 Hey everybody welcome back day one the 21 convention the men's conference of the century all right we did it there you go day one everyone's spirits still high no droopy eyes yet coming up next to the stage is an executive coach of RSD his name's Brad Branson and he's gonna be talking on intergame becoming the gorilla he's gonna explain that yeah I hope you're set I hope you're ready and I hope you're wearing your brain condoms because you're about to get mind-fucked ladies and gentlemen Brad Branson here he is hello hello yeah my name is Brad I'm from real social dynamics I've been teaching with RSD for about three years now it worked out perfectly I want to thank Anthony for having me here I'm basically starting my Euro tour starting tomorrow in Copenhagen I'm just here for a day I got in yesterday I've taught in 38 countries now including once I get I'm going to Ukraine and Portugal those are my 37 38 countries I've done Dubai South Africa this year a lot of Mexico Canada all that stuff I got kicked out of Canada for a year so I can't go there for a while I wish there's a cool story with that but there isn't kind of my background 29 just turned 29 I got into this probably about five years ago actually took a bootcamp as a client with RSD in 2007 my background story I come from our how many guys from like the area England London area who came in the who's the furthest away who came in from not Europe anyone where do you come from DC sweet was there a couple weeks ago was it Dupont Circle yes Jeff me and Tyler we had a big S bootcamp there's like nine dudes run around nine students but yeah so I'm from the Midwest of America it's very like Catholic and like when you're 22 you get married so I fall into my parents footsteps when they were like 14 they got together and then are still together so when I was 16 I found my high school sweetheart and ended up staying with her for eight years so basically my whole I was obviously like you know when you don't have to think about dating you're basically completely unconscious to the whole aspect of it and I was completely oblivious because I'm like I got my girl I've nothing to worry about so then when I was 25 I went to school got my masters in microbiology obviously don't use that except for kind of checking things on camera yeah sweet I know my girlfriend reads my blogs so this would be great anyways so then I was 25 that kind of ended and I was like okay I don't know what the fuck I'm doing I'm gonna find a girl and that's how I kind of found out about the whole industry of cold approach and dating advice and all that stuff which is why you guys are all here right I took my bootcamp like I said in 2007 and about a year later was when I became an instructor with RST my main markets usually Chicago and New York and I've done Amsterdam a lot I don't do London Kazazis here has anyone taken a bootcamp with RST by the way near sweet fresh crowd like this I gotta I gotta perform now make it good all right so Anthony when he asked me what my title was gonna be for my speech I was like I'll go with extreme inner game be the gorilla and now I guess I got to talk about it so actually it is like kind of what I'm known for if I would pick out my own game like what my style is I would say it's pretty much purely entitlement entitlement game is what my game is actually the reason why I guess I took the bootcamp and all that stuff is because I didn't have entitlement right one of the easiest things is like you know when you see that girl that you feel entitled to you feel like you get her isn't it amazing how everything just seems to work out right your tonality is great your tone of voice you don't you're not quick to respond you don't qualify yourself everything is perfect right so when I came into this what it was was like in my own social circle I could I could get a girl all right you know my friends would be like hey this is Brad he's pretty cool and it would go well but it was like when you see that random girl on the other side of the room it's like well how do you get her how do you like when you have all that cool shake going on usually it's like guys that are here it's like you made the conscious decision that you're gonna work on yourself which is kind of like the top five to ten percent of people anyways right so you guys got a lot of shit going for you but it's like okay how do I convey that to the stranger has anyone felt that before you know I'm cool no I'm just kidding so that's why another reason why I took the bootcamp and again like how to build more entitlement and how to convey that like attractive cool dude from the very beginning so I start off when I do my I do bootcamps basically every weekend probably almost four times a month usually three times different city every weekend I'm doing like I said Copenhagen over the damn place and the first question always is what causes attraction in the girl right so let me get some crowd participation somebody give me a reason what attracts a girl somebody raise their hand anyone great yeah I definitely think confidence oh you said confidence yes we don't have the microphone anyone else what does that mean yeah I agree so you said expression the true heart I guess we could probably get the microphone going just for video stuff to you but no I definitely agree other things oh yeah I'll slow it down so everyone gets the mic here cool I agree with that as well anyone else cool what okay so he said deep and slow vice why why do you think that okay cool no I totally agree for me a lot of the reason when I got into kind of learning about the stuff and the advice dating advice it seems like and you know you guys will have a lot of guys coming this weekend saying different things so what you'll notice at times there's like a dissonance right where some people will say one thing and somebody will say something else and you're like how do these tie together and the thing is is on a certain like logical paradigm everything does like from a certain standpoint oh that does make sense but my goal is to try to like distill it deep enough down or then you see everything you like okay that's why I saying that that's why that works right and for me to go completely bare bones my whole kind of the linchpin of what I talk about is really based on attraction equals value so this isn't even really just related to like primal instinct and girls and all that stuff what it is is just when I would like let's say right now you know you guys have heard of mazl's hierarchy where it's like you're like hunger and shelter and then self actualization and girls is in the middle there and stuff so if I'm up here and I'm like yeah girls girls girls yeah whoa attraction and you're like having eaten a meal in 10 days you're like I don't give a fuck what you're talking about the girls shit it's like just give me a sandwich right so that has more value to you so you're attracted to it the same way as if I was like yeah and all of a sudden what I used to use a Osama bin Laden but he's dead now so like like somebody like a terrorist runs in here and tries to bomb the fucking place I'm gonna be like yeah value the value you guys are gonna be like or tiger will say a tiger runs in here you can be run into the corner so what has value to a woman when we're dealing with the attraction the problem is is that most guys have is that women and men are attracted to very different things I always say luckily women aren't as superficial as men are right because men were just like I gotta be PC for the camera so it's like ooh a beautiful woman yeah normally a little more derogatory than that but uh so like for girls what attracts a girl you guys a confidence humor those type of things those are all high value traits right so the goal and when I talk about like become the gorilla I guess that's my trademark for the day is what am I saying with that it's like the gorilla is one aspect of a high value guy some guys talk about like being alpha like be really alpha and the distinction that I really like which I think is a kind of when you hit like the novice intermediate getting some good results a lot of guys come to me and they're like I can get the sixes and sevens but I want to get the eights and nines that's a lot of guys that have a bootcamp or they're like even more crazy and they're like I can get with a girl once a month but I want to do it once a week right what's what's the kind of that distinction and I think one of the biggest things is you have the alpha I call like the alpha wolf and he's like yeah I'm alpha look at me look at my high value shit whoa and then you have the like silver back gorilla right so he's like he's just as alpha but it's like some shit happens and he's just like and all takes is a face stare and he's just like that's what I thought and he's chills back with his harem right so he doesn't need to actively convey the value right and that's the problem that's kind of the that's that's the hardest part of all this is like you know again when you're entitled to that girl you don't need to be like oh man let me flash my watch real quick yeah look at me I'm successful right it's not going to be like that you just like I don't care like I was like the fatties there you just like yeah whatever you know so it's like how do you get that with hotter girls right that's like I said that's why a lot of guys are here let me steal hopefully this is my cup otherwise this is kind of gross but I'll do it anyways so some things with that how should I start this out I guess we'll start with the approach right who here is going out consistently who here's not going out consistently why not damn it for me I'm lucky I only work on the weekends so basically for the last three years I've pretty much gone out at least five days a week five six days a week for the last three years I start like I said I'm doing my Euro tour I have assistant who's traveling along with me