 Finish Parties, stay tuned because today we're talking about something very interesting, something that most of you are going to relate to. We're talking about relationships. Which takes us to our first question, do you think age should actually be considered when it comes to dating? Let me know what you think in the comment section. Age should be a concern because you know why, let's say for example, age brackets let's say from maybe a person from 18 to maybe 25, then from 25 to maybe 40. The reasoning and the level of maturity is very different. So we'll have to consider maybe a guy from 35 maybe. Yeah, he wants to settle down and a person who reasons well. And you can compare a lady from this 19 to 25. Maybe the lady just wants to have fun, maybe explore herself. No, I don't think so because whether the person is younger or older, if you love them, you love them. So if they're not like too young, like too young for you, I think it's okay. During dating in the preliminary stages, age should not be a concern since age is something personal and you should only disclose it to your future life partner and I don't think it will be necessary in the preliminary stages. Since dating is a way of finding out who you're suitable with, who you want to marry in the future. So let's say in the latter stages, that's when it'll be important. Let's say you'll tell your partner that, and by the way, I'm HIV positive and if we are willing to take this step into life together, yes, you can either accept or deny. So that's my take on the issue. Age should age be a concern. I think age should be a concern. I don't think I want to date someone who's older than me, personally for me. But I also think if it works, it works. If you can date someone who's older than you, maybe five years and maybe it works out. Maybe that was your soulmate, maybe. And sometimes because of terms of, okay, there comes respect with age and also wisdom, which I think... No. Because people generalize that 18 is the mature age, but at some point we find people are even mature at 13 or 15. It should be a concern. Majorly, particularly if it's the man to be younger. We say women, ladies match for first. I don't know if that's true, but I think I'll observe something of that kind. So if you're dating a 35-year-old lady and you're 25, that is the thing. Like, you're completely... You're not the person in the relationship. If you want a relationship, that should be a nice relationship of 50-50 things. Maybe even a 40-40 or 40-60. But something close to balanced. Something where each and every one of you has a voice and something more. It should be a fact. And it will be better if the man is older. I think it depends. Definitely if there is too big of an age difference, you're from different generations. You have a different outlook on life. But I think it shouldn't be that big of a concern. I know traditionally, peace recommended that the woman is younger, but I don't think it should matter, even if the woman is older. If you're dating an old lady, maybe when you're 15 or 17, that's okay. But when you're 10, that's not okay. That's not okay. That's my preference. Yes, it should. Okay, because the people were eyeing a lot in that judgment. So if they see you dating an older person, let's take it like a 16-year-old dating somebody who's around 25. The 25-year-old will be seen as a pedophile because that girl is under age. And when a girl is dating an older man, she'll be taken as a whore or like her. Like she's trying to get money, gold digger from the man or something like that. So I think it should be a concern. Within the proximity of your age. I think age should be a concern because according to me, there's no way I'm going to date a young, young, young guy. I'm not doing that. So age really matters when it comes to dating. And also he can be too old. So age matters. Yes, it should be a concern when dating because some of us young men were actually dating older women than us, finding ourselves in certain situations that we cannot remove ourselves in. So age is a factor while dating. I don't think you should consider age as a factor when dating because we are raised in different backgrounds and therefore some people are mature earlier than others. You might find someone is very young in terms of number but mentally or something like that, they are very, very mature. So age doesn't really matter when you're dating. In my opinion, I do feel like age should actually be considered. But personally, it matters more to me if the person is younger than me. That's a big deal. But if they're older than me, the better because I prefer someone who is emotionally mature, emotionally intelligent and I believe they're done playing games. So that's kind of attractive. Which takes us to our next question. How soon do you think you should introduce your partner to your family? Let me know what you think in the comment section. It's right if I fall and finished. After one year. Because if you introduce them like after one month or two months or three months, they're probably going to just, it's probably going to end. Most relationships end before six months. So I would prefer if someone introduces their partner after one year because then you're sure you know them. They know you. It's about everything and it's hard to break up after one year. Otherwise, you're just going to be introducing people after every three months which is not right. That one, we shouldn't hurry in such introduction because you may find, for example, after one month, you may date a certain girl. Maybe I go out and introduce her. Then the other month, you get another lady to introduce to your parents. So like your parents, there's a perception they'll have that where was he settled on a dime. Like we'll say just don't hurry. Introducing your partner to your parents is a bit of a no. It's like allowing your partner into your family. So I think you need to know each other fast. Everything about each other so that you can introduce them to the rest of the family. Introducing them too soon, as I know, can spook your partner. Maybe your partner has commitment issues and you are moving the relationship too fast and everything. I think as soon as you're sure, the other one, I think for me a duration will go maybe two years. Two, three years. When you go to introduce your partner to your parents, it means that you are ready, as in you know that person, and you are ready to move on or to move on. So maybe let me say 23, 25, it depends on the way you are brought up. That differs on people. I like my parents to know I'm dating. They know who to look for. So maybe as long as we start dating, as soon as we go to introduce it to my mom, not long after to my dad. That depends culturally. In Pakistan, we don't really do dating. We do arranged marriages. My parents don't necessarily know, but that's not because my intentions are bad. Once I'm financially settled, maybe I'll introduce them. I think if it's acceptable in your culture, you should introduce as soon as you can if you're serious. If you guys are sure you're in love and you're sure that that is the person you've chosen for the rest of your life, I think three months is standard. If you guys are sure, if you're not sure, I mean six months. But three months is kind of like a Halloween, honeymoon period. After three months, if you guys still feel the same way you felt at the beginning of the relationship, I think you guys should proceed and tell your parents about it. I prefer one. If you guys are dating and you see that this is the one or you have a very strong connection, the time span that it matters, people can connect with you in a month, some can connect with you in an year or two, and when you guys connect, you can introduce them to your parents. Actually, when you're dating somebody, you should just actually introduce them to your parents so that they can know that you're dating someone. I think it should be like nine, ten, twelve months, yeah, maximum seven. Like I have to be sure that this is the guy that I'm going to have a future with in a square like me, some honeymoon phase, and then I have already introduced it to my parents, then to my partner, Nambia Nini. I'm supposed to tell them that, please, Ivo. So I think it is seven to twelve months. After you've known your partner for some time, you've known the character, you've known how your partner does, you're sure that, now you can introduce to the parents. I think that's very personal. Someone should introduce their partner to their family and friends whenever they are comfortable with introducing them. If someone is not comfortable with introducing their partner to their parents or their friends, it's fine. It depends on your own preference. I would say a period of life, one to two years would be enough for you to get to know your partner, understand them and realize that they're the ones that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Because I do not expect you to be taking your situation sheets and talking stages to your parents. By the time you come to Mubani, you know that this is the one. Let's take a short break and we'll be back with two more questions.