 The Holy Spirit can equally and easily prompt you to say no as yes. And that's the meaning of it in the Bible. Let your yea be yea and let your nay be nay. It's right there in the Bible. And really, as you know it with our community here and around the world, we just had those two guidelines. No people pleasing and no private thoughts. And that saying no is absolutely essential. In fact, Noah and I were talking about that. When she was going to give her concert today, she kind of went, oh, it's time. And she came in and she just sat down. But she really didn't feel it. She didn't feel to give the concert at that moment. And so we talked about that at dinner. It would have been perfectly fine and wonderful to just say, no, I don't feel it. And ask if anybody else wanted to play the keyboard, lead the session, and to just say no as they say with the drugs. Just say no in that moment. And that's one thing that's so beautiful. We have so many mind companions here. We have a team of those that are willing to shine and share and express. And we don't want anybody to feel like they have to do something out of a sense of duty or obligation or any other motive except the joy of the Spirit prompting you to do it. So that was just another good example of even like a nuance of saying, no, like no, I don't feel it right now. And then there can be a time when she could have felt it or it could have played out however. But no is an absolutely essential word in the Holy Spirit's vocabulary. And I know I could tell you parable upon parable. I've told this one many times, but there was a woman named Ruth who came to live at the Peace House. She seemed to be from the world's perspective, had a very untrained mind, but yet she was guided to come there and she had worked in the circus. She was working through a lot of issues, a lot of anger at God, a lot of anger at men, and a lot of different kind of issues, but there was a time when she lived there at the Peace House and she would come to me and I would say to her, if you have any question at all that has to do with perception, your mind, healing, forgiveness, come to me whenever you can even wake me up in the middle of the night if you have something like that to request of me. But if it's just ask me to do this and do that and so on and so forth, it's really not the best use of my time. My time is used by the Holy Spirit, you know, in this healing and so I was just giving her the invitation in terms of healing. And yeah, that was a thanks for her. She just had a lot of, we could say, need and lack to the point of give me, give me. Some of you might have seen the movie What About Bob, the Bill Murray character. I need, I need, I want, I want. That was like Ruth. And so when I was there and also when we would have roommates that would come in, her philosophy seemed to be something like, give me an inch and I'll take a mile. It was like a rope. It was like, can you help me out with one little thing and then two hours later, there's gimme, gimme, gimme, want, want, lots of other things. And it was great because I was just flowing with the Holy Spirit and after I told her, if you have a request for healing, I'll join with you, but I'm, I really am not interested in the other. She would ask me to do all these kind of things for her. And, and I remember one day just going, I'd be doing something, she'd ask me, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. The whole thing. It was like, and I was perfectly joyful too. It was like these requests, you know, like, oh man. And, and then if she ever had a question about her mind or wanted to join in healing or had a question about forgiveness, perception, I was fully there for her. I would spend hours with her on one of those requests. But with all these other kind of ego, gimme, gimme, want, want whims, it was just no, no, no. And the funny thing was, a man moved into the Peace House too and he had a huge issue about saying no. He was, he was raised in these New South Unity churches where yes was saying yes to God. Like, like the, like the movie that came out a year or two ago, Yes Man with Jim Carrey, where he says yes to every request. Well, this man who moved into the Peace House, Mark, he had, he could not say no. He felt like to say no was to reject. He had equated no with rejection and yes with positive joy and love and acceptance. And he was, he simply would, he would have a pattern of saying yes to everything that anybody requested of him in his life and getting more and more angry and feeling like he was coerced and overburdened and totally overwhelmed by saying yes to everything from, for everyone. And so that was his main issue. So when he moved in, he and Ruth were now roommates. And I just sat back and watched and I went, oh man. And he started right away when, when she was like, can you help me move my bed and can you help me do this and can you help me do that? And she would, and he would say yes, yes, yes. And then he would just get all this anger coming up as he said yes to her every egoic request. And he felt more furious and furious and then he would kind of explode in anger. She would kind of step back and then she would go right back with him, you know, the next day with another hundred requests. And he would just get more frustrated day after day. It was an assignment. This was a forgiveness assignment from the man who couldn't say no to the woman who couldn't help but asking for her and to do everything for her. And that was, again, you have to, after a while you start to see how the Holy Spirit works these things. It was really cute to see them go through. And they both did go through great healing. You'll find that, you know, it will help you so much like in relationships. You've got a boyfriend, a girlfriend, a husband, and his wife. And you're kind of caught into a bit of people-pleasing, you know. You want to be liked, you want to be adored. So, okay, I'll do it, you know. What? Will you watch the wrestling match with me? Yeah, yeah, I will watch the wrestling match. And we'll do this, and this, and this, and then there's the hope that, you know, okay, we'll go to the movie on the weekend or something in exchange or something like this. It's not good to be in bargaining relationships where you're doing trade-offs, you know, constantly compromising with a partner, you know. Okay, we'll do it your way but then we're going to do it my way. You know, what are we reinforcing? Your way and my way. You know, it's really tuning into your guidance and your prompts. When you really do that, you can confidently say no. Usually, this is how the Holy Spirit says no. No, but thank you for asking. That's how the Holy Spirit says no. It's a firm no. It's not a maybe. It's not a wishy-washy. It's no, no thanks. I remember my biological mother was always asking me, as I'm going through this mind training and doing more with miracles and everything, it's come to the family gathering, the birthday for whatever, the niece of the nephew or aunt or whatever, and it's like request, request, request, you know, for football games or Thanksgiving, all these holiday requests. It just got to the point where the Holy Spirit was using me so much, I really didn't have the time. I wasn't guided to go to a lot of those old events that I used to always go to because I was into following the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit was always so gentle. It was always like, no thanks. No, but thanks for asking. And occasionally, I would get a yes. Like, can you come to your niece's birthday party? Yes, I'll be there. At the beginning too, these were like, like sometimes weeks in advance and I was learning to be very spontaneous and just follow what my heart was telling me. And so, oftentimes I would get a request for, can you come to this party or this gathering, get together, family get together in three weeks, on Wednesday, the November, whatever. And I would say, they don't have a feeling, strong feeling right now, but closer to time, I'll let you know. That's just what started coming through. And for my biological mother, she'd say, what do you mean? Tell me now. And I'd say, I don't know right now. But I'll let you know what I'm guided to do. Well, this went on for a couple of years. You'll let me know what you're guided to do. Since when are you listening to guidance? I've raised you up from a baby and all these years it can hardly get you to go to church. And I'll wait till I see what I'm guided to do. I took a lot of that. But see, I was saying I'm just going to be honest and really feel what I'm feeling. And at some moments I was just like, I don't feel anything right now, but I'll let you know closer to time. And for her, that was just an absolutely unacceptable answer. What do you mean? So she pressed me on it. And I said, I don't know. I haven't received my guidance yet. But see, after a while of me saying that every single time or yes or no or I'll let you know closer to time, I think it must have dawned. It was finally reflected back to me like, he's very sincere about this guidance thing. He's not joking about the guidance. It's like the guidance is obviously pretty important. And then that was just a reflection that I was being very very sincere about the guidance and not trying to play any games about it. Just being very straight and honest. It's beautiful how it works. But the first time you're guided to do it can be such a change of a pattern that somebody, the doubt that can get reflected back like since when do you get guidance or since when do you consult guidance? Since now. I'm trying, please. I'm really going for this. I really am and that's what I would say. I'm trying to play a game with it. Just be authentic to what's going on.