the whole time he's not here because he's lazy and he's gonna be I'm like dude we're going out at least 58 out of 60 days on this trip like I was back in Europe in November and October and we did we took about two days off so it's just like every day like going out and hit it hard and you learn a lot from that right try new things doing boot camps every weekend you learn a lot and what I like starting off with for teaching guys that are just going out who's going out tonight sweet I'll give you a couple nuts and bolts just for tonight so like I said when I when I was going out before I knew about all this stuff it was like how do I convey that cool awesome man how do you convey the high-value guy and the thing is sure at first you're automatically gonna have like a first initial oppression right the girl she's gonna see you walk up she's like okay I've seen a guy like this before normally this is what he's gonna be like right so this is where all the prejudices of like I'm short or I'm old or I'm tall and have long flowing hair how's she gonna respond right I was fucking around but the thing is even though you have that visual like women do not respond to visual things right it's gonna be those high-value traits like confidence stuff like that right and ultimately like the goal is is the reason why I go mindset base is because like everything from body language your tonality your eye contact all those are just like outward like manifestations of how you feel in your head right if you feel good you're naturally gonna come across in the right way right so again it's like build net entitlement right before we get there though what the problem is I always say it's kind of like a positive feedback loop right where it's like once you're in the loop you go up to the girl you get a good result it builds your confidence you have more confidence you get better results and it's like yay happy loop but usually most guys that come to events like this or on bootcamp and stuff they're like well the loops over here but I'm I'm fucking out over here like how do I get in the loop right so first we need a couple like I'm like cheat codes to kind of like the glitch to get in there right and the one that I think is awesome I guess I wasn't gonna teach this but I might as well anyways there's three aspects that I teach for the direct approach I personally go direct I have nothing against indirect but I'm lazy and I'm efficient right it's like I say like I was my grad school I was in a lab like streaking bacteria plates so it's like me with pipette and it's like you become very efficient over time right and the other the other example I always use is like a good drummer drummer right I use example like you have a like dude Tommy Lee from what is he not guns and roses whatever the hell bond you know I don't know I've read the book too what is he from Tommy Lee Molly crew fuck I read the book Neil Strauss book it's great book anyways but like for me it's like the jazz drummer right you have the guy who's like I'm really good whoa and then you have the jazz drummers just like and he's actually like way more proficient he's way more awesome and he doesn't need to do all the like fucking weird bullshit and so again it's kind of that same kind of gorilla headspace same type of thing I was kind of a side tangent but we'll go back to the three I guess we're going to our game here anyways three aspects of the direct approach right number one is great eye contact full eye contact hold that shit like there's no tomorrow just keep holding the eye contact and then I go in full frontal right the thing is especially if you go out at night like you go to the girl like I don't care what the hell you're talking about you're like she knows why you're talking to her it's like if you're like oh I'm have this opinion about this type of shit it's like you could ask your buddy right here you could ask somebody else that's right here you walked all the way across the room to go ask this girl her opinion and again I don't think it's a bad thing but I think either way she knows what's going on so I just like cut to the chase just cut through all the bullshit just like hey you're cute or usually first night I just have dudes introduce with their name hi I'm Brad nice to meet you right the thing is I'm very very idealistic I live in the extremes to where I'm a hundred percent extemporaneous and also like I think the words matter absolutely zero like zero and we can get to that if we have time to that and that's just again idealistic there's definitely the most elegant perfect thing to say I totally agree but the thing is it comes back I'm kind of over the place but usually what I do is on Sunday every guy every question the guy asks I'm just like what would puff daddy do what would be did he do right would be did he be like hold on I'm gonna tell her that I only got five minutes with this girl because I'm worried she might not want to hang out with me it's like I'm fucking P. Diddy I don't give a shit right so that's kind of the head space I try to get him into but again if you're not there yet how do we get there so we're coming back coming full circle here three things direct contact eye contact full frontal boom just go in number two is loud projection right I did one bootcamp I did a bootcamp for 21 nights in Dubai with this dude he's like the only thing I learned from you was just be loud and lead and I'm like that's all you learned up to 21 days but the thing is it is kind of it says so much about yourself right the thing is again when you have that first impression of the girl she doesn't like she said she has initial kind of first like oh this is the this is the box I'm gonna put him in but she doesn't know exactly how you're gonna come across so even though women are very socially calibrated and hypersensitive to kind of how you're dealing with shit they're gonna respond based on how you ping off of them right so if you go in and you're kind of like hey is this cool right she's gonna be like okay this guy's nervous or whatever this guy's using his little shtick whatever he's using he's not comfortable talking to a girl that looks like me so I'm not gonna talk to him right and that's why a lot of times what we teach is like assume attraction we're like if you assume that attraction it's like hey what's up nice to meet you you cute hmm yeah like hold on come here boom and just go right she's like I don't really know how to respond here but it seems like this guy is normally when a girl talks to him that looks like me they're attracted to me to him so I'm gonna deal in the same so she just kind of falls that role right and then it's whoever's frame is stronger but the problem with that is nice little cliffhanger right the problem with that is is how many reference points does a girl have of being like a hot girl being the high value thing right probably like a million or something whereas how many reference points do you have or myself or anyone getting into this when you're starting off you're like this dude was on stage he said I'm high value yeah am I high value and what Tony Robin says it's like you have the belief and then you have the the table so the belief is the top of the table who here's red awaken the giant within anyone no one's read that shit oh man cameraman with the camera man's got the phone going in the back I'm just kidding with Tony Rob it's a great book I definitely check it out what he talks about in there is that you have a belief which is like assume attraction higher value and then each leg of the table is a reference point right so the thing is this like if I could come up here and be like you deserve a 10 and you're like thanks Brad I deserve a 10 but then how many reference points do you actually have of being with that girl that's actually 10 0 1 I don't know maybe you guys do have something that'd be great but you don't have a lot whereas how many reference points does the girl have of like I'm the 10 like I cut through line and some Cho just bought me a drink great yeah right so how do you fucking fight that there's a bunch of different ways one is just building trust in the approach I had one guy in bootcamp he was a 52 year old virgin he's very cool so I'm not gonna make fun of him but I'm like you gotta have abundance dude have abundance yeah abundance of girls he's like how am I supposed to have abundance I've been alive for over half a century and I still haven't been with a girl right and I'm like oh shit what I say but what it is it's not abundance when you're starting off at least it's not abundance of girls because I still on it's not like I have the five playmates running around behind me like girls shut up try to talk but it is like a abundance it like trust in your skill set right so trust in your ability to you're talking to the girl and you're like oh if this doesn't go well I got nothing else it's not like that it's like okay I talked to this one doesn't go well I have the trust in myself that I can open another one right so that's something that a lot of times what I teach is the first five minutes directly relate to the last five minutes right the framework you can create at the very beginning like the framework of like I'm the man you're the girl this is how we're talking I'm leading I'm dealing with this shit I'm awesome I'm high value sitting in that frame that that's like carries on through the whole relationship whether it be six months a year the initials like oh my god he just came up to me who's so alpha and cool yeah like set that frame from the like the very beginning right on the approach right so we had the two we had eye contact we had loud projection I would say talk through the girl talk a meter behind the girl we're in Europe I use metric and then the third thing is tonality right so tonality tone of voice who here is heard of like the trying neutral and breaking before is anyone heard that it's kind of RST pimps it up I think it's originally from David and David D'Angelo actually and what it is you have a more than anything what I've realized each year that goes by I realize this it's so much more and more obvious is that what you realize is when you're in any interaction whether it be guy girl guy guy with your boss with your parents is that tonality is kind of like if there was ever like a scene the matrix type thing like an amazing secret code that's going on in the game all the time it would be tonality like it's just amazing like you look at a let's say a restaurant you have the waitress come up she's like hello would you guys like anything else so that tonality where it slants up it's kind of a seeking rapport a qualifying tonality so she's trying to she's trying to get a bigger tip right oh what do you like in America I don't know we don't tip over here right so maybe 10% some shit right but so like they're looking for that bigger tip the same way as the bouncer comes up it's like hey where were you like get away from there right he's like I'm conveying authority oh the thing is most of this time it's completely subconscious and it's subconscious too when you go up to the hot girl and you're like hey how are you doing tonight yeah or you're like I heard go direct you're really cute it doesn't work why didn't it work it's because your tonality is fucked right so it's like you got it like it doesn't matter what you say it's all like like I got like I love being like a pickup nerd one of my favorite things is going up and doing like interview mode right because it's like oh interview modes horrible so go up and then what you have is the slanting down where the breaking I call it like a commanding and challenge tonality so you're like hey where are you from really what do you do interesting it really come here often that's great right and the thing is yeah it's like I'm making it fun it's fun with it but it's conveying a lot of authority but also right because guys are like I don't want to sound like a dick but you see you have like the playful little smirk to it so it's like hey where were you last yeah you're cute come here right and it's kind of what is flirting it's like sending those mixed signals right it's kind of like got the the trying and the breaking in there with a smile so more than anything right so you could come up and you like all unkempt with like shitty clothes on horrible body language it's like hey what's your name right and she's gonna be like the thing is you can't even really do with bad by like you're gonna have good body language I have people they're like they're like when you go on bootcamp do you like listen to what he's saying and like listen to how he talks I'm like I really don't even need to be next to the guy I can like see it I remember one time I was in Oslo actually was where it was I'm going there in a week or two and the dude was I'm like he's going up like getting blown out blown out set after set and all of a sudden he I'm like dude quit being a fucking piece of shit like just go up there be a man like talk to her good tonality and hit it all so nice to him go up to this girl and I just see his head and he's just like and I'm like oh he's doing it he's doing it like I don't even need to hear it you can see it this is like this like like head bob shit like not that you need to be that extreme everyone's gonna be out tonight like like bobblehead shit it's not really like that but there's like it's like as a man like a fucking caveman it's just like oh it's that like it's like platinum or just like ting ting ting ting it just hits so nicely and the thing is is you know it doesn't matter what your headspace is right that's the biggest part is something is anyone here seen the blueprint by Tyler one thing he talks about there is like your state so your emotional state right and the thing is is when you're in a good state like let's say you walk outside here and you're like holy shit oh 10,000 pound yeah whoa is it really gonna be hard to have a good night tonight you're gonna be like oh make it rain right you're just gonna be having fun and it's gonna be you see some girl like hey what's up uh because you're in a good headspace or you like ace a test ace an exam or something like that but what about that night where you're like hey what's up oh hey oh right and you're getting like left and right just girls are like no no no it's like okay well i'm not in a good headspace how do I get there and the thing is is when you're conscious of it then it's usually even worse because it compounds it even more we're like i'm out of stay oh shit hey oh my god it's even worse now and then you just go home right who's had one of those nights no one okay everyone cool okay good i'm like no i'm the only one uh and i was definitely there for a while so what it is how to get out of that and one of the easiest ways the thing is is i try the goal is where i'm just asking a lot of books here's red david data the way the superior man it's a very classic uh industry book you guys should read these be read some of these books they're awesome he talks about masculine and feminine polarity and what you have is the feminine polarity is all over the place right so she's like i'm wearing pink i feel happy but i feel kind of fat oh that guy looked at me my cell phone sparkly whoa and she like so she's completely externally focused and she builds her state from external things or as a guy we build our state from uh he says you got to be on your path or what i say it's just kind of like action based like you like uh you win the war or you like you get the girl or you make the money and that makes you feel good your state is drawn from within but the problem that most guys have is that uh they make the woman their path right so the woman's all like yeah sparkles whoa and they're like oh hey whoa oh shit and then the thing is like she they're like because there's no polarity um that's a lot of times why relationships fall to shit right where it either goes to both neutral or uh like the guy tries it so the girl has to become like the man and i'm sure everyone has friends here where like they have like a friend who the woman wears the pants in the relationship right and we're all here not to do that that's not the way to do it right unless you want to but even he says like in uh like homosexual relationships you usually have like the butch and like the hot one or whatever like so even in that stuff uh the picture and catcher so uh the girl has to keep it in the masculine not in the feminine this is another example too i'm just going all over the place because i look like an r is um on the approach you know who we hear likes dance floor game anyone who we hear would like it but it's really hard yeah we're in europe right then see in america you go like let's go find some girls let's go to the dance floor and you're like oh man they're everywhere like in europe you're like let's go to the dance floor whoa it's all dudes like i don't know what it like everyone here is more like open to dancing and shit in in america we're very uh uptight or pc or something but uh with dance floor guys are like okay i totally agree with the concept of be equal or higher energy than the girl right i think that's i think that's very important you guys have all heard that before right but the problem is is if she's like yeah whoa like how are you gonna trump that how are you gonna be higher energy than that and the thing is is this kind of ties into with the gorilla headspace again is that there's different types of energies and so you want to feed into the masculine so you don't want to be like ah dancing monkey crazy shit but you go up with the more um with a different type of energy you go up with the like a masculine it's like an intensity which is like aye you're cute like the example i use is like you know if you went up a girl she's like and you're like i'm gonna fucking kill you and you got like a knife or something like she's probably gonna stop dancing right not that that's a good opener at all but the thing is there's different types of energies so when i talk about the mazl's hierarchy if you go in and you're like aye you're cute what's her name it doesn't matter how much fun she's having she's like whoa what is this this is new this is a masculine man i like this and usually they'll be like they'll be like i know and then you're like shit bitch or they're like thanks so are you they're like thanks or whatever that type of shit and then what they'll do is they'll stop and else and they'll be like and then it'll start grinding up on you right but you have to like first first get them in your rhythm right lead the rhythm as opposed to like the dudes are just like what's up girls yeah oh hey what's up turn around yeah awesome right that's obviously kind of a bad way to do it although i'm sure everyone's seen someone do it that way unless someone teaches it here i mean it's amazing people teach it but uh i'm all about the direct just go in cut to the chase because i'm lazy like i said um so somebody tell me what were the three types does anyone remember the three types sorry direct approach three types the direct approach eye contact great that's one yeah loud be be loud yeah with eye contact it's kind of full frontal those are kind of one big ones and then third one is tonality so we're talking about tonality some more the thing that's cool with uh the commanding authoritative breaking tonality is that it creates an autopilot response right so if i go and i'm like hey what's your name the autopilot responses to go into like a qualifier like oh my name's sara right so it's cool because um one of a more like advanced concepts that i'll teach the guys if they've ever taken uh like a multi if they're alumni like they took one program they're coming back again or if you've been going out a lot is to uh get the girl