 She was seven so today. I'm going to talk about dating Using the law of attraction. Okay a lot of people know what the law track law of law of attraction is, you know, it's you know Attracting what you want by having positive thoughts or visualizing or thinking something and then it's gonna come to you. Okay, so When I was younger I used to date using the law of attraction as I got older. I used it more and more, okay? So I'm gonna give y'all some techniques and how it works and how it worked for me and maybe a little short story time So when I was young, maybe 20 years ago 19 years ago when I was In my prime and I was going out to the clubs and dancing and stuff like that My sister and her friends and I would all go out as a group. We were like We were fabulous. Okay, you know, so y'all use that as a group and we would only go to certain clubs Okay, first of all the law of attraction that we would Kind of use is Making a list. Okay, we would say, okay, we're gonna we're only gonna talk to these type of men We're gonna get the guys with the most money to buy us drinks. We're gonna do this We're gonna do that. We're all we're gonna meet our goal tonight is to meet someone to pay for all our drinks A celebrity or something. Well, so we would all make these plans before we went out. Okay, this is We didn't go out without a purpose. Okay, and I was just a young one. So I was just following along I wasn't making the I wouldn't call the shots. That was my sister. She She's like 10 times Worst in me, okay, so Well, she would make all the plans and we would execute them, okay, we would all have a part to play So through the law of attraction, okay, I would say, okay I'm going to to meet somebody that has like a business or something or you know owns their own company and And then she would be like, okay, I'm gonna meet an athlete or a celebrity and then my other friend would be like, okay I'll meet someone who you know My other friend was always attracted to like the drug dealers and the shady thugs, but they had money You know, I'm seeing that illegal people she was always attracted to them for some reason I don't know why but she was so we let her roll with it. Okay So when we got to the club, we would all spread up break up and go walk around and whoever met the richest guy Would then say, oh, you know, I have two friends and you know, we were all looking good And so the smile that would get on the man's face when he saw two were, you know Very attractive women walk up was like, oh my god. I'm in heaven and of course he's gonna all buy us all drinks for the rest of the night Okay, you know that right? So that's what we would do we would manifest before we got in the club what we were gonna do It was a plan we would seek it out We would already be subconsciously prepared to You know Pick out the certain types of people it would be You know, since we were attracting it the men would actually sometimes, you know Seek us out or we would run into them in an unexpected way or whatever, you know what I'm saying But it always worked So if you go out by yourself or with a group of girls always make a Plan visualize yourself meeting the certain type of man that you want to meet for the night or for a lifetime You don't have to use this for golding and you can use it to find a mate a spouse I did it when I was older, but This is what you can do you can make your list say okay tonight. I'm gonna be meet a man that's financially stable Not married You know funny Blah blah blah blah, but if you make the list too long, you're gonna limit You're gonna limit yourself and what's out there So keep the list a little bit broad, but keep the main standards that you cannot live without okay like Money financially stable career, you know, whatever whatever Make sure those are in place above anything else because anything else you can you know, you can deal with but Have your plan not for guys the same thing before you go out I want to meet a woman with no kids. I want to meet a woman who's educated. I want to meet a woman who's uh You know ready to have a real relationship who doesn't play games I want to you know, I want to meet one that's decent and pretty or whatever have that your mind Okay, that way that's what you'll attract and you're not going to be looking at hoochies That's the least common day hoochies Uh, y'all y'all see my age. I'm old y'all you're not going to be looking at the type of women That doesn't fit that description. You're going to bypass you're going to bypass and you're going to bypass until you see one that meets your Standards and subconsciously you're going to do it anyway because you've programmed your mind To only attract those type of women, you know, so that's what's going to happen. Um And no offense to women with children. Okay. I'm not trying to bash on you, but at you know, when you're in the club and you're a young uh Professional male or whatever whatever, you know, you have certain standards. Okay You just do and if if one if the woman does have a child it's their option and their Right to decide if they want to date someone like that or not just like as a woman It's your option and you're right not to date men who have children. So That's just what it is. You know, some guys are just Okay with having, you know, one or two kids, okay Well, they can't have over two kids and they have to be a certain age. Some men will not date women Unless they have a certain amount of kids or the kids are of a certain age. That's just it. Okay. Let's just be real okay, so You put it in your mind what you want to meet before you go out. That's what you're going to attract. Okay. Um So That's that mean that's how i'm at my husband. Okay when I was I think