 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC Survivor Live video. I know I used to say hello survivors or hello survivors and thrivers but I think from now on I think I'm going to start saying hello family because all of you you really are my family you've been there for me those of you from day one for over five and a half years now and you really supported my work in fact many of you have supported my life by watching the ads on the channel which helps to raise the revenue by donating booking coaching sessions and of course it's not just the financial support it's the encouragement the validation and just being there for me every day and that's why from now on I think I will say hello family because you are all really my family and I hope I'm family to you too but onto this message a very important video because as the title says yes you need to watch this right now before it's too late it's a very important message for you because a lot of people in this world they're wolves in sheep's clothing they'll act like they're on your side they're in your corner they've got your back and they may even say this to you as though they're actually there for you as though they actually care about you all the while they're just waiting on your downfall or they may even be plotting behind the scenes to take you down themselves or they may enforce other people to do their bidding on their behalf but either way they're not really there for you they're not really on your side they're not really in your corner they're manipulating you and they are secretly against you yes they secretly can't stand you and they may even make that known to you because sometimes they may want you to know that if it serves their agenda if it gets on what they want yes they will reveal that information to you and then in any moment they can switch back and act like they're on your side again but yes they are waiting on your downfall and they may even be plotting against you behind your back because despite what they may have displayed to you they may have celebrated your success they may have acted like they don't really care about it it's not a concern to them they may have downplayed it but the reality is they can't stand it it makes them a sick they envy you they despise you and they are so self-absorbed they're not even considering the fact that you may be an empath a chosen one and all of the good that you could do not only for yourself but for the people around you communities I don't know about you but if I became a millionaire you know what I'd really love to do I'd love to support children's charities and build schools especially in poor countries and that may be a dream for you too but they won't even consider that they won't even think about it they're just looking at it like they don't want you to have anything because they're constantly comparing themselves to you and seeing that they just never measure up seeing that you're better, you're greater seeing that you don't need them seeing that they need you and they can't stand you because of that because of your qualities, your abilities because of everything that you are and they'll make it out like it's because of some negative trait about you some negative aspects about your life they'll make it out as though that's the case when in actuality they are liars they're manipulators what they hate is everything that's good about you if it was something bad they wouldn't want to be anywhere near you they wouldn't get involved they wouldn't try to bring you down but these people will and do because they're envious and jealous of everything good about yourself they can't stand it and in fact you may notice they try to destroy anything good about you and they try to encourage anything negative so how could they ever come out and say that it's anything negative about you when they're encouraging that and they're trying to destroy anything that is positive about you this is how you know they're full of shit this is how you know they're liars and some of these people may be close to you I might be talking about your husband, your wife your boyfriend, your girlfriend it may even be your mother, your father your sister, your brother your friend your co-worker, your boss it could be someone that you see every day someone that you've known your entire life and yet believe it or not but this person is not on your side they're not in your corner they don't even care about you in fact they just they wanna see you down they wanna destroy you and why? it's because of their own shame their insecurities, their self-hatred it's because of the fact that they're not where they wish they were in life they don't have what they wish they had it's because they're envious and jealous of you it's because of their own childhood trauma because that's what it always comes back to but if you knew what a person went through in their childhood and then you examine what they're doing now it would make perfect sense you would understand completely because this is how it is with people what we've experienced in our childhood it creates these circuits these pathways in our brains based on our trauma and whether or not we resolved it how we reacted to it that determines how we're gonna behave later in life how we're going to treat certain people in our life so yes if you knew what they went through in their childhood it would make perfect sense but many of you you don't know about their childhood so it's not adding up you don't understand why things are the way that they are why they're causing problems for you why they hate you why they can't stand you because you can't see what's going on in their brain I mean if there was mapped out on a computer you could see their brain on a screen and you could observe and examine the neural pathways which causes them to experience certain thoughts which leads to certain feelings, actions and behaviors then it would all make perfect sense but at least as far as we know and I say as far as we know that technology is not available so we can't just map a person's brain and examine their neural pathways which are going to be highly influenced by their childhood experiences especially trauma, abuse and neglect but this is