to invest more get her to like game you and one of the easiest ways is using that tonality when we do a lot of infield footage type stuff the camera is like damn the girls just like she's looking around like what's like you need to talk more i'm like i don't really talk and again i guess since we're tying this into the gorilla headspace is that through using tonality it gets her to do a lot of the work so like really she's like yeah i'm from sweden it's so much fun there like i'm stocking oh interesting yeah it's totally interesting i love stocking so much really yeah no you got to come it's so good so this is like by using that tonality it gets her to kind of like go on the other end where she's just like talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk and talking a lot more than i need to which is great because i don't really like talking to girls i mean like talking and uh no i love talking to women they're so much fun conversation and uh it's great because it sets that right frame it gets her game in you and it says all the right things um so tonality is good and and the other thing with that is like now she's thinking in her head she's like hmm i the only reference points the only experiences i have of talking to someone like this or my last boyfriend or my boss or my dad or something like that and the only type of people that talk to me this way are very high value confident authoritative people and those are the type of people i'm attracted to right so this again is setting that right framework right from the very beginning of like i do this all the time i'm the cool guy blah blah blah and even if you're in a bad headspace you can still somewhat force it out the goal is long term the thing that the coolest part about it too is um here's where the game i'm sure everyone's with the game right pretty much everyone uh in there uh he talks about like conscious competence and unconscious competence and all that's like the holy grail and uh the thing is when you have uh when you feel entitled to the girl again right when you talk to that girl you just feel good about naturally your tonality is going to be great it's going to be cool so you don't even really need to be conscious of it and the goal is is like as you go out there you do it you get the positive reference points and then because of that you start building those good the good aura the good reference points and then you do feel like yeah this is going to go great you hey what's your name and you're not like use good tonality it just comes out naturally so that's why i really like it but the thing is like i said the more and more i teach this stuff like year after year it's kind of you realize the same things over and over again and it's like i can't turn it off like i'll be watching tv and i'll be like hmm why do all the broadcasters sound the same and it's like oh because they're trying to be authoritative and have that good tonality and they're not thinking that they're just like my boss had good tonality or use this sounded this way right especially female like sports anchors you notice how they're like hey it on the five o'clock news today blah blah blah it's like what the fuck why does that sound the same and that's that reason it's that authoritative tone that they want to put out right um it's funny because they don't have guys they'll take boot camp and they'll come back they'll be like i got fired for my job it's never that extreme but i'm like because i prefaced it at the end of boot camp because they're like yeah my boss was like where are the papers and i was like the ride over there right so it's funny how like because you know i'm like in the corporate the corporate world right you have like a distinct hierarchy but the thing is is just be conscious of it and realize it and then you can use that to your advantage it works really well um you know the one is like bouncer game right how are the clubs in london are they how to get into i don't go out here a lot are they yeah no yeah um it's funny because the dude who gets into the club and the dude who doesn't says the exact same thing right the dude who doesn't get in he goes to the front he's like nope it's like but my friends aren't here no i'm just came to have fun you know i'm just traveling i'm i'm from us no it's gonna be fun that dude's not getting in right whereas the next guy goes he's like hey sorry uh bottles only um no my friends are inside um from the u.s now i just came out to have a good night tonight oh sure right so isn't it interesting like how everyone kind of falls into that it's like it really is kind of like uh you can just cut your way into kind of any different type of thing and talk to the people but the thing is you don't want to be antagonistic right with the bouncer you don't want to be like no my friends are inside because it's like they're gonna be like well it's just gonna be too far so you keep it below neutral but uh yeah you just don't give your power away and then you just don't get too antagonistic with it um oh yeah so yeah two things i was gonna say with that talk about like calibration right the thing is this guy's was like well when do i use breaking rapport tonality or commanding tonality when do i like how should i calibrate right um a lot of people don't really talk much about calibration i i usually do what it is it's based on uh ultimately it comes down to value right so if you're talking to the girl at the very beginning of the interaction i want to convey as much value as possible so i'm gonna be pretty breaking but the thing is it's not like you're gonna go to the girl at the mall and be like hey what are you doing right she's gonna go like steal my purse some shit like that right but at 2 a.m on the dance floor the girl who just blew four dudes off i'm like okay time to bring the ice hey attitude hey look at me when i'm talking to you what's your name hey come here right and it's gonna be pretty forceful you say that to the like the the fatty she's like where's the cool guy you know me right so that's the other thing is calibrating to like how attractive the girl is usually the more attractive she is uh the more i'm gonna kind of go in because i got you got to convey more value not that i'm looking at her like she's high value it's just like her headspace is that she has a lot of value so i know that i have to convey more to do that um which is kind of i guess i'm falling into like this is getting back into the gorilla alpha wolf shit because guys are like yeah okay i'll convey a value yo what's up girl and that's obviously bad but the thing is that's kind of the friction in the middle ground right a lot of times when you're in the intermediate stages i would hate to be a girl and deal with this like see not that it's bad i mean i'm still going through it too but a lot of when you're in the intermediate to advanced stages it's kind of like if if the girl was where we're at it'd be like she'd be like super hot and all of a sudden she's like like gain a hundred pounds like as you're talking to her and then she'd be like super hot again and you'd be like what the fuck what's going on that's kind of where a lot of you guys i'm assuming are at right because what it is is you're you're conveying like high value and low value at the same time so guys go up they're like ah you're cute she's like oh he's hot and then you're like so where are you from and she's like what what is this like hey hey hey and it's like oh and then you're like check out my watch and she's like no like so it's like you're you're and what it is over time is like you just keep the high shit and that that stuff you're learning all that stuff this week and realize that it's all kind of like doing that type of shit or weekend i guess and then what it is is just through time you iron out kind of the bad shit and then you just keep that like fucking awesome shit going the whole time is the end goal like through going out a lot of experience but you got to go out for you guys not going out right um so yeah the two the two ways to calibrate are yeah i guess there's three ways one is when i don't have value right so the guys are like what do you do when the girl come like a friend comes in or a dude comes in then like you know whatever just stand there for a little bit maybe check my email and then all of a sudden i'm like okay it's been a minute this is too long hey what are you guys talking about that's boring let's talk about orange peels okay cool yeah zest zesty right so but i want to use a break in report to get back in because if i'm like what are you guys talking about she's gonna be like done with you right um the other one is like the bouncer pushes you away or like some shit happens there's a fight like what were you talking about oh yeah anyway boom then i'm gonna be back in but the thing is is once it hooks right then you don't have to worry about that as much um somebody give me a definition of hooking what is hooking hookering is that what i heard i was like prostitution i'm like what sorry sorry to interrupt you what was that yeah and what and what what creates she said well yeah uh when she doesn't want you leave when she wants you to say what creates that what makes it hook and value right yeah and she's interested she wants to know why so the thing is if if your set doesn't hook if you're i'm trying to get rid of saying set for some reason if your interaction does not hook the girl does not when you stay there it's because you didn't convey enough value how do you convey more value going harder right if it's right at the beginning i like i'll have a student he'll go and he'd be like hey what's up how's it going she'll blows up i'd like was that a hundred percent did you go in hard enough did you go in strong enough if you didn't if it doesn't hook pretty quickly it's because you didn't go in strong enough right so you want to convey more value earlier on in