 Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm Jonathan as they have Jonathan as he got comment I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today our topic the six ways to know He's in love with you and number six is awesome Really quickly if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button hit the bell So you can be notified of new videos And if anytime during this video the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms Lastly, this is your explicit language warning if f-bombs and a little bit of Expletives isn't your cup of tea then I highly recommend you logging off now and one last bit of information Listen, I'm not a doctor. I'm not a therapist. There's no certification what I do if during this conversation This is purely my Perspective based on 20,000 hours of coaching, but I do not Set myself as being an expert. I'm simply here being being a coach Giving you perspective. All right, let's jump into those six ways to know a man really loves you How to really tell if a guy loves you or He's falling in love with you I should say and I think it's rather important to differentiate the early stages of dating versus a seasoned Relationship and when I think of the early stages of dating I'm thinking about people that spend some regular time together in the beginning phase to get to know one another To move past the initial dating process to actually form a relationship together I'm gonna repeat that to move past the initial dating process to move into a relationship together And why I say moving past the initial dating process is because the initial dating the process is actually Quite riddled with what's known as lust or limerence. Let me repeat that lust or limerence What oftentimes drives two people together is chemistry that drives them together and oftentimes that's Physical chemistry with one another being the lust piece or limerence might simply be infatu well, limerence if you look it up is Extreme infatuation so when you've had guys come on really strong in the beginning You ladies have to ask yourself Was he experiencing lust or was he experiencing limerence because the reality is is it takes about a hundred hours of Face-to-face time to really get to know someone to really get to know each other It takes roughly a minimum of a hundred hours of face-to-face time just to get to stage one of getting to know someone now many of you have Adopted these radical relationships where you're spending all your time on the telephone and you're spent and there's a long distance Involved and you're not physically seeing one another Okay Well, I'm here to say is it's very difficult to build a relationship without that hundred hours of face-to-face time To really actually get to know if this person is even right Right for you Okay, and you have to be careful because that lust or limerence can be incredibly powerful So what I'm about to share with you today is really going past that initial stage of after the first hundred hours To really determine is this person falling in love with you? And I invite you to ask answer these questions for yourself to see if you're actually falling in love with them Because ladies I have to tell you I witnessed this with women over and over and over again You're not actually falling in love with the man You're actually either falling in love with the idea of the man or you've given your power away to a man believing that's love Let me repeat that you're giving your power away to a man believing that's love And I say this to you because I get hundreds of applications for coaching in my inbox every day And by the way, there's a link to a discovery call to see if working with a coach is right for you Not every day but every month I get hundreds of applications and I can tell you when I read these I'm witnessing women who have literally given their power away to a guy and you really don't even have the foundation of a relationship so for those of you you have to recognize that Relationship takes time to build actually love takes time to build this whole narrative of love at first sight is Actually merely what I believe is lust or limerence at first sight. Let me repeat that. It's lust or limerence Okay, it's not true love because you have to ask yourself true love is really being there for your partner When the tough the times are tough. I repeat that that's real love not the Exciting piece. That's that's a part of love is the excitement piece those butterflies in the stomach if you will and Love is much more than that love is being there for them when they're going through tough times love is being there for them I always say if you can if you can be there for them when they're To wipe the vomit from their face because they're going through chemotherapy and they're willing to do the same for you then that's love and Yet many of you many of you confuse Attachment to another human being or giving your power away to another human being as love and my hope is that if I can if I Continually repeat this over and over and over again Maybe some of you will ship from this narrative and you can actually start looking beyond is this man really in love with me Is he demonstrating real love and So speaking as a man because here my channel is understand men now and much of my my Content comes from both my own experiences as well as as I said before 20,000 hours of coaching talking to women habitually about their relationships I kind of piece the two together to come up with the content for you today So I'm really excited to share the content here. It is the six ways a man shows He's falling in luck ways. He's thought to know he's falling in love with you and number six is awesome So I'm gonna put on my trusty glasses because number one now This is really obvious, but I say but I'm trying to eliminate but from my language The first one is rather obvious is that he wants to spend time with you He wants to spend time with you it fascinates me How many of you are in three months six months nine months twelve months three-year relationship? And once you've gotten past that he came on strong and he claimed you during coming on strong and really he didn't by the way Men never claim women. You just simply give your power away to a man So we don't even have to claim you you're just serving up your power to us And then we get to do with it whatever we want because you gave it away for free your power your cut your Self-worth your self-reliance your self-esteem This is why I'm such a big proponent of everybody leaning into self-love And if you're not familiar with my book what the heck is self-love anyway I highly recommend checking it out because it's a book of personal development self-help and spiritual work There's a link below to get my book is That when you're giving your power away, how can you actually know what this guy really loves you? So when a man's time with you is rather vague. It's rather limited. It's sparse That's not a good sign that he's in love with you because when a man Genuinely wants to build a relationship with someone and you see me doing this when I do this I think of roots to a tree roots to a tree the deeper the roots the stronger the relationship I want you think about by the way, most of you are in relationships like this and fall apart very easily This is a strong relationship like an oak. It's strong and so you have to build the roots Now when I say you have to build the roots you have to know what those roots are to know if you're in a healthy happy relationship and I'll be sharing some additional content to give you some some context to know if you're in the right relationship and Here's the thing when a guy is into you. He wants to spend time with you. It's not vague. It's not doubtful He's not pulling away. He's not, you know Being hot and cold when a guy is actually falling in love. He leans into the process Now let me repeat that this is after that first 100 hours or so of face-to-face time and we're getting into the three months six months nine month mark is Is he wanting to spend more time with you or spending less time with you? And let me just tell you something ladies The fact of the matter is these days because sex is relatively easy to obtain from women is You can't use sex as the barometer of it being genuine love and you can't use sex as a barometer That it's a real relationship Even though you might be monogamous with one another and exclusive with one another That's just that's just the first stage of commitment is monogamy and exclusivity. That's it There's without building the roots to deeper trust It's very difficult to know if you're in a solid relationship So one of the indicators is after that initial Excitement phase and comes on strong. Does he want to spend more time with you or is he pulling back and spending less time with you? Many of you women watching this today are probably in relationships with men who came on strong and they're just pulling away And that's a good indication that he's not he's either either he was excited But he's falling out of luster limerence. Let me think about that. He's falling out of luster limerence It's like he's slowly fading away because the luster limerence is no longer there and look it This has nothing to do with holding off for sex Okay, because whether you have sex on the first date third date tent date or three months or waiting till marriage This can always happen at any point in the spectrum after sex Okay, so it doesn't really matter when you have sex What matters most actually is are you doing a pretty good job of pre-qualifying your prospect? Let me repeat that are you doing a pretty good job of pre-qualifying your prospect? That's one of the things I teach in my private coaching when a client works with me We learn how to tell is this the right guy for me Before the penis ever goes inside the vagina at least put the odds in