 This hurts the narcissist More than anything That's what we're going to be talking about in this video Now I'm sure when you saw the title You may have come up with a few Ideas of what it is that hurts the narcissist More than anything But I believe that there is one thing that hurts them more than anything else And when you look at the top things They hurt a narcissist It really all comes down to one thing about one thing Is rejection when you reject the narcissist when you dismiss them When you refuse that advances When you reject their proposal idea That is something They cannot deal with That is something that hurts them Because they want to be accepted They want attention Validation and aberration And if you don't willingly give that to them It will cause a narcissistic injury And they will get very angry because when you reject them It triggers their inferiority complex They begin to feel like they are beneath you And like you are better than them It triggers their shame They begin to feel bad about themselves As we know there's only a small window of Self-reflection Self-awareness for a narcissist Before they deflect it onto you or someone else They attack you They try to take you down a peg They insult you They try to bring you down And the reason why they do that is because they can't deal with their shame They just can't accept Rejection They have to reframe it in some other sort of way Self-made Yes, I am available for YouTube coaching Where we can talk on a call and I can help you to build your own successful YouTube channel So if that interests you, yes, send me an email It's coaching at marksurvivor.co.uk Just on a balcony here in my apartment. I like to just stand out here at night. Sometimes just admire this Amazing view, but yeah, this is it This is the one thing that hurts them more than anything and Many of you may be watching this and you may have other ideas of What may hurt them the most But when you look at it, it all comes back to rejection of some form Everything you do to them that hurts them is some form of rejection That's what they can't deal with And it's because they're so arrogant and entitled They believe that they are inherently deserving of your time And I'm sure you've seen them in public how they react to people when people don't Give them the attention They're looking for They're expecting and it could be at a restaurant Maybe They don't get the kind of Service that they expect from the waiter So then they lash out they get mad and it just seems completely irrational to you But the reason why is because they can't deal with rejection They just can't deal with that But of course, I mean None of us like rejection No one wants to feel and huge I mean, that's what we go through all the time anyway with narcissists. I Mean if there's one thing we all deal with with them it is rejection in every shape and form I Mean they rejects our ideas Our attempts to converse And then in the end we deal with the ultra rejection in the form of the discards but the way that we deal with it is More normal and healthy We self-love we look at ourselves and see If we can change will improve something But they don't do that and I've said it before this is the main difference between us This is really what separates us is that we tend to self-love and blame ourselves and Take accountability See if there's things that we can change about ourselves so we can be better Which is definitely the healthy way of dealing with things But they deflect every time They've got to blame someone else They never look at themselves to see if maybe they could be the problem And that is why they never change they never get better They stay the same But yeah, that's just it. I guess you could say that When it comes down to it what hurts them more than anything is their own disorder Their own mental illness That is what hurts them more than anything else And that is what causes them to lash out. It's the way they're programmed but luckily for us Our pain makes us better It gives us strength For them it makes them weak Their pain only causes them more problems in life But for us It makes us greater Because we can learn from that They can't and I think that's really what makes us human because a lot of animals don't possess The power and ability to do that these narcissists Have an animal mind They're stuck in survival mode They're doing anything they can to survive but for us we are constantly learning and growing and Just trying to become the best version of ourselves instead of Tearing everyone else down So that we look bigger and greater Because that's what narcissists do I remember I read a quote before Just wait for that bike to go past. I know it's a bit loud Yeah, I just want to finish with this. I remember I read this quote before And it said You can build The tallest building in town And then of course that will be the tallest building or You can knock down all of the tall buildings And then your building will be the tallest and yeah, I think that's what narcissists do They tear everyone else down so it looks like They're the best they're superior but when we strive for our achievements and success When we strive for greatness we just Go and do it We don't try to tear anyone else down But that's what narcissists have to do. They have to cheat. They have to trick. They have to steal They have to do whatever they can to get to the top We don't have to do that We don't have to knock anyone else down Yeah, that's what narcissists have to do and they have this black weight mentality They see it like it's like a doggy dog world They have to get you before you get there They have to beat you to the punch I guess in a way that is their karma Because they're always so paranoid and hyperpigilant they're always scanning the environment for threats They can't just live naturally And that really is Best part about life Yeah, they're just always looking for ways to get ahead They're opportunists Always looking for ways to tear people down So that they can gain an advantage And that's just no way to live How can you live a good life and be at peace with yourself when you're constantly thinking of doing that? But that's just what these narcissists do They're never gonna change Of course because of that they're never gonna be happy Because happiness doesn't come from just constantly taking things from other people Happiness comes from within But I guess that's something they're never gonna learn They're never gonna be happy, they're never gonna be satisfied with anything in their lives And that's why you should just walk away, don't even waste your time with them Take whatever time, energy and money you're spending on them and give it to yourself Because you will be fulfilled with even a fraction of that Than they would be And that's all you really need to know That's all you really need to know Yeah, I'm just out here in my apartment on the balcony Just enjoying this view of the city What can I say? Life is good I'm enjoying every minute of it And I hope you are too If you're not then start finding ways to make progress so that you do Enjoy your life So that you do experience the happiness that you deserve If you're stuck, if you're going through anything Just remember I'm always here To talk, to find solutions And you can book a one-on-one with me anytime Through my website It's NarcSurvivor.uk If you prefer to work with a licensed therapist There is a service that I trust Go to betterhelp.com.narchsurvivor Please give this video a thumbs up It helps to support our community And check out my recent pictures and videos of my travels on my Instagram It's NarcSurvivor YouTube And you can also find some short videos on narcissistic abuse in there as well And some quotes So do check that out It's NarcSurvivor YouTube on Instagram As always, thank you all for joining me And I look forward to talking with you in another one very soon