the interaction the other thing is again like i said you don't do that the mall the same way at 10 p.m people are just kind of getting out you don't really need there's not a lot of stimulus and they're not that receptive so you're not going to go in like super hard as opposed to like two or three or four in the morning something like that um so those are the the things that kind of calibrate sweet all right what time are you 45 minutes or so cool um so again alpha won't be the gorilla so those are kind of that's like an outer game fix um some of the more internal aspects of it uh the thing is is again like i said to get more and more entitled i noticed that as as you go to each level of like hotness i don't know maybe some of the guys in the back who are rocking and rolling notice this but i noticed that when you hit each level of hotness of girls it's kind of like a spiral where it's like you learn it with the sevens and then else and it works then you learn it with the eights and then it works and then it's like what do you are you're getting more and more reference points so it feels more confident you just do it naturally and then you're like okay nine's and you're kind of like fighting your own internal like the value you're putting on the girl you know and the same reason why i think one of the best things for guys that are trying to get with hotter girls is to go with the binary system where it's like one i do or zero i wouldn't because what you do is you kind of separate from the you separate from that like putting value on the looks type shit i actually i lately i go more with like trinary where it's like zero i wouldn't one i would two i'd show pictures of my friends so usually those are the three that i go with or whatever it's just kind of like the advanced level i guess i don't know um but so some things with the hotness stuff one of the things that rst we've been teaching for probably like two or three years now which has been fucking sick makes boot camps go so much easier is the idea of momentum building momentum because right so like when you go out because what is the byproduct of entitlement it's like indifference right when you're entitled to the girl you feel indifferent like you're just like whatever cool let's do this i don't really care nothing's a big deal to me so the thing that's really cool is when you go out and you're like approach approach approach approach approach is it that much different to talk to number 15 and number 16 number 16 you're like hey i was okay i'll do another one it's not like you're just totally like i don't give a shit so the thing is is that girl you're talking to number 16 and she like feels that you're indifferent right and she's not like she's not like oh man he's indifferent because he's talked to every single girl in the room she just feels that indifference in that moment so it's cool she feels that you obviously must be entitled to her right so through that's another kind of cheat code that you can use by you doing approach approach approach and you're building social momentum uh it gets you to feel entitled after you talk you talk to 15 girls in a row you're just like hey what's up yeah but i've talked to a lot of girls here i just don't care and it's going to go really well right has anyone done like 15 sets in a night and kind of had that feeling right where he's like i'm gonna have to do like 30 or 40 sets that's usually bad right because you're like hey what's up that's like too short set method or whatever but the first oh man this is gonna be on film i'm just gonna do it anyways here goes like my uh my shape but what i call it is i shouldn't it's like jackoff theory is what i call it so it's kind of like you know like when you're watching like porn you're just kind of like yeah uh it's not like that right it's the same thing when you go out and approach like when you go out you got to be like yeah oh and then you like social flow going it's the same thing it's the same thing right like so it's kind of like yeah mom and dad whoa um so like that you got to you can't let time go in between you can't let it simmer down you've got to keep that shit rolling rolling rolling rolling like the whole time to uh get in that flow so that's another reason why a lot of guys maybe don't get into that headspace the other reason you know and you also have micro momentum and macro right so the fact that i'm gonna go out for almost the next 60 days in a row i can really sit around to like one or two in the morning and just be like all right time to do this hey what's up you're cute nice to meet you and i'm because in your head you're like can i do this can i do it oh i did it yesterday okay cool right but if it's been a week or a lot of guys if they were like have a hard job at work you're very logical like engineers and stuff like that you're like uh and then you go out and you're like now i gotta be social it's gonna take a while to like shift gears basically the same reason like you know if i do like a debrief like i'll do debriefs at the end of night sometimes and i'm like yeah you did this wrong you did this right that was great that was shitty let's work on that for tomorrow and then i go back to the nightclub and i'm just like uh because i completely disengaged from that social headspace and it's like you almost got a start over which sucks right um so and and then you guys notice that if you go out thursday friday saturday usually saturday is the best day because you've been building momentum all weekend uh but you also have it in the night so a lot of what it is is just after a couple minutes just hitting that hitting it right away right so it's like you don't want to what do most guys do they go into the the club and they're like all right now i'm gonna get a drink yeah oh i kind of got to go to the bathroom hmm let's go check out the dance floor oh i need another drink and then all of a sudden like an hour and a half goes by and you're like no it's time to do approach hey what's up uh and then you do like two or three and you're like this sucks let's go somewhere else and then it's just bullshit your night sucks right so you have to start off at the very beginning of the night what i usually do it's like if you're in a new venue just go in kind of get relaxed five minutes get a drink whether water or alcohol if you're having or whatever i don't really care either way with that and then really quickly get started and start hitting up those sets and getting the flow and get going don't let too much time wait and that's uh the thing is it's not even like a skill it doesn't matter how good you are that's just purely a discipline and the thing is that it'll automatically make your nights better guaranteed if you just have the discipline i know some guys if anyone anyone here have like really bad approach anxiety still some of the guys that aren't going a lot it's like if you have really bad it's just like make it a rule be like one of my friends who goes the first girl on the left i approach every time when i walk in the venue i don't care if it's fat i don't care if it's 80 or 14 i'm gonna approach her and say what's up right just to get just get like over the threshold i know a lot of guys that i know that are better they don't even it doesn't even need to be a girl to talk to like a cool dude talk to like some player dude like what's up how the girls is like yeah it's pretty shitty tonight whatever and like at least you're getting the ball around it's flowing and what it is is uh when you're when you're talking it's because you can't do it you're like oh just talk to my friends and get social but the thing is you have too many commonalities to kind of tie off of two and like fall into so it has to be like a stranger i mean do it while you're in line that's the easiest like oh yeah is this place cool tonight just either get that or the bouncer or if you guys are in the same place over and over again find like a bouncer or bartender that you can kind of start building that network way and so you get in quicker and get free drinks and all that good stuff but just talk to someone quickly and build that momentum um so that's one way to kind of get into entitlement another way to sneak into uh getting into more of that entitlement-based stuff which i think is really cool the first step is realizing when you're talking to the girl is again you don't want to be in your head and like oh am i all come dependent am i entitled but there is like a nice like kind of like happy medium where you need to become almost conscious of when you're being outcome dependent right when you're needy when you're when you're like oh really ha ha you're like oh shit i'm being really chilled right now this this sucks i need to be like chill back right so the first step is at least just becoming conscious of that because i think most guys you know the thing is like with a sticking point does anyone not know what a sticking point is not no and it's everyone else okay so sticking point like when you hit like a plateau and you're going to the next one the thing is it's never hard to uh get out of the sticking point usually what it is is figuring out what it is right usually it's like like all of a sudden somebody like dude you have bad tonality i do i do really i have bad tonality shit and then once you know it you become conscious of it and it's kind of like you know like for me doing a lot of public speaking it's the same type of thing i used to say i probably do i'll watch this video and be like damn but i say uh whatever a lot so i'll be like yeah you know what i'm talking about or whatever and now every time i say it's kind of like like nails on the chalkboard like so because you're conscious of it your head automatically starts working on it to fix the sticking point but the thing is you have to be conscious of it and you have to go out right otherwise it's like you can't just sit at