really for, for Corey. She's going to love this one. 71% of married women with children now work outside the home. 71%. Then the stay at home mom is increasingly becoming an oddity. OK, how do you respond? You're not odd. How do you respond to the comment, if I had to stay home with my kid all day, I'd go crazy, which I guess people say. Or what do you do all day, which I guess people say, is going crazy at home? The right ex used to go to work or fill me in, mom. OK, first of all, the what do you do all day question bothers me so badly. OK, so if I go up and I'm like, oh, hi, Roxanne, what do you do? And she says, I'm an attorney. Do I then go and say, what do you do all day when you're an attorney? Tell me what you did, what did you meet with this morning? What did you do for lunch today? How did you decide what you were going to wear? I don't, you find out what they do and you move on. Same with the stay at home mom. You find out I'm a stay at home mom. You do not need to know what I am doing all day. I am doing plenty of things, accounting, refereeing, coaching, driving, chauffeur, long list of things. But I don't need to detail that for you and not all stay at home moms do the same thing. Domestic engineering. There you go. And my title that I like, I'm the COO, the chief operating officer. That's right. That's right. Make things operate. You know what bothers me is when people say I'm going crazy. Do you want your children to hear you're going crazy? And I think the scripture talks about in Philippians, godliness with contentment is great gain. Be content at home, be content in your job. Learn contentment in whatever circumstance you're in for the season in your life. I think that we're losing sight of the importance of having stay at home moms. I commend you Corey. I think we have gotten so caught up into things and wanting materialistic things to replace things that money can't buy. And I know for me, I was blessed. We were, you know, I never knew what it was to have a babysitter. My mother was able to stay at home and my father made sure of that. And I know that it made a difference in who we turned out to be. And I'm not anti the career woman or anything like that. People would argue with that for sure. Say well, just because you had to stay at home mom doesn't mean that you turned out great. I mean, I just think it's very tough. My mom worked and I had a babysitter growing up and I loved her. We still call her nanny and she just passed away this year and I went and it just felt like family. I didn't feel a big difference. I felt I was as loved there as I was with my mom. It felt like no big deal to me at all. But you know what? I think that you have to do what you have to do. But definitely whoever your mom bought in, I'm sure she took the time to make sure she had somebody there that had the same values that she would have given you had been able to be home. There are times that people can't do that. I was blessed. I was fortunate enough that my mother was able to stay home and there are some times that that's not the case. But it's polarizing. It's a polarizing topic. But to John, you being at a stay at home mom is not. That's incorrect. It's one of the greatest gifts ever is to be a stay at home mom and raise these amazing kids. I kind of get to do both and I get to work. But it's an honor to be with them and to be their mom and to raise them. And it's an honor also to serve the community and work. I remember when I was, I mean, I do work. I've always worked part-time. So I always liked the object or the idea of job sharing. But I remember being in a grocery store. I worked for a grocery store chain and I saw a little child. Oh, how are you doing? And I asked him a question about his math and the woman said to me, how do you know about the children's math? You work and it was so polarizing for me because I said, well, of course I know the children's math. So I just encourage all of us to love one another for what we do. And it doesn't take a village to raise the child. It takes a mom and a dad. I always encourage young moms, I really do, to see if they can make it work. I think there is a desire in a lot of women that are working that they do wanna stay home and mother their children, but they feel trapped. And we were in that situation where we both worked and we just, we had to cut things out. We drive old cars, we have to budget. But God blessed that desire in that working together. And I tell women, you'd be surprised, how much you spend on eating out at lunch, eating out dinners, on your dry cleaning. I wonder what all those things. I really wonder what the people who are watching would think. This would be a great subject for you to send us an email about. But I'm gonna move on to our last question of this segment because it's really good. And as Christians, we know this Jeremiah 29-11. So when people don't get what they pray for, so if your life does not seem hopeful, what do you say? Jeremiah 29-11 says, God has a plan and a hope and a future for you. But what do you say to a friend that doesn't see that happening in their lives? And they'll say to