your favor And it's not based on how tall he is or what kind of car he drives or what kind of job He has all those superficial things that we use as filters. I'm talking about the deeper Emotional things to understand if you've ever looked at my relationship iceberg and here's a diagram called the relationship iceberg on top the waterline says Attraction attraction and at the top is the tip of the iceberg is chemistry and below the below the top is the real crux of a relationship which is compatibility which is shared values Blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity and as you start to check off these boxes The water line of attraction goes down and what you're left with Actually when the water goes down completely and it's all based on attraction and compatibility You no longer have an iceberg you have a mountain You know when they say men will move mountains for the women they love well first you have to get to a mountain But you're starting off with an iceberg Okay, and guess what happens when the iceberg starts to melt the water line keeps going up and there's no more attraction left So it starts by recognizing is he investing in the relationship or is he pulling away? That's a good sign Okay, number two. Oh He doesn't act hot or cold. He doesn't act hot or cold. He's he's you know He's consistent with his actions and his words. He's consistent with his actions and words I know many of you are frustrated And there's very good reason to be frustrated because many of you have already given your power away and you're choosing men Who are either not capable of being in relationship or they're not ready to be in relationship? I'm gonna repeat that they're not capable of being in relationship or they're not ready to be in relationship So those men who are hot and cold are definitely is The differences is not that the difference is when he's not acting hot and cold That's a great sign that he's falling in love with you number three He feels safe to be vulnerable with you he feels safe to be vulnerable with you and I want to differentiate vulnerability because many of you think of men who share their problems with you as Being vulnerable and let me just say this vulnerability isn't sharing your problems. That's called dumping Vulnerability is sharing one's insecurities Now you're probably wondering how can I get a guy to be vulnerable with me? This is a great question. I Believe one of the best door openers to vulnerability is actually gratitude my gratitude and I was in relationship with a woman who I did fall in love with and one of the practices we did every time we were to get together and we actually did this before we went to bed together every and we'd state We'd spend each weekend together in a couple times during the week was we would recite five things We were grateful for about one another. I'm gonna repeat that We would recite five things that we were grateful for about one another as our way to end the night and what that did is it kept building trust of of feeling safe with this person when we started with gratitude and I believe gratitude is the door opener to opening someone's heart up to a much greater of Experience because quite frankly a relationship isn't all about the good times A relationship is also being safe enough to share when you're feeling scared and men feel scared just as much as women We're just not allowed to show it because we're told that if we show weakness you will lose Attraction for us and repeat that we've been told that if we show weakness you'll lose attraction for us and by showing sharing our insecurities you'll lose attraction for us Now I'm not here to say That a man who vomits his weaknesses just like a woman who vomits her feelings all the time is a healthy way to approach Relationships either but when someone's feeling a little bit anxious about something you want to be able to go to your partner and say Hey, I'm feeling anxious about something whether it's the man or the woman and true Vulnerability is a sign that a man is falling deeper and deeper in love with you falling in love with you Why is it falling shouldn't it be rising to love instead of falling to love? Maybe I should retitle this six ways a man rises to love instead of falls in love But we're so used to the narrative of falling in love Okay number four. Oh This is what I wrote it says he can honestly say you make him want to be a better man He can honestly say you make him want to be a better man. I know we're thinking of the movie as good as it gets But I can tell you that I was in a relationship with a woman who actually You know through her love kindness and care it actually inspired me to want to be a better man by her Not just being my cheerleader, but also being a little tough on me a little bit Inspired me to want to be a better man We often talk about standards and boundaries as the door opener to To really establish your healthy the the healthy aspects of a relationship So when you apply your standard to the relationship in other words You clearly know what you want. You know what a committed relationship looks like to you and you hold to your boundary It makes us want to be a better man if we're falling in love with you I'm gonna repeat that it makes us want to be the better man if we're falling in love with you Here's the problem is so many of you give your boundaries away because you give your power away so quickly in the relationship And if you're giving your power away, you're setting yourself up for failure And I can tell you with a fair amount of certainty that 80% of you women just hand It's like you might as well hand over your phone. You might as well hand over your computer You might as well hand over your checking account because you're literally giving your checkbook or excuse me checkbook to a man and saying Right as many checks as you want That's literally what so many of you do and this is why I'm such a big proponent of doing the inner work The inner work to actually be prepared for a healthy happy relationship And number five. Oh My god, I love this. He's protective of you He's gonna ask you to text him when you get when you arrive home. He's going to protect you out on the street He's going to be thinking about your physical safety That is a great sign that a man is falling in love with you now This doesn't necessarily mean that he's walking on the outside of the street When you're walking, you know down a street Of the outside of the sidewalk when you're walking down the street or Opening a car door for you. That's not real protection. In other words, he's genuinely thinking about How can I protect my partner back? Let me give you an example of something I was in a relationship with a woman some years back and she had to go to a tough part of town to record Radio show she was on and she called me up and said would you go with me because I don't feel safe And because I was in love with her boom I went right over there. I dropped what I was doing that day just to make sure she was safe That's a great sign that I was in love with her and last but not least number six and this is my favorite Okay, this is my favorite He gives you the look that look that look of wow Wow Wow Now I'm not talking about the first week of dating the second week of dating the third month of dating And I'm not talking about before sex and I'm not even talking about after sex I'm talking about three or four or five months in he just looks at you He just says wow not because you got dressed up or anything It could be Saturday morning You're having coffee together and he just likes the way you look the way your your smile your mouth Curls up a little bit or maybe a hair is out of place It's in those moments that he can just see your inner beauty Okay, my mom and dad were married for 66 years. That's a picture of my mom and dad when they're in their 20s My dad told me I always looked at your mom like when I first met her I always looked at her with a wow and I mean it was so cute I mean here you've got but they're in their 80s this old couple they went to a cruise ship and did one of those newly-wed games and it was like the couples were there that were been married a few months a couple years and then my parents 60 years and I mean it was so cute to witness them together because my dad always looked at my mom with a wow That's certainly when a guy looks at you with a wow even after you've had sex even after you've had one or two fights He can look at you and just say like when Harry met Sally. He says I Love it that you think I love it that it takes you an hour and a half to order a ham sandwich I love it that you think 71 degrees is cold I love it that you're the first person I think of when I wake up in the morning You're the last person I think of when I won't go to bed He looked it with Sally with a wow and that's a great sign He's falling in love with you and this is after the initial lust or limit stage Beyond the when he comes on strong and now you've established a relationship These are six great signs that he's falling in love with you. Is this resonating with you? Please let me know by posting a comment saying this resonates with me if this If you like the content so far hit that like button. I'd really like to know if this content Is and if it's new to you, please let me know as well All right in a few moments. We're gonna take questions But first I have to go get my shoes cuz my feet are cold so everybody hang tight for just a second And now I'm back I don't know what it is. I think aging My circulatory system working and I'm boiling up here because I've got the lights on and it's hot outside So we're gonna take questions in a second Really quickly a question did come in that I want to explore So I want to start with the first question Just as a reminder if you're brand new to my channel the chat live chat is where you can ask questions Post the word question write the word question in caps then post the question that you have for me after that It makes it easier for fun for me to find it in the chat I see Leah as post a question. I'll get to that in a second. Actually, I'll get to that first Really quickly also if you decide to purchase a super sticker or super chat because you're on the live stream right now Just know that those funds go to a scholarship fund I'm creating to help people get personal development work at a discounted price And I'm doing it in the name of my son Connor It's the Connor Asley scholarship and that's my son Connor there That's my son who passed away three years ago and that's my My gift to him and my gift to the world is by collecting making get the money used for a scholarship fund for those who want personal development work So we're gonna take the first question comes from Leah if I pronounced your name, right? Question my avoidant boyfriend 59 years old put us on a break six weeks ago He says he doesn't know what's going on with him, but that he's still in love with me Should I check in occasionally or end it put the brakes on six weeks ago? Should I check in with him or should I end it? So I would by the way, Leah great question. Thank you so much So this is a very common experience for people that have how long were you two together again? It didn't say how long you're being you said he's an avoidant boyfriend This is a very common experience for women that are in relationship because They haven't properly vetted the man to see if he's emotionally mature enough to be in relationship You haven't most likely determined do the two of you genuinely share the same values in relationship And do you truly have blendable lifestyles together member coming back to the relationship iceberg? If you want to create a mountain It's hugely important to make sure that you share the same values you have blendable lifestyles, but more importantly You asked the right questions early on in the dating process folks I got to tell you something. I just finished working with a client this past week She went through my six-week boot camp and she said Jonathan I can't believe how much I learned in such a short period of time to recognize the questions I should be asking and she said to me why didn't they teach me this in school? Why didn't my parents teach me this? Why didn't I learn this before I dated the wrong man? So coming back to your question. He says he wants to take a break. So what does that mean taking a break? That would be my first question. What does that mean? Does that mean that you're both going to be dating you have the opportunity to date other people? Is that what it means? Does it mean that you just need a little time off from the relationship a little separation? But you're not going to be putting yourself out there to date other people My suggestion would be this it's been six weeks. I would reach out to him By the way folks, you can do that leaning back into your feminine energy because men will naturally Claim you and because they're so chivalrous when you've leaned back This is what I think of that Ladies Here's the thing get busy living or get busy dying You know what that quote is from it's one of my favorite quotes You have a choice lean into a conversation with him and ask him. Hey look, it's been six weeks Can we talk about what's really going on because I already you know You've already want to take a break. Are you willing and open to talking about what's coming up for you? Are you willing and open to talk about what's coming up for you? And if you if you're genuinely serious about a relationship with me in any future Then I would prefer that we go to a therapist Maybe to find that comment that safe space where we can talk to one another Because if you're not willing to do that, let me just tell you my vagina is dried up I mean, it's it's like by the way I put a chastity belt on and you ain't by the way The only way you're gonna get back into the vagina is you better put a ring on it Now I don't mean that literally and I don't and I meant that ingest but my point is Let's face it folks We will have sex Before commitment, we will have sex before they're your boyfriend You'll have sex before you even know whether or not this person wants a fully committed relationship So sex is relatively easy to get Part of it is because it's part of the decision-making process too. It's kind of a it's kind of a cluster fuck out there Isn't it? It's kind of ass F half ass backwards But my invitation for you Liam is first decide what the standard of a relationship looks like for you folks If you follow my work, you know The standard for a relationship for me is simple I'm looking for a relationship where we spend three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities Hobbies mutual interest spending time with family and friends traveling together teamwork building skills Which includes our personal and our professional life intimacy, which is both physical and emotional intimacy that leads to either Moving in together or getting married and it means that I'm intentional about co-creating a relationship What are you looking for? I ask women this and by the way, would you be surprised? But a lot of women don't like that. That's not their cup of tea and guess what? I'm done That's my boundary because this is my standard and the opposite kind that by the way a standard is like a coin The flip side is called a boundary. My boundary is you're not my woman But Jonathan you're kind of attractive. I'd like to go out with you But if this is not what you're seeking then why do I want to spend time with you? So my invitation for you is to establish first determine what your standard is and Then establish it with a boundary and a boundary is simply what's okay? And what's not okay, and you're not familiar with the work of Brene Brown. I highly recommend checking out Brene Brown Daring greatly is one great book, but I would highly read up on Brene Brown's work on boundaries She's the queen of boundaries of teaching boundaries and again a boundary is simply what's okay? And what's not okay for me now Leah you might want to check out another book It's called too good to leave and too bad to stay Too good to leave and too bad to stay. This is where you're stuck most likely because you've given your power away to a guy So open up a dialogue listen if you cannot have a conversation with a man You've had sex with and you can't by the way chapter one in my book Speak your truth do it with kindness chapter nine if it's sincere and from the heart You can't say the wrong things to the right person. So listen if you can't have an honest conversation with them Now you're never gonna be able to have an honest conversation, but Jonathan. I love him and he's an avoidant And I don't know what to do. You know what you do know what to do fucking open your mouth and talk to him And at least invite a conversation if he's unwilling Move on because guess what? The days by the way at 59 the days ahead of you are a lot shorter than the days behind you Get busy living or get busy dying. That's my invitation for you. Yeah, I hope I helped with that question. Thank you so much Really quickly. We're gonna take some more questions in a second. I do have a little disclaimer I wanted to share with you a moment ago I'm getting some complaints about the f-bombs and the cursing and I'm getting some complaints that I'm repeating myself So I have a response to those who complain If this is not your cup of tea log off I'm not your channel if f-bombs are not your thing that I'm not your channel. Listen I'm if anything folks, you know, I'm real. I'm not blowing smoke up your ass I'm telling you how fucked up it is because that's the reality of it rather than selling you on some Fantasy relationship of like I said leaning back in your feminine energy because men are just gonna naturally You by the way, the only thing a person can claim is property You can't claim another human being and with respects to repeating myself I do two things I repeat something I say for those just to help them in the process I sometimes repeat what I say, but I also repeat this content because How do you learn how to play a guitar? How do you learn how to play a piano? You have to do repetition over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again That's how life works Personal development self-love is a daily practice of doing the same thing over and over again With additions to it each day the same thing is Investing in yourself sadly more people by the way you brush your teeth the same way every day You put your clothes on the same way you make your hair the same way and you do this daily It's a repetition So my coaching is no different and for those that have a problem with it Please don't comment. I'm not your channel. Go somewhere else Okay But I hope you stay because I really do think I provide good content if I do purchase a super sticker to super chat, please alright By the way, my cup of the day Coffee tastes better when shared. That's my belief Hmm by the way, I saw we did have a couple super stickers and super chats come in. Let's see if I can find them Bear with me because there's a lot of comments here bump bump bump Bear with me. Sorry. It's taking so long. It's just lots of Robin posted a comment So I just want to thank Melissa for the super sticker. Thank you so much Robin purchased made a comment. I Still don't think that I have any chance. I'm just too short and ugly I don't measure to society standards and I can't sorry Robin once again, we've who've been following you on my channel. I want to thank you so much for being vulnerable That took a lot of courage to say that First up, there are a lot of people in the world that are little people So, you know, believe me you can look at the you can look at