 Hi y'all, she was seven. Okay, so I have another video about how to raise your standards, how to treat yourself like a princess or queen or whatever, if you want other people to treat you that way. First of all, your environment. Okay, make sure, you know, your bedroom, your home, wherever you spend most of your time is decorated nicely or to the best of your ability with your finances. Okay, make sure you have an ambiance because ambiance sits the mood of certain things like I have a candle burning. I have candles burning. I have a wax warmer. My room smells good most of the time. Some of the time my bed's made up my couch. I have a little couch back there. The pillows are on my bed. I have soft sheets. Do these things for yourself so that when you do meet someone and they see how you're living, they're going to come with the best. You know, if they already see that you have, you know, standards for the way you sleep, they're not going to come at you, you know, with less than you deserve. So, I mean, you can do this on a cheap budget. You can actually, because you know, y'all know I love the Dollar Tree in 99 cents only and thrift shopping. You can create a space or an environment that reflects how you want to be viewed, how you want to be treated, how you would like to live. So, have an ambiance going, always have a scent going, have a candle going, you know, have a nice decor. Don't just throw a bunch of stuff together. Don't pile your clothes on the floor. Don't have a dirty room because when people come over your house and they see how you're living, that's how they're going to treat you. Okay. And when you see how yourself is living, like if you look around and you see a dirty pigsty room or just like Mitch match stuff or, you know, stuff that doesn't coordinate. You don't have an ambiance. There's no, you know, there's, it's just blah. You're going to feel that way about yourself. You're going to feel like, oh my God, you know, you're not going to feel like you deserve anything because you haven't even given it to yourself. You know, so try to do that for yourself so that when someone, you know, enters your life, they see how you're living. So they have to come correct. If they, if they walk into your house and they see, you know, nothing matches, dishes piled up, clothes everywhere, you know, just bare walls, that's how they're going to treat you. Okay. So you have to create your environment. Okay. If you can't afford to, I'm telling y'all thrift stores. And yeah, hang some curtains. Treat yourself like you want to be treated by other people. Okay. Give yourself the things that you want someone else to give you. Okay. Because once they see how you're living, then a, they'll raise their standards and say, okay, well this, this girl, you know, she likes nice things. So if I'm going to date her, I'm going to have to, you know, really, you know, put in more effort. I'm going to have to take her to nice places. She, she's not going to want to go to the buffet. Okay. So, you know, she has nice curtains. She has, you know, she burns expensive candles in her house. You know, they might not be expensive, but hey, you know, you don't know that or she burns candles in her house all the time. She has her furniture and decor match, you know, I can't bring her over my apartment and only have a mattress on the floor. You know, they're going to start to reevaluate themselves because of how you are, you know, either they'll leave you alone, which is probably for the best if they, you know, can't live up to your standards, or they'll bring themselves up so that y'all can be on the same level. Um, I remember when I was, when I was younger and, um, my friends would have these boyfriends and, you know, they would invite us over, you know, before we all went out and had drinks and we just, you know, chill at their apartment. I would go in and they wouldn't have any furniture. They would just have a mattress on the floor and a kitchen table. That's all they had. These, these girls that were living in an apartment and, you know, they would spend money on other stuff though. They would spend money on jewelry, stuff that really, you know, the stuff that people could see without coming to their house. So, you know, when they, when their friends would come over or their boyfriends or people they were dating would come over and see how they're living. They're like, oh, this is, you know, she doesn't care. You can give her anything and she'll be happy because she didn't have anything. You know, even though she has designer purses and, you know, $200 shoes and all this stuff, she didn't have no furniture. Same with guys. They have all these nice shoes and nice clothes in their closet. You would think and they had a nice car. You would think that they were, you know, living decent and you come in and they only have a mattress on the floor. Okay. So yes. So like create your environment, you know, if you feel like you are living in a good environment, you're not going to go less. You're not, you're not going to be comfortable with less. You're going to be like, you're automatically going to get up out of that environment because it's not pleasing to you anymore. You're going to be like, I can't date him. I need to see people. No. Okay. I'm used to like, I'm used to this. Okay. I'm used to curtains. I'm used to furniture. Okay. I can't date you. Sorry. And you're going to be like automatically raised spanners. So that's what you have to do. I don't know. A lot of people say, well, I don't like to waste money on that or I'm not into that. That's fine. Just do a little bit, you know, get you some candles, get you like a Cosme Table Book, you know, put some fake flowers out, just the little things, little touches that they see you at least care about things and are trying. They're not going to give you their worst, you know. Yeah, just wanted to put that out there because a lot of people, they weren't raised in an environment where, you know, their home was their place where they put all their effort into, you know, because a lot of people couldn't afford it. But when someone comes over to your house and they see how you're living, then they either have to match it or do better, you know, they're not going to drag you away into a worse environment, you know. So that's number one. Also, like how you keep your appearance, you know. If you're always raggedy, if you're close or dirty half the time, if you leave the house and house slippers and pajamas and you're