 How to spot a high value woman, fellas, if you're watching this video and you're single or you're dating somebody right now, I'm gonna teach you how to be able to identify if the woman you're seeing is high value. And if you're single, I'm gonna teach you how to find this one. One of the things to look for to make sure that this woman is gonna be a high value woman. Okay, so stay to the end, because I'm gonna talk about what the biggest thing out of all of these is that you should be looking for when deciding whether to get with somebody. Okay, number one is a willingness to apologize. Okay, that's the first thing. I put it first because it's not the most important, but it is up there, okay? The last one that I'm gonna give is gonna be the most important, but this one, dude, there's a reason why I put it first. If you find someone who does not have the ability to admit when they are wrong, then you can't work on things and you can't improve as a couple, okay? If you admit when you're wrong and she admits when they're wrong, then guess what, y'all can grow together and you can work on things as a unit. I don't care what kind of relationship you're having with this person. If you have someone who never admits when they're wrong and always thinks that they're in the right, you're not gonna have a great relationship with them, okay? So you might not always say I'm sorry, although if she does say I'm sorry, that is so huge, because most women can't do that. So if you're someone who's with someone, they might like change their behavior without saying anything. For instance, me and my girl, we were talking one time and came to find out during that conversation, she doesn't do nearly as many things as she thinks she does for me. And because of that, she just got kind of quiet for a little bit, we changed the subject. So she didn't apologize then, although she has no problem apologizing when she feels like she's in the wrong, which is one thing I love about her. But in this case, she just slowly changed her behavior over time, which is great. You know, you want someone who's willing to change their behavior as time goes on, okay? And I find that that's better. You might not always get the I'm sorry and the big apology that you want, although it is important to be able to have that with somebody, okay? Number two, she takes care of her health, okay? Fellas, you want someone who takes care of her health because if she doesn't take care of your health, then your health is gonna get worse around her, okay? You're the average of the five people you spend the most time with, you're gonna be spending a lot of time with this person if y'all are in a relationship, okay? Again, I don't care what type of relationship it is, you're gonna be spending time with this person if she is being really unhealthy with her body, with herself. And above all, I'm thinking about having kids with this woman. How do you think she's gonna treat her kids? She's gonna have those kids, right? And she's not taking care of her health and her body. Like that is a huge concern, all right? You want someone who eats well, okay? She doesn't have to never drink alcohol or party or do any of their, never eat sweets, okay? But everything is okay in moderation. If she's doing that seven days a week, that's not someone that you want to be getting into a relationship with, okay? Now, a lot of times women can get away with this when they're young, okay? If they're in their early 20s, sometimes even in their teens, they can get away with partying seven nights a week and still look good, okay? Doesn't mean you should get with them, but it is something that you wanna watch out for because that is not maintainable. When they hit 29, if they keep doing that, they're gonna get really large and really gross and they're just not gonna be a healthy person to be around. They're gonna have all these health problems, okay? So make sure that the woman you're dating takes care of her health. Number three, she pays attention to you. Guys, this is super, super important, okay? If you told her something several times and she's forgotten it, if she doesn't remember what you do and you guys have been dating for two months and she still doesn't know and you've told her multiple times, like, guys, like, she is not paying attention to you. Clearly there are other things that are more important going on in her life that she thinks are more important and you aren't one of those things. You want a woman who really takes the time to think about you. You want a woman who really takes the time to pay attention to you, not just what you mean for her, but you, okay? And you should do this too, because she's looking to see if you're doing this as well. Women are very observant to this, but you gotta give them the same energy back sometimes because if a woman's not giving that to you, then guess what? She's not gonna be there for you. She's not gonna be a good partner, okay? They know, statistically, whether a couple is going to break up or not, by 90% accuracy, if they are willing to observe how the other partner is looking or feeling in the moment. So if they're in a room and one person is clearly angry and the other person just doesn't see it, very high likelihood that that couple is gonna break up, okay? So find someone who pays attention to you. She can tell when something's on your mind and you're really upset about something or she knows a certain things about you and she's willing to learn and remember those things, like that is gonna be a good partner for you. That's a high-quality woman for yourself. Four, takes care of her appearance, okay? You want someone who takes care of their appearance, you want a good-looking wife. I don't really know what else to say this, okay? If you have a wife who's comfortable, just walking out and not looking good, then you have a wife who doesn't respect you, okay? Now, I'm not saying 90% of the time she can't be in her sweatpants without makeup on and her hair all messed up and some weird kududile like little thing that she's got. That's fine. My girlfriend wears comfy clothes 95% of the time, but when we go out, when I'm with other people, when we're in public or when it's date night or when at certain time she is taking care of her appearance. She's making sure she stays in shape. She has your body looking good, okay? She's making sure she gets her hair done, right? This is stuff that sometimes I pay for because I know how important it is. For me, I want someone who tries to look good. Fellows, I don't know if you understand this, but looks are basically a measure of how much you care. Some people are born with looks and everyone says that looks face. You shouldn't judge for looks. No, you should judge whether somebody cares about their look. If they do not care about their look, they are going to look ugly. If they care about their look, they're gonna stay looking good for a really long time. You ever seen a woman in her 40s or 50s? She was like, you're like, damn, man. She's one of her 40s and 50s. Well, this one looks good. It's cause she tries. She tries to look good. She stays in shape. Again, this is part of being very healthy, okay? She knows how to take care of herself, right? Her hair, makeup, lotion, all of those things to keep her skin looking good, to keep herself looking good. And on top of that, if you even want to get the bonus requirements to this, you can even get plastic surgery, okay? Like there's no excuse if you have money for looking bad in today's day and age, all right? So find someone who takes care of their appearance. They don't have to go overboard. Like I said, plastic surgery is optional. All doing those crazy, you get those nails done that all that's optional, but she should care about her appearance and take care of it, okay? If she doesn't care about her appearance, she looks up dressing like a slob, you know, with barely any effort in, that makes you look bad. Number five, she lets you take charge, okay? She lets you lead, she lets you step into your masculine. She becomes feminine, all right? She's willing to do this. Now, a lot of women in today's day and age have a lot of trouble stepping into their feminine, allowing you to take charge, okay? We have a lot of women in the workforce, a lot of boss babes, and so they spend a lot of time trying to be the man all the time. And if they do this, they might have trouble allowing you to be that man. Now, if you have somebody in this relationship, they're always nagging you, they're trying to get you to make decisions, they're not being submissive, they're doing a lot of things that's gonna make sex an actual attraction and you feeling good, impossible, all right? So you have to step up as a man and take charge, but also at the same time too, she has to allow you to take charge, right? It's a two-way street. There are some women that I have dated that were just never comfortable with this, all right? I did what I had to do, and the only thing that I can do as a man to respect myself was to walk away from that relationship. And by the way, some of those women, when you do this as a man, a lot of times they try and get you back or maybe they talk smack about you, but not always. Most of the time, if you are willing to take charge, they should be willing to let you do that. They're gonna be all the time, you don't always be taking charge, you just wanna chill and hang out, that's fine. But in order for sexual attraction, desire to get created, there has to be a man to woman or masculine and feminine connection in there, okay? And that happens when you lead and she follows. Number six, she has goals, all right? She has goals, she has some sort of responsibility to herself. Those things are really important. Not as important as your goals and your ambition, okay? Not to say that we put hers to the side, but when it comes to raising a family, for the very long term, those things are gonna be really important, okay? When we talk about like long-term in terms of the relationship, okay? Typically, if she's gonna be pregnant and have a kid, you're gonna be one who's like working, making sure that she's taking care of, okay? So you gotta be that person who has that ambition. Women care about a man's ambition, more than men care about a woman's ambition, but you should care about it, okay? Because if she doesn't have any ambition, she's one of these do-nothing babes that just has everything handed to her, that's gonna be annoying to deal with. Then her whole focus is gonna be on you and when you're inevitably not enough, then she's gonna get angry and wanna leave, all right? Okay, so you wanna have a woman who has goals, wanna have a woman who has some sort of responsibilities, and one of the things about my girl that I love about her is that she