your home and meditate like tonality tonality give me better tonality what do i need to do it's like just go out and get some reference points um i was thinking of the meditation shit i forgot what i said oh yeah so uh outcome dependence right how to like notice when you're outcome dependent and it could be different for every guy just notice when you feel like oh i really want this i want this really bad i really put a lot of value on this i've never been with a girl this hot before this would be so cool my friends would think i'm so cool if i got this girl right um and then it's like okay how do we push through that because again when you're entitled you don't feel that and what i really like doing which is a cool little thing and i've only done it a couple times but every time i do it's really helped me in those situations is when you're out let's say tonight or this weekend and you're talking to someone and for whatever reason you feel entitled right you're like oh this is going really well i don't even care almost kind of like be willing to throw the interaction away and be like start becoming conscious of it you're like how's my tonality right now how's my body language how's my eye contact all these different things and you're like oh shit that's pretty cool i like that and then so then when you go up to the girl and you're not your outcome dependent and you're like oh man i really want this like take the step back and like hold on act entitled right and the thing is this like is that congruent is that a hundred percent how you should do it absolutely not it should just be like you do it but the thing is it's better to be like act how i am is in when i'm entitled as opposed to be like be james bond or like be some like weird shit it's going to be more closer to congruence and sometimes it's enough where i said before we have the high value and the low value you're still kind of staying in this high value realm and it's not as much of the low value bullshit where most girls will be alright with it and they'll be cool with it kind of cool so i still got like 10 minutes so those are some entitlement things and one other thing that uh whoa spilling water last thing i'll get into before i ask some questions here um is uh i call it like kind of the the jersey guido persona or in europe i always use like the italian macho man is the same type of idea and it's like okay well why why is this guy good why is this guy because you know you see that guy you're like the natural why does he get the girls you know and what it is is uh when he goes up i would say it's kind of like he's got this internal hip-hop track of him being like i'm the boss i'm the boss i'm the man i'm the man holy shit oh yeah i'm amazing look at my tan look at my muscles right all that so he's like and what it is is he's usually what i say is that guys that come to these type of things events and like learn about this stuff is you're too smart for your own good right why why are the guys that are kind of stupid kind of get a lot of girls it's because they're completely oblivious to any social feedback they're just like she's like fuck you he's like nice playing hard to get i'm the boss i'm the man i'm the man i'm the man right so he's so stupid he doesn't even ping off of that right whereas guys were like we're hypersensitive so we're like oh my god she looked away she twirled her hair what does that mean does that mean she likes me does that mean she doesn't like me what do i do holy shit right and uh like right everyone's kind of like yeah yeah yeah so it's like how do you cross that threshold and the thing is is or how do you become the jersey guido or the macho man and what it is is you can never really turn that stuff off but you just have to realize to not put any value in it whatsoever so it's like i can't turn that off i'm like oh man she's looking away that's an indicator of things not going well but i know if i feed into that or like start meditating on it and thinking about it even more it's only going to be that self-fulfilling prophecy and so much of uh social dynamics in general is like a self-fulfilling prophecy whose frame is stronger right and i'm saying like one of the best kind of head spaces to be in is that like i'll say gorilla but it's more just like entitled headspace like i feel entitled assume attraction i'm the high value one i'm here and you're gonna love me i'm the coolest dude here i'm the coolest guy you're gonna meet tonight and let's do this and again it sucks because if if only it was that easy to just like flip the switch but that's actually a good thing because then you'd be watching tv and they'd be like there's aliens outside you'd be like there's aliens whoa it's like you have that you have that in your head that your mind is smart enough that you can't really trick it quickly but it's all about like forcing that frame forcing that frame and then using some of the kind of like cheat codes i talked about earlier to kind of get some of those reference points but again what it ties back to is long term remind me to bring up hotter girls if i don't bring this up again like hotter girls yeah long term you want to get it to the point where you're just getting those reference points and it happens naturally and i totally that wasn't even what i was talking about but what i what that made me think of is uh a lot of times when who here is like decent with like the average girls but it's looking for hotter girls anyone in here like no i need all the girls uh the problem that a lot of guys they're like i can give the sevens but it's just it's different i don't know something's different and and sure there is the whole your internal headspace thing that you got to deal with which is one side which i talked about before but then the other thing that is really interesting that when you get with a more attractive woman is that you're not going to get as many iowis you're not going to get as much positive feedback from the girl right the example that i use is uh let's say uh you're walking down the street and right you find like a thousand pound on the ground you're like oh thousand pound shots let's do it right whereas like a bill gates was like oh sweet and he's keep on going like he wouldn't even carry like yeah another person not starving in africa like uh it's not a big deal to him it's the same thing for like an attractive woman like like when like the seven if you come up and you start developing these like high value traits which happens pretty quickly if you're just going out is that like a seven she's like oh my god yeah oh the cool guy yes it's like my one chance for love right whereas like when like like a very attractive woman she's like oh sweet this is cool this is how it should be yeah cool like she likes it she's having fun with you but she's not going to be like all this stuff so guys are like it's different what's going on here i don't know and the thing is is um so many times especially when you're in immediate stages you don't have a lot of experience you just kind of like you're going up and you're like oh at least i'm talking to her yeah she's laughing cool this is good this is going well oh and you're too busy like um being the seller instead of the buyer does that make you guys understand that frame like you're trying to sell yourself as opposed to like what do you got right so you're too busy on the seller side like oh what does what did you think about this does this work should i say this oh damn it i don't have anything else to say here uh as opposed to being on the other side where you're just like what do you got cool really interesting i don't care which is kind of where the girl falls into not because she wants to because you set that frame right and again this ties into when you're entitled it happens naturally but you just want to get it where your frame stronger than hers i guess i'll just kind of say this because this is one of my favorite things to talk about too is um is that same kind of frame thing that's going on it's actually going on right now you talk about mine i'm mind fucking you right now guys it's going on you don't realize this what it is is when you talk to the girl again she's got her frame like yeah i'm having fun and then you have yours and you're like i want you whatever it is that's obviously a bad one it's the same thing when i walk in this room and i walk in and i'm like what's up guys and you're all like right it's who who's reality is stronger right so i walk in mine's like i want them to have fun i want this to be cool and then if you guys are like i hate rsd who are you you have long hair right i'm gonna be like ah so if i ping off of you and that's like 30 people here or however many people here it's gonna be like uh where i have to be like no my frame is stronger it's the same thing if i'm teaching bootcamp and the student comes up and he's like this place is really hard yeah the girls are so mean and i'm like you're right it is really hard ah i didn't even notice right i can't have that frame obviously when i'm working so i go like no dude this place is awesome let's do this come on let's go let's do this shit yeah even if there's like three girls and i'm like inside i'm like holy shit holy shit holy shit uh i talk about like be the gorilla the other one that i'm trying to figure out how to teach this more uh more better that doesn't even make sense but it's the idea of like the con artist and what that frame is is uh like you see the movie catch me if you can right you know where he's like the fake pilot or whatever right so i'm sure at one point he's like flying the plane i have my pilot license actually but all of a sudden he's like oh yeah and he hits like some button and the co-pilot's like dude what the fuck why you hit that shit and in his head he's like oh shit oh shit right and this is like a big deal he's gonna go to jail but he's like oh no dude i was