></ 😃 you help me, you will interfere, you will tell me what to do and what not to do. And I am scared to tell you no because at the end of the day half of my monthly expenditure is in your hands. Therefore Islam says you as parent also give your children freedom, let them think. Let them decide on their family. Number two, immaturity causes interference. Immaturity how? You find this boy is not that mature to look after a woman. He is just being subjected to pressure for him to get married. So when he gets married definitely you would rely on those who pressurize him to get married for advice. And that also causes a lot of problems. Number three, so uttafa hum. Misunderstanding. Maybe sometime the father and the mother they are advising him something. But the way he implemented is something he understand in a different way. And that also causes misunderstanding within marriage. And it causes a lot of problems in our marriages. And the last one is that you find some of our mothers and fathers. Even if their daughters and son get married they still think that is mommy boy and mommy daughter. Where is your holiday this year? This you must go to South Africa. The wife said no I don't want to go to South Africa. My mother said you must go to South Africa. Why you want to disrespect my mother? But it's not disrespect. Don't interfere in their life. Every single person is entitled to privacy. Even if it's your daughter and your son now they are married. They have to decide the way they want to do. Unless you see them going astray and going out of the way. Give them space. Don't interfere too much. And this causes a lot of problems in our car. Therefore it is highly recommended. Even this is not like this but scholars always recommend. If you have your son and the son is married. And you have the capability. Let the son stay somewhere far from you. Let him grow. The later if you want to bring him next to his final problem. Because you keep him under he come the mom cook the food. Now you find the ill-laws are fighting the ill-laws. These ill-laws that one ill-law that one ill-law. So in conclusion. Islam is a religion. That gives intellect room to think. And most especially within our marital relationship. You as father ill-law. Or as mother ill-law. Your son will remain your son until the day of kiyama. But the moment your son is married. You cannot interfere too much into the relationship. What they eat is none of your business. What they wear is none of your business. How they want to be a room to look like is none of your business. And you as a son also is married. Learn to stop every small thing you want to call your mom and ask. Because if some of the sounds are like that. Small thing you want to call mommy. What do you do it? And stop telling your wife my mother's food is the best food. These are some of the complaints we receive so we need to. Ah no she doesn't know how to cook. You know I really miss my mother's food. Now if you tell this Miss Keena this poor lady. I miss my mother what she will do. She will go in the corner of the room and cry. Keep on encouraging her. And she will encourage you. And insha Allah if your heart is clean. Allah will make it easy for you insha Allah.