yourself as being short And if you're a little person, that's great. There are other little people out there with respects to looks I'm here to say there is always one of my friends say there's always a Butt for a car seat or there's always a car seat for a butt I mean it's just an expression But the point is there's always someone out there that wants to get to know you the question is are you putting your best self out there? Let me show you something Robin You've been on art my channel a number of times and I can tell you your mindset is part of the challenge I'm repeat that. I know you believe this but you can listen. There's my mom, okay? My mom and dad my mom after My sister was born my mom well five foot five weighed 120 pounds when she got married by the time I was born She weighed 300 pounds 300 pounds Now one thing that was fascinating about my mother Is she could walk into a room and she literally thought she was the most beautiful woman in the room She had such self confidence self reliance self esteem about herself And my I once asked my father my by the way my dad George Clooney handsome By the way Sean Connery handsome to this day my father is like at 96 years old. He's he's like a looker He's got these amazing green hazel yellow eyes And i'm like dad. Why didn't you cheat on mom? He said two things she walks into room with confidence And because of that I always see her like when I first met her So you have a choice You can hold on to the narrative Short and ugly or you can shift the narrative. I'm the most beautiful woman in the room Not from a place of arrogance But from a place of inner strength and this is why I highly recommend reading my book what the heck is self love Anyway, I know you have it start embodying it and start changing the narrative So you can feed the wolf of saying what's wrong or you can start of feeding the wolf of what's right And that's my invitation for you All right Let's take our next question. We got a lot of questions here. Thank you so much rob and I appreciate that all right Jessica Question In his actions He is constant. He has five of six. You mentioned five months of dating But he is not vocal with his feelings. One of my favorite love languages is words of affirmation. What do you think? I love this question actually reminds me of my best friend He's not a by the way his his love language my best friend's love language Is acts of service gifts quality time and physical touch, but he's not a words person for whatever reason That's just not his cup of tea Thankfully his girlfriend is a words person and by leading by example leading by example He continually expresses it Maybe it might be reactionary to her expressing it He does express it. It's just that's not where he starts from Okay, now if you need it from a place of validation, why not recognize that that's who your partner is He's not a words person. So just lead by example and also appreciate what he does do right And express that appreciation remember I said To get a man to be vulnerable starts with gratitude That means telling him how much you appreciate him on a regular basis and the more you express appreciation Oh, my hair is all messed up now the greater chance He'll be more vulnerable and you'll find that he's actually doing it You're hyper focused on what's not happening most likely and I would suggest Hyper focusing on what is happening and what I mean by hyper focusing I simply mean being gratitude for what is happening. Can you do that for me? Jessica? I hope you can because I think that'll shift the narrative with that said you can talk about it And maybe come up with a plan where every once in a while you do a share day How about you share what you appreciate about each other? By the way, let me tell you the story about my best friend really quickly because this is a guy who doesn't express himself so um Actually it was my birthday two years ago We were at dinner three of my my oh, I don't have picture of them two of my other closest friends And at dinner I said I go guys for my birthday present I would like you to I would like us each to share with each other what we appreciate about each other I'm gonna repeat that I'd like us to share what we appreciate about each other With my best friend I shared with him how he was there for me when my son passed away And I got incredibly emotional very vulnerable And it reached a point where we all three of us guys and by the way my best friend lives in west hollywood Of all places it was three guys holding hands and we were we were sobbing together Because we felt safe enough to be vulnerable with one another. I just happened to open the door So my invitation for you is to open the door By the way, there's nothing wrong with being in west hollywood Let me just say that narrative I just happened to be there and whatever people might have thought of us at that point But my point is by being vulnerable with one another and by expressing it It created the door for each one of them to share what that we appreciate about one another And we did this for an hour and a half. I mean the drinks were flowing and it was like The two other buddies said why can't we do this more often? Folks if you want to shift the narrative start by expressing what you appreciate in your partner Rather than focusing on what you're not receiving from your partner Can I please get an amen on that? Thank you so much and um, Jessica great question All right, let's see what we have Vanessa says question. I'm seeing an older man as I'm in my 60s So venessa or van van nessa. That's not a question Folks i'm sorry, but that's not a question. That's a statement, but thank you for sharing the statement all right Someone says jonathan hasn't met the right woman yet. That is true. Nora. Thank you I just haven't met my person yet Nora says nodding in agreement with jonathan. You're always on target. Thank you so much All right, let's see what else we have in the form of questions All right lead empathy says I'm in my 30s and I love your takeaways question What is your top example of a woman giving her power away part two? How can your woman strengthen her bitch? B itch which stands for beauty in total control of herself Babe or beauty in total control of herself So one of the first things you do is you make your happiness predicated on the man That's number one. You make your happiness predicated on the member man Giving your power away number two is allowing him to lead the dating process folks if you follow my work I'm a big proponent of a relationship being a two-lane street You both working together equally during the building stage of a relationship if you're not familiar with the work of If the buddha dated if the buddha dated I highly recommend reading this because it takes out the stupid gender rhetoric in relationship I know you can listen to evolutionary Biologists to tell you that a men's Testosterone is going to want to do this and a woman's estrogen is going to want to do that and so forth But at the bottom line We're all human beings who are riddled with insecurities and fears It just happens to be men have a little bit of different fears and insecurities on how we were raised and women Have a little bit different fears and insecurities because they've been objectified throughout history And women have been treated as property and women don't feel as safe as men But at the core of a human being This whole stupid narrative that men are the leaders of the relationship ladies When you buy into that you're setting yourself up for failure because the number one search term by women They're the number the series of number one search terms are why are men commitment phobic? Why do men run away? Why do men ghosts? Why do men go hot and cold? So By the way, if this is what you're searching for doesn't it kind of tell you that men are not necessarily the best leaders of Relationship you are in charge of your relationship destiny not a man So it starts by establishing your standard your standard What is it you want and then sticking to your standard? But jonathan I'm supposed to give my power away because that's what the feminine energy Tells me to do feminine energy just means I have to be subservient to what the man says I have to be fit friendly and cooperative. I have to be submissive to a man or otherwise. I have no chance Bullshit Ladies men are attracted to women who establish their standard right from the get-go and then they hold to their standard Let me reframe that Emotionally mature men are attracted to that kind of woman And the one the man who's attracted to the other kind of woman. He's controlling. He's uh, narcissistic. He's, uh, He's got mommy issues. He's got daddy issues. He's got Abandonment issues all the fucked up men love the fit friendly and submissive women All the fucked up men love that Okay Men who are actually looking to co-creator relationship Let me repeat that the men who are actually looking to co-create a relationship Are looking for women who stand in their power But if you're giving your power away, how can you ever have a healthy happy relationship? This is why I continually recommend reading the book non or excuse me eight dates by doctors john and julie gotman Eight dates by doctors john and julie gotman This will help you to create the standard I keep talking about Because if you're giving your power away, it's because you ladies don't know what a relationship looks like Or schedule a coaching session with me. Listen if you've got the money to invest Schedule a discovery call with me schedule a coaching session with me my clients. I get phone calls Once once a week or once every two weeks Jonathan I met a great guy and I know the difference Jonathan I met a great guy and I know the difference Jonathan I met a great guy and I know the difference Jonathan wait Jonathan. I met a great guy and I know the