 Roberto Blake just made a YouTube video about how to deal with your haters, and I got a few things to say about What is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution And today's problem is haters why haters always be hating all right But anyways, this is a response to Roberto Blake's video if you don't know who Roberto Blake is Roberto Blake is a creative entrepreneur He has over 300,000 subscribers here on YouTube. He also has a big social media following. He's a speaker He does a ton of different stuff All right, I've been following him since I started a YouTube channel and I joined his awesome creator Academy And basically that's an academy for anybody who is trying to create something online And it's great to have a supportive community who understands so Roberto is a buddy and we talk and stuff like that So this isn't like a backlash at Roberto But anyways Roberto just made a video about how to deal with haters He does a lot of videos about how to grow your YouTube channel how to make money and all sorts of different things But he also does stuff like that that kind of relates to like your mental health when you're trying to be an entrepreneur Or be on this creative journey, right? And he just made a video about how to deal with haters and Roberto and I have kind of two different outlooks on this So in Roberto's video when he's talking about dealing with haters like it's great because Roberto is very like cut dry to the point Like this is who I am. This is what you get deal with it You like me or you don't and I respect the hell out of it for it Anyways, like so Roberto what he talks about when it comes to dealing with haters whether it's like your YouTube channel or Instagram or even Facebook or Twitter whatever it is like if people are hating on you like just block them get rid of them Right. I'm like, here's here's the thing like when we talk about haters like why are they hating on you? Okay, like I grew up in a generation of internet trolls All right, and I don't know I guess that generation is still around I I used to be an internet troll and someday I will make a video about it I don't like to but I do need to make videos about the awful person I used to be so you can understand what it's like to grow and become somebody new because I am not the person that I used To be anymore. I'm like a complete 180 But anyways, like there's gonna be haters out there and some of them are just completely trolling They're just doing things to push your buttons get under your skin and some of them are just they're jealous, right? And like I get that I get that too. Some people naturally hate others who are very successful Okay, so Roberto stance on this is like this isn't like, you know Trying to like limit your free speech and stuff like that You have the right to say whatever you want, right? But the other person has the right to do whatever they want to like that's the beauty of the United States So God bless America, right? Like that's the thing So in my opinion, like a lot of it comes down to self-awareness, okay? Self-awareness who you are what you're going through mentally and emotionally and what you can deal with Like I will say this I'll be a thousand percent honest with you I have done what Roberto has does like I've done that a billion times Depending on my mental and emotional state I'm very self-aware if I'm having a bad day a terrible day or even a bad week Like if my depression and anxiety is hitting me like I know I seem like this, you know Super cool manly man, but I'm a sensitive dude. I get really sensitive I get defensive and things like that, you know, I love my girlfriend because she deals with it sometimes But sometimes I just got to block people or unfollow them and stuff like here's my pro tip by the way on Facebook I don't know if anybody's ever taught you this but Rather than unfriending people just unfollow them. So you don't see their post I've done that a million times and if you're somebody I unfollowed, sorry But sometimes like I can't see what people are posting just because it's constantly so negative or it's lacking self-awareness Or all they're doing is talking about the problem and no solution or there are people who have reached out to me for help And they don't take that help and I'm like I'm not going to watch this person spiral downwards anymore and Sometimes for me that's just setting up a boundary That's setting up a boundary like if you come to me for help And then I give you advice and you don't take it like that's on you And I'm not gonna keep wasting my time on you because over here There's other people who are gonna take this advice and do something with it And by the way, this is for all of you out there who are my subscribers to I love and appreciate all of you But I do have some people who DM me on Instagram or they Email me and things like that asking for advice asking for help and I give them suggestions Then a week or two later. They asked me the same question I asked them if they tried any of the things I suggested and they say no like just so you all know my time is very precious to Me very very precious and I will not waste my time on people who haven't even tried my suggestions Okay, because I am not here to You know provide for you emotionally if you are not even going to take steps to try to help yourself now If you come to me after I've suggested something and then you tried it and it didn't work now We can narrow it down and say, okay, well, let's try this. Let's see if this works You know what I mean, but anyways going back to the whole haters thing like be self-aware If you're in a bad place mentally and emotionally like block unfollow whatever you got to do Roberto said he's gonna make more videos on like how to filter things So, you know, whether it's YouTube comments or whatever so like they don't even pass through to your comments section If they have certain words, all right So one of them is just out of sight out of mind Don't deal with the haters and like Roberto does a good job talking about like what criticism is because if you're like me And you get sensitive