you, what I prayed, and I didn't get the answer, they're widowed at a young age. What do you do for a child that you're praying for and it just goes unanswered? Where is my hope? Disappointment can bring deception. And I think one of the things about. That's a flowism. Yeah, it is. Okay, we have flowisms here on Sister and Sister. It can, disappointment can bring deception and it can make you, God is always answering our prayers to see either yes, no, or wait. And I really believe that one of the things that we have to watch is that we don't suppress things and begin to try to cover things up and find other ways to find comfort other than in the Word of God. And every joint supplies, we need people in the body to help encourage us and you need to be a strength to a person at that time. And I know there have been seasons in my life, Kathy, that I have gone through things and I simply couldn't hold myself up. I needed others to surround me. But what do you say about the hope? We have to remember that that scripture in Jeremiah 29, 11, when I read it more deeply a couple of months ago, the children of Israel were in exile for 70 years. They were in exile and God said, have hope in your exile. And then it also says, seek the Lord with all of your heart. So I think that the key is to seek God, not the goodness of God, but seek God and He will return. Because Jesus said in this world, you will have tribulation, but I have overcome the world. So if we seek Him fervently, we can't, He can build hope. People get battle fatigue and they just don't, they don't have that too. They don't have it to seek and so you kind of, you need one another, sorry. And I think that's important that you come alongside and you mourn with those who mourn. You're not throwing Jeremiah 29, 11. Well, God says you have a hope in the future, so you really shouldn't be feeling that way. That's good. You need to mourn with them and come alongside them. We clap for you, Missy. Good. I just watched Soul Surfer with my kids and Bethany Hamilton is, she's the one that had her arm bitten off by the shark and they asked her if you could go back and not have that done. And she said no, this was part of God's plan. Now she can see that after the fact when it first happened to her, she wanted someone to mourn with her, but she came to the point where she understood that was part of God's plan. Well, pastors, what do you have there? As believers, I think sometimes we think that once we're a Christian, it's all gonna be okay and everything's gonna work out great all the time but that's not the case. It rains on the just and the unjust. And I love what the lady that owns Auntie Ann said, she said, life is hard, God is good, don't mix the two. And so many times we think God is harsh, but sometimes life is just harsh. But you know what? You can overcome and you can win and you can rise up and if we'll stick together like sisters and be with each other, when our hope seems low, that hope is the anchor to the soul, our hope and our base is on Christ. And because we have Christ in us, we can overcome. I think that is a clap. Yeah, I do. Okay, that is why you're the pastor. We're like the beach ball. You can push us down, but we're gonna come right back up. If you are a beach ball in your home and you're watching and you need help, do you see this phone number on the bottom of your screen? 888-665-4483. I mean it, there's people here that will answer the phone and they're gonna help you like Amy did. They're gonna explain what does Jeremiah 2911 really mean for you? God will give you a hope and a future and he has a plan for your life. And I hope your planning to stay right where you are will be back after this. Thanks. Woo! That was a good front segment that really was. So we're gonna move on to something you're, I don't know what you're... I'm not sure how I feel about this, so I'm gonna let you girls go. All right, on Michigan Elementary School sends a notice about field day, Jim, saying, we believe all students are winners. So the competitive urge to win must be kept to a minimum. The school is actually saying that. Are we doing a disservice to our kids? What happened to the competitive spirit of the game? So first of all, what did this Michigan rule? What was it? That's the gist of it. You read it. It was a family field day. They invited parents, teachers, students to have fun. And I think it's separate from sports. It's not a competitive event. I think they're trying to overemphasize. It's not competitive to be politically correct. And there's a time for competition because sports, loss, builds sometimes integrity, values into you, you learn how to cope. And I think one blogger said, there's a place for competition and a place for getting together. Pick one and do it. So this was a place for getting together. This was not saying you can't be competitive in your school teams. Okay, no. And in this situation, I was like, oh, whatever. But there was just recently in Rhode Island, a school that canceled an honors night because it was too exclusive because the students were being honored for getting good grades. And they didn't want them to be honored? No, because it was too exclusive. And I'm thinking, no, exclusive is when you don't have the opportunity to get to honors night. Every one of those students at the beginning of the year had the chance to get to honors night. If they worked hard. No, I'm not saying that some kids don't need extra help. I'm not saying that. Every single one of those kids, they were, none of them were said, told you cannot go to honors night. So that's not exclusivity. And you know what, if you're gonna cancel honors night, what are you gonna do? Have mediocre night? Have everybody night? I mean, it's just everybody night. I agree with you because competition helps build character. It causes you to challenge yourself. It teaches you how well you can function under pressure. And sometimes in life we need to be able to function under pressure. And in second Timothy, when Paul's addressing some issues, one of the things he says, and I'm just gonna paraphrase, is an athlete is not crowned unless he completes, unless he competes according to the rules. And so our children, we, even as adults, we're, you know, we have to learn how to compete. And, you know, you enter into a race when you enter into your walk of the lord. I also said I run so that I can win. That's right. I mean, like we just got done with soccer and every kid gets a trophy. We're just all equals. Well, actually we're not, because my son team won every single game and smoked them all. So I'm thinking, I don't like this average. You know, I mean, we smoked them like 14 to nothing, you know, 15 to two, which, you know, that's my super competitive husband. He's like, this team, you're the greatest team. You're the winners. You're going, I'm like, where are we going today? You know, they're great Olympics. I don't know. But you know, there's, there's that sense of, I really won this. And like you said, you learn from losing as well. You learn from winning and you learn, you might learn more from losing. You do. You need to learn to lose. Well, if the parents didn't get upset. It doesn't make them lose to me. But it's all about the parents, though, Amy. I mean, you're talking about, you know, Pastor Bakken, we go, we go, but I know of a soccer team that was totally stacked. All the great players were on one team and they won 32 to zero. And the other kids were like, no. So see, I think competition is great, but we're talking little kids here. We had the bad news, Barris team, that he took and made them a great team. So that's what was so good to learn. I think you live in it. I don't think you learn by losing. Surely to learn coping skills. Otherwise, they do things when they're older because they can't cope with loss. I don't want to lose. That's good. We were doing the question earlier about Jeremiah. I know the plans I have for you. You've got to have that endurance in you when you hit a spot that, oh, okay, God, what's going on here? You know what I mean? Where's your perseverance at? How do you keep on pressing? Parents have done a size performance, not winning or losing, but performance in the game. Did you do your best? Yeah. Did you try hard? We probably should pause and look that we're all agreeing on this. Yeah. Woo! Oh, there we go. Oh, there we go, there we go, there we go. Yeah, we're all agreed. I have to go. End the show now. Yeah, I don't know if you're gonna agree with the next question because this is again about parenting. This is kind of parenting day. Would you put a GPS tracker on your car so you can watch where your child is going, how fast they're driving, have they gone through any red lights, blah, blah, blah? Oh, yes, absolutely. Why not? No, I really would, yeah. If your kid has a fine that you already have that capability. If I'm paying for the car, paying for the insurance, and paying for the gas, I think, yeah. I'll just tell them this. Wait a minute, we're clapping for that one. I'll tell them this. I'm tracking the car, I'm going with you, so you pick. And stats are the teen deaths are three times higher within that news article, local, that they're three times higher, so why not use wisdom, track them, teach them the skills they need to learn to drive in the car. And I think if they know, if they know, and I'm looking at your daughter, if they know that there is a tracker on your car, you will not go over 35 miles an hour, and you will go exactly where mom says you should go. No, if you look at my mother, she'll say I need a tracker. That's right, that's right. Oh, thank goodness my mother did not. She was speaking, I knew what you were doing. I'm glad my mother did not have a tracker, sorry mom. Okay, I have a question. This is a good one. This is a really good, a good question too. And this is about church shopping. And I think the Christian people in the audience here and at the audience at home will understand this. What do you say to someone that likes to church shop? Now, if you're Catholic, that's your parish. If you're Presbyterian, that's where you go and you pick the pastors, but all of the evangelical, charismatic, non-denominational, they hop. I'm a little confused