the reality of it and this is why so many people in this world today are dysfunctional and why they thrive in dysfunctional environments they thrive on breaking people down especially those that they are envious of and when it's someone who they see as being beneath them in every way they're not too concerned about people like that they might even try to do something for them they might be very generous towards them because they don't see that person as a threat they see you as a threat and it could be of anything it's something that they deem as a source of power and superiority this could be your physical appearance it could be your intelligence, your charisma your charm it could be your wealth your power, your success, it could be anything but it will be pretty obvious what it is because that's what they will indoctrinate you about they may criticise you about it they may try to destroy it, they may try to take it away because they're very uncomfortable with you being who you are yes that makes them uncomfortable because it's you and not them they're able to perceive of it they perceive of the things that they lack and that the deficient in very well because it's already in their minds they're already thinking about it about what they're missing, about what they don't have or about what they're not grateful for or satisfied with so of course they can see that in you of course it's irritating them because it's you and not them because you have it and they don't and that is why they're against you because you have what they want and again this could be anything it could even be just your happiness your carefree positive attitude your energy and enthusiasm yes it could just be that most importantly of all it's something to do with your empathy because this very rare trait that we empaths have a effect of empathy it gives us this ability to connect and experience things something of course that they can't do if they're seeking to destroy you if they're hating on your success it's because of your ability to connect and experience fulfillment something that they can't do so now they don't want you to have anything they don't want you to be anything that you have anything that you are it just reminds them of the fact that they cannot experience it but they're dissatisfied with themselves and their lives and nothing they do is ever going to change that no matter what they attain or achieve and it's because they're missing that empathy that affective empathy they have an inability to connect or experience satisfaction and fulfillment but you can and sometimes we look at it like what is their problem I mean can't they see the type of person that I am I'm empathetic I care about people I sacrifice myself at other people I give them everything I have and then we may come to the conclusion that maybe that's the problem our empathy is the problem because we care about people and they don't want us to do that they don't want us to help anyone but no that's not it yes our empathy is the problem but it's not the fact that we're helping other people remember they see in us as they see in themselves all they're concerned is their own consumption attaining as much as they can in life even if they have to rob you so they're looking at that in you and it's like no matter how little you have because of your empathy which gives you your joy, your happiness this ability to connect and to experience fulfillment in life yes because of that your experience in life in the fullest way and in a way that they can't and that's why they are envious of you it's concerned with your personal experience your consumption it has nothing to do with you helping anyone they don't really care about that they'd be glad if you help as many people as you can so that you lose everything at least then so you don't get to participate and enjoy it for yourself because that's what they're envious of and by knowing that it reveals the problem with them they're envious of your personal experience because they lack that they don't have a full experience of life how can they when they constantly compare their life to yours they have to get you to live vicariously through them or rather they have to live vicariously through you and get you to filter everything through them it just reveals a problem again they can't experience life to the fullest in the way that you do that intensity and I'm sure many of you know what I'm talking about I mean just as an example myself I am a vegan but I'm sure many of you like ice cream and you eat an ice cream and other people you may see they like ice cream it's good they enjoy it but for you when you eat an ice cream you really eat an ice cream you really feel the sensations you really taste it you experience the texture the aroma you give it attention to detail you experience everything at such a deep level in the way that they can't and when they see you do that and I'm not just talking about ice cream I mean anything in life when they see that it despises them it eats them alive and the reason why is because not only do they know that their life experiences have never been like that but they also know that it's never going to be like that for them and you're a constant reminder of that every time that they have to witness you experiencing anything it just reminds them of that fact that they're like zombies they're numb, they're disconnected they can't experience fulfillment in anything they don't get that rush of adrenaline like you do that passion, that excitement that feeling that sensation they don't get that and it's because they're so self-absorbed as I've said before in previous videos empaths make up just 1-2% of the world's population most people are just absorbed in themselves and in themselves they do not find fulfillment we find that through connecting with other people on a deep level through the use of our effective empathy and you may have noticed that when you connect to someone on that deep level or even you disconnect to yourself and then you experience something in the external world it intensifies it it makes it more intense for you it doesn't do that for them why do you think they're so self-absorbed because that doesn't do anything for them and