and defensive you'll take Honest constructive criticism as an attack and that's where mindfulness really helps me out Like when I'm able to sit down and say like, okay, this is constructive. Okay, they're just critiquing this They're saying something that I could have mentioned in this video They're saying this and sometimes what I'll try to do is have a conversation with them. Okay, so I'm almost at 400 videos Okay, I've had some people like comment on my videos and said you should have talked about this and this and this and this And all these other things I'm like, well, I have 20 other videos on that You know what I'm saying, but I think it's really important to sit back and understand Is this a hater or is it your mental filter saying that they're a hater? Even though they were providing constructive criticism because then that means it's you and not them That is something that you really really really need to work on. All right But for me personally when it comes to haters or flat-out trolls There's a few things that I do one of the main things is on a good day Which most of my days are good because I'm mentally stable now for the most part is I turn towards it Okay, I want everything to come through because what it does what that does and if you're in a place where you could do it, too Is it builds resiliency? Okay, it builds it up. It makes you stronger. It makes you have thicker skin You're able to take this stuff with a grain of salt. So I don't filter anything I let everything come through sometimes the YouTube filter catches something because somebody was just talking smack or cussing me out Or whatever I let it come through and here's the beautiful part about having an audience who loves and appreciates You and respects you is sometimes I don't even have to reply the other people around they reply to it instead of me And I'm like, oh, okay cool Then that actually makes me feel better because it shows me that some people are just not gonna like me But other people do love me and it's important for my brain to recognize that because when I get into depression My brain tells me like nobody likes you. Nobody cares about doing all this other stuff But anyways, I let it come through and I turn towards it and I do meditation practices about it I see what kind of emotions are rising in me. I try to see what fears am I dealing with right now fear of being judged Fear of not being good enough because something I learned a long time ago is it's not so much about what needs to change in other people as How much it it is about me changing something within myself because I know that at the end of the day I Can't just keep avoiding these things because if it's not a YouTube comment, it's gonna be a Twitter Post it's gonna be an Instagram thing. It's gonna be comments elsewhere. It's gonna be a co-worker It's gonna be a family member. So I choose not to run away from it and this is me personally Okay, I choose not to run away from it because I know it's gonna keep coming up over and over and over again So I choose to turn towards it and build that resiliency So next time I'm at a family gathering and somebody says something I don't like I don't have to leave the event I've already practiced dealing with it with stuff online And if I'm being honest doing this online like via social media is one of the best practice grounds Because you're in the safety and comfort of your own home or wherever it is So you're not like in a public setting and then all of a sudden you get hit with it And you don't know how to deal with it. I hope that makes sense So again, like I said nothing Roberto said was wrong Like it's to each their own a lot of it has to do with self-awareness and what you're doing But I hope some of you gain some insight into another way of dealing with your haters and how you can build yourself up more Resilient, okay? And I think this is a big deal because we see over and over and over from youtubers who are having mental health issues That a lot of it has to do with the comments and the comment sections, right? So what if more youtubers out there could train themselves to deal with these in a more mentally healthy way, okay? Like there's a perfect example as a guy. I forgot, you know, what video was but he left a really nasty comment Like he said like man, you look like Humpty Dumpty and like threw in some cuss words and things like that And I'm just like I kind of laughed it off. I'm like, hey man, you know, that's that's cool I've never heard that one before because like nobody's ever called me Humpty Dumpty But anyways the guy didn't reply and he apologized said hey, sorry man I was having a rough day and that's something that I try to empathize with constantly a lot of times when people are blowing up on me Like it's not because of me. It's because of other things and that's something I learned more and more as I let these comments come through All right, but anyways, let's Let's do this. Let's leave some comments down below. How do you deal with haters? Do you struggle with it? Are there any more topics you want me to talk about when it comes to this? How do you deal with it? Like anything you want to leave down in the comments below? All right, please do because I'm doing some stuff behind the scenes soon and I would love to hear from all of you All right, but anyways, I've linked Roberto Blake's video down there. I'll also link the awesome creator academy Something I'm a part of so if you're trying to build a youtube channel or whatever it is come on over and join us It's a great support community. All right, but that's all I got for you today If you like this video, please give it a thumbs up and if you are new here I'm always making videos to help you out with your mental and emotional well-being Click that little round subscribe button and a huge. Thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon All right, but if you want to check out some more content on this channel You can click or tap on one of those thumbnails. All right Thanks so much for watching learn how to deal with the haters and I'll see you next time