just like testing that out yeah totally just yeah well what do you've never done that before oh right so but in his head he's like oh oh my god oh my god so that's that same when you're in the the friction point in between kind of like getting to the the higher levels of entitlement and when you're still like trying to get there it's the same thing you go up to girl and you're like hey what's up you're cute and she's like and in your head you're like oh shit oh shit oh shit oh shit what you have to do is you have to hold the frame even more well guys do they go like oh what does that mean i need to do this and they're reacting to the situation as opposed to what you should do it's like you have to hold it even more that's why guys that are really funny usually have the strongest frames right so funny dude like let's say like sasha baren kong he comes on stage and he like because he's jewish or something and he's like i want to kill all the jews or like some stuff like that's little snippets gonna be cut out and i'm gonna that's gonna be on like yeah so i'm like no but uh like um like this is like he's anti-semitic like brad rarzy like so but he comes up there and everyone in the audience is like did he just say that but he's completely he's just like and he like holds the frame and because of that tension that's what creates the humor that what that's what creates laugh right the people that are worse at telling jokes are like hold on let me tell you that it's like and they're like laughing as they tell it because they're kind of nervous to create that tension but the tension's what's actually creates the funniness so you got to hold that frame even more when you're not getting when you there's a dissonance to what you expect that's when you have to hold it even more right so it's the same thing when you're approach when you're approaching a girl and you're like hey what's up you're cute nice to meet you and she's like it's like all right i always say it's kind of like the floor drops out like yeah you know what so yeah just in london for a day i'm here to have some fun i think it should be cool yeah you know what like i got in less than i was totally jet lag took some melatonin though now i'm all good blah blah blah and i'm just plow plow plow plow plow plow good tonality and in my head i'm like keep conveying value sooner later she'll turn right and the thing that's cool is uh most guys right before you get into pickup you're like okay you go up to some girl you're like hey what's up and she's like fuck you and you're like oh man she didn't like me right then when you get into this stuff you're like hey what's up and she's like fuck you you're like oh damn that was a bad approach i need to go back to the library and learn some more right and then what happens is when you hit the but you're still like oh that was bad whereas for me when i'm like hey what's up you're cute and she's like i'm like oh nice screening for a cool guy right because she's just kind of screening out she can't say hi to everyone luckily i'm the coolest guy here time to show off the chops hey attitude blah blah blah and i'm gonna do all the shit because i actually like that i prefer that i actually prefer that over where she's like hey nice to meet you because what happens if she kind of gives me that initial kind of bullshit it's uh kind of like a shit test right what happens when you pass a shit test anyone right yeah uh attraction goes up right because she's testing you to see if you're congruent if you're a cool guy and you're like yes i am cool so because you have that initial resistance at the beginning of the interaction and then you pass it actually you're further along than if she was like oh hi nice to meet you and it's going really well right so you see how that's a nice little reframe there we're like i'm actually looking forward to the resistance and being like like where's yeah five minutes 10 minutes goes by then it's like okay this is a waste of time and then i'm like well she's so stupid she doesn't even realize how cool i am that's my other reframe right it's always her fault not mine and uh yeah it gets you in that same that uh be the buyer not the seller type frame um cool well i guess that's about an hour so i can do some question and answers here yeah so yes how to get better at cultivating more of a authoritative tonality basically um for me i think the biggest thing is just becoming conscious of it in everything like so when you're walking down the street and you hear a couple talking like you could go to a restaurant and you see two like you see all the couples and all you do is have to listen in on the conversation and you can be like okay that dude's pretty cool and the girl's totally all about it and i could do with a blindfold on i could be like yep this is going really well over here i'm and she's like oh really the dude's like all like with the bad tonality stuff and once you're like hyper conscious of it you're naturally gonna notice it in yourself and you're naturally gonna do all the right things to correct it the other thing is is every guy has reference points of being in that authoritative role whether it be like training at work or maybe you have like a dog right hey don't cross the road hey hey get over here come on sit down right it's almost like treat the girls like dogs is there right hey yeah i said like Tyler's like you got to get rid of all this derogatory message so i'm trying but uh like uh so it's like but you want to have like or like your niece right hey hold my hand when you cross the street right all like everyone has some of those reference points somewhere in their background and that's that high value kind of frame again so that those are the two ways is like think about that and try to um bring that out when you're talking to the girl or uh the other thing too is just all you really have to do is be um hyper conscious of when you go into the trying when you go into the qualifying because most guys when you talk to your friends and stuff you're not gonna be like oh yeah that's awesome dude yeah some every so often there's a guy like that but normally when you talk to your guy friends you're just like ah yeah yeah yeah and you have good tonality it's just then you go up to the hot hot girl and you're like hey and then you just want to be like oh and again even when that happens when you're talking to her just be like that's not the end it's not like it's over where you're like oh shit that was bad bring it back down oh really that's great cool and so those are kind of uh somebody's up out answer answer it cool thanks someone else um sometimes when like I try to act entitled it will sort of the the set will drift apart and it will sort of end up just me sort of I don't know I can't explain it but instead it instead of acting entitled is as if I'm not sort of interested in them and then she's sort of losing interest in me and then okay I can't drink and she goes yeah yeah cool yeah so he talks about he was talking about um sometimes when you feel entitled um or when you're acting entitled to the girl she doesn't even think that you like her basically right and and what it is is uh there's two sides of kind of the game that are going on here in any interaction and this is a really good example is let's say you go for the number you're like a game your number sometimes should be like no and the reason that she doesn't want to give you her number is because she's like oh he's not even gonna call me like she he doesn't even care and that's one side the other side is like oh this guy's weird I don't want his number so how what are those two different things one is uh you have value so you're conveying enough value that part you have fine the part that you're not having enough of is qualification right so you're not qualifying the girl and you don't need to be like hey can you cook are you adventurous like all that that's not necessary it's just like usually for me it's like I like you you're fun the other thing is getting physical if you're getting physical it's not like she's like he doesn't like me right you know so that that's usually a big thing too if you're getting physical with it uh you know the other thing is even realizing how much eye contact can convey like I don't even need to be getting physical with the girl and like with my with your eyes like you can just be like mmm I call like the bedroom eyes where you're like picturing her like undressing her with your eyes type look that type of thing and then she's like this guy even though we're talking about the weather there's something else going on underneath here right so just get that get that more like like that dominant kind of masculine that'll help out a lot anyone else hold on a second we talked about eye contact and as you're aware eye contact is quite difficult to do for instance I travel a lot by trains yeah and sometimes opposite me there'll be an attractive lady and we make eye contact and of course at that point you then both of you look away can you give me any advice to what to do in that sort of situation sure yeah I have some good advice and some weird advice uh he's asking about like okay so you're on the tube or something see a girl crossed you make eye contact and then you dart away like how to move forward from there part of it what I realize is as I've gotten more great like good results and success is that I look at girls differently and there's times where I know it was basically the initial eye contact that I made with her was what ended up making me ultimately get with her was because something just happened we looked over and she saw me and she's like holy shit who's that guy so part of it is you're gonna divert your eyes less as you have more confidence in yourself and you kind of as you get more results you get more reference points of women being like sexual beings and you're like okay they want this