I've told this story a thousand times, but I was like, you know what? I want to meet a man with money who's going to take care of me for the rest of my life and But that's it. That's what I want. That's just what I want, you know And every time I would go out, I wouldn't talk to no one unless they could do that I really wouldn't if they tried to approach me. They tried to talk to me. I was like, okay I don't date, you know, I like serious relationships. I'm not gonna date you unless you can do this This isn't that for me and they would think I was crazy or joking, but I was Perfectly honest and I was perfectly real. They thought I was joking. They tried again. They You sure you don't want to date me and we can have so much fun And I'm not gonna pay all your bills, but we can have a lot of fun I'm like, well, I can have fun by myself what I need is somebody to support me You know for now, you know, if you want to call me your girlfriend, you're gonna have to have those responsibilities, okay and I was dismissed a few times and and I don't blame them because You know, they weren't the right person for the job. Okay And then one day I was just, you know, sitting in the bar because my friend was the bartender and Y'all see my story I was waiting because I was getting ready to go to work I had a phone call to wait for in order to go to my job Which was at a funeral home and I did not have the keys So I had to wait for the owner to get there in order for me to get in I was going to be bonding a body that night And so the bar was right around the corner from the funeral home. So I went to visit my friend So she was bartending we were talking I was sitting there sipping on whatever I was drinking and My husband walks over to me, you know And by this time I'm sick and tired of guys and you know, not being able to meet my standards I'm just gonna be rude. Okay So I said he's first of all, I didn't want to talk to him because he was my type at all He was not my type. Ladies, that's why I say don't get hung up on looks because that could be your husband Um, so he was not my type at all. So I was gonna dismiss him quick, right? I was like, uh So he was really smart. He you know, real smart. He was like, hi, my name is such and such He was like really proper and you know, how you want a man to approach you, you know Not able to show name, you know, nothing like that. He was really proper And so I was impressed by his property. So I gave him two minutes He had two minutes to offer to buy me a drink if he didn't offer to buy me a drink in two minutes I was gonna dismiss him, right? So He talked and talked and talked for about one minute and 30 seconds. Then I was getting you know, I was getting kind of like Oh my god, so then he said, what are you drinking? I mean by your drink. I was like, okay You saved yourself. So he bought me a drink And so now I'm drinking I you know, I I'll listen to his conversation because you know, he's talking He's doing most of the talking because I'm mysterious, right? I don't tell out everything so, um, I let him talk I ask him questions like First of all, I'm just glad I got the drink because You know, that was the goal And so then he had Five minutes until you know, or maybe until I finished my drink Maybe 10 minutes to finish Impressing me if he didn't impress me. I was gonna let him go So I asked all the worst questions a woman could ask them. What kind of what kind of work do you do? What kind of car do you drive? You know, are you married? Do you have kids? Or this is a blah blah blah blah blah, okay? Um, so thinking it was gonna make him go away Right because he wasn't my type, right And plus it was a test to see if he could do what I needed him to do, right So he told me what he did. He gave me a card. I didn't even ask. I'm like, what? CEO, okay owner, what? Oh CEO owner, whatever. I'm like, okay Everybody's a CEO these days. Then I and then I and then he said, well, oh, I work with He named all these giant corporations and he's like, I work with this I'm like, I don't even know what that is. But okay, and I was like, okay, what kind of car do you drive? And I was just being rude on purpose y'all. I was like, I don't know It's the law of attraction. It must have been because this person should have been walking out. Okay Maybe he thought it was funny. Um, so he says, oh, I drive that that convertible bins out there You know, and I'm like, oh, okay. That's nice. I just I didn't even look out the window. I'm just like, okay That's nice convertible bins Is I don't know what year is it though? I didn't ask what year because that was I didn't ask what year it was. It was brand new basically. Okay, so It's like, okay Um, well, I have to go to work. He's like, oh, no, I want you to go out with me tonight. Let's go out somewhere Let's go do something the night is young and I was like, I don't know you It'll be a serial killer. He's like, he gave me his cell phone guys. He gave me a cell phone. He said here If you don't feel safe You can use this phone to call wherever you want the police. You can call them now and tell them who you're with Here's my number. Here's my name. Whatever whatever you need to do to feel safe. That's blah blah blah. It's like, okay So he paid my cab And I was like, okay. Thank you. He said, okay. Now. Let's go have some fun I said, but wait, I gotta go to work. He's like here. Use my phone and call in like Well, I was gonna make I have to make money, you know, I was gonna make, you know, this my this amount of money He gave me the money in my hand here cash Okay Call in. He says call in I call in. I'm like, uh, I ain't coming to work And anyway, the guy was like, that's okay because I'm running late anyway And I'm probably not gonna be there until that. So don't worry about it. I'll do it. It's like, okay. Thank you. Bye And so we went out So I went out to the parking lot I might have to extend this video past 15 minutes 16 minutes So went out to the parking lot and I walk He, you know, there's a little remote click click. So you see the light flash on this bright yellow I mean bright yellow bins like two door convertible. I don't even know what 500 s l I don't it was 2001 y'all. I don't remember what it was whatever car that was I'm like, oh my god, this bright yellow. I did not I was impressed by the car But I did not like the color. I'm like yellow I was like, wow yellow Like I was like I act a little bit impressed. But I was like, why did you choose yellow? You know Oh, so everybody can see me. I'm bright and I'm flashy. I'm like, okay um He said I was I just felt like a friend a pop of color because I've drove driven white cars black cars gray cars I just wanted something different. I was like, okay. Yeah, whatever and so He gave me his phone He said call whatever you need to call telling when you're going who you're with blah blah safety first So I call my sister and tell her, oh, I'm at this guy's name's James. This is his number That gave him the license plate on the car like, you know safety first, you know, so got in his car. I'm a grown woman Yeah, I'm grown going on a date, you know, he gave me his car information phone. It's okay for me. That's good for me So he goes, where do you want to go? It's our name of place or wherever A nice place of course because you know, I'm not cheap um And his music in his car just really sucked It was like old not super old but too old to be, you know, you know how like stuff gets like a year old and then you want to hear something new So I I said, do you have any better CDs than this? Yeah, I was kind of rude y'all And he was like, no, I was like, well, I don't like this music. And so he pulls over to Back in those days, they had sound waves, which is like a place where you could buy CDs And so he pulls over into the parking lot of sound waves and he goes and he says, buy whatever you want Buy whatever CD you want. I'm like, okay. So, you know me. I'm greedy. I'm like, I'm picking up double discs Uh collectors hit greatest hits and stuff like that I got prints greatest hits the b-side. I got michael jackson I got uh maxwell. I got bryan mcneigh. Yeah, I remember everything. I got mariah carry I still remember everything I bought because we have still have some of those CDs and that's crazy, huh? um I got all those CDs probably came out to a hundred dollars or something and We went back in the car Popped in the CD. He had the top down. We was cruising. It was nighttime. We were in the nice part of the city and was just Atmosphere was like, yeah, you know, you have to get the soundtrack to your life, right? You know So he was happy because he liked the music too, you know, he liked everybody like michael jackson everybody like prince, you know So We were jamming in the car and we got to the destination Which was this really nice club cost a lot of money to get in, you know exclusive whatever whatever Drinks cost like ten dollars. Okay, you can't be cheap to go there. This is this is my test. Okay So it's it's all he's already trying to impress me. So why not right? So we go, um park you got to pay for parking We walk got to go up the elevator because it's in top of the building And we we pay like it's like twenty dollars admission just to get in So he pays, um, then you uh, you know, you got to get drinks It's live music. It's really nice. Um, okay, y'all had to I had to cut off but yes, so We were in the little club. We were dancing. What's having a good time. Okay, so we left We didn't stay there all night. So we want to go someplace else And on the way out of the club, he's like He was like really trying to get me. I don't know. He was really trying to impress me He's like, do you want to go get your nails done? Do you do you need anything? I'm like, okay No My nails I already done. I'm trying to say, you know, so I was like, no, you know, I'm ready to go out. I'm drinking. I'm ready to drink. You know, let's go You know how you are when you're young. You're just like full of energy and you want you want to go hit the next place So we hit the next place and It's like a karaoke bar. It's not the nicest place But it's one of those like hole in the wall places that you know about as a karaoke bar Cheap drinks, um, you know the music So he had already impressed me. He already spent a bunch of money, but So I was good with that, but I wanted to go sing. I wanted to sound like a little sign a little bit You know, I went to sign So and I was feeling good. I was drunk not really drunk, but like tipsy Um So we drove to this little karaoke place and um, we're sitting at the little table. We're getting our drinks And oh my god, my ex-boyfriend is up in there like seriously with another with with an ugly woman, too This this makes it easy. This is like this is just like Love attraction to the you know, whoo. Thank you. Bye This is beautiful. So this is beautiful. This is the best part of it all So he's in there With this ugly lady. Okay ugly. Okay like ugly And no offense to ugly people But this lady was not even ugly on a natural level. She made herself ugly Like she put a bunch of different colors on she had crazy hair. She just was A work of ugliness. Okay, because of her choice of attire hair color and such and such and such Okay now he's broke because That's why he's my ex because he was broken. He never went anywhere Um, and so I walk in with this guy who has a lot of money, you know, niceest car in the