 What the narcissist thinks about no contact? Narcissists hate no contact They can't stand it when you go no contact with the narcissist They see it as rejection They see it as though you're rejecting them And it makes them feel ashamed Shame that they don't want to deal with So instead they try to deflect it onto you or someone else They see it as an attack They see it as though the situation is unfair As though you've abandoned them without help and support Because remember they feel entitled to your time energy and money They believe that whatever you have belongs to them And that they have a right to it If more than you do So when you go no contact They don't like that But they don't look at everything they did to you That caused you to go no contact And this is the crazy thing about it This is how you should know what you were dealing with Because a normal person If you go no contact with them If you cut communication If you stop talking to them They're going to start thinking straight away That maybe it was because of something they said or did That's what a normal person is going to do And that's what many of us Have done in our past situations If someone has stopped talking to us If someone has gone no contact Or given us a silent treatment Before we even think of blaming them We take a good look at ourselves And question if it's because of something that we have done wrong And this is it This is really how you know that You're dealing with a toxic person Someone who is narcissistic at the very least Because when you go no contact They don't even question if it's because of something that they have done Instead The first thing they do is point the finger at you They blame you They see it as though it must be Because Something is wrong with you You're bad or you're crazy It's never them And that really sums up a narcissist It's never them Just in my apartment On the balcony Looking out at this beautiful city here But it's actually quite a Peaceful city It's not too busy Not too much traffic But yeah, it's a really nice place I'm having a great time here But yeah, this is how they think about your no contact And it really reveals The traits Because there's no self reflection There's no introspection They don't even look at themselves They don't see themselves It always has to be someone else Has done something to them And they are the victim They can't ever see themselves as the perpetrator They can't even see themselves As someone who has made a mistake There's just no accountability They don't want to be responsible for anything They don't want to deal with the consequences or their shame Because they're just very weak people It takes strength to admit your faults It takes strength To take responsibility for your actions And to deal with the consequences Which is something they don't want to do Because they already know they're not strong enough to deal with that So they don't do it They try to deflate it onto you Because they know that you can deal with it They know you can handle it Everything they throw at you, you manage to withstand it And then you bounce back from it So they throw it onto you Because they think it's not going to do you any harm You're far more capable of dealing with it than they are And they may never actually admit that to you Or admit it to themselves But that's what their actions reveal Is that they're too weak Too ineffective to deal with anything in their lives And that's why they always have to deflect it onto everyone else All I'm going to say is When someone Goes no contact There is a reason for that There is a reason You didn't just go no contact For no reason There was a reason why you did that There was a problem And it's not like There was just some small issue And then you gave up and ran away No You were in it for a long time You put up with a lot of things from them You gave them a chance after chance I've talked to some people who were with narcissists for years But everyone has a limit There's only so much that we can take Until we say no more And there's nothing wrong with that There's nothing wrong with that at all I mean if you look at these narcissists They give up so easily and so quickly It doesn't take much for them to snap You stayed so calm with them for such a long time You bottled it all up inside of you But at some point You just have to explode It just has to come out In some way But when that happens they blame you They blame you for your reaction to be a beast Even if you don't fight back Even if you don't lash out at them Despite everything they've done to you Even if you just stay silent and you go no contact They still come after you Because they are just weak people Who can't even deal with the consequences of their own actions As I've said before They're like Two year old children in adult bodies They don't know how to deal with life They just pretend they know what they're doing But they don't know anything And that's why They put everything onto you They expect you to be responsible And it's just crazy How many more times you have to keep saving them When are they going to take responsibility for their own lives For the things that they caused Because nine times out of ten If there's a problem They were behind it They were the cause of it But yeah they just want to pass it on to you And they want to blame you for Your reaction to the abuse Even if it's just going no contact I mean it's like they've broken you down So much To where you can't take anymore And It's like You're crawling out of there Just to try and save what's left Just to try and save What little is left from everything that they destroyed And then they still Just keep coming after you It's really just mind blowing when you think about it It's insane It really is After everything you've been through And You're just trying to make it You're just trying to get through it And they still come after you again I mean You know this is Borderline psychopathy At this point When you go no contact after all the abuse And they still won't leave you alone And that really displays Their self absorption And their lack of empathy It just shows they really have no conscience inside of that But we do And we should be grateful for that We should be thankful for Our positive qualities and virtues Which they may not Value or appreciate Unless it's doing something for them But I think it's about time That we took these qualities That we always Used to help other people And I think we should turn that inward for a change And start looking at ourselves And see that Maybe for once in our lives Maybe we need the support And although we may not be able to count on them for that We could support ourselves But of course Even after everything they've done And you try and go no contact And You may not have anyone to rely on other than yourself They will even try and take away That support That you are trying to give to yourself And that's really fucked up But that is what they do And if they can't get to you After you've got no contact Then They may even try to come back And move again Just to get back in And take whatever is left I'm sorry if anyone I'm sure many of you are As you are watching this video And I just hope these words help you I hope my videos Get you through this In a positive way I really do And Let's pass this support on to other people as well 61 live viewers Only 32 thumbs up So Please hit that thumbs up button down below Let's get this message out there And check out my Instagram as well For Some inspiring pictures And videos of my travels And also I post some short videos Or not And also some quotes as well So check out my Instagram It's not surviving YouTube As always I appreciate you all Thank you all for watching Thank you all for your support And I hope you all have a great day