 So believe it or not I had a lot of people requested I make a video on Logan Paul's friend dwarf mama who just came out and opened up about his mental health and his depression. He was recently on the Logan Paul podcast and oh my god when I watched this video I was like this right here this right here if you're struggling with depression this is one of the best videos of 2019. What is up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I try to do is take different topics from the YouTube community and try to see what lessons we can pull from them to improve our own mental and emotional well-being and something that I'm extremely passionate about is mental health so if you're into any of that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and yeah in this video we're going to be talking about depression quite a bit and depression feeds into anxiety and speaking of anxiety my brand new book Rewire Your Anxiety is out now in both ebook and audiobook format and until sunday I'm running a sale so if you get a copy of Rewire Your Anxiety you get any of my other books one copy of those for free pretty sweet deal so make sure you check out the description and the pinned comment down below all right so yeah let's talk about dwarf mama and what's been going on with him and see what lessons we can take from it like if you're like me I've struggled with depression and anxiety for many many years all right and seeing dwarf mama talk about this I'm like oh my god dude preach it all right so just to give you a little bit of a backstory if you're not familiar with Logan Paul and dwarf mama and their whole crew and everything like that uh dwarf mama has been you know one of Logan Paul's best friends I believe they were roommates too and yeah they started out online and then when Logan Paul made the transition over to YouTube dwarf mama was all up in there all the time and everything and he kind of disappeared well anyways recently a lot of people say yo did you listen to this podcast because I I check out the impulsive podcast from Logan Paul every now and then but like not all the time and yeah um dwarf mama was recently on there and he got really vulnerable and talked about his mental health and everything like that on that and I had a lot of people message me about it well anyways dwarf mama just went on his own channel to open up and talk about his depression all right and there's so much so much that we could take from this I just felt lost and I felt like there was no one that could help me I feel like no one was understanding what I was going through because being a little person in an average person world and the one we get it you know no one would understand but after that podcast I realized that I need to be thankful for the people that have helped me that are willing to help me and instead of just running away from them just talk to them so I think the biggest the biggest takeaway the biggest takeaway from this entire video and I'm spoiling you by starting this video by letting you know what it is the biggest takeaway is looking at our own terminal uniqueness right so for example like dwarf mama talks about how he felt like nobody understood him nobody understood what he was going through because he hangs out with all these other people people don't understand what it's like to be his size and know what it's like to go through what he's been going through but he starts to realize that everybody's been through stuff right and this is something that I had to learn and I hope you learn it as well this is a lie that our depression our anxiety will tell us it will tell us that nobody understands what we're going through because it wants to separate us from other people who can help us so for me for example I stayed sick for many years not only was I struggling with depression and anxiety but I was an active drug addiction for almost a decade okay and I thought nobody can help me nobody can talk to me because nobody understands what I've been through nobody understands what it's like to grow up with an alcoholic mom for the first 20 years of my life nobody understood what it was like to grow up as me to start developing symptoms of depression and anxiety at such a young age nobody understood that right and these were lies that my brain was telling me so I wouldn't connect with other people and something that helped me out just tremendously tremendously was starting to realize that human suffering is part of the human experience right we all go through suffering okay it doesn't matter these little nuanced themes that have you been through this or have you been through that like here's the thing if you've ever experienced mental and emotional pain I get it I've been there too and we can talk about it all right and I'm so glad that dwarf mama came to that realization and he got that clarity that other people get it and in his case what happened was since he opened up about it he got flooded with messages and dms right some of them were from other people who are dwarfs as well and understand that but a lot of other people were just like yo like even though I'm not like I understand those feelings I understand that pain you know what I mean this is why I highly highly highly recommend that you get involved with support groups right whether it's support groups like in your city or just online like join a Facebook group it is so beneficial to just know that we're not alone also had a lot of anger inside um we'll have some anger inside now but I'm helping my uh get past that but yeah just angry at the world angry at people who didn't understand what where I'm coming from and there's also learning the relationships that I have with people who I love and are very close to me I also lost a relationship to a very close friend of mine because of my anger and my attitude that I had in certain situations so I can relate to that so much as well like I used to have so many anger issues like in fact my last book was called rewire your anger because anger absolutely ran my life and you might be able to relate to this right where depression or anxiety fuels anger and a lot of it is because we just don't know how to cope with it like in my case like I was angry that the rest of the world was so happy right I was angry that I was dealt such an awful awful hand in life and I hated other people for that I would just snap and explode and blow up on people right but part of it was too not only did I hate other people but I also hated myself you know what I mean so part of my mental health journey and this is something we all need to work on is self love and self compassion right and also self acceptance just learning to accept who we are you know what I mean I've been waking up every day forcing myself to work out and forcing myself just to have a positive attitude whether whether or not it doesn't feel right it is right and I was to think like waking up being positive all day you know that was cheesy that was that was just stupid you know I'm living in the world just has all these things you know I feel like I had to be negative you know that's