 There are certain things that you should never say to a depressed person the problem with you and I is what do we do? We give unsolicited advice We're not experts. We don't know the basics But when we see someone depressed we start to give them advice and we give them the worst I'll share with you some things that you should never say to a depressed person and many of you think that what's wrong These are Islamic values. Yes number one if you Have a conversation with a depressed person. Don't ever tell them to look on the bright side Look on the bright side. He's depressed brother. Look on the bright side if he was able to look on the bright side Do you think he would be depressed? That's just the whole problem. He doesn't see a bright side It's like telling a blind person that look at the Sun boy. He can't see So when you say to someone look on the bright side, you're also judging. What are you doing? You're insinuating them that you're not grateful You're not a grateful person So number one don't say to a depressed person look on the bright side. It makes it a lot worse Even though you might have the best of intentions. It makes it worse number two Be patient and this is very dangerous You know two years ago. I had to bury a 30-year-old Shi'i in one of our communities who died of suicide Why because he was depressed and all of the mu'minine are telling him what be patient be patient Be patient. This is not if someone has cancer. Do you tell them to be patient or do you tell them to go get treatment? When you say to a depressed person be patient, what are you insinuating? What are you implying that you're impatient another judgment number three? Read this dua Have you heard people like this in our community? Someone is clinically depressed Read dua joshin el kabeer not so here. I'll give you the kabeer one, right? Read dua joshin el kabeer Read this read that Now I'm not saying that do I doesn't have an effect. Allah says in the Quran I love you the krilla tata ma innu l-kulun that the remembrance of Allah brings tranquility to the hearts But dua is only part of the solution In the same way that when you are sick do I is only part of the solution you still take medicine you still go to the doctor So don't tell people recite dua if you're depressed and you'll be fine because again There is an implicit judgment in that statement, and that's what that you need to step your game up Recite dua be a little bit more religious. This is very dangerous Number four and this is one of my favorites just snap out of it Snap out of it as if there is a button that you push snap out of it. Okay, there you go. I snapped out This is very insensitive Especially if you have never experienced depression. This is insulting. This is very insensitive just snap out of it and number five There are people who are suffering more than you, you know, someone is depressed He's suffering or she's suffering. They say, oh, why are you why are you depressed? There are people in Yemen that don't have food to eat Well, there are people in Yemen that don't have food to you. That's a tragedy But that does that does does that mean I'm not suffering. There are people who are suffering more than you again implicit judgment Meaning that you're ungrateful It's a judgment on the person's spirituality