 All right, what's up coach? Welcome back to the channel now Today's video. I'm gonna tell you a story about something that happened a long time ago and I think this will Hopefully help you if you're a coach who wants to grow their business and Honestly, I feel like the last year because I've taken on so many conversations with coaches Oftentimes when I get on zoom calls, I feel like I am a therapist And I'm listening to a lot of just different things that have happened to people. There's there's been a Lot of trauma. There's been a lot of unfortunate things that have happened to coaches that I've worked with You know a lot of coaches have had that I've taught to that I even I've worked with have had bad childhoods Or no one believed in them or you know No one wants them to start a business or people think it's too risky or Whatever the case is and and we always have this kind of feeling like people are fighting against us to to go into this industry Because most people from the outside looking in Don't think that you can succeed being a coach like that. That's unless you're like a pro coach That that's the average the average person thinks that that oh if you're just gonna be a coach like You know, what are you gonna do in the future? Like that's a pretty normal question. People have asked me that in the past. They're like, oh that you're doing that right now Like what are you planning on doing? Right, and I always took that personal when people told me that there's people who still tell me that Which to me is crazy because I've been doing it for so long at this point. So at this point that doesn't affect me But here's the thing You know a lot of coaches that I taught to they hang on so like with this really tight grip to the past and I hear it. I hear this in conversations. I have a coach all the time. They'll be like, well, yeah, you know When I was younger or when I had this injury or when this happened, you know Now that is affecting me at this age and you know, I talked to someone who's in their 40s yesterday And he was telling me something I'm not gonna go into deep into his story but he's telling me something that happened when he was 10 years old and he's in his 40s now and I kind of stopped him and I was like, hey You know that happened there, you know over 30 years ago. Why does that still have power over your life? and He didn't have a response and this is the thing is like We always try to tell ourselves these these stories that happened and it's like it always feels good to be like Oh, yeah, I'm facing adversity and and all this and like at the end of the day, though This is what I've realized and I have had to mature a lot because if you go watch older YouTube videos that I posted at the very beginning of this channel like I held a lot of resentment towards people that Doubted me or towards people that said certain things and There's a lot that I could you know that I could talk about with that and like I've had a release all of that I've had to realize like oh like None of those people are waking up in the morning and and praying That I fail or hoping that I felt like no no one no one's doing that right and And if they are then, you know, they have serious problems But the the thing is is like, you know, I've had to let go of a lot There's a lot trust me There is a lot that I used to like really hang on to and I would use that to really like drive myself But at the end of the day, that's not that's not going to be a good reason To succeed because you're I think you're succeeding for the wrong reasons at that point So again, I'm telling you my journey here. I'm gonna give you a specific example So When I was in Seventh grade, I'll try to shorten this story. So it's not too long. But when I was in seventh grade, I was Absolutely terrified of speaking. I was really nervous. I was really shy and that year I was going through puberty and I had this speech that I was supposed to give and I remember like waking up that morning. I like really didn't want to go to school I was trying to fake like I was sick so I could get out of it and I ended up going to school and before I got to school I was practicing in the mirror trying to do the speech and like over and over my voice kept cracking and I was like gosh I hope this doesn't happen when I give my speech and Sure enough like right when I walk up there like the third word I said, all right my voice cracked I remember like this very vividly and I hung on to this for a long time You know Everyone was laughing at me people point a finger at me And I was I was in my mind during that moment. I was like gosh, I am never gonna do public speech again and That one moment I let that one moment have a lot of power over me for many many years after that Like in it happened again in high school like and I had a Speech I was supposed to give and my teacher told me if like they told everyone if you don't make this speech Like you're you're gonna lose like I think it was like 30% of your grade It's like if you just don't do it if you want to skip it can and I skipped it And that like really affected my my grade that year because I was afraid of what happened when I was in seventh grade I was a little kid And even later right I remember this very vividly After college when I started my business I was like it it was crazy like that still had an effect on me because when I was training kids at the very beginning of my coaching career Like when I was in college Like I would want to say certain