more than I do so when you're looking at them you're not like oh I don't want to stare at I don't want to objectify I don't want to look at her like a piece of meat where I'm like yeah she's getting turned on by this right but it's coming from a more high value headspace right if you feel low value and you're like it's just gonna be crazy you're like she's like oh the weird dude's looking at me like the homeless dude that does that shit I'm sure you've seen that too right and that's what it is who you're like I don't want to be that guy but the thing is is when you have the value you can get away with anything right I can do interview mode or something like that for me and this is the weird part what I kind of do is I've noticed like whenever I make eye contact with like a really hot girl it's kind of like they do this thing where they like look at you and they don't divert their eyes but they just keep it on the same thought so that it's like and like so like they they hold it but they just like wander off so it's like oh I like that I'm not afraid to look away but also it doesn't mean that much to me like that's kind of the headspace so that that's kind of when I'm when I make really strong eye contact with a hottie I try to do that I'm like yeah and then my head I'm like laughing at myself because it's so like somewhat contrived but um and the thing is is like eye contact it sucks because you can't really fake it that's the tough part so the goal is is when you divert your eyes one be like shit that should piss you off because you should get to the point where you don't divert your eyes and then kind of maybe do the thing that I was saying type thing the other thing that um something that um Tyler teaches a lot on bootcamp I don't do this just because I don't really have time for it is uh reaction time right and it's like I'll say first when you're out at a club is like when you see when you make eye contact with a girl it should be like and just go right over there like before you have time to think before anything you're just like I'm the caveman I see something I want boom I'm going for it and hand that before you think and that's going to be and then I'll go up and be like what are you looking at that's a great like kind of opener like stop staring at me those are my other two like because it's like yeah that's just like fucking money um so getting your reaction time but it's going to be the same thing during the day too like you cross eyes and just like get to the habit of being like hi or something or something whatever it takes I mean everyone's personality is a little different so maybe for that you for you everything is going to feel a little incongruent to start but maybe for you like you make eye contact you're like oh and you walk over there maybe for you you feel a little more comfortable being like get the wave out of the way or smile maybe it's just like that's that's usually a really good way to kind of start during the day because you don't need a lot smile she smiles back okay she's going to be pretty receptive boom let's do that and that's kind of a nice nice little um I know some of the other guys here do a lot of day game I I'm in New York a lot so there is a lot of good opportunities there but also I just go out every night too so I'm definitely more night game focused but I think reaction time is a and that's where the old like three second rule came from right because guys are like oh shit what I do I don't think like three seconds is the the magical number it could be more it could be less but it is trying to get in there before you think too much and think too far into it cool that's a good question answer it cool sweet uh sweet got time for a couple more yeah yeah how do you cultivate cultivate a sense of entitlement how do you get entitlement more entitlement ultimately reference points the more experience you have of having success you're going to feel more entitled right so the goal is is how to get there because that's as I said the positive feedback loop the more experience you have for me I remember last year it was like last September I bet like I was starting to get like with a very like high caliber of girl and I'm like oh I just need like four or five more of these and I can feel like I'm getting to the point where I'm like hmm I feel like entitled with like this level of girl and I'm like oh I'm so close and I can get there fairly like if I promise stayed up and kind of get some good momentum I can get there somewhat consciously but I I could feel that I was getting really close and then all of a sudden it's like you kind of push through and like I said before it's kind of like you hit it on different levels so using the things the number one thing is momentum using that momentum to be like and know that like know that everyone when they go out at 10 p.m like girls too right even though girl although I do love how like a girl walk into the club at 10 30 and like Lady Gaga come on she'd like ah like freak out I'm like I wish I was that excited about anything much as Lady Gaga at 10 30 totally sober but the thing is even though that is the case they're very receptive to like external stuff they're still not they're like in the logical headspace all day too so you kind of got to get them to get some momentum going too and you realize just like just get in that momentum try that out and really hit up like 10 15 sets and like I said before you get that level of indifference going from girl zero to girl one is like oh it's a jump in the water but number 15 and number 16 or 20 to 21 is just going to be like and again because that's what the byproduct of entitlement is indifference right so that's what you want to try to get to is where you feel indifferent to the hotness of the girl and all that stuff so good question uh yeah someone else Anthony okay one more anyone else I got nothing Vince in the back can you give an example how you would tone things down during the day like how you would change your tonality maybe like less gorilla yeah well yeah okay so he was talking about daytime stuff and how it's different than a night and like what I've noticed is uh the only thing I really calibrate like the holistic thing that I'm calibrating based on any girl or any environment is how direct I'm going right and the thing is there's probably let's say like five six modalities of directness you have eye contact you have let's say physicality but the thing is a side hug is going to be less direct than a full frontal hug the same thing is like a break in rapport is going to be more like tonality is going to be more direct than kind of a neutral tone so based on how much stimulus is going on I'm going to I'm going to calibrate that so the thing is guys are like well can you get physical during the day I definitely think you can get physical but it's not going to be like what's up girl yeah this is like well that's just way uncalibrated that's too much but there might be time and usually it's a lot slower let's say half an hour or two hours go by and then you're like haha maybe just hold their hand or something like that so you can get some physicality in there but the same thing is when you're approaching you don't need to be as direct because you don't need to convey as much value because you're not fighting as much stimulus so during the day you don't need to be like hey it can just be like I'll usually be just slightly below the neutral so like excuse me you're cute what's your name something like that maybe shake their hand although I'm 50-50 with that some guys are better with that some guys that they go like this and she's still kind of like so sometimes it doesn't work you know like because she's just kind of like still frightened and I think one of the other big things that I usually teach for day game is uh because guys that do really well at night they're like oh just something seems different during the day I don't know what it is I just like scare girls and maybe that could be calibration but the other thing is I think at the beginning usually there's a little bit of uh there's like a little bit of like awkwardness purely because like at night she's expecting it so during the day she's like oh hey uh and guys like I've seen before they're pinging off of her so they feel that kind of awkwardness and they're like oh my god this is really awkward and just to realize like as the man to kind of fight through that and be like oh hey maybe you have to do a little plowing but it's not plowing to like convey value it's just to get her to kind of like catch her bearings and be like oh oh he's talking to me oh he's not stealing my purse I'm like okay cool so that's that's kind of like one of the big and then the last thing I'll just say before we kind of end here is that I do feel like during the day I feel like early on in the interaction it never really hooks as strong as at night because I think at night you have so much stimulus so she's like ah and you're like oh this is going really well whereas during the day I feel like it's always kind of tenuous at the beginning so you're like oh really you think that blah blah blah and if you stop talking she might not initiate even though she's had enjoying it so you have to kind of hold the conversation for a little bit longer until it really syncs up and then you guys are like create the bubble basically you know um does that answer it kind of cool thanks um yeah so kind of ending up here like I said my name is Brad Branson I have a blog all free information I don't sell anything Brad Branson.com uh Real Social Dynamics I know Ozzy does a lot of bootcamps here I'm pretty much sold out for the next couple weeks but I do have some in the end of July I think in like Dublin and Munich or something like that if you guys are interested that's just RealSocialDynamics.com and we also have a sweet 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