not healthy it's not good and now that I've been waking up in a positive mood going out getting things done working out I feel fantastic all right right there right there that clip right there like I absolutely love it just love it aside from the whole terminal uniqueness that I talked about in the beginning like that is one of the best things because here's the thing part of depression is a lack of motivation we don't want to do anything and I love I absolutely love how dwarf mama talked about how he's just had to force himself to do things all right like sometimes the biggest task in the world can seem like just getting out of bed all right like something I talk a lot about in my books is like these baby steps just take these baby steps because we get flooded with so much information and so many suggestions like do this do that like go exercise go do yoga right go to therapy go take medication like whatever it is right and a lot of times we just have to start with one thing for me when I first started working on my mental health like the one thing I had to do that I forced myself to do every single day was just take a shower that was it like if I could just get myself to get out of bed and take a shower that was a successful day and here's the thing like for other people who don't struggle with depression or anxiety like that seems like what like oh okay you just did that one thing but like for us that's a big deal but dwarf mama like he's been killing it right he has been killing it and he gives so many suggestions about what you could start doing as well like he started to get physically active because something he was struggling with was isolating so he's getting out getting about and even if he doesn't like to you know go outside or go to the gym that specific day he talks about how he'll just like do some jumping jacks in the house or do some push-ups in the house just to get that blood flowing but you also need to understand that exercise moving this all triggers like endorphins serotonin so many things so just start to move a bit okay but then he also talks about how he was he started to read okay and one of the books that he talks about is like the four agreements like everybody loves that book one of my old clients actually gave me that book I still need to read it but I do highly recommend that as well like for a lot of us like we don't like going out we don't like hanging out with friends and things like that but just do something for your mental health and sometimes it's educating yourself about different techniques that you can start using all right and books have saved my life I personally just love being educated about mental health psychology neuroscience all those things all right like something we need to start doing is when we're taking breaks or we're having some of that leisure activity some of it should be to gain more knowledge and strengthen our mind especially when it comes to improving our lives also please do not be scared to talk to someone please do not you know I was scared to talk to my parents about it I was scared to talk to Logan about it I was scared to talk to anyone that was really really close to me it was hard to just talk about these things and I was scared to talk about these things because what if they look at me different what if they don't accept me who I was before but those are just stupid thoughts that I have and that's that's where the negativity came in also still right now I have negative thoughts but I'm but I'm catching these negative thoughts they get you nowhere being negative honestly get you nowhere and I know society portrays this perfect life you see on tv or on tv shows and movies that's not what life is so yeah I love how he talks about how he was so afraid to talk to other people and this is something again it's a lie that our brain tells us to separate us from other people like dwarf mambo didn't want to talk to Logan Paul about it he didn't want to talk to his other friends or his family members about this and we feel embarrassed but here's the thing like we've all been through it we've all been through that dark space like I don't care what you see on instagram or twitter or facebook people live in their quote unquote best life or whatever it is like we've all been through a struggle and there are people there who are willing to listen all right so make sure that you open up don't be embarrassed don't be shy about it like there might be some people out there like you might have some like jerk uncle who's like mr manly man he's like don't talk about your feelings all right well screw that dude okay find people who are willing to be open and honest about their experience as well I have given up um marijuana in my life right now some people it might help like obviously medically uh anxiety but if you're using it to numb out to cope with things you're not using it in a right way I've seen with alcohol not really seen with alcohol but people use it to abuse themselves and distract the feelings that they are facing or the challenges they are facing again that's not healthy so the last thing I want to talk about is that clip right there and yes part of it is because I'm a recovering drug addict and alcoholic and I've worked in addiction treatment and I'm a sober coach and all that stuff but he talks about quite a bit about how he was self-medicating with marijuana and booze and much like dwarf mama said like I don't have anything against smoking pot I don't have anything against drinking alcohol like for me personally as a recovering addict I can't do those things but like he came to the realization that he was doing it to self-medicate he was doing it to numb himself he was doing it to get out of his head all right like their substance use and then their substance abuse so what dwarf mama is actually doing is he's retraining his brain to do healthy coping skills rather than these toxic ones all right because what happens is like did you know the leading cause of addiction is an untreated or an undiagnosed mental illness such as depression such as anxiety because so many people self-medicate because when you're self-medicating if every time you're feeling sad or lonely or anxious or whatever it is and you turn to a substance you're training your brain that that is a solution and something that happens is you cross this invisible line where you completely lose control so I'm so glad that he's getting so many views on this and he's open and honest about how he was self-medicating and it was not the solution because we turn to it as a solution but it ends up causing even more of our problems you know what I mean but anyways I'm gonna link that video down below like check it out it is so inspiring so awesome and I can't wait to see him on his journey I don't know if he's gonna be you know doing more stuff with Logan Paul and you know the impulsive podcast or anything like that but I can't wait to see it's so so so awesome all right but anyways don't forget down in the description down in the pinned comment 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