difference folks What's the definition of insanity doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results Look, I get it. It's a cluster fuck out there. I've said it before I'll say it a hundred times over It's a mess because human beings are a mess But you you know, we have a choice we can come from a place of compassion and love Or we can come from a place of judgment This is why I highly recommend reading this book how to make love all the time by barba de angeles Instead of this stupid fucking book called the rules and yes, it's upside down because the book the rules is stupid Actually, there is a chapter in here. Okay ladies. There is a chapter in here that I do like Okay, I'm gonna give props to this the chapter is called um Don't expect a man to change or try to change him page 87. Let's turn to 87 Yeah, we almost got it right there So chapter 17 stupid rule. Let him take the lead stupid rule the next rule Don't expect a man to change or try to change him That's a good rule to live by so there are a couple good nuggets out of a book with a lot of shitty nuggets At least it's this is my perception. I know I'm being disrespectful to the authors But that's just my opinion on it and this is my channel and I'm allowed to share My opinion and all that matters is if this resonates with you great and if it doesn't resonate with you That's okay. I'm not your teacher. I'm not your coach. Go find someone else Okay, but all I can say is this Women continually say to me jonathan you made a difference in my life jonathan I wish they taught me this in school jonathan. I wished I'd learned this, you know from my parents jonathan You made me think jonathan you taught me how to ask better questions folks when you give your power away It's because the the narrative of being submissive is what we've been indoctrinated in thousands of years and by the way folks 80 percent of relationships don't work out I'm gonna repeat that 80 percent of relationships don't work out. You know how I know this is a if 50 percent of Marriage is end of divorce right off. That's 50 percent 65 percent of second marriages end in divorce 75 percent of third marriages end in divorce of the ones who are still married half of those are miserable And this doesn't even count all the people who dated and then they went and then it didn't work out And then they dated someone else and didn't work out and didn't dated someone else Listen, there's a slim by the way If you don't do this work Your chances of finding a healthy happy partner is slim If you want to put the odds in your favor either hire me or read these books one of the best books ever Oh my god, I know you're tired of hearing repetition But read the book are you the one for me by barba de angeles? Oh my god. This is a fucking amazing book It will by the way, I get I get emails every week jonathan. Thank you for recommending that book Thank you. By the way for those women who buy two copies of this book And give it to the man. Do you know how many women are telling me writing me saying jonathan? The guy i'm with is reading this book and it's making a difference Folks we got to stop this stupid narrative of expecting attraction to be that relationship Attraction is only the first line of the watermark if you want to get to the mountain if you want to hey listen An iceberg can melt But a mountainous stays strong and if you want to have a mountain of a relationship Then you better start vetting for shared values blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity and that's your chance of getting a mountain Can I get an amen? I feel like a preacher sometimes and my armpit stains. Whoo. I am burning up here All right Ah lead. Thank you for that question. I bet we have a lot more questions here uh Oh kimberley says Question if I dated a guy I knew 30 years ago in college and he did all six things While we did what things why did he leave me for someone else? Could it be because he was a drinking problem? Um Really? I mean do you even have to okay? Listen folks These are ways they show you they love you love does not equal relationship success Love doesn't equal relationship success commitment is what leads to relationship success Let me repeat that commitment leads to relationship success Compatibility leads to relationship success. Love is just the icing on the cake So we do this to show we love you but ultimately folks if you aren't vetting for shared, you know what a shared value is Okay, folks I get He has a drinking problem. By the way, why does someone have a drinking problem? It has nothing to do with you It's because he's in pain over something He's in pain over something. That's what caused people to drink He probably has some emotional issues going on. He might have had abuse in his childhood He might be going through a content. Well, this is you met him when you were younger So most likely he had childhood wounds and traumas and for those of you had childhood wounds and traumas I highly recommend reading the book the hoffman process The hoffman process which teaches you how to heal childhood wounds and traumas and to heal the relationship with your parents Because folks if you're not doing the work, you're going to choose people that haven't done the work And you're setting stuff up for failure What's the definition of insanity? By the way, i'm yelling I yell because you're touching fire and i'm your children out there ready to touch the flame And I have to yell to stop you from touching the flame. That's why I yell I don't mean it to be disrespectful plus i'm fucking passionate about what I do. Oh my god, I cursed All right, listen So what'd you say we dated we dated four months and he was amazing. Oh, I didn't read that part I didn't read that last part. We dated four months and it was amazing. Oh, wait a minute I'm now confused. We just dated four months or this happened then Listen bottom line. If you guys don't know what commitment looks like for each other There's no chance to build commitment with each other Commitment is what stands the test of time not love. Love is just the icing on the cake All right, thank you kimberley angela writes question Dating after a 24 year marriage and husbands in fidelity three years Self-healing and now daring What if all things below on the iceberg are there but chemistry isn't completely can chemistry grow? Well, first off, how can a shared if How can infidelity and shared values hold the same space? How can infidelity and emotional maturity hold the same space? They can't So I mean i'm i'm being judgmental here, but you're you're fantasizing here on the iceberg piece Here's the problem Um people it's not chemistry that you're experiencing. It's a lack of attraction Remember the water line is attraction chemistry is that piece but you can feel Deep attraction when you have strong values together when you have blendable lifestyles together when you have emotional maturity together My mom was 300 pounds. I'm pretty sure my dad. I mean even though he saw her with the eyes of love He may not have been physically attracted to her But because they shared all these things together there was attraction beyond the physicality We have to be careful not confusing a lot of times We associate chemistry with physical attraction and yes, that's an important piece But when we look at the totality of something that's where attraction comes in now with that said listen A person can physically not be attracted to you and not want to fuck you And if they don't want to fuck you your relationship is fucked. I'm sorry ester parel talks about this in her book mating and captivity folks erotic desire Is one of the reasons why most relationships fail? So if someone has not listened I I know a guy who is like a total track athlete a real stud in high school a Quarterback and football very physically fit and I mean he basically told his wife Look, if you get out of shape, that's not what I want And by the way, she works and I'm not listening might be a little controlling But I talked to him the other day. They've been married 30 years. She's in she's 62 years old She plays tennis every day and she works And not place tennis every day works out every day plays tennis She's in great shape and they still have sex Twice a week and I asked him about this because we were talking about viagra the other day and he's 71 years old I think he's 71 and she's 63 But she's intentional about keeping up the physicality of the relationship. Look erotic connection is is hugely important relationship And we have to stop being listen My mom and dad's era is you know is an era gone by look We are my mom and dad never worked out a day in their life We are a demographic that grew up with physical fitness. So we have a choice We can choose to get allow ourselves to let ourselves go Or I listen I work out every day. I work out an hour a day every day it takes It's discipline to do that. I eat my I do my best to eat healthy every day that takes discipline But that's because I want my partner to want to fuck me Plus I want my equipment to work. Okay, so I'm just sharing my own personal narrative I think I went off track there, but I hope I answered your question. Thank you so much. Angela. I appreciate that Gina says I don't agree with the bullcrap book bullcrap book the rules either. Thank you so much Marie or mary. No, mary Says question. Can you provide some signs a man is not over his ex-wife? Yeah When he talks about her on a regular basis when he reaches out to a regular basis he tracks her facebook page on a regular basis They communicate on a regular basis But most importantly he talks about her on a regular basis Someone talks about an ex on a regular basis is most likely not over their ex. Oh If she cheated on him There's a good chance he's very much not over his ex because most men if they've ever if a man's been cheated on To