not in junior high or high school or college, if you're out of college, if you're not in college, you shouldn't be leaving your house with house slippers or pajamas on, okay. It's not cute. You know, it's how you keep yourself, you know, how you dress yourself will show other people how to treat you. And you know, you don't have to spend a lot of money. Like I said, all you have to do is put the effort into it, you know. So it's not about the money. It's just about the effort because like, you know, if you if you just move somewhere and you don't have a lot of money, you can basically just go to like Goodwill, any thrift shop. And they always have nice stuff there. And you can actually find some antiques actually, or some things that you didn't even know the value was higher than what the price was, and you can get some pretty nice stuff. So that's really not an excuse. And just your environment is very important because it also gives you a space where you feel, you know, this is your own space, you feel good about yourself, you feel good about looking around, you know, you're happy, you're comfortable with yourself, you're not constantly longing to, you know, be with other people, you're not constantly saying, Oh, I wish I had, you know, I wish someone was here with me because you're enjoying your environment that you created for yourself. And, you know, there are a lot of people suffer from this, that they don't care about certain things. And when people perceive you that you don't care about certain things, they're not going to offer you certain things either, you know. So just keep that in mind. And once you get into it, you'll, you'll start to see and feel better. You'll start to be like, Oh, yes, I love this ambience. You know, it's so relaxing. I'm just sitting in my bed and read why the candles are lit. And daughter, think about what type of being that you're going to attract if you live in an environment where, you know, that's your everyday routine. You know, you're not going to attract somebody who is like, wanting to, you know, do the chill and Netflix scene. Or, you know, the buffet or something like that. They're gonna be like, this girl does not want to go to the buffet. Look at her. Look at her apartment or look at her room. It's really nice. I can't take her there. Maybe we should go somewhere else. This is what they're thinking. Maybe we should go somewhere else. Maybe I should have brought some more, you know, they're not gonna, they're not gonna offer you the buffet when your room looks like, you know, a queen, you know. So make sure your environment matches your standards and your expectation as well. Because first impressions, you know, that's how people treat you by the way that they perceive you. So before you invite anyone over to your house to pick you up to see how you live on webcam or whatever on Instagram, on Facebook, don't take a picture of your nasty dirty room. Don't take a picture of your nasty dirty bathroom. Don't take a picture of your bare apartment with nothing in it. Because that's how they're going to treat you and perceive you. Okay. A long time ago, in the old days, when the wealthy used to have their portraits painted, they would include all their silver, like in the background, their candlesticks, their silver candlesticks, fruit was really like exotic fruit was really expensive back then. So they would have like a bowl full of oranges or something on the table and they'd have like all their jewelry like sprawled out on the table and statues and stuff like that. So they would have their their stuff and they're to show their status and while they were being painted, you know. And that's how a lot of, you know, people perceive them when they go back and look at their painting. They're like, Oh, this was a wealthy woman. Yes, you can see these are all her items that she possessed. And now if you're on Facebook taking pictures with in your less than desirable living quarters, then that's how people are going to perceive you. So, you know, at least make one room look good and go in that room and take pictures. Oh, it's getting ready to rain. Oh, it is raining. Well, y'all know what I mean. So yeah, you'll see a lot of these pictures floating around on Facebook where people are taking selfies and then there's like poop in the toilet, or their bathroom is disgusting, or their room is piled up full of clothes or they just have a mattress on the floor or their butt naked and you could see their butt in the mirror. Y'all get into a nice place, clean it up. Y'all can see y'all. Y'all always know I have this like pile of boxes back there. I clean that up for y'all. Okay. I use that's for my storages where I store all my like stuff for my Etsy store where I have boxes and wrapping paper to wrap my packages. But I cleaned it up for y'all just for this video. Check it out. So, yeah, first impressions, environment, treating yourself like a queen, a princess, creating a space so that when somebody comes over or when you go over somebody else's house, you will feel very uncomfortable in their space because it's not even on the level that you live in. Okay. Put focus on that. This will raise your standards. This will alleviate some of the people that come into your life that don't need to be there. This will just let them go real quick. I remember a long time ago, I had a nice car, like a really nice car and oh my God, it's raining. And as soon as like a guy would approach me and they'd see my car, they just keep on going because they know they can't do that for me or they can't place me because, you know, couldn't do it. So they would just be like, oh, yeah. Okay. Yeah. Walk away. So, so, yeah, I just wanted to put that video out. So, yeah, y'all go to the store, go to TGMX, Dollar Tree, get y'all some little decor items, make your room look livable, put something nice on. There's this girl on Facebook. She's a lady. Her name is Dewitt. Her channel is Dewitt on a Dime. She teaches you how to decorate really nice and also at home with Nikki. If y'all want some tips at home with Nikki, she decorates for like cheap and does DIY stuff for like living spaces. And I'll link their channels below so y'all can go and figure out how to make your umbilubodes look, you know, oh shoot, it's right, to look nice so people can treat you the way that so people can treat you better because if you don't treat yourself good, no one else will. So you gotta step up your environment as well. Okay. I'll see y'all later. Bye.