 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder of commitment connection calm and in this video We're going to talk about how to attract men into a relationship now If you don't really know how to attract a man into a relationship Then getting into the type of relationship that you want to have will just be by chance And if you do know how to do it Then it'll you can shorten the amount of time between being single and being in the relationship that you want dramatically so let's talk about some of the biggest mistakes that women make and What you need to do instead so the first one is you need to go out and be available to men and and this may sound like common sense to a lot of People but in reality most women that I talked to Tell me that they typically meet less than two men a week when Just in general new to two new men each week some of them even meet less than one so the first thing that you need to do if you want to attract a guy is you have to go out there and be available to men and whether that's online or Going out to social events or or you know wherever it is that you want to go to meet men you have to Go out and be available to them The second one is making it easy to approach them So believe it or not, there have been studies done which show that Over 80% of men won't approach a woman Unless they receive some kind of signal from that woman that she wants him to approach her and While that may seem like oh well, you know, maybe I'm screening out men You know who won't approach or who aren't confident Really what you're doing is just allowing the most aggressive guys to be the only type of guy Who approaches you and and you can end up dating and that that's you know The most aggressive guy isn't always the highest quality guy or the most evolved guy. It's just the most aggressive guy You know, there's lots of really great guys out there who don't do much approaching because you know There's a lot of risk in it and a guy doesn't want to come over and say something to you If he thinks he's going to get rejected So, you know make it easy for them to approach you Given some type of indication that you want him to come over whether that's eye contact or a smile or You know one of the various techniques that I talk about and my programs on my website and videos and on my podcast so Yeah, make it easy for them to approach you the next one is encouraging them to pursue you So, you know most guys have spent a lot of time in the friend zone becoming friends of women that they really like and That is really discouraging for a lot of guys So if a guy feels like he's going to end up in the friend zone with you he may not pursue you So you have to show him some kind of interest. You have to be you have to show him that you're interested in him in some way now there's kind of a You know duality here There's like one side where it's like, you know coming on too strong And then there's this other side where it's like, you know not showing enough interest And and it doesn't have to be on one side or the other There's a middle ground which is the sweet spot where you're you know showing them that you're interested But you're not you know coming on too strong or looking needy or any of that kind of stuff And that's where you want to be And the last one is making them feel like they're the man around you One of the biggest mistakes that women make these days is they try to compete with men for being the man of a Relationship and men don't want to compete to be the man of the relationship And if they feel like they can't be the man of your relationship most guys will just Leave until they find a woman that they do feel like they can be the man around and so if You want a guy to feel like he can be in a relationship with you you need to allow him to be the man of your Relationship, so that's it for this video if you Want to learn more about how to attract the right man into a committed Lasting relationship make sure you go to my website and take my quiz at commitment connection Calm I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon