 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder a commitment connection calm and today We're going to talk about how to text a guy So if you're struggling to know what how you should be texting a guy then let me put some ease to your frustration there So let's talk first about what you should avoid doing So the first thing that you should avoid doing is you should avoid and overanalyzing Whatever his text messages are so If you start overanalyzing things You might overanalyze your way into Thinking that he said something crazy that he didn't say and so you know take things at face value have fun with it Be playful avoid overanalyzing it And if you've already started overanalyzing it get away from it for a little bit and then come back and go if I came And looked at this from a fresh mind What would I think and then just you know get out of your head and Into your heart and just have fun The second thing to over to avoid doing is writing a book to him. So this can be Just too much for a lot of guys and it's you know Just typing away at a whole book if you have that much to talk about, you know, maybe you should get on the phone with each Other instead of talking to each other over text So what do you want to do the first thing you want to do is be confident You know and be confident in what you're doing be be playful have fun You know be confident in your messages and responses Don't get insecure about it. Just be confident and have fun with it and and enjoy what you're doing, you know, and Again, don't overanalyze The second thing that you want to do is end on a high note. So, you know, if things are going well, you know And you kind of run out of things to say don't hold on to the conversation and try to keep the conversation going You know, you can always just end it, you know I just let them know that you have to get going or whatever and that you'll talk to you'd love You know to keep texting with them soon or whatever so and things on a high note that's always better than you know trying to hold on and Suck the life out of a conversation that that that has ended. So ask him Questions if you want him to answer. That's the the next thing. That's the third thing that you want to do is is a lot of times women will send a message and they won't ask a question and they'll expect an answer and For a lot of guys, it's like, okay, I don't know what you want me to say and so if you want him to answer Ask him a question You know if you have something to say and you want his opinion on it Ask him what he thinks say, what do you think? Don't just say hey this, you know and expect him to respond to you Because you might not know how you want him to respond You know a lot of times women get upset with guys who who try to solve their problems for him So if you you know and so guys are like, well, I'm just listening But she wants me to respond, but I don't know how to respond. Just ask him a question It's just so much easier that way And then the last thing that you want to do is make sure that you have other things going on so that you're not so like purely focused on Whether he's texting you back or not, you know, a lot of times Women can if they don't have other things going on in their life, they can get like obsessive about the texting and then next thing You know the guys like Why are you acting so crazy right now? You know and and you will be like acting crazy if you get obsessive about it And so you just have other things going on, you know I have a life outside of Whatever relationship that you'd like to get into have an interesting life, you know that way a guy would want to be a part of it and You know, you don't get obsessive about about texting and what's going on with his text messages So that's it for today If you want more information on how to attract mr. Right into a committed Lasting relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take the quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon