 Hello world. Just out here living life. The narcissist's biggest mistake. I know it's hard sometimes when the narcissist leaves you they make it seem like they've moved on and they're so much happier without you. They're living their best lives and you're just left on your own in the pit of misery that they have created for you and I know I often talk about karma and also I always say how we shouldn't even get revenge on the narcissist. There's really just no need for you to even do that because karma will take care of them and narcissists are actually their own worst enemies. They often end up shooting themselves in the foot. If you give them enough rope they will hang themselves. So yeah this is the narcissist's biggest mistake and they do make a lot of mistakes because they're very reckless, they're very careless. They just don't care about life, about their future, about their bodies. They just don't care about anything. They don't care about the consequences of their actions. They're never thinking before they do things. This is just how they choose to live their lives and the reason why you don't need to get revenge and how karma will take care of them is through the consequences of their own actions. What goes around comes around. In the beginning it may look like they're doing well. It may look like they're happy without you but as time goes by it will catch up to them. You see the reason why it doesn't get them straight away is because while they were with you things were good. You were good to them. You were a nice person. So even though they screwed you over you may not have tried to get revenge. You may not have tried to bring them down. So they won't initially have any consequences of their actions from there but you have to remember that not everyone is like you. It's a cold world. Some people are very dark and mean, very vindictive and they're definitely not going to put up with the narcissist. They go into fight back. They go into want revenge and some of them have nothing to lose. So they're just like the narcissist and actually many of them are narcissists. So the narcissist will find another narcissist and this is why their biggest mistake is taking you for granted and leaving you because they end up finding people who do what they did to you to them. They end up finding other narcissists, opportunists, people who are looking for an opportunity, a quick come up but in many situations the narcissist that they find is more aware, has more experience in doing this, more skills and they will get your narcissist caught up. They will get them stuck and that's why they kind of, it's like they don't have the time to talk to you as much as they did before because this new person has got them caught up in all kinds of things that you are unaware of. So let's go back to the devalue. Remember how they insulted you and put you down. Remember everything you did for them. All of the money you spent. You took them on trips. You bought them things. You let them stay in your home. Maybe you cooked them food. You did all of these things for them and they were never happy. They were never grateful. They were never appreciative. They were always looking for a new shiny toy. They were looking for the bigger, better deal. They were looking for something where they could get a lot in return for them doing practically nothing. That's what they wanted but with that mentality they didn't expect to end up with someone who was going to trick them. Someone who was going to take advantage of them. They didn't expect that but that is what's happening. This new person is lying to them. They're giving the narcissist stories to keep their attention. To keep them engaged. It's a scheme and it works very well on people who have just left a relationship. So the narcissist will become attached to them but this new person is not in it for the long run. They're not looking for anything serious. They may say that they are but they're just in it for fun. But as time goes by the narcissist starts to catch on. They start to realize that they're actually getting less out of this new situation than what they were getting with you. A lot less and not only a lot less but many times they're getting nothing and in fact they're actually losing everything by being with this new person. They never anticipated that. They never prepared for that. So they may have ended up marrying this new person. Having children with them. Maybe they bought a house or a car and the new person just goes along with it because they're a narcissist as well. They don't really care about anything. They don't care what happens in the future because they don't plan on sticking around that long anyway. But the narcissist has given all of their time to this new person. Their money and it's because they just didn't know that this person is a narcissist. That this person is deceiving them. So at some point it all ends. It's all over. It pulls apart. The narcissist is left with nothing and the new person just goes on and finds another unsuspecting victim once they're done with your narcissist and they're just left confused. They don't know what just happened. But yeah I mean this is what we have to understand. The narcissist gives you this dream as though they've moved on to this perfect situation. And now despite how everything was bad with you, suddenly everything's right for them. Now they've found a perfect situation. Everything they've been looking for. Or at least that's what they want you to believe. The reality is that when you lose the narcissist to another