 So I'm talking about the feeling that You just want to take her you just want to recognize your masculine dominance and And take her it's about Sucking and fucking and blowjobs and facials and like penetration and hard pounding and quickies and all this Raw stuff. This is what it this is the contrast. I'm creating the polarity Between sex and affection because we're gonna get into examples So say you're you know, you're feeling social you're out and about you meet this girl. You have a great conversation again social verbal You're feeling this connection And you start to imagine her As your girlfriend You start to imagine going on dates. You start future projecting all this like cool stuff You'll do together right and what's really happening is like your sense of lack your sense of scarcity your neediness your need for feminine energy It's kind of kind of sucking the feminine energy from her. You're just basking in it. Oh, man I hope I don't fuck this up. Hope I don't lose her. Hope we can have all these experiences. I Bet you make a really great girlfriend These thoughts these desires and we've all had them right They're hijacking the seduction that could be taking place because There's if there's one thing that you get out of this that you should write down, right? Is that you got it go after the sex before you go after the affection? almost all schools of game Remember the ones over here They're obsessed with taking and pressing status and value Have it backwards Because it's an ego stroke. Remember the ego versus the soul how can I get her to recognize me and appreciate me and Give me that sense of acceptance that I don't have for myself. So you get the sex before you get the affection And it doesn't matter like maybe you don't want to be like hopefully you don't want to be a pickup artist or player But maybe you don't want to be this like crazy romance artist and you don't want to be events with all this energy, right? but You know, maybe endless sexual variety and novelty like isn't your thing that's cool You just want like this cool girlfriend this chill chick that you get to have all the affection with Still saying the pursuit of sex the Recognition I should say of the innate natural sexual urge capitalizing on that tension right escalating Bringing it to fruition, right? Because so many guys like they have this front, right? It's the pickup artist front, right? They're gonna do all these things they come across as all-confident And and she gets a sense. Well, first of all like attracts like and game recognizes game So you're on that path you're meeting people with the same Resonance of energy But you know sometimes You see this like the guys will let the girl down It's a huge insult or sexuality to her femininity when the guy doesn't actually pull through Because it more often than not he's caught up in this Mindfuck of like seeking affection before sex, right? So if your goal is to be more social, this is actually for mystery if your goals to be more social Talkative is the number one state to be in that's what he said Except he says is like this the number one state to be in is talkative because he's on this path If your goals to be more social talkative is the number one state to be in if your goals to be more seductive Horny is the number one state to be in like part of this whole process is recognizing Your own sexuality being comfortable with it self-esteem remember Loving yourself valuing yourself loving your body loving your cock Understanding that sex is a beautiful thing You don't have sexual hang-ups. You don't have a Madonna whore complex You don't have a vagina envy. You don't have miss. What's it called misogyny? You have a healthy self-respect You have a healthy regard for sex It's a beautiful natural incredible thing So whether you're into monogamy polygamy or good old-fashioned promiscuity You've got to realize that the need for sex comes first Sex comes first So how are we gonna get there? That brings us to the fourth trump card and this is what your question is about Arousal Trump's desire Desire and arousal are two very different things Desire is of the mind. It's mental Arousal is of the body. It's physical It's physiological. It's both biological and chemical sexual arousal means that her body is stimulated Her juices are flowing It doesn't mean that You're gonna fuck but it means she's in a heightened state of arousal and awareness and Physically and physiologically she's ready to fuck So arousal Trump's desire because it is Primal it's immediate It's natural It's automatic The instinctual urge of arousal is very powerful And the way I see it is like this There's there's actually studies that they show this as well. A lot of times women are Engaged in intercourse before they even realize that they have desire for the person they're with the mental Sensation that that's where they want to be and that they like him, right? Another thing I always say is like stop Stop Wondering if girls like you, right? It's over here Start determining if they turn you on and start learning how to turn them on That was over here. So all relates back to my triangle so Arousal desire, right? men like We're almost always in a in a desirous state We're checking out women. We're evaluating them. We get this whole like stupid one to ten scale and all this stuff, right? Or maybe we just have the like I do or I wouldn't do a scale, right? It doesn't and just just acknowledging that doesn't mean we're gonna approach. It doesn't mean we're gonna escalate It doesn't mean we're gonna make those decisions But we have that quick snap decision, right? That's our desire. I just said a trip. I said arousal Trump's desire So by you being a man who has that desire who also takes action has the courage takes action makes the approach Escalates puts these skill set processes of seduction Gets them flowing Creates arousal mostly through nonverbal tactics nonverbal presence eye contact vocal tonality body language Cutting space proximity all this stuff, right? You're turning on so it looks like this your desire Paired with action leads to her arousal Her arousal once you know once you know she's turned on leads to your arousal You're turned on your heart and then Part of this is like her recognition that you're turned on Will lead to her desire So it's your desire her arousal your arousal her desire you're good to go. Let's go time Any questions about that? I feel like I went through that one kind of quick and it ties into the last trump card Escalation trumps everything else So first of all sexual attraction I Believe is the highest compliment you can give another person Just like I think seduction is one of the greatest gifts you can give another person Sexual attraction being the highest compliment. I Mean think of this everyone is flattered to find out if someone else finds them attractive It's always flattering Whether you whether it's reciprocal or not it's flattering But it gets even better because like I was saying often it is reciprocal You letting someone know that they turn you on We'll often turn them on Finding out from someone that you turn them on We'll turn you on it's a beautiful loop. It's a beautiful feedback loop that goes like this desire arousal arousal desire action so Escalation being the process of making a moment more intense process of making a moment more intense is gradual forward momentum this is aspect of momentum and Creating arousal escalation is how you create arousal Escalation is how you create sexual tension Escalation is how you create chemistry so to me Because it creates all these things or it recognizes the natural patterns of human sexuality It absolutely trumps everything else it this obviously includes things like What we talked about having social proof having an entourage peacocking having a wing having a pivot Being a storyteller Doing this stuff like banter and teasing and breaking rapport Escalating primarily non-verbally and quickly should obviously trump those things, but I Also think it trumps things like Like looks looks as a luxury looks are a luxury Escalation is essential these like good-looking guys, right? There's a lot of them in the city What is that site beautiful people comm right? There's more There's more people on that site both men and women from Sweden in any other country So yeah, I can I can recognize there's good-looking guys here, too, right? They're not fucking escalating They're getting nowhere It may be more permissive here for women to initiate For women to adopt the masculine role and to approach and escalate themselves I still think that's kind of a typical man is action woman is reaction But you know you can't be like this good-looking guy And you know you wear cool clothes and you stand around being cocky and just like Knowing nothing about seduction and waiting for those rare random opportunities, right? You want to manifest your destiny? You want to put these processes into play? You want to go out and create the opportunities? So looks are a luxury Escalation is essential Absolutely Escalation is what I'm saying. It's how you take a woman who's somewhat interested and you make her very very interested And like I said, you can't wait around play it safe. You can't look for indicators of her interest Guys think escalation is only something you do like when you get a clear signal Usually by the time you get that kind of signal. It's already for the most part too late to have Done the kind of proactive Escalation that would have like really solidified the moment That would have really created this magical intense Awesome time for the two of you. So I Said this earlier Stop getting attention Start getting arousal Stop entertaining Start escalating. Let's add it all up. Is it up to trumps the social? the nonverbal trumps the verbal Sex trumps of seeking sex trumps seeking affection creating arousal trumps creating desire and Escalation trumps all other attraction methods. Yeah, I got to do this all again but In one sentence, I'm gonna read this specifically simple seductive nonverbal escalation is What leads to arousal? then sex Then the affection Etc. And that's what I teach. So this was the next screen Looks like a lot of writing, but it's it's just the same screen as before with the application of the 80-20 rule. I mean obviously you can't You can't be seductive without also being somewhat social, right? And you'd have a tough time getting physical without ever saying a word I teach nonverbal openers Vince did too He did some examples But you know all the way to the bedroom that's kind of crazy So just employ the good old-fashioned 80-20 rule like put work on Seduction 80% of your time for your time and attention on Being social only 20% of the time escalate non-verbally 80% verbally 20% Use as your motivator seeking or pursuing sex 80% of the time and Affection and this and without in particular doesn't mean like all this girl specials She's on the affection path or something should just means like recognize that there's that element at play But the sex comes first no matter I Don't know it's just it's kind of a flaw to be like well this girl's different You know she's still you're insulting her if you if you don't pursue the natural path It's a huge insult You're letting yourself down you're letting her down Arouser body 80% of the time convince her mind 20% of the time Focus on your escalation 80% and other traction methods 20% that's that's the Basis that's the core of my two different talks combined The savage triangle the social the seductive and the sexual the five trump cards The the other thing that I want to talk a little bit about and this is what I teach in field I Will be doing in-field workshops tonight tomorrow Sunday For locals. I'm gonna be here At least a month I had my phone number at the beginning. I'll put it up again. Please write it down. Call me text me Whatever. It's a local number for Sweden Um, but yeah, yeah, just just to talk real quick about kind of the methods I teach in field because It's based on the senses. It's utterly simple. Here's another trump card simplicity trumps complexity