someone he loves he'll hold a torch for her for years Because men are also territorial. So those are just a couple signs off the top of my head. Marie. Thank you so much Please hit that like button folks. That was my hair. Okay God i'm so egotistical Robin says I didn't know jonathan had one I didn't know jonathan had one. I don't know what that is Jessica says should I continue to pursue the relationship? He's not ready to go public in the relationship But wants me to meet his mother and family What's this fucking bullshit? People don't want to go public. Look if the penis is going inside the vagina You have every right to say i'm in a relationship. I'm in a relationship. You should be excited Folks listen, it's funny. We give up sex so fucking easily But saying the words this is my girlfriend is so fucking hard. It just cracks me up Look at i'm a guy that's genuinely out there seeking a relationship And and i'll share with you in a moment why it's so challenging But i'm like looking forward to say this is my girlfriend. This is my girlfriend I would love I wish my mom was alive to introduce my girlfriend I can't wait to introduce my girlfriend to my son collin And to my friends. That's what you want to do when you're in relationship You want to say this is my girlfriend when you actually are falling in love with someone people that are afraid To tell people it's because they got something to hide or It might be that they're not ready for a relationship with you So why does the penis get to go inside the vagina if they're not ready for a relationship? Just an invitation for you to think about that Jessica, thank you so much Jenny says no sex before commitment for me. I feel like a reborn virgin these days by the way Whether two people have sex on the first date the third date the tenth date Getting married. I don't care Okay, sex is part of the process. Okay part of the decision-breaking process having sex too early is no not necessarily An indication of relationship success or failure. I know some very Happily married couples that had sex on the first date What they did is they talked a lot ahead of time and they got to know each other ahead of time Before they had sex on that first date. So I'm not against it But I'm just saying if the penis gets to go on the vagina on a regular basis have these conversations sooner rather than later Can I get an amen? Thank you all right Jenny says women are so easy to fall in love for men who do not love them It's heartbreaking to see them fall In the same trap over and over again. Yeah, but you know what that's on jenny. That's on the women That's not the guy's fault Listen ladies when you give your power away to a guy and you just say here's it's like handing over your checkbook When you hand over your checkbook Why it's you're handing it to a child and saying just write checks all you want That's what you're doing when you give your power away So stop it We here in the united states are suckling on the nipple of I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can so I can feel Good about myself. Stop it Read these books if you want to read a great book. Here's two good books to read First read the untethered soul by michael singer. Oh my god. This is a brilliantly read Brilliantly written book and by the way, you can get the audible version as well By the way, jonathan recommends books is listed in the description. I get this But lastly folks buy the book how to be an adult in relationship Ladies if you're a child in a relationship, it's not the man's fault Children give their power away because that's what children do We can't take care of ourselves Until we reach a certain age So when you give your power away, you're just acting like a child and that's not the The man's fault because he you're the child and he's acting as the parent He's not your partner. He's the parent when you give your power away And he gets to treat you however he wants because that's what parents are allowed to do By the way, if I'm making a difference right now Can you please purchase a super sticker super chat to let me know this is of value to you? Listen folks, I I'm it's the heat lamp is on me. I'm sweating up a storm Please show me that this is of value by purchasing a super sticker or super chat It just tells me that you should that I'm making a difference That's how you can let me know I'm making a difference in your life And if I am and if I'm saving you days weeks months and years of heartache Please make an investment in this the scholarship fund. Thank you so much All right Bump bump bump Maya ma ma ma whatever miss new gen question If he want to put the relationship on hold for a while, what is the ultimate timing? That's an interesting question. Um, I don't know 30 days Six weeks max. I mean I'm making up an arbitrary number But I wouldn't let it go much past that and quite frankly Just say if you want to put the relationship on hold does that mean we can see other people? Because I'm going to put myself on the dating apps because I want a man who doesn't have to second guess the relationship So by the way, in fact Now it's one thing to say. Hey, look, let's just take a short break from each other So we can read so I can go inward to see if this is the relationship I want to be in that's okay Each person should be allowed to do that But if someone says I need a break from the relationship Because it's chances are because they don't know what the fuck they want And if you allow you're just choosing a person that doesn't know what they want And I'm here to say don't do that choose people that do know what they want By the way, you're dealing with a small pool. I get it. But folks you ladies are just as fucked up as men It's by the way, stop throwing men under the bus when you are equally responsible For allowing bad behavior from men if you want to change the narrative with men then Start with your standard and stick to your boundaries Thank you Debbie. I want to thank you for that super sticker. I really appreciate it. Uh, where is that? Uh, I just saw it pop up Debby c thank you for that super sticker. I really appreciate it Nice selfie there with your phone Okay, Jessica says question To dating question two dating a new guy who has been a friend for a while I really like him mentioned him already regarding me wanting to be fully committed before sex And where's the question I can't read your mind ladies if you don't put a question mark with an actual question I can't know what you're asking So Jessica write it again write the actual question out And again, you're gonna have to write this out again because I'm gonna lose track of this because I can't read your minds ladies Oh, by the way, I've got to go on a rant here Ladies you have a habit of vomiting 10 000 words and we men can only take in so much And by the way, we men need specifics when you're going to ask a question actually ask a question I'm sorry to call you out on that Jessica But you got to own by the way if you can't own your shit on that one then you got more personal development work to do All right Colleen C says question I lashed out seven days ago wrote a letter that non That's non critical non relationship oriented. How when to approach him about exchanging it So first off I'm first off when someone lashes out at someone I think it's hugely important to apologize for that behavior So first I would start with an apology for lashing out as far as writing this letter exchange I don't understand why a letter exchange But if you feel the need to do an email exchange write out what you have what what you want to say By the way, I highly recommend reading this book before you send it because you're most likely going to shoot yourself in the foot You will sabotage the relationship and totally fuck it over um So read that before you exchange letters, but um, I would first apologize for the behavior. That's my invitation for you All right I want to thank Angela for the super sticker and I want to thank uh epic mom for the super sticker. Thank you so much All right Sarah says how do I fix not having anything to talk about when you and your boyfriend call? We love each other, but having when you and your boyfriend call We love each other, but have having a lot more awkward silences Folks, most of you know one of my favorite memes. I'm going to share this with you Albums Bump bump bump bump My favorite meme is this one of my favorites. I hate small talk I want to talk about adam's death alien sex magic Intellect the meaning of why is it so fuzzy? Oh, oh there it went came back the meaning of life Uh music that makes you feel different memories the lies you've told your flaws your favorite set your childhood What keeps you up at night your insecurities your fears? I like people with depth who speak with emotion from a twisted mind. I don't know. I don't want to know. What's up. What's that? What's up? What's up By the way, folks, do you know why I haven't met my person yet? Because quite frankly I barely meet women who stimulate me. I i'm going to tell you something many of you women literally have a Lack of curiosity A lack of curiosity. I'm attracted to an inquisitive woman a woman who asks me questions I mean, it's so I don't want to use the word bored I'm just not stimulated by many of you and I know you guys think you have the magical vagina And that's all you need, but that's not what works for everybody at the end of the day I love it that it takes you an hour and a half to order a ham sandwich I love it that you think 71 degrees is cold. I love it that you're the first person I think of when I wake up in the morning you're the last person I think of when I go to bed Harry Met Sally what he loved was talking with her Folks, if you don't know how to communicate in relationship and you don't have things to communicate do me a favor here. Hey google What are a hundred