 Watch this before the narcissist ruins your life. While some narcissists can be covert and they hide their true intentions, other narcissists can be overt. They will reveal their true nature to you right from the beginning. They will reveal their grandiosity. They will reveal their arrogance and strong sense of entitlement. But they can be very convincing. They can make you think that they are deserving of whatever they are requesting from you. From the moment you meet them, they will be making demands. They will be telling you what they want from you. When you meet them, they will always be changing plans with you. They will be very manipulative. And this behavior is designed to influence and control you. They will tell you what you're supposed to do in the relationship. They will assign certain tasks and roles to you. They will shame you into doing things that you don't want to do. Things that they can't do themselves. Whatever they can't do or don't want to do. They will assign to you. They will make it your responsibility. They will say that it's what you're supposed to do as the man or woman in the relationship. But really, they're just counting on you being gullible and easily deceived. They're counting on you not knowing your worth. Not knowing what you're really worthy of. They're trying to trick you by making you think that you have to prove yourself. You have to earn their validation by doing all of these things for them. By trying to satisfy their insatiable desires. They want you to be chivalrous. They want you to accommodate them. They want you to attend to them. They want you to buy them stuff. But they want to have their cake and eat it too. So while you're doing all of this stuff for them, they want to remain independent. They want to remain free from your influence and authority. They want to act like they're self-sufficient and self-supporting. They want to act self-important and difficult to please. As though nothing you do is good enough because they're just taking advantage of you. They're just concerned with meeting their superficial needs. Narcissists are takers. They come into your life to take whatever you've got to use whatever you have to offer. It's better to be involved with someone who is willing to invest in you. Someone who is willing to provide you with a particular quality or attribute. Someone who takes your feelings and needs into consideration. Someone who wants to surprise you with thoughtful gestures because they're invested in you. They value you and they will show you just how much they appreciate you. They will want to pay their way rather than expecting you to pay for them. They will want to make a contribution to you because they're invested in you. They value you because they have value to give to you. A high value person always has something to bring to the table. They always have something to share with you. And this is the type of person that you should want to keep in your life. Because they're going to benefit you. They're going to be able to build something with this type of person. Rather than them taxing your mental and emotional health. Rather than it taking its toll on your emotional well-being. You're going to feel good when you're around this type of person. Rather than being around a narcissist who is just going to sponge on you. They're trying to exploit you. They're trying to take things from you while giving you nothing in return. They're not going to cooperate with you. They're not going to support you. They're not going to accept your guidance or direction. Because all they want is what you've got. They want everything that you worked hard for. Without giving you the compliments and praise that you deserve. Because they don't think they should have to bring anything to you. They don't think they should have to give anything to you in return for what you're giving to them. They expect you to see it as a privilege just to be around them. Because they're very arrogant. They have an exaggerated sense of their own abilities and importance. Which results in their strong sense of entitlement. It makes them feel like they have a right to privileges and special treatment. They don't like you for who you are. They just see you as an object. And they're only concerned with what you can provide to them. Which is how they will eventually ruin your life. Because all they're going to do is take everything you've got. Everything you've worked hard for that makes you who you are. They will strip all of that away from you. And leave you as nothing but a shell of who you used to be. They will milk it for all it's worth. No matter what you do for them. They will always want more. They get bored very easily. They need constant entertainment. So they will always demand for you to do things for them and to take them places. You will never have any time for yourself. You will always feel like you have to do something to keep them entertained. So that they don't leave you or get mad at you. You always have to make them happy. You always have to please them or get them to agree on something. There is no such thing as a relationship with a narcissist. It's always transactional. They're only focused on the exchange. But if you ask them to do anything for you, they will get mad. Because they just want to use you. So if you start requesting anything from them, they will just leave and find someone else. Because they want to maintain their freedom from you. They want you to attach to them. But they don't want to attach to you. But they still want you to give them stuff. They still want you to provide for them while they don't listen to you or cooperate with you. Which is why you need to avoid these types of narcissists before they ruin your life. When you're with these types of narcissists, it will drain you. You will feel like you're doing a lot while you're not receiving anything back in return to replenish yourself. You will be constantly attending to them, paying for all of their stuff. You will lose a lot of money from dealing with them. You will lose a lot more than you gain. It will just leave you thinking about how much easier your life would be without them. How much more time, energy and money you would have to take care of yourself rather than wasting it all on someone who doesn't appreciate you. Someone who isn't giving you anything back in return. Which is why you should cut them off. You should get rid of them. Because there are people out there who are willing to invest in you. People who will recognize your value. People who will do things for you because they want you to trust them. They want you to see that they're not trying to use you. So they will do things for you to prove that to you. Because the thing with many of these narcissists is that they have their own money. They have their own lives. But they want to keep you separate from all of that. They want to keep it all for themselves. While demanding that you give everything to them. Because they're selfish. And also because it supports their exit plan. Because when someone invests a lot of their time and money into something they're less likely to leave. They're not going to put all of that work into something and then just leave. The narcissist knows that if they don't invest anything into you it's going to be easier for them to leave. And it's going to be harder for you to leave. This is how they trap you. This is how they ruin your life. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching Inquiries. You can email me at coaching.narchsurvivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.