 How do you break your addiction, whether it's to alcohol or whether it's to coffee or whether it's to the love of your life? Some guy or girl you're trying to just get away from. How do you break addictions? I'm here with Tai Lopez. How you doing, Tai? Yeah, how are you? We're just driving in his Ferrari Spyder 45.8 Spyder. There it is there. Down to Anaheim on the... What freeway are we on? The 91. The 91. There you go. This guy recognises you. Look, he's like, hang on, let's get one the window down. One the window down. There you go. So I think that recognised me actually, Tai, it wasn't you. It was just the car. So how do you break addictions, Tai? Well, okay, I think. The thing about addictions, most of the addictions that exist, let's take alcohol. I was talking to a scientist who told me that when people get addicted to alcohol, there's an evolutionary reason for it. We developed instincts many thousands of years ago to be able to detect very sugary, ripe fruits. So a long time ago, if you were good at tasting, sensing and kind of liking these fruits that were over ripe, you had an advantage. Now in the modern world, if you like over ripe fruit, which is basically what alcohol is, wine, even in some ways what beer is, there's nothing wrong with you, but we live in a world, although it would take the 91, right? Not this one. This is the 65. Yeah, we're going to keep a stay on the 91, yeah. So in the modern world, the problem is you and I still have our ancestors' ability to detect fruit and ripe fruit, but now there's liquor stores everywhere that are trying to sell you alcohol and you get too much. So the first thing I think for addiction is to realize almost all addictions in moderation, there would be nothing wrong with them. But in the modern world, there's too much. It's like sugar. Sugar is good for you, but now every time you pump gas at a gas station, there's 50 million candy bars sitting there waiting for you. Right. So you got to not freak out. I think people beat themselves up and go, was I born with this horrible curse? It's not a curse or anything like that. It's just a shifting world and we still have an old school brain. So that's number one because I think if you start hating yourself and beating yourself up too much, then you'll paralyze yourself and you actually do more harm than if you go, okay, I get why you have this. I always find for myself, understanding helps me change. When I don't understand stuff, then I don't can't get the motivation. Police reported ahead. So then number two, once you have the knowledge that you're normal, it's somewhat normal. And number two, you realize the only thing that will break addictions is either a lot of pain, focusing on a lot of pain or focusing on a lot of reward. So I kind of like how Tony Robbins approaches it where he goes, you know, write down a list of everything that is horrible that happened because of your addiction. Let's say I'm all and then dwell on it for a while. Now I will tell you the one thing that I find is that sometimes that's not enough. It won't work. Like sometimes let's say you've hurt people in your family or kids. Like some of us, some people are built to not really care. Like they do care, obviously care. But you don't care enough to make a change. So that leaves you to be, you can go, what's the reward for my life if I can break this addiction, not drink alcohol, not do drugs or whatever. And some people will react well to that. Like the most part, you're not going to do big things in life. You're going to lose your, for example, financial security for the most part. There's not many people with addictions that are doing amazing things. So if a reward for you is to make a million bucks and do this and that and that, you can use that as motivation. You got to know how to motivate yourself, I guess is what I'm saying. Right. So those are two. And for some people, even those two don't work. Some people get them. Whatever it takes to motivate yourself, like some people will motivate themselves by going, I'll just never go to a bar again in my life. And some people have to do that. Like Alcoholics Anonymous, sometimes like luncher had this alcoholic issue, just don't ever go, like because you won't be able to motivate yourself in any other way. So you got to know your motivate. It took me, like I found out with myself, I wish someone had been told me a long time ago. This is just my particular personality, not everybody has this. Maybe 10% of people will be like this, like me. I primarily motivate myself by logic. So like, if I read a book that presents a good case, like this is why you change, then I'll change. If what doesn't work on me is as much the emotional stuff. So in the Meyer Brick test, I'm an ENTP. So I'm a team, which is a thinker. And thinkers generally are motivated by logic. But you might, a lot of people, like James, I think you're an F. So Fs are usually motivated by, they want to feel a certain way. So they need to be people that give them a feeling. I don't need that. So you got to know yourself. I find most people, I find most people, if ever, it'll take them 50 years to figure out how to motivate themselves. Then it's too late. You're already too old to care. Right. So I took a 30 day break from alcohol back in 2010. And I just kept going. So I'm about five and a half years as we're recording this video. For me, it was the pros or the benefits that I got from not drinking far outweigh any immediate pleasure that I got from drinking. And since then, I lost about 13 pounds of fat. I made more money. And my friends, my romantic relationships have been a lot better. And everything has just been better since I quit the alcohol. And it all started from just taking a 30 day break. Is that something like just like resetting, taking a 30 day break, whether it's alcohol or whether it's anything else, is that something that can actually trigger the human brain to make meaningful change? I know you've got the 67 steps and it's like 66 days, but can something like that really reset the human brain to then go and live like an optimum life? I think, yeah, for sure. I mean, you can do a 30 day challenge. And like you said, do it again, do it again and do that. Some people can bring, my grandma, she said, in half a mile, exit, in half a mile, exit to Exit Bloomfield Avenue. Is there anything you're saying here? We've got to exit on Bloomfield Avenue, I think. I wonder if this is them. Other than on my trip. In the 1950s, my grandma said she read something that was put out by the Surgeon General that said alcohol. You know, basically, I mean, cigarettes are bad for you. And so my grandma said she just decided on one day and she's never smoked since then. So my grandma is a little bit like me. My grandma was motivated by logic. Somebody presented to her, my grandpa on the other hand, he can listen and, of course, my, you know, unfortunately, my grandpa died of emphysema because he would not listen. So, yeah, we are getting tough. We've got lots of ways and Google Maps going off of 100 miles an hour here. So my grandma knew now she knows it's pretty simple for my grandma to fix herself. My grandma just needs a case presented to her. Somebody should have been, I wish somebody would have known that motivate my grandpa, like maybe my grandpa needed, you know, to be yelled at or something. Are you actually going to take Bluefield? Or are you just going to stick on here? I reckon just stay. I think I'll just stay on it, yeah. 900 feet, turn right on Bluefield Avenue and turn left. Yeah, I think we just stick on this. Then for, so, can you change in 30 days? Yeah, some people like my grandma change in one day. Well, I changed in 30 days because I kept going. Like, I lost 13 pounds and 30 days I'm not drinking alcohol and my skin got better and I started sleeping seven or eight hours of deep restorative sleep and I had a lot more mental clarity. So that changed for me. I just kept going. A lot of people who've done a 30 day no alcohol challenge just keep going. Some people do it then they go and have a few drinks and they re-explore their relationship with alcohol and for the rest of their life everything's fine. They just enjoy wine and champagne and beer on occasion. Other people come back and they say, you know what, I want to do it again because I got hungover once. That's the right to exit 19. So you should make your avenue. Well, I think the way I would approach that is do 30 days and then that gets you close. The main thing that a 30 day thing does is it lets you know yourself. Knowing yourself is, you know, that's the oldest of the situation. Yeah. All right, we're going to take this route and try to experiment. So the experimentation mentality is almost always the winning one. So if you do 30 days and you're like James at the end of the 30 days you go and turn left. I never need to do this again because I now have full control over myself. Then the experiment's done. But if you're honest with yourself then after 30 days you take one drink and you feel horrible and you feel like you're back to the addiction. Now you know next time when you do the 30 days you should go through two cycles of it. So that's what I'm saying. I think more important and anything is now this is assuming you're not having catastrophic alcohol stuff where you're like driving drunk and killing people and stuff. Then you might have to be more extreme. But assuming you're not quite at that stage yet or everything's fantastic. I think it's going to take us to turn left. We're like lost here. Waze is sending us in a whole lot of different places. Turn left on Chewbacca Avenue. There you go. Then it's going to be like get back on the 91. Yeah, I know. We'll just stay on the 91 until we get to the 5, remember? That's what we should have been doing. Coming order of the lion. Turn right on Arteja Boulevard. Turn right on Arteja Boulevard. It's telling us to get on and off the hallway. I don't know. We'll wrap this up and we'll check. But turn right on Arteja. I think use the 30 days as the first step in experimentation. People experiment the most. Usually win in life. People experiment the least. Who are afraid to test. It's all test, test, test. That's how the world was built, man. That's how medicines built. That's how this Ferrari's built. That's how in most people are like, Ty, tell me how I cannot test. In 2.5 miles. Turn right to my 5 South. There is no way to not test. No point of at least 30% of your life should be a test. And 30% should be, you know, doing, contemplating the test and then the last 30% of your life is like enjoying the fruits of a good test and finding a winner, you know. Right. 30 days is a good little experiment. Alright, so there you go. Go ahead and do a 30 day no alcohol challenge experiment. See how you feel. Keep going if you feel great. Check out Ty's 67 steps. Thank you, Ty. Yeah. Appreciate that. From somewhere, we don't know actually not where we are because why is it... Carmanita and RT. Carmanita and Cerritos. Cerritos. Alright. That's where we are. So from Cerritos. Did I say that correctly? Yeah, Cerritos. Cerritos. Catch ya. See ya. Thanks for listening to the Alcohol Free Lifestyle Podcast. I want to load you up with some free stuff right now. So if you want to go to jameswanick.com slash guide, I will send you my quit alcohol guide which has helped six figure entrepreneurs and top professionals produce or quit drinking. 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