 Whether you're in business trying to attract someone you like or just trying to make new friends We all live in a world where first impressions and social intelligence matters So today I'm gonna cover one of my favorite books how to talk to anyone by Leo Laundice There's 92 little tricks in here, but I'm just gonna cover the first 31 But if this video reaches 200 likes, I'll make a part 2 So let's begin the first technique is to make sure you don't flash an immediate smile whenever you greet someone Instead look at the person for a good second or two Pause Soak in their persona and then let a big warm responsive smile flood over your face and overflow in your eyes Think of how a good comedian will build up to a punchline for a joke Next pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation partner Don't break eye contact even if he or she has finished speaking if you have to look away do it slowly But as a side note Leo warns the men to lower the intensity level when using this on other men Now in a group setting watch your target partner even when someone else is talking if this is too intense Then keep your eyes on the speaker, but every time the speaker finishes a point. Let your glance bounce to your target This technique makes your target feel like you care about his or her reaction Next is about posture Every time you walk through a doorway picture an iron jaw bit hanging from the frame just slightly above your head and imagine taking a bite out of it This should help you straighten your posture Practice this in your home throughout the day For the next technique consider giving a warm smile your full attention and the total body turn to everyone you meet As if a cute baby just crawled up to your feet or similarly Imagine the person is like your old best friend who you haven't seen in ages Number seven is about not fidgeting and keeping hand motions below your head Many believe that one of the big reasons that Richard Nixon lost a JF Kennedy in the 1960 presidential elections Is because he kept fidgeting and mopping his eyebrows on live television Technique 8 is about making it a habit to pay attention to the little things. Are they smiling? Looking away rubbing their neck is their feet pointing towards the door You don't have to be a body language expert to pick up on what they may be thinking Next relax and practice visualizing yourself walking around hung by your teeth Shaking hands smiling and treating people like you're meeting a long-lost best friend Next remember to match people's mood and tone of voice first even if they're upset or depressed Enter people's world before bringing them to yours The 11th is understanding that your first impression has little to do with your actual words Just remember to avoid starting conversations with a complaint or something negative The next technique is to wear or carry something unusual Could be small that strangers will feel compelled to stop you and ask you. What is that? Next ask a friend the host of the party or anyone who knows your target about some facts and then use those as an icebreaker So I heard you're a famous magician where you're from But if you don't know anyone who can give you some facts then try eavesdropping Excuse me. I couldn't help but overhear that you're a dancer When someone asks you the inevitable where are you from or what do you do? Never give one word answers and try to have it relate to the person you're talking to Research some interesting facts on the internet I'm an attorney from Toronto a city with over 8,000 restaurants Right now I'm involved in a case where a company actually discharged a woman for taking extra maternity leave that was a medical necessity Now the same rules apply when you're introducing people to one another Just remember if you're uncomfortable mentioning someone's job then mention their hobby or some accomplishment Next when in conversation pay attention to word clues that hint to your target's preferred topic Then when possible start talking about that topic Some people might seem shy quiet or bored but talk about a topic they like and they might not shut up The next one was inspired by Brian Tracy He says to picture a spotlight in sales if the spotlight is focusing on the product It's not interesting to the prospect But if the spotlight is focused on the prospect they make the sale So when it comes to people let the conversation in spotlight be mainly focused on them The next technique can help you never be left speechless again by simply repeating the last few words your Conversation partner says and turning it into a question. This puts the ball back on their court Guess what? I just started playing Pokemon Go Pokemon Go The word encore which the audience sometimes shouts at the end of a good performance means they want another one So recall a good story someone in a group setting with you has told you and then tell the group Tell them about the time you got struck by lightning and survived This shines the spotlight on them by requesting a repeat performance When first meeting someone avoid any stories about yourself that would potentially be looked down upon Later in the relationship telling a new friend that you got caught stealing or have been married three times will probably be no big deal Next if you're ever afraid of going to some social event because you'll have nothing to say Then simply go watch or read about the latest news the 24th is about never asking people the question What do you do? Some people are just not proud of what they do for a living like a tax collector Instead ask, how do you spend most of your time? If they're workaholics, they'll happily tell you what they do anyways But if someone asks you what you do ask yourself how your profession can help this person's life For example, don't just say you're a real estate agent say I help people moving into our area find a right home Next get a thesaurus look up common words that you use every day and start finding permanent replacements For example, many women have been called pretty beautiful cute or hot enough times in their lives Stand out and say something like Don't take this the wrong way But you look ravishing next is killing the quick me too Oftentimes when we find something in common with someone we often want to immediately say me too But Leo says to let the person keep talking and just keep asking questions while hinting you're knowledgeable about the topic for a while When you finally do tell them they might be shocked then you just flattered them by saying something like I Was just enjoying hearing you talk. I was afraid you'd stop me if I told you This creates a much bigger impact As much as possible Incorporate the word you in your sentences instead of asking where's the closest restaurant ask? Can you tell me where's the closest restaurant? Interestingly Therapists calculate that inmates of mental institutions say I and me 12 times more than residents of the outside world Next don't flash everyone with the same smile when meeting groups of people Give a distinct smile to each person and if one person in the group is more important to you than others Then reserve an especially big special smile perhaps using the one from technique number one Next never use cliches of any kind like I must quiet as a mouse Instead follow technique number 31 and consider just slightly changing the ones you already know For example switch when pigs fly to when monkeys live on clouds Or as quiet as a mouse to as quiet as an eel swimming in oil Instead of sure as death and taxes try As certain as beach traffic in july Now because i'm approaching 1 000 subscribers I just want to thank every single one of you and it's a gift for watching this whole video I'm randomly giving a copy of this book to anyone who subscribed and joined my mailing list You'll get access to exclusive contents and gifts my free ebook a chance to win future drawings and much much more So it's usual choose a b or c Or d hope my pens fall down