does have goals, but the other thing that I love about her as well is that she really takes care of things, you know? Just animals that she takes care of. She's a good parent to those animals. She's a good person to be around. She treats her family and everybody really well, all right? Maybe we can add another one in there where, you know, how she treats other people, right? Not just you, okay? That makes a huge, huge difference. All right, now the underlying thing for all of this is a high value woman for you who helps you achieve your goals. A high value woman is someone who helps you achieve your goals. Some people might have a woman that helps them achieve their goals, but it doesn't help you achieve your goals, okay? So that's why a high value woman isn't the same for everybody, right? Maybe a high value woman for a guy is he wants to move up in society and, you know, this woman is really rich and so she helps him get to the upper echelons of society, so he marries through that, okay? That was actually a common way that men and women used to advance through society in the olden days, mostly a lot of times women, but men would do this too, especially if she was widowed and George Washington did this, but like that would be an example of somebody who's helping you achieve your goals. Now that's not my goal. I don't wanna date some rich girl who, you know, is making it all about her. I wanna date someone who likes me. That's what I want. I want someone who helps me achieve my goals, who's supportive of me. Not every woman is gonna be good for you, you guys, all right? And it's really important to be able to recognize this. If she is not helping you reach your goals, you have to break up with her. I don't normally say this, but if she's not helping you reach your goals, you have to break up with her. Now this doesn't mean if you've had a 20 minute argument or something like that, you immediately gotta break up with her. Well, that's 20 minutes that could have been working. No, that's not a good enough reason, okay? A good partner provides a lot of good things to your life, but if she's not helping you reach your goals, then you have to leave that person. It's a harsh thing. Now, let's say you're watching this video and the person you're dating, you're not sure if she's helping you reach your goals. Well, does she do these six things? Let's solve that question. If she's not doing those, how can you get her to do those things? Let's take an example for maybe your girlfriend doesn't spend a whole lot of time on her appearance, right? She doesn't really care about it that much. What are things that you can do to maybe get her to try a little bit more? Well, you can ask her, but do it the right way. Be like, hey, babe, when you wore that wet red dress and you had that red lipstick on, I love that outfit. You look so hot then. Positive reinforcement I find works a lot better than saying, hey, you look like shit today, get back and get yourself looking better. You're embarrassing me, okay? She's probably gonna resent you if you do stuff like that. Okay, don't say that. All right, positive reinforcement is good, but just generally asking, if it comes down to it, you say, hey, babe, I love you to death and this is great, but I really wish that sometimes you'd be able to say I'm sorry. That would mean a lot to me if you said that, okay? Because I'm willing to say I'm sorry when I'm wrong and when you don't say you're sorry, to me, it makes me feel like you think that you're never wrong and I'm the only one who's wrong, right? You do that whole proper way of communicating, right? There's a whole strategy to be able to do this, right? Now, if you're not seeing somebody and communicating like this is not the right time. If it's early on, it's probably not the right time to be making any of these demands, okay? This is only if you're currently dating somebody. If you're not dating somebody, what are the things that you can look for? I would say you probably should be able to identify these things within the first couple months of dating somebody, okay? In the first few months of dating somebody, somebody's gonna make a mistake and you're gonna see how they're gonna react to it. You should be able to see them in a lot of different environments. Do they actually take care of their health? Are they actually having goals or did they just put a front on you for the first couple of days and say they were doing all of these crazy things? It's easy to talk, talk is cheap. You gotta pay attention to their actions, all right? So in my program, basically I break down and I help guys be able to identify whether this person is a high quality woman. I can usually tell by the way that they're paying attention to the person, whether the person's paying attention to them, the things that they're doing, especially when it comes to is she letting you lead? Is she actually paying attention to you? Very easily able to identify those. So that's something that you get alive in my program. So if you wanna get coached by me, you wanna get access to my program and go to getcoachedbyloy.com. Links in the description box below. First one, book a free call with me or a member of my team and we'll see if you're a great fit. Thank you so much for watching you guys. This is how to meet a high quality woman. This is how to identify a high value woman. Good luck out there. We'll talk soon.