this is just how it is this is what they're envious of it's because of your ability to experience life and everything in it on such a deep and intense level because this world, this life is not like that for them it's never been like that and they know it's never going to be like that this is why and a big part of it is the way that they are manipulators, they're decepticons they're always trying to get over on someone you, you just move through life with a sense of innocence without judging anything and that's how they're able to get around you because you're not even judging them you're not even vetting them you're just letting them in again that proves my point it's your innocence and just look at it with a child and just observe a child and how they move through life they find pleasure and satisfaction in the little things that most adults can't just simple things like eating an ice cream it's such an intense experience for them I think it described that to you in detail they can tell you it feels cold, it feels creamy it's sweet the narcissist just gulps it down and forgets about it they just eat it like a dog it's not like that for a child and it's not like that for you you experience this world people even animals and this life as a whole you experience it like a child everything's so magnificent everything's so new even if you've done it so many times before it's like every time is the first time it's not like that for most people but it's like that for you and you experience so much pleasure and excitement and everything you do I mean you could just be listening to a song and someone else could listen to that same song they wouldn't think much of it they wouldn't pay much attention to the lyrics they wouldn't really move them you could listen to that song and you could get such a euphoric feeling to where it really moves you it motivates and inspires you it makes you want to take action and improve your life or to be something for other people it's not like that for most people for most people it's just something they bop their head to they're not really thinking about it the lyrics don't mean anything the instrumentals all they really hear is just a beat but for you everything's so deep everything's so intense I tell you wonder why they're so unhappy with your success even those who may be more successful than you because they know it's not doing much for them and they know that you can experience such intense fulfillment with a lot less and then looking at it like I'm having to achieve more I'm having to over consume I'm having to do all of these things and you could just sit in your room with your headphones on and experience far more fulfillment than I can so what's wrong with me is how they see it because that's what many of you are like you could just sit alone and listen to music on your own with your headphones on your earphones in you could just sit back with a bag of potato chips maybe popcorn cup of coffee maybe a bit of chocolate watch one of my videos I get really involved in it I find so much information nourishment fulfillment in my content or it could just be a show or a movie reading a book and it's like you really resonate with the character you identify with them and their experiences what they're displaying what they're talking about it's like it becomes a part of you and it really inspires you makes you feel something you may not have realized this but for most people it's not like that they're not experiencing life in the way that you do as they've chosen one one empath and yet you wonder why they hate and resent you because it's not like that for them they can't get the same fulfillment as you do they really can't and they know it that's why they don't want you to have anything or be anything that's why they just can't stand it that's why the Rose trying to pile all of these duties and responsibilities on you they're trying to accuse or blame you or distract you or get you to focus on something else it's because of that connection that you have with anything that you're involved in because with you you're absorbed in it you're really involved in it you're focused on it and it's making you feel good in a way that they can't feel and that's why it's like anything you do they just can't stand it and I know this in my own experiences just little things sometimes like you could just be eating a bar of chocolate and it's winding them up you could just be reading a book you could just be looking at yourself in the mirror brushing your teeth and you like your appearance you're satisfied with yourself because they're not satisfied with themselves they're not satisfied with their lives you are and you've always been that way you've always felt satisfied with yourself and your life I mean things may not have been perfect but you've always loved yourself and that's why there's been a pattern throughout your life where it's like people have always put you down and targeted your self-esteem because you had something for them to target this is why most people don't get targeted in that way because they don't have anything or even if they do they're not even really that satisfied with it they don't even really care about it they may act like they do in your rounds but they don't really give a shit about it it's just because you're there and they know that you can experience life and satisfaction in a way that they can't and it makes them feel ashamed it makes them feel like there's something wrong with them so then they try to put that onto you but yeah this is really it this is the problem this is what we're dealing with for many of you, you may not have realised this until this point but this is really it and if you look back of what people have done to you and how they've treated you you will notice it you will really see it it's that connection that you experience with the world, with animals with people and things certain activities maybe certain foods just whatever it is you're absorbed in it, you're involved in it you're getting that satisfaction and fulfilment that they can't especially from simple things in life sometimes they do get fooled in a way but they think that it's only with something more if you have nice things, luxurious things but what really injures them more than anything else is when you're just able to have nothing and be nothing and just enjoy simple things because then they look at it like this is just something simple anyone could have that so why can't I experience that in the way that you do it's how they see it and that's why it makes it far worse because at least if it's something that's on a certain level their excuse in their minds could be okay first I have to attain it but if it's already within their grasp and they still can't get that same fulfilment from it then instantly they know that something is wrong with them so that's really the worst of all when you're able to experience just the little things in life that you can't as I said it could just be something like you watch a movie a TV show, listen to a song read a book enjoy the food and you're already absorbed in it you're already enjoying it and they're seeing you and it reflects back to them and how their life experience is not that way because they lack affective empathy which means they have an inability to feel what you feel they can't feel what you feel they can't share other people's experiences and that's really it it's a big problem for them and it's why they will hate you and resent you and want to destroy you and that's another thing as well because even if they do succeed in destroying you it actually makes them feel worse it brings up more shame it haunts them and they just end up feeling even more dissatisfied because it's like okay I've eradicated it I've eliminated the problem, this reflection of my own insecurities of my own lack of fulfillment why am I still miserable? why am I still dissatisfied? and at that moment it's like there's not much else they can do other than try to return to the love bombing and build you back up again just so they can break you down that's why it's a cycle love bombing, devaluation discard, hoovering back to the love bombing again because even when they do discard and destroy you it's still not enough if anything they're more dissatisfied than when they were love bombing you in the first place so it never gets them what they want it never gets them anywhere and I've said it before in previous videos the best thing they could ever do is just continue with the love bombing that's where they would find the most satisfaction but of course as we know they can't because at some point you start to notice cracks in their armor you start to see their flaws and imperfections and it makes them feel bad about themselves and then they've got to project that onto you through devaluing you treating you like a nothing and then they've got to discard you once you start to figure them out and then they've got to spend some time away from you and only then can they hoover you and then return to the love bombing but the more they do that it just gets shorter and shorter and it's not as intense as the first time but they're really stuck in this cycle and it's really a curse more for them than it is for you because they're the ones who are controlled by these cycles you don't need them you can operate without the cycles or the abuse you can experience fulfillment on your own they can't they're imprisoned by their own cycles that they impose on you yes they're imprisoned by that their narcissism is a prison it keeps them enslaved and that is why we try to enslave you that is why they manipulate and control you because they are constantly and endlessly being manipulated controlled and even deceived by their own disorder now just think about that as they do to you it's what they're already experiencing themselves as this curse this effect of their own mental illness to which they try to distract themselves by putting it on to you but it never goes away it's still theirs and you can choose to dis-identify with it whenever you want they can't because it is theirs they are imprisoned and enslaved by their own mental disorder and this is why they act in the way that they do some food for thought I know I've touched on some things that you may not hear in any other videos on my channel or on other channels but I stand by what I say and I do believe that it is true as many of you may know I've been doing this studying this disorder for six years I started this channel five and a half years ago I've made thousands of videos couched hundreds of clients I've been studying psychology for about 20 years so I'm quite confident in what I say and what I talk about and I do believe that everything that I've said in this video is true this is the reality of it and I hope that you will use this information for your own awareness and also to protect you from these predators because that's what they are they prey on the innocent and the reason why is because of your connection that you have in this world they prey on you because of your innocence because of the way that you can be involved and absorbed in an activity in the way that they can't they don't have that type of energy they can't experience that type of fulfillment and that's why not because they're like you not because they're innocent because they're manipulative and exploitative, they're predators they want to rob you of your innocence that's why in any opportunity they try to corrupt and contaminate your mind to disconnect you from that that they cannot experience because they're envious of it and that is where they hate you that is where they want to destroy you and I hope that I've done the title justice you need to watch this right now before it's too late because I do believe that the sooner you watch this the sooner that you are aware of it and I do believe that I have given some cutting edge information in this video I do believe that it will be very helpful for you so if this video was helpful to you you can give it a thumbs up down below very important as it will help to get this message out there so that other people may see it as well and who knows they may not find this type of information anywhere else so it's very important that we all work together and it only takes two seconds to hit that thumbs up button down below and let me know your thoughts about 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