things in my session But like I would be blocked of saying those I was blocking myself of saying those things Because I was afraid that I would either stumble through my words or I would say it the wrong way And I was very self-conscious of my voice Because of something that happened in seventh grade All right, and then fast forward even when I started creating YouTube videos I have another channel that it's called online soccer skills calm And then there's another channel I have it's called athlete mental coaching and I have this channel At the beginning when I started doing YouTube videos. I was absolutely terrified Absolutely terrified because this thing in the past still had a lot of power Over me as an adult Right now. I know it like if you're listening this right now, there's something that Has a lot of power for you that you just haven't let go yet And I can't force you to let go of that I'm telling you though like I completely let go of that probably a Year ago, right which is insane I I I held on to that for a long time because in my mind I was always like oh well You know if I ever run into one of those people that was laughing at me like I'm gonna prove them that I became Successful and I know it's just this stupid mindset. It's a terrible mindset and And it was like oh, I'm doing all of this to prove to my old self that I can do anything, right and Again, not a good mindset to have right What I could have done is you know the older I got just could have been like Oh, that was just like one stupid thing and then just like completely moved on from it I didn't know and you know why it's because my ego was attached to it and This is the thing I've I've really been drilling with coaches that I work with is We have to start removing our egos in our business Because when you do that you become too when your ego is too big you become too prideful And when you become too prideful kids can see straight through that parents and you're like the customers can see straight through that and When your ego is too big and it's too built up then you attach yourself to little things too much Like this to where I told you right and because I've like fully let go of that now Like just just for example doing this video right now is a thousand times easier Doing doing any sort of marketing anything that used to be outside my comfort zone Super easy now because like I'm not I'm completely free of that one stupid situation That I strapped myself in for decades like literally decades. I mean it's insane But the thing is I know I'm not alone with that like you're watching this and you're you have one little thing that you've Attached yourself to and you have chosen to not let go of it And I think one of the most powerful things that that has helped me is just realized that you know Number one, I'm gonna mess up. I'm gonna make mistakes. I'm gonna keep messing up I'm gonna keep making mistakes in my own business I'm not perfect. You're not perfect and If I can really detach myself from the outcome that I want right Then I put a lot less pressure on myself and if I have less baggage in my brain meaning I'm not Holding on to things from the past those things are completely free If that's the case then I can move forward with with what I want to do in my business with a lot more confidence Because I'm not I'm not tied down to anything Right, so I hope that makes sense. I know this is kind of a weird video But there's too many coaches. I've talked to this point that hold on to things that happen when they were younger and Like I don't know your specific situation if you're watching this video But the thing is is like it when you when you give When you let something like that have too much power over you now as an adult it's going to absolutely jack you up and it's gonna jack up your business and it's gonna jack up your confidence to change and Do bigger and better things That that You can do because like, you know your potential that there's zero cap on your potential And this is something also I've been learning like That my potential is is not this glass ceiling If I want to keep learning if I want to keep improving I want to Expand and get better and better. I can and so can you like there's there's zero cap on potential But oftentimes We we hold on to things from the past and that does put a cap on most people's potential because they're like gosh Like I'm still thinking about this whole thing that happened and I can't get away from it And so, you know, how's that going to affect me over the next, you know When I try to do this next business move that I want to do and it's like those are the things you have to Be able to let go so I hope this video helps knows a little bit different But it's a big problem that I see a lot of coaches have like most coaches I talked to When we dig into their business something like that will always pop up And I'm here to tell you I have struggled with that so much in my business There's there's been a bunch of other things outside of that one example And maybe I'll talk about those in future videos, but yeah, so hope this helps and Just try not to give that sort of stuff any power over you in the future and And I feel like that can absolutely help you out. I know how much it's helped me And there are still other things that I'm trying to you know, free myself of and get this mental baggage out of my system I'm still in the process of doing that. So that's it for today's video. Hope this helps and I'll see you later