one things you can talk about in a relationship? Let's see what comes up. I'm happy to say I feel whole all on my own I never have that's not what I asked but my point is folks you can google things to talk about There's a hundred thousand things to talk about you can just find it, but then be curious, you know You know, I've got my way folks. I'll give you an example I've got on dates with women who you would think because of what I do for a living They would first say jonathan. How did you become a dating coach? What inspired you to become a dating coach? What what attracts you to being a dating coach? Tell me some stories about being I've got a with dates on women. They ask me nothing about my professional life and I have a fucking cool job Okay You know no disrespect to the plumber or the policeman or the fireman I know actually those are all great professions But I have a job that should stimulate tons of conversation But so few of you ask me about my professional life and I'm literally like this is my shit human behavior I am fascinated With how fucked up human beings are I really am and I'm a junkie for personal development. Now that might be not someone's cup of tea. I get it But to me the depths of life is the inner relationship not the outer relationship That's just me. Anyway, so my invitation google how to talk to a person Hmm Read the book by daryl. Dale Carnegie how to win an influence friends that might help you a little bit Um, I hope that helped with your questions. Sarah. Thank you so much All right Kathy says communication hell. Yes Jonathan you can speak well not surprising. Believe me. It's taken a lot of work to get here Um Paris says me too, Jonathan. I love human behavior all right Lexi says my boyfriend has let his grooming and looks go. I'm afraid if if we marry he will get worse losing attraction. Do I tell him this? You know what folks? Yeah, tell him You know because listen It's actually a value when someone lets their looks go and and doesn't take care of themselves That's a value centered around health. That's a value centered around self-worth. That's a value centered around Well, mostly health and self-worth. So when someone lets themselves go They're not that value of health and self-worth Most likely it's because they have an insecurity or fear. So go tell them to go heal on his own time Well, or listen do the Hoffman process together. It's a big investment But I highly recommend that because let me tell you something folks erotic attraction going back to what ester parel talks about Is one of the big reasons why relationships fail in the long term It's not the it's not the sex pieces that you're no longer attracted to one another And values are hugely important for keeping attraction So that's my invitation for you anyway Is to talk to them about it and say look if you let yourself go I don't know if I want to be with you. I'll make a commitment if I don't let my by the way Now to each person it's different So have a conversation and maybe get to the root of what's causing this person to let themselves go Most likely there's depression going on and if there's depression going on Do you want to find out what the root of the depression is? Look, I was in depression for a decade after my divorce I mean I but that's because I lost my quarter million dollar your job. I was going through a nasty divorce I lost my money in the marketplace. I was doing cocaine and alcohol just to get through the day I was a train wreck Until I found my passion in life and it is through our passions We actually get excited about the day now. I'm one of the top relationship coaches in the country because I follow my passion I'm in the top 1% of income earners because I follow my passion and I'm excited about getting up every day Except my back is like oh, I'm just kidding And I'm excited to go work out. So when we have passion in or when we have passion in life And we're always going to look at we're always going to go through tough times, but ultimately Copy tastes better when shared and it's doing it together I don't mean sticking out with him together, but working together. So say let's work out together Let's get facials together. Let's go get dressed up and do it together And if he's not interested in that does is he really your guy? folks If you're not smiling about the guy you're with Then he's not your guy When I told you let me tell you something and I wrote this the wow piece I dated a woman who from the moment we met till our last day together. I still saw her as a wow Because she exuded that wow energy And that made me want to be a better man So when you exude wow energy and he wants to please you And I don't mean please you by exercising he has to do that for himself But but when when a person's with the right partner you make us want to be a better man Is this sinking in is this resonating? I hope so By the way, most of you are in terrible You're most of you are in relationships that are never going to work out I'm sorry bad news because I'm not going to blow smoke up your ass and tell you the feminine energy is all you need to do The reality is is most human beings have no fucking clue how to be in relationship This is why if I'm repeating myself over and over again is because I'm hoping after doing this for a couple years It sinks in for all of you and then there's always brand new people to my channel And I want to say thank you to Kathy for that $20 super sticker. That is really showing appreciation. Kathy. Thank you so much ah What else Bridge says I do not yeah concerning guys anyone to be honest. I don't negotiate with my instincts I like to think of it as intuition. But yes, I agree with that all right Oh Helena says By the way, I am sweating Question how do you how would you ask a man if you suspect him of watching porn? How would you ask a man? That's a good question because most guys would lie if you ask the question So I don't think I think you're not probably you got to almost catch him in the act I I don't know. I mean you could ask him. Oh, okay um Hey I would go on youtube. There's a body language guy By the way, I would ask him and then I would pay attention to his body language because here's the deal when people lie I think their eyes go to the right or to the left. So you're gonna have to learn body language Learn watch what you can watch about an hour's worth of body language videos on how to tell if someone's lying In fact, there was a secret service agent that did a video a while back one of my clients sent it to me It was wonderful I wonder I I'll try to find it But actually doing do one hour of body language do do a youtube search on folks everybody do this Do a youtube search on how to tell if someone is lying plus body language And then ask them the question and I bet you anything when he's lying you can tell I hope that helps did that help? Please let me know All right Lillian says I love the body language guy. I do too. He's actually pretty fun to watch. He's this guy I think he's uh from cuba or something like that. He's got a little bit of an accent. So yeah Oh gather with sarah. Thank you for the five dollar super sticker. I really appreciate that folks I am so grateful for the super stickers super chats. Thank you so much. It lets me know you care and I really appreciate it Todd says if you confront somebody lying and they look to the right and down They are lying Todd. Thank you so much. By the way, Todd, you're a guy here So tell me is this resonating with you Todd? Is this is this content resonating with you? Please let me know Um debbie bridge says when they're awkward pause before the answer Um, sometimes people like to think before the answer. Uh, by the way That's not always a guarantee because I like to sometimes pause before I answer and sometimes I blur things out that are Incorrect, so but that's a great way to start and I like what Todd said But look at their body language. That's a great indicator What's your favorite Christmas present ever? um A billion dollars. I'm still waiting for that Christmas present. Anyone want to send it to me Um, who's who's who's a billionaire's wife who's recently single? I'm being silly folks. Uh, my favorite Christmas present is something I still wear to this every day It's a sweater I got from a girlfriend. So, um, that's an interesting question That's actually a good question to talk about in dating Question really amazing guy. We are new to dating but he he's got really long nose hair How do I say trim it without being rude? I am some nose hair trimmers Pluck a few out, um You know, you you know what I might say something like this If your boyfriend's name is tim. I'm just making it up tim I'm gonna share something that's really uncomfortable For for the both of us, but I'd rather share something uncomfortable and talk about it And um, if it's okay with you, I have something I want to share And that is I find your nose hairs are too are long and I don't I'm not attracted to that Would you be open to trimming that you make a request? By the way, um, do the read Google John and Julie Gottman. They talk about bids and requests. You simply want to make a request of him And it's a bid for luck So I would learn about bids and requests from John and Julie Gottman And that might help you with asking that question But tell him up front. This is going to be an uncomfortable conversation And then you might be surprised and he might say well, shit I'll go buy nose hair. I'll go on amazon right now and buy nose hair clipper a hand them one All right Folks, I think this would be a great place to wrap up Okay, so this is a personal question Jonathan. What's your favorite personality trait in a person? I think my favorite personnel Favorite personality trait in a woman Is inquisitiveness. I mean that is fucking sexy to me a woman who's inquisitive Who's curious who likes to