with what you just said, but anyway. Oh, what else is church shopping? I do understand. Church shopping in terms of you finding the right place, I don't have a problem with that. My issue is when you become like a tumbleweed, not setting roots in a place. He planted, right. You hopped in a store shop. We had friends that they actually were like serial church shoppers and they went to every single church in the, this was another state, every single church in the whole state, the next state over, they couldn't find a church, so they started church in their own home, okay? They left their own church in their own home. Okay, people. Because where you go, there you are. There's a problem. I believe in the church in your own home. C.S. Lewis, that reminds me, C.S. Lewis says in the screwed tape letters, don't be a critic of the church. Be a pupil of the church. It's meant to be discipled by the church. And I also remember the scripture in Psalm 84, David Shepard by the integrity of his heart and his skillful hands. Look for people who have integrity. Look for people who have skill. I don't think it hurts to look for that, but to hop around till you find something perfect, it's not going to happen. It sure is no perfect church. There it is. And if you find one, please don't join it because it won't be perfect. That's right. That's right. And it's not about us. It's not about us. What can I give to the church? I mean, of course you need to find that you have the same beliefs and that the core beliefs are there, but it's not about us. Every time Roxanne says scripture, I get such a feeling of pride that your parents, that you learn that. The scripture is inside you. It just comes out. It just comes out. And I love that about my sisters. I do so much, but here's one more last question for you to give me something. And this is, can a friendship survive total honesty? I mean, total honesty. What is the hardest thing you have ever had to say to a friend and did that friendship survive? It's a tough one. It is. The scripture does say better are the wounds of a friend than the kisses of an enemy. Not that we can't also kiss and be joined with our friend in a beautiful relationship. And I think there are times that we do do that. And I recall back in my first Christian early days and I was so charismatic about being a Christian. You got to do everything right. And I had a friend who was marrying someone that was a non-Christian and had a lifestyle that I thought would hurt her. And I mentioned that to her. And then when she was getting married, I'm like, well, I don't know that I could go to your wedding because you're doing this. And I repented of that later. Did you tell her you were sorry? Yeah, I did. I was very sorry that I was being this super hyper Christian friend. I mean, I think I was telling her the right thing, but maybe for some wrong reasons and the wrong attitude. And I was sorry that I did, but she still loved me despite that. And I regret to this day that I did not go to that wedding. Is she still married? Is she still married? She's still married. Will it be fruitful? And you're right, what's our hard attitude when we deliver it? Am I just wanting to let you know that I know and I got it right? Because you're so smart. I don't know about all that, but anyway. I'm speaking the truth and love, but aren't friendships based on being honest? I mean, otherwise it's a facade. They are. And honestly- I think it's honest, but still go to her wedding. Honestly, right? You know, just support her. Honestly. It's time to go. I really want you to look at the number at the bottom of the screen again. I already gave that number, but it's 888-665-4483 or send us an email. We'll answer you, I promise. And we'll be right back to wrap it up. Give us the word and that's honest. That is honest. Jeremiah 2911, if you would, do you love your Bible? We love our Bible, these God chicks here. For I know the thoughts and the plans that I have for you, says the Lord, my sister. Thoughts and plans for welfare and peace, not for evil, but to give you a hope and a final outcome. God wants to give you a hope and a future and he is good and he is faithful and he loves you and we love you and you're gonna make it. And we're all in this together. Yes, we are. I feel like a song. Yeah. What song are you gonna sing? It's Together. It's a teenage song. Is this an 80s song? I don't know. You wouldn't think I would. I would. I would. What do you say? I'd love to get into this century. Guys, follow us on Facebook, on Twitter, sister to sister TV on Twitter and follow us there. Yes, and you know, at Sister to Sister, since we started this a year ago, give me five, good job everybody. Now we have a half hour show. We're so, so, so happy about that. And we have a saying here and it is scripture. I don't know, what's the number? It's a proverb. It's a proverb. Okay, no, it's a proverb. Okay. But just the scripture. Here's the scoop. As iron sharpens iron, so does the countenance of one man or woman sharpen the other. And what that means is that these sisters make me a better Cathy and you too. See you next time.