parking lot You know, everybody could tell he had money because of the way he dressed looked talk. Okay, so Like he stuck out like a sore thumb. So I was like, oh, yeah, this is my Date whatever James and this is you know, such and such My ex-boyfriend who was with another woman was ready to fight him like right up in there With the woman the woman got mad at him and started arguing with him and then me and my uh date left I didn't get a chance to sing so, um I had put my song in I was ready to sing but I didn't get a chance to sing because Oh stupid was in there. Okay. So we left And I'm sick. I'm so sorry. I didn't know he's gonna be in there. Whatever whatever I really didn't know like seriously. There's like I didn't know. Um, I wouldn't even think in that he would be in there because I had seen him in months and months, right? so He's like, oh, no big deal. Whatever whatever. Let's let's go somewhere else. So then we go I forgot where we went. Mm-hmm. Where we go after that? I don't know. I can't remember but we went somewhere else and had a few more drinks and And then I was like, okay. Well, you know, it was fun. It's time to go um So he was like, okay. Well, you have my card call me anytime, you know, we'll live to see you again. I'm like, okay So go home and um He didn't have my phone number because I didn't give him my phone so Back in the old days Don't we didn't have you know smartphones and stuff like that We couldn't just it would take forever to put your number in the phone So you just wrote it down and gave it on the card or whatever, right? because you had to push one to get a One two times to get beat y'all remember the old days So, um, I called him like two days later I gave him a day. I caught him two days later. I said, hey It's me, you know, it's like, yeah, I was waiting on you to call Uh, what are you doing for lunch? Like, he was already trying to take me out of here for lunch And I'm like, uh, I'm just waking up and what am I doing for lunch? Um And so I was like, well, I can meet you Uh for dinner Sure, let's do it. Let's do it. So We dated basically every day for two weeks. Okay We didn't We saw each other every day for two weeks after that. So after two weeks, he was like, um You know, he was trying to get some and I'm like, I don't I don't have sex outside of relationships. Okay, so, um Sorry, he's like, okay, well then You know Let's become a couple like you want to be my girlfriend? I'm like well I'm like, well, I don't date guys that you know, I don't I don't I wouldn't date a guy seriously unless they could do Certain things for me and he's like, what do you mean? And this is where you have to this is where I dropped it on him that I need him to pay all my bills. Okay And so I was like, oh god, this is it This is it Okay, so I was like, well, you know I need, you know, I need someone to take care of me. I need the one to take care of my bills, you know, um If I'm gonna date them seriously and be attracted to them and feel like, you know Secure with them. I immediately didn't take care of my bills And he's like, oh, well, how much are your bills? And so I gave him the price and he said, oh, I can do that. That's not a problem Don't worry about it. I can give you that. No problem. It's like, okay So We became a couple at first and then I thought he was bluffing. I'm like, okay, he's just gonna get some and be gone. All right So I So I was like, okay, well my car notes do tomorrow, you know, I'm thinking, you know what This is it again. And then he he drives. He's driving I'm thinking he's driving me back to my car because he's driving in that direction. I'm like, oh god He drives up to the ATM and gives me the money It's just here. You gotta go pay your car note. Of course. I told him my car note was twice what it was because you know So I paid up to so I'll pay two months up. Okay This is how you do. I'm teaching y'all. Okay, so you pay two months up And then the next month when you get when you get the car note, then you can go shop. Okay, so, um Because he's gonna give you double the car note. So you always gonna have extra money. Okay So That's a little tip y'all So you tell him double the car note He'll give you double the car note You pay two car notes up the next car note you pay your car note You have you have the other half that he gave because he thinks your car note is double and you go shopping. Okay, so I did that He still don't know to this day job He does not know that my car note was not there But I think he would laugh he wouldn't be upset. Um So Yeah, he started paying on my bills Um, I was uh working and then he told me to quit my job. He's like, you know, that job is not good for you I don't get to see you enough. You know, it's bad hours I'll take care of you quit. I'm like, okay. I quit. I quit right now. You know, I quit So after that I was just like, okay. Now, what do I do with my free time? Um So eventually, uh, we moved in together about Three months after we were dating I moved into his apartment He had a very nice condo on the lake and you know, uh Then I was like, you know I was going to school at the time as well. Like I was Also in school and working. Um So I was like, well I'm go I started something new because I quit my whole job. I'm like, well, I need to do something else So I started going back to school And so my school was an hour away from his place. I'm like, I drove every day And then I finally finished school and then, um I was like, well, the lease is up here. You know, let's move Let's move downtown So we moved downtown in a big high rise at the top. We were just living it up like, you know, um Anything I wanted I could get it like I just had to say the word This is the kind of person that he was now I keep telling y'all he wasn't the most attractive person like but he wasn't ugly He was just not my type My type used to be tall handsome model type, you know Swab, you know, just That was my type My husband does not look like that at all Well, he's taller than me, but um, you know, he's he's, um He's like, I guess he's a little bit Too conservative and like he wasn't not as far as political views, but he wore glasses by sweaters And you know, he was just like a what you would call a geek now like back then geek sheet was not The style but he would be geek chic now. Okay. Let's just say that so he wears glasses He had his hair cut or like, you know sweaters and stuff like that, but you know, he's into technology So he was a geek actually Um, so that's the kind of guy he was but back in the day you had to be suave You had to go to the nice eyebrows, the baby hairs, you know That's the day that I learned that looks are not important anymore. Okay. It's what somebody can actually Contribute to you and make you better. So while he was paying my car notes my bills and stuff I had a chance to go to school. I had a chance to you know, um Get a second degree and he paid for my school He paid for my school y'all he paid for my school my second school and I got a second degree and then I began to work in the field that I was Um Had the degree in and his friend owned a business that was in that field. So he got me a job And I would only work like three nights a week, you know, um Because you know, it was Not I didn't need the money. I was just doing it to do something, you know So after we got married I stopped working Totally because we got married After I finished school and Um stuff like that. So we got married a couple months after that and I didn't have to work anymore And then I was a housewife So basically I met my husband through the law of attraction and being a gold digger Now I'm not saying that's gonna work for everybody I'm just saying it worked for me I'm just saying it worked for me because I knew exactly what I wanted And I wasn't gonna put up with anything less and I was attracting it the whole time I was I was like, this is what I want. This is what's coming to me. I know this is going to be my life I'm not going to be doing this. I'm not going to be working. I'm not going to work as a wife I'm not going to do this. I'm not going to do that. I want to be this. I want to be that This was in my mind already, you know So of course subconsciously that's what's going to come to me something that can actually Make that come true, you know a person that's going to make that come true Um, I didn't have any worries fears doubts because I was going to say no no no no If it wasn't what I wanted to hear, you know, I was in control. I was the controller of the situation. Okay um So that's why I Have the husband that I have that takes care of me and doesn't Because that's what I attracted by the law of attraction. I said it. I said it. Look, I don't care if he's The most gorgeous man in the world. I want somebody to do this this and that for me And that who I can raise a family with who I can have kids with who my kids can have a nice house Cars go to good schools. I want all that. Okay. I want it off. That's what I said And you know, that's what that's what we're having, you know, that's what we're doing And it's important to know what you want In life so that it can come to you if you're not sure what you want If you don't know what you want if you don't have no clue You're just waiting for something to show up and see if you like it or not You're gonna get surprises. You're not gonna be in control. You're gonna have disappointment So it's very important to know what you want. So when it comes you recognize it and you put, you know, you act on it immediately. Okay um The moment I knew that he was gonna be my husband is when he Got all those CDs He didn't know me for An hour and he bought me a hundred dollars worth of CDs Um, because I didn't like his music and he never once flinched when I insulted him three four times That's the kind of man you want to marry. Okay when you can sit there and insult and insult somebody and look at him crazy and You know ask him rude questions and he's still nice to you That's the kind of man you marry. Okay, because that means he sees past your flaws Your emotion and all that and he can put up with you. Okay, you need to marry a man that can put up with you Okay, because most guys would dismiss me in about two minutes and that's how I know they weren't gonna be the one Okay, and a lot of guys are gonna get up here when her husband's a simp. He's a simp Well, if simp is having money being able to take care of your family wife Give your wife whatever she wants give Their kids whatever they want moving a nice neighborhood have nice cars Then I guess he is a simp and whatever. Okay He's what I tracked it. Okay. I didn't attract somebody Who thinks that they're all that can't afford to take care of a family or a wife Got his hand out at rent time. I didn't marry that because that's not the kind of life I want. Okay I'm not putting anyone down for having that life, but that's not what I wanted. That's not what I was going to attract That's not what I saw myself doing Okay, so ladies love attraction make your list before you go out don't entertain anything that's not on that list and You'll probably get what you're looking for two one day. It's gonna walk right into your life Okay, stay positive thumbs up if y'all agree on this if y'all gonna try it if it happened to you It can happen to anyone basically you just have to know what you want and don't settle. All right. I'll see y'all later. Bye