person, this person is often a narcissist as well. And the reason how that works is because they know how to manipulate. They know how to persuade your narcissist. They know how to impress them. As an example with the women, the female narcissist, what they will do is they will post pictures on social media, pictures of them half naked in bikinis or underwear, revealing outfits, seductive poses. Because they know that these types of things are going to lower in male narcissists. Or just in general people who are looking for that kind of thing, superficial things. They're just looking for something that they can consume to gratify themselves. They're not looking to build or give anything. So it's not going to be anything good but they use that to trick people. And with the male narcissist, they will use their money, power, and it pulls in these kinds of people who are easily impressed. People who are looking for the shiny new toy, the next bigger, better deal. And that's how it was with your narcissist. Because they thought they found something better. They thought they could get something out of it. They are very gullible, especially when they first meet someone, especially after they've just left someone. They're very easy for other narcissists to take advantage of. And that's why you see them when they've left and they meant to have moved on. They really go above and beyond for this new person. They go over the top. Everything is so exaggerated. They blow things up. They're constantly complimenting this new person. They just admire them. They do things that normal people probably wouldn't do. And yeah, it's because they just have no dignity. They have no shame, no respect for themselves. But this is how they stay ahead of other people, other people who are competing for this new person's attention. That's how they get the advantage because they are willing to do things that most people would not do. So that is how they gain the new person's attention. Then the new person is all in. But they are not aware that they're dealing with a narcissist. They don't suspect that at all. They think they've found someone better than you. But that's really, that's how it goes so well in the beginning. Because it's two narcissists together. They both know what the other person wants. So they both sell a dream to each other. They're giving each other a fantasy. They're giving each other lies and future faking. And they're both just consuming everything for themselves. It's like two narcissists after all you can eat buffet. They're just scoffing everything. It's just all about them, all about each other. They're not sharing or giving anything. They're just taking as much as they can for themselves. But they will manipulate, especially with male narcissist. I'm sure you all know the good morning, beautiful. Every day when you wake up in the morning, there's always a text message there for you. And that's what the new person will do with a narcissist if she is a female. And it's to make her feel special, to make her feel wanted. Because after she's been involved with you and you've seen what she's really like, that's the last thing on your mind. You're thinking about all the things she did to you. So now it's very easy for another narcissist to come in and throw out the compliments. Because at that point, they weren't affected by anything. They haven't had to deal with anything with the narcissist. So it's very easy for them to do that. They know how to lure people in. People who have an argument with their partners, people who are going through a difficult time. They know how to come along with a dream, a fantasy of something better and greater. And they don't ever actually have to make it a reality. They just have to plant the seed in a person's mind to make you think about it, to make you fantasize about it. And that's what this new person is doing with the narcissist. It's just all lies and future faking. But it worked. It got them. Because if you remember when the narcissist was with you, it's like one day they just suddenly left. They said they had to be somewhere. They had to do something. Or maybe you had an argument and they used that as an excuse. And then you just didn't hear from them. And unknowingly to you, they were already with this new person. And yeah, I mean, when there's two narcissists together, it does work very well in the beginning. It does. It's like a game of tennis. Both hitting the ball back and forth. They both know what each other wants. They both know how to manipulate. They're both putting on an act. They're both playing the game. So they know what to say. They know what to do. But of course, it's all fake. The narcissist biggest mistake. They thought they could do better than you instead of being grateful for what they had with you. Instead of realizing that what they had was already good. No, it wasn't enough for them. They had to go on and try and find something better. They were looking for the better deal. They were always on their phones, always on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, looking at other people's lives, seeing what other people are doing, seeing what their relationships are like. And then they were comparing their situation and thinking in their minds that it didn't measure up. It wasn't good enough. So they were looking on social media, talking to other people until inevitably they saw something that they liked and wanted. Thank you for the donation, Neomass. I appreciate it. Yeah, they saw something that they wanted. And that is when they started to insult you and put you down and make you feel like you're nothing. Make you feel like you're not good enough. And then they cheated on you. They invested their emotions into someone else. They pushed you away. Suddenly there's all these arguments for no reason. And you're looking at them thinking, why can't we just get along? What did I ever do to you that was so bad? You're thinking in your mind, all I ever did was try to make you happy. All I ever did was try to make things right. But it's like no matter how much you did, it was never enough because they have this void inside of themselves that can never be filled. The reason why you were never enough for the narcissist is because they were never enough for themselves. And that's why they were always distracted. They were always looking elsewhere. They were always flirting with other people. Trying to find that enoughness for themselves. Because it got old with you. It got boring. They lost interest. They lose interest in everyone. Every supply has an expiry date. It loses its potency. It's no longer as powerful as it was in the beginning. So of course they got to get out of there. They got to leave. They got to find someone else. Someone who can give them that feeling again. Like, yes. Yes, I am powerful. I am successful. I am beautiful. I'm someone because that's what they're really looking for. When they leave you and they try to find someone else, it's just that validation. It didn't mean anything from you anymore. When you told them nice things about themselves. When you complimented them. And of course when you've been with someone for a long time. There's a point where you don't just keep giving them a compliment every single day. But yeah, they wanted constant attention. Constant compliments and praise. And that's why it was so easy for someone to just pull them away from you. Someone who they thought was a better deal. But they didn't realize that they were being tricked. They were being deceived. Because here's the thing. When the narcissist gets lured away by another narcissist. Both of them are not saying who they are. And not only that. They both have other people in their lives. Other sources of supply. Other people that they are entertaining. Which they may not even be revealing to each other. And they're both trying to get one over on each other. They're both trying to cheat each other. They're both trying to coerce each other into doing what they want. And this becomes a big problem. This is where they experience a lot of arguments. Because they both want power. They both want control. They can't both have that. They can't both have equal amounts of power and control. Someone has to sit down. Someone has to submit. But neither of them are going to do that. They're going to fight. They're going to have a power struggle. But they're both trying to gain power over one another. So as time goes by. As they're investing more of their time. Energy and money. At some point they realize this isn't going anywhere. I'm not getting anything out of it. I'm not gaining an advantage over this person. And then they start to catch on. That they were just sold a dream. They were given a fantasy. They were lied to. Because this new person that they're with. All of these promises that they gave them in the beginning. None of that has come into reality. They never did all of the things that they said they were going to do. And the narcissist may have realized. They may have found out that this person doesn't even have the means. They haven't got the money to make these things happen. They haven't got the abilities. The skills. And that is when the narcissist begins to catch on. And realize that they have been tricked. They've been made a fool of. By someone who is just like them. Someone who only cares about themselves. Someone who's only concerned with their own self-interest. Because the narcissist lost a lot. When they were trying to acquire this new person. They lost everything. And this is their biggest mistake. You see because. They thought. They were going to get one over on you. They were going to be better and greater than you. In a superior position. So. They treated you like shit. They talked down on you. Made you feel like you're nothing. After everything you did for them. All of the time and money you invested into them. Maybe you let them stay in your home. You let them drive your car. Bought them food clothes. Took them on trips. I know they're coming back at you. Telling you you're nothing. When they never did nothing for you anyway. But then they can say that to you. They tell you they don't need you anymore. But then this new situation. That they move on to. It all breaks down. It all falls apart. Because. The new person is a narcissist too. So they were both trying to deceive each other. It was all fake. After they treated you like shit. They said all of these horrible things to give. Made you feel like you're nothing. And then they just threw you under the bus. Because they thought they had the winning lottery ticket. They thought they had won the jackpot. Now that they would never need to talk to you again. They could just forget about you. Discard you. Leave you in the trash. Because they've got something shiny and new. Something more valuable. But that way of thinking. That mentality. Is what gets them in a lot of trouble. Because as I said at the beginning. They're very reckless. They don't think about the consequences of their actions. They're not thinking about what might happen in the future. They're just thinking about the here and now. And that wasn't good enough for them. So they got rid of you. Because they thought they had this perfect person. This perfect situation. And yeah they thought it's gonna fix everything for them. Everything they want. Everything they've been looking for. This is it. But it didn't turn out the way that they expected. They ended up being misled. And then when that happened. There's just no way to be bound. They're gone. They disappear. Especially if you knew how it went down. Then they're really gone. You just can't even get a hold of them. And they just. They can't come back to you. No that's the last thing they're gonna do. Especially if you know what happened to them. If you knew that they were tricked. They were deceived. Someone took advantage of them. No there's no way they're not gonna come back to you now. They can't even look at your face. They're too embarrassed. They're too ashamed. Because remember they say all of these things. All of these big things they're gonna do without you. They're gonna have this better life. With this better person. And you're nothing. They're gonna be going on trips. Traveling the world. They're gonna go to New York or Dubai. They're gonna live their best lives. They told you all of that. But then they realized this new person ain't about shit. This new person ain't about nothing. They just put on an act. They were playing a role. So now they just have to accept that they cannot come back to you. And yes they may want to. Of course they may miss the lifestyle that you provided to them. The benefits and conveniences. Narcissists love that stuff. But they can't even look you in the eye anymore. They're too embarrassed and ashamed. Because they told you they're moving on to a better situation with someone who cares about them. Someone who's there for them. Someone who has money all these things. So what do they need you for? That's how they're telling you how they're thinking. But now the reality is they're working overtime. They're working all day and all night. They're driving themselves into the ground. Now they're not the end of the day. They come home to their little studio apartment and they're surrounded by cockroaches. And they're microwaving some ready meal at night. Eating rayman noodles from Tesco. And yeah it's just a joke. It is embarrassing and they know it. But they don't want you to know about it. So naturally they will hide that from you. They will disappear. They'll disappear off the face of the earth. You may never hear from them again. They're not going to come back to you. Because they don't want you to know about it. And many times you won't know. Because they're very good at creating the illusion. They were very good at doing that when they first targeted you. You believed it. You fell for it. And they're just doing the same thing again. Making it look like it's something better than what it actually is. So you might think that they've moved on and they're with this new person. They're in this perfect situation. Everything's great. Like a fairy tale. Everything they've ever wanted. Yeah that's what they wanted to believe. They've loved you to think that. But I'm telling you if you could be a fly on the wall you would be laughing at them. Because what they're doing is nothing to be boasting about. You would be laughing. Because they thought they had the winning lottery ticket. They thought they had won the jackpots. They thought this new person was everything they wanted. Everything they'd be looking for. Because that's how the new person displayed themselves. That was the narcissist too. So they created this character. They're larger than life. They're everything you could want. But of course as time went on the narcissist realized that was a bunch of bullshit. And when they realized that they're just gone. You don't hear from them. They don't contact you. If you contact them they don't respond. Because they're embarrassed. They don't want you to know about their living conditions. They don't want you to know what they're going through. What little bit of money that they have to reserve for their food, their accommodation, their studio apartment, their ramen noodles, their microwave meals. They don't want to know. They don't want you to know that they have to go for that. It's embarrassing for them. They don't want to give you the satisfaction. They don't want you to laugh at them. Because after everything they said to you have they said you're nothing. And I mean many of you who watch my videos I've talked to a lot of you with my coaching and yeah you're all very attractive successful people. I've talked to lawyers and doctors. People with their own businesses. And I know you've experienced the same thing as me. You've been through it. You've had this narcissist who ain't doing shit telling you you're nothing. And then you go out of the home you're doing all these big things. You're a lawyer, a doctor, someone with your own business. You've got all these people working for you and they all look up to you and admire you. You're like a celebrity outside of the home. You're like a superstar. And then you come back home and you're nothing. Or at least that's what this person who really ain't about shit wants you to think. It's crazy how they warp your mind. They lower your self-esteem. It's like they're all the way up there thinking they're so much better than what they actually are. They've accomplished nothing in life. They go nothing. They never worked for nothing. And they think they're so much better than you because they're working overtime to bring your self-esteem down to make you feel like you're nothing. But let me tell you every day when you wake up remind yourself of the things that you are grateful for. Don't let them tear you down. You know in fact what they're doing is they're projecting how they feel about themselves onto you. That's what they're doing. So you have to remind yourself of your value, of your worth. Remind yourself how great you are. They made you think that they didn't need you because you're nothing. It's like they're invincible. They can do anything. They can just leave you and move on to anything they want. Something way better than you. And yeah when it all goes down they don't want you to know about that because that is a real defeat for the narcissist. And it really brings them down. It humbles them because it's not that easy for them to find a suitable replacement. They try to replace you with someone they thought was better. And yeah if they just got tricked didn't go very well for them. Even if it took some time for it to surface. So especially after that they are going to start to realize you're like one in a million. It's not so easy for them to replace you because they thought they had found someone and then they realized they went about anything. And they wasted all of their time and money on that. So of course at some point they do not so much realize your value as a person. I mean this is a narcissist we're talking about. They can't really do that but it's more the benefits and the conveniences. They definitely start to realize the value of that. I mean they kind of knew that all along. I mean that's why they were with you. But they never wanted you to know that. They stayed with you for so long because they know how valuable what you have to offer is. They just don't want you to know about it because that's how they contain you. That's how they keep you under their control. By thinking, by making you think that this is as good as it gets for you. Then you're not going to look elsewhere and think that you can do better than them. Which is the last thing they want you to think. They want you to think that they're as good as it gets for you. Even though they're the ones who are weak and not doing anything for you. You are the one who is putting out and yet they're the ones with this delusional mentality to think they can do better than you. It's kind of like they've stolen the perception that you should have because you're the one who is doing everything. I mean but yeah that's just how it ends up is that they are the ones who think they can outdo you when they've just never really done anything. It's crazy when you think about it but this is just the delusional distorted mentality of a narcissist. So yeah but you know there is a way that you may catch it when things go down with a new person. When they start having arguments when things fall apart they may try to hide it from you but that's how you know because when they hide it from you when they stop posting all these stupid pictures on social media that's when you should know that something is wrong something has changed because why aren't they posting those pictures anymore? They were showing you all of these pictures before where have they gone now? When was the last time you saw any pictures of them and the new person and that should reveal to you that things have probably already fallen apart because you would have seen something by now when a narcissist has something to brag and boast about you will see it they're going to make sure you see that. So this is how you know when things aren't going well because you just don't see anything anymore they disappear they don't want you to know about it after they told you you're nothing after they said they can do better than you but when the tables turn and you end up doing better than them they hate that they won't come back to you you won't cure from them again because they are embarrassed it's humiliating for them especially if you know what happened with them they're just waiting for it if they come back they just know you're going to be laughing at them you're going to be making jokes at their expense and if you do I don't blame you after everything they said about you how they just threw you under the bus and then if in some rare case they do come back and they try and get something from you again why shouldn't you laugh at them they deserve it after how they treated you if they end up in some shitty situation where things aren't going right for them I'd say they deserve it that's their karma but they probably won't learn from it in their minds it's always someone else's fault so again most situations they won't come back they don't want to hear what you've got to say to them they don't want to hear you laughing at them they already feel like absolute idiots they feel stupid they don't like it that they've lost and they know they've lost when things aren't going right for them they realize they got cheated they got tricked by this new person who sold them a bunch of lies a bunch of dreams fantasies illusions and then they have to see you move it on and you're looking healthier and stronger you're living your best life you're making more money you're taking trips oh god that eats them up that really gets under their skin they can't stand to see that really winds them up because they had it all planned out in their minds how they're gonna throw you under the bus and then they're just gonna leave you on the sinking ship and then they're gonna find safety and you're gonna go down on your own but when it doesn't turn out that way they hate it they feel stupid and then they have to watch you live your best life having a good time making the most of your life and yeah they're just left with nothing after they just made the biggest mistake of their lives and they know they can't go back they know they burnt the bridge so what are they supposed to do now all they can do is hide and lick their wounds all they can do is go back to the hole where they belong because they can't come back to you they know if they come back to you you're just gonna laugh at them you're not gonna take them seriously after they lie to you and they cheated you they try to destroy you so why would you take them back now why would you give them another chance they know even if you did you wouldn't take them seriously so yeah they you're just not gonna hear from them they will disappear and when they do that that means that you have won you defeated them they only come back if they think you're stupid if they think you're an idiot then they'll keep coming back if they think you're gonna feel sorry for them and you want to help them yeah they might come back then if they think you're a fool but if they know that you're not going to be there for them after everything they did if they know that you wised up you're on to their game and you're not going to put up with that shit anymore now you when you you want to hear for them they're not going to put themselves in a situation where they're going to be made fun of where they're going to be humiliated no they're not going to do that they're not going to come back just so you can do that to them it's not going to happen so yeah if they don't come back if you don't get a hoover that means that you have won and you should celebrate you should go out and live your best life have a good time and just forget about them forget about them just like they forgot about you remember how they did that now it's your turn it's your turn to do that and let them watch that now you start posting it up on social media see are they like that make sure that everything they see makes them sick give them a taste of their own medicine and then when you've done that just move on with your life forget about them put them in the past don't let them dominate your mind however important someone makes you to them you treat them with the same level of importance never allow yourself to care about someone more than they care about you because if you do that you will lose you will lose a lot focus on things that yield the greatest rewards for yourself focus on things that are actually serving you things that are making you better in life the narcissist is definitely not one of those things you've only got to look back at everything you went through with them to realize that 212 live viewers right now but only 100 thumbs up please hit that thumbs up button right now if you have enjoyed this video if it vibes with you if you do that it will really support our community and help to spread the awareness of this and get this message out there so please do that right now please hit the thumbs up button it will help a lot and yeah just want to end this video with a high lift the vibrations raise the mood whoa yeah beautiful view here the city and i'm just gonna head out now and just enjoy my day and i hope you will too or night depending on where you are and i should have another live video later today it will probably be around morning time between 6 a.m to 9 a.m EST so please check on google for that time so you can work it out where you are hopefully you can make it i know it might be difficult for some of you depending on your time zone but yeah that's right smoky bear smoky bear says they use photoshop to pick new victims they do they use all of these filters and especially the the female nazis they're using tricks with lighting um yeah filters photoshop they have all of these tricks with their makeup some of them even go as far as to have plastic surgery and not only that but they will they will photoshop the new person too to make them appear better than they actually are and on top of that they will be very strategic with the pictures like they'll take pictures in certain places to make it look like they're doing big things when they're actually not they might just go to a five star hotel and just take a picture outside to not actually stay there and act like they're doing big things or maybe they see a nice car parked on the side of the roads and then suddenly they're just stopping there just taking a selfie and this is what these people do and there's nothing wrong you know you want to go out and have fun and take pictures of things but this is done with the intention of deceiving you of hurting you and abusing you so it's wrong but yes very true very true comment there anyway that's all for now and yeah i'm really looking forward to this one later today in a few hours another live video i want to show you more of a condo upstairs over 40 floors got two pools two gyms there's a snooker room and a lot of nice lounges got a piano drums everything it's a really nice place brand new and i want to share it with you i think it'll be some beautiful scenery for my next live video later today so i hope you can make it should be around between 6am and 9am EST so please look that up and see what it is in your time zone other than that i'd just like to thank you all for joining me on another narc survivor live video i do appreciate you all please hit that thumbs up button and i will talk to you in another video very soon