look at life beyond the surface? I am so tired of the fucking reality tv show bullshit narratives except for Love on the spectrum. That's a great reality show. Love on the spectrum love that I like human interest stories But I do not like reality tv because that to me is the surface. I like I like people with the depth with a twisted mind. I don't like knowing what's up So that's my favorite personality trait is inquisitiveness Also, a woman who wants to fuck me on a regular basis. That's a great personality trait Someone who's hot for me the hot for teacher hot for me the teacher. That's what that's another good one for me I'm sorry if that grosses some of you out, but I'm just being real here So inquisitiveness and likes to fuck and along with a lot of other things So as our act together isn't a train wreck isn't is emotionally mature We share the same values. We have chemistry and we have blendable lifestyles Um, all right Maria says have you thought about a go fund me specifically for people from anywhere to donate? I'm thinking about doing patreon. So thank you, Maria Sherry says or sherry jothin I read somewhere that when you meet someone nine of the first 10 questions you ask You'll only get 10 truth There are some truth to that but most certainly not the truthful any thoughts Actually, I quite a bit I quite I quite I don't know don't know don't know don't know Quite frankly, I think the opposite I think people reveal themselves all the time when you ask them questions Now when you ask them specific questions like have you cheated you're going to most likely get a lie But if you ask what happened in your last relationship, well most people will throw their partner under the bus So that's not a truth A thought to me is have you ever lied before in your life? That's an interesting question to ask someone And if yes, what did you lie about? Uh, I stole gum from the grocery store. Actually, I believe people reveal their truth all the time It's just you have to learn to read between the lines because people will Not tell you their truth their truth in the beginning But they're giving you their truth all the time you just have to learn to read between the lines That's why I would check out the body language guy I would also check out Blanca cob on instagram Blanca cob on instagram. She's a body language specialist You know what folks, uh I'm going to give I'm going to give one more person to ask me a personal question Then we're going to wrap up for the day So I'll wait if you have a personal question of jonathan. This is your chance Um, we'll see if we'll test a truth or a lie. Please don't ask me Uh a question that would be out of line, but you're more than welcome to ask me a question You can see if I'm telling the truth or not Um, all right, we're going to give it a second To see if someone wants to ask me something first come first serve Uh, last question was from Kathy g at five fifteen. We got a second to see who wants to ask me a personal question Um Bump bump bump bump bump bump or purchase a super sticker. Okay Question can you roller skate? Uh, I haven't roller skated and I well I used to ice skate so I guess I could roller skate Am says when is your birthday august 1st? So my birthday is 10 days 11 days from now Leo. Yes. I'm a leo Um, scoop says have you ever wanted to date someone from the stream? Great question So here's the thing scoop a lot of the pictures are really tiny So I can't tell what you look like, but there have been a few that I go. Oh, she's cute I'd like to see what she's all about Um, let me just be honest with you folks physical attraction is my first entry way into my interest in a woman So there are you know nine out 99 out of 100 women. I'm not attracted to that's just life 99 out of 100 men you're not attracted to so I like to see if there's physical attraction there Beta says scroll up, please Oh green sticker beta. Thank you so much for the green sticker if you gave one. I didn't see it All right, any last questions Oh, jenny says do you want to get married again? Jenny great questions. So folks Let's go on jonathan's match.com profile to answer that question So we're going to go to jonathan's profile. We're going to go to edits. We're going to go view I'm going to read you my essay This is my essay can you see that? Let me start with the following. I would like to get remarried or at least live together I'm seeking a woman who feels the same for me This isn't about growing old with someone I want to grow in life and love with a special woman Plus I promise my next partner emotional maturity lots of great sex chocolate massages flirty text messages poetry travel Tacos on tuesday. How does that sound? Go find me on match.com and if i'm attracted to you or if you're attracted to me write me and if I feel the same Who knows you might find me on by the way, I live in los angeles So if you find me on match, we might be a hit. So reach out to me there Um am says great answer Thank you so much. Jenny says great match profile uh Let's see All right beth what do you think of long distance relationships? I think they rarely ever work out. That's what I think of them Um Have you ever dated a non-american woman? Yes, I have Beta I don't see the green sticker. So let me scroll beta did a question. Hold on a second folks Okay, beta. I'm gonna look for your question I'm gonna find the green sticker. Let's see who posted it. I don't see it. I don't see it I'm sorry. I don't see it Beta I am sorry. I don't see the question Oh Yeah, I don't see the question. I'm sorry I'm really sorry beta. If you cut and paste the question right now. Look for it. Um, bear with me folks I don't see bump bump bump I'm getting I'm looking for the question beta. I scrolled up. I'm sorry. I did not see it What do I think of porn? um Listen Great question. Look at I've mastered debated so much in my lifetime And porn just desensitizes me quite frankly masturbation in general desensitizes me I'd like to feel a warm vagina in my penis or on my penis So I'm not even a big fan of masturbation anymore because I want to feel a heart on instead of a heart on So I'm not attracted to porn Anymore I used to be when I was younger, but listen, I've jacked off so much I think I've shot all my sperm out So but I still savor and desire vagina Jonathan even can do break dance. I can't break dance Leo explains your big hair. I don't have big hair. I have very short hair Michael says porn sucks. I agree um Let's see I'm looking Beta if you want to post the question post it Kathy says so true It does desensitize by the way, I think women uh masturbating desensitizes them to men as well um am says jonathan moved to boston. I'm a nurse. Okay I could use some nursing right now Julie hick says beta repost the question. I'm going to do my best to answer but you can't I can't find your super sticker um Wait a minute. I want to go. Oh, I'm going to do this one question. My person wants me to move to his hometown But wants me to live separately from him. What do you think? Seems like it's one sided. That's what I think Jonathan, would you go on a blind date? Uh, I am done doing blind dates folks. I'm doing a zoom date Before I meet someone by the way, my rule of thumb is now I strictly do first dates over zoom unless I know you we've been facebook friends for a while But if you are a stranger I've had too many bad first dates as blind dates. I will not do that again. I will not What's that saying? I will not eat spam. I am. I know a sam. I am. I will not eat green I will not eat green eggs at ham. I will not sam. I am all right jonathan today's session is the best you made my otherwise boring day fun and fabulous Well, that's a perfect way to end today folks Lastly with dr. Seuss Folks, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. We're going to repeat those six ways to know if a guy's falling in love with you Number one He wants to spend time with you after you guys have had regular set after you've had sex He doesn't act hot or cold. He feels safe to be vulnerable with you He can be honest. He can honestly say you make him want to be a better man He he's protective of you and lastly he gives you that look of wow Wow My hope is you found value from this. Please do me a favor if you did please share this with your friends Please hit that like button start telling people about my channel Listen, I have a request of everyone right now Could you share this video when it wraps up with 10 of your friends if 10 of you shared this with 10 friends And they shared it with 10 friends my channel would grow And my hope is because my content actually has value. I think you can tell I don't blow smoke up your ass I'm here to tell you it is a fucking mess out there But here's the thing Do you want to be in the 80% that has no chance of meeting the right person or being in a great relationship? Or do you want to be in that 20% just remember? I'm your big brother I'm here to protect you if I could be there on a first date. I'd be there with the shotgun And tell the guy what are your intentions? I want you to learn how to do that for yourself and my hope is my content helps you with that Folks from the bottom of my heart. Thank you so much for those super stickers super chats Very grateful. This is a great place to wrap up today. And if you know me Uh, I know if you know me, you know, I wrap up my videos I always do first off give myself a big gigantic job the mayor of self love I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm going to ask you to turn to someone a pet a teddy bear pillow and give it or them a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it. We could all use more love in our lives Sarah, thank you Michael. Thank you avarice. Thank you. Maria. Thank you everybody. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you Wishing you a super duper wonderful day. Bye. Bye now