 You go up, you like roll up to her. And what the issue is, especially when you're into the pickup stuff, is you're like, okay, I watched this new YouTube video. It said this new thing about approaching. It's really cool. So let me try out this new YouTube Fun Facts number three. Hey, what's up? Did it work? Is it working? He's like, no, he's like, no, no. Of course it did work, because what you're doing is you're reacting to them, right? You're pinging off to them to see if it worked. Who's frame are you in? Your frame, or the girls, right? So who knows what the girls, usually the girls' frame's like, yeah, I'm the hot girl. You're just the next guy to come up and say whatever, say hi. So it's like you could fall into that frame, or you could choose your own frame. And one of the big things I've been teaching a lot lately is that most guys, they don't even have a frame. They're just like, I hope this goes well. Ah! And they're like, I don't know. Like, there's all sorts of, like, hopefully my friends think this looks cool. Like, I don't know. Like, there's all sorts of fucking frames you could go with. For me, I have very specific kind of mindsets. And because I'm fucking releasing the video, I think today on the mindsets, I can kind of just throw it out here. But some of the main ones are, like, you know, for me, I like the, I'm awesome. I'm having fun. I just keep that frame. I call it like, forcing the fun. Fucking forcing that fun, no matter what, right? And guys, when they're talking about like, oh man, he's so alpha, or he's so dominant, right? Since we're in Australia, people always think that the dominant frame, the dominant frame, when I think of it like, just the quintessential dominant frame, like the Italian men, or like the footballer, like I said, since we're in Australia, the fucking bossy footballer, dude, some shit like that. That's what they think dominance is to me, or to them. To me, what dominance is, is actually having just a dominant frame, a dominant frame of reality. A dominant, like, this is my perception of how things are gonna be, no matter what. And it's unwavering. For me, like, one of my favorite analogies is the yacht. So I'm like, I'm the fucking yacht, bitch. Yeah, come along for the ride. Oh, we're turning to the right. Oh, oh, sorry, no, right. We're going to the right. No matter, she's like a little tugboat. She's like, no, let's go left. I'm like, sorry, it's not gonna happen. Cause it's like, I'm this big ass yacht, right? So what's going on there? What am I kind of saying with this analogy? Is that's my frame is here. I just fucking hold that shit and maintain it, no matter what. What happens, again, guys, I was talking about before, how you're pinging off the girl so much, and you're in there, cause most guys are just too smart for their own good. That's what the problem is. You guys are too smart, too smart. Again, we're motivational here. You're too smart, guys. Yeah, cause what happens is, as you're analyzing, you're like da, na, na, na, na, na, you're in there and you're looking at every little thing and so much of social dynamics is just a self-fulfilling prophecy. Like if you're in there and you're looking at it and you're like, this isn't going well, it's not gonna go well, right? Or if you're like, oh yeah. So you can perceive a lot of things in multiple different ways. So a couple examples. One of the things that I think is kind of more on the advanced side that guys work on is to get them leading more, right? So they're leading girls around, moving it. A lot of what we talked about in night tube boot camp was like mover over here, mover over there to kind of grease the gears when it comes down to the end for the pole and stuff. So you build a lot of nice compliance. And I think for guys, that's a very specific one. So you're in there and you're talking to her, you're like, hey, let's go over here. And she says no. And then you think, oh no, she doesn't like me. It was a bad set. It was a bad approach. Shit, right? In that moment you're thinking, okay, cool. What am I thinking? I'm like, oh, no means not yet. Keep plowing, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba. So that's kind of the example there. I think on the approach is an even more obvious example. So you're going and before you're even into pickup or any of this shit, let's say you go out and you're like, I'm gonna talk to girls tonight. I'm lonely. I'm gonna talk to that girl over there. So you go up and you say, hey, you have beautiful eyes. Nice to meet you. She's like, get the fuck away. And you're like, ah, ah, ah, ah. Just run off and cry in the corner forever alone. And then all of a sudden you come to find the game or something and you find about pickup and you see all these amazing openers and all this shit. So then you go up to the girl and you say, hey guys, there's a girl fight outside. I don't remember that shit, whatever it was. So she liked that. And then she says, fuck you. And you're like, it doesn't work. This pickup shit doesn't work. But actually for me, that's cool because at least then you're creating some distance there. So instead of identifying with her reaction to you, it's not like she doesn't like me. It's just she doesn't like my approach, right? So it's more objective. That's cool. Like that's a good place to be. It's way better than the masses of the world, right? For me, I go in there and I say like, yo, you're wearing purple. She says, fuck you. What do I think? I think, nice. I like these ones. Time to show off the chops here a little bit, right? Like we had some Irish girls last night. I go in and I'm like, your phone sucks. That phone is shitty. You need a smart phone because she had one of those little Euro backpacker phone. Like she's T-19, T-19, T-19, T-19. Like, can you even text with that thing? And she's like, ah! And all of a sudden she goes into like Irish rage, right? Like Irish rage. And I'm just like, just fucking unwavering like the fucking death stare shit. Like, cool. Oh, really? shitty phone, shitty phone, shitty phone, right? Cause I know they just fucking love that shit. They just love the fucking little, their feisty little redheads and stuff. They love it, and I love it too, right? I had, I would say I also love Latin girls for the same reason. Cause Latin girls, they just love the fight. And I don't remember where I was. It was like two weeks ago, I think in Sydney or something. And I had this Argentinian chick and she's giving me all this shit. And I'm like, yo, my last girlfriend was Colombian cause I had like a half Colombian, half Mexican thing. She's like, oh, Colombian, esta loca. Like that bitch is crazy. So once they know that shit, I'm like, it's like instant cred. I get like instant street cred with every Latin out there. Once you get with like one Colombian or some shit. So I was like, but that's what they do. They're just like feisty, feisty, feisty, feisty, all that shit, right? Since I'm just going all over the place. With that, the reason why I like those type of girls specifically is cause they have a lot of feminine polarity. So this is kind of the David data, the way of the superior man type stuff. Anyone in here read that? A lot of people, that's like, you gotta read that. It's like a staple fucking pickup, bullshit, whatever, right? So in there, he talks about the masculine, the feminine. I won't go super in-depth in it cause it's like I said, it's all over the place. But that woman, she needs a lot of fucking polarity, right? She needs a lot of that masculine, like this is me. Hey, and put her in her place type shit because she's all like the super feminine. I think what happens a lot of times, so we'll hit this from a couple different levels. One is on the approach. So an example of where guys tap into the feminine instead of the masculine. Cause the masculine's like, you gotta be on your path, be on your fucking purpose. And you draw a state from taking action. Whereas the feminine is like, flowers, sparkles. I'm crying, I love crying. And just kind of all over a little bit everything, the full range of emotions, right? So what guys do, they see the girl and I think a super classic old school pickup shit is like be equal or higher energy to the girl, right? That's solid advice. So they see the girl and she's over here dancing. She's kind of like doing her little thing over here. And then the guy sees that and he's like, okay, equal or higher energy. Pop and lock it, pop it, yeah, what's up girl? Yeah, they hit that shit up, right? And what he's doing there, that doesn't work. Don't try that, right? Unless you're an amazing dancer, you're fucking, ah, actually last night it was hilarious. We were trying to like do some state pump shit. Also, I'm like on my knees, I don't even remember what I was doing. I was doing like some fake seizure thing on my knees and stuff. And the bouncer's like, yo, yo, yo, you gotta get the fuck out. I'm like, well, this is my dance move. You don't like that shit? He's like, no, I don't like that shit. So, but what you wanna do, what you wanna do with the girl there is instead of feeding into the feminine, you feed into the masculine. So you're actually doing a very similar thing. You wanna be higher energy, but from a masculine side of point of view, it's more of like a laser precision. So the extreme here, I'll put this out. This would be fun. Is I remember I had a guy, he was 19 years old or something, and he's a super kind of like soupy. I just call it like the soupy opener. So girls would be walking by and he'd just do this. He's just like, hey, hey, what's your name? He's just doing this bullshit shit like that. So I'm like, dude, next girl, he's what I want you to do. Pretend you have a knife in your hand. And I want you to like, you see that girl, you look her in the eyes and with your eyes you say, shit, I'm gonna fucking kill you. Like that's what your eyes are saying. And I want you to say, hey, what's your name? And he's like, I love young dudes because the glass is totally empty, right? So like, yes, Brad, I will do that. Thank you very much. So all of a sudden he sees some girl and he's just like, hey, what's your name? And she's like, like she's super into, right? Because what it is is, if you think about it, if the girl, no matter how much she's dancing, she's like fucking dancing and shit, that's a lot of energy. But actually if you think from like Maslow's hierarchy here, some shit, survival is an even more important thing. So you're kind of tapping into that fucking masculine, like fucking I will kill the wild beast to fucking make this shit happen, right? And this is like that taken action, like really good head space to be in. So the girl sees that, she's like, whoa, what is this here, right? So actually for me, I usually tell guys when they're like, let's say you're doing like a dance floor approach, is you just fucking stand there. And again, it's all about the frame shit. If you're in there and you're like, this is weird that I'm standing here, this is really weird, it's gonna be really weird. It's gonna be, she's gonna be like, dance away from that man, right? She's just gonna kind of dance off, saunter off or something. But if you're like, okay, I'm making this chick stop, I'm gonna do this stuff, boom, pull her in. Hey, you're cute, what's your name? She's just gonna be like, hey, Sarah, something like that. And then usually what they do, they like look at you and then they're like, and then they start grinding up onion shit, right? But what it is, the difference is then you can dance all you want, fuck yeah, have some fun with it. But what you're doing is you're setting the tone then, it's like you decided to take the lead there, right? Instead of the opposite, right? I think the same thing, like I saw some of the day game shit, like a good example of day game, it's like you don't just kind of like wanna walk with them the whole time, because then they're like, cool, well nice talking to you, see you later. Ah, and they just kind of walk off, so it's good with that too, right? At some point you need to like create some sort of bubble there, right? So in any situation by you initiating the vibe, then you can kind of flow off and do whatever the hell you want with them or kind of roll. But they see that you're in the lead there, in the front. I always say with that, it's like no matter what you're doing, it's always like the river's just running downstream, the river's flowing downstream. Maybe you go over some rocks over here, you do some shit over there. As long as it's going the direction you want, it's good, like with the conversation is a great example.