 Why do narcissists want to get married if you are such a problem for them? Why would they want to marry you in the first place? Why would they lock themselves into a situation where they are stuck with you? You might think that a narcissist wouldn't want marriage They're always looking for the next big thing They need narcissistic supply They don't like intimacy or being vulnerable They prefer superficial things They also hate your emotions They hate any vulnerability that you display to them They're not good with anything that involves any form of longevity So why would they gravitate towards marriage? Why would they choose something that seems to contradict everything that they want? There are reasons why a narcissist would want to get married Even though it may not be right for them The narcissist has a false image that they want to display to people And marriage fits in well with that image They want to look normal Which is why they can often be so obsessed with getting married and having a family Because it's all about how other people see them Narcissists have a fear of abandonment They are terrified that you may leave them They cannot deal with rejection But marriage makes them feel more secure They use marriage and children to trap their targets So that you can't get away so easily They like things that are documented Because then they feel like you legally belong to them As though you're their property Narcissists also want marriage Because it's a part of their grandiose fantasy It's a display to other people That they are desirable and attractive That they are special and important Which then makes the narcissist feel better about themselves Even when they want children That's still a part of the image They view the child as a fashion accessory And as an extension of themselves It's just something that compliments their image It's something that makes them look good And they want children because they know it's what they're expected to do They know that society expects us to get married and have children Narcissists want to look normal They want to be socially acceptable people But while marriage may fulfill some of the narcissist needs It causes a big problem for the other person Because many people don't want to get married for those reasons And if they knew that's why someone was marrying them They probably wouldn't want to get married Because they're not marrying you for you They're marrying you for themselves But they don't reveal their true motivations to you Which is why when you marry a narcissist It's only a matter of time until the difficulties begin to surface Because they didn't marry you for you They never intended to be committed with you They never intended to cooperate or compromise with you They weren't looking for any like-mindedness They had no intentions of being reciprocal with you Because right from the start It was all about how it could benefit them It was never about sharing anything with you Which is why so many difficulties begin to surface after you've married a narcissist Getting through a marriage with a narcissist can be very difficult But what's more difficult is divorcing a narcissist They don't like it when you try to leave them You are much better off if they leave you and move on with someone else At least then they're more likely to leave you alone Because if you try to leave the narcissist They will feel like they're in a fight for their lives They will hold on to you for dear life Divorcing a narcissist can be very difficult It will affect any children that are involved It will cost a lot of money And the court system doesn't even recognise these types of personalities Which is why you are so much better off if the narcissist leaves and finds someone else Even if your marriage with a narcissist does come to an end They will often want to get married again Because they're very insecure So they use marriage to trap and control their targets They also love the attention it gets them from other people But no matter how many marriages they have It will always lack intimacy and warmth There will never be any empathy for the person they're with It will always repeat itself Because narcissists are just not meant to get married Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching.narksurvivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon