 What is masculinity outside of patriarchy and what is what kind of man is needed on earth right now? And there's all kinds of stuff we could we could talk about but I really resonate with what you were saying because What we can explain is limited compared to What we can transmit what we can model What we can convey with stories The stories of like there may have been men in in your life or my life whose example Communicated something to me Or to you about what it is to be a man and like and like you're like, yeah something about that Maybe I can't say what it is. Maybe I can't distill it into principles and I want to just say like this this pattern of I'm gonna Learn how to do something by distilling it down into principles. So I have instructions that I can follow like there's a kind of a Cowardess in that or a shrinking from full sovereignty and From full trust that in a way, maybe isn't that manly? So yes, I want to yes. Yeah In the state that I'm in right now, I'm a little averse to Explaining You know, I've been doing an awful lot of explaining and arguing for things In my work, you know, I write essays, you know, and most of them are expository prose. I'm like trying to Convince somebody of something. I'm trying to to make a case for something. I'm marshaling evidence, right? Exerting logic It's a kind of a force based paradigm. I'm going to exert force of logic and evidence to change your mind and And I'm not saying that like we should not ever use force To to alter reality like I'm not saying we should discard engineering or that we should never fight Like there's an occasion for all of those things but in our time They they're their utility is limited They're insufficient to many of the challenges that we face where we cannot stamp out the evils of the world and In fact, many of the evils of the world are here precisely because we've been trying to stamp everything out that we don't agree with or that gets in the way of Our self-interest and our progress. So this is part of what patriarchy is actually. Yeah So so I've been personally exploring like, oh Like what if I write a screenplay? What if I write fiction? What if I mean, there's so many ways that I can engage the world in a positive way and Maybe be part of a change instead of changing the world But be a servant of a change And I think that this is part of Maybe a new masculinity or a new fur for us steeped in patriarchy like Instead of like being the dominant master of the world How do I serve life? How do I serve life?