 another NARC Survivor Live video and this one is a special edition it's a Valentine's Day special happy Valentine's Day everyone I hope you all have a great day although of course that may be a challenge because I know many of you are dealing with narcissists and as many of you may know if you don't know well I can tell you now that on special occasions narcissists always act out they're always lucky to cause chaos and drama they're always lucky to cause problems for you to irritate and annoy you to make you angry or upset. Now let's talk about why that is Valentine's Day isn't much different to Christmas Day Thanksgiving or yours or someone else's birthday Valentine's Day isn't different to any of those days at least in the narcissist mind because there's one thing that all of these days have in common they promote togetherness cooperation being in harmony with one another love peace joy happiness if there's one thing that all of these days have in common it's all of those things and yeah those are all things that narcissists do not like the reason why they don't like those things is because they can't partake they can't participate they can't get involved in that because as we know they are dysfunctional they have issues with emotional stability they can't stabilize or regulate themselves they need other people to regulate their emotions so of course they have to lash out at someone and most often that is their nearest and dearest which is you you can expect to be the emotional tampon the emotional punching bag on Valentine's Day they will just start an argument for no reason and you'll be wondering what you did wrong they will always find a reason to argue with you on Valentine's Day but that may not always be the case sometimes they will give you the silent treatment they will ignore you they will ghost you and they will just seem like it's for no reason you may not know what's going on you may try to contact them you may try to fix things but it's like no matter what you do you can't change it because it has nothing to do with you it's just Valentine's Day promotes love peace happiness functionality which are all things that a narcissist cannot enjoy and yeah I'm sure you will have all noticed that with your narcissist is that they can't experience love they can't be intimate with you they can't develop a deeper connection it's always superficial and yeah but you may be thinking in your mind that you can't remember times when they try to make you jealous maybe it was with a friend a co-worker maybe you are you are at a restaurant and they would go out of their way to flirt with another person in front of you and it would make you think hold on a minute maybe they just can't be intimate with me but they can with everyone else no no that's not it it's fake everything you see this is all a part of the facade it's their false image which they may have shown to you in the beginning but once you start to figure them out then the mask came all the way off sometimes they may put the mask back on they may try to use it to manipulate you if they think you're still under their spell but on a day like Valentine's Day you can expect that mask to come all the way off they're always going to do something to mess it up they mess everything up doesn't matter what it is it could be your birthday Thanksgiving Christmas new year they have to screw it up because they don't like any kind of functionality and they may just tell you that for whatever reason they don't celebrate Valentine's Day it's not important to them remember it's all about them they're self absorbed of their lack of empathy they don't give a shit about you they don't care if it's important to you they don't care if you want it to be special that doesn't even cross their mind but in some cases if it does cross their mind they're just gonna use it to hurt you whatever they think hurts you they're gonna do that again and again they're always scanning the environment they're always looking to see how you react to certain things they've said or that other people have said or things that people have done they're always looking to see how you react to that and if it upsets you they're gonna do it again and again they're gonna keep using it to get a reaction out of you because when it all comes down to it all of these fucked up things that they do it's all just to get a reaction out of you that's all it is because that reaction fuels them it regulates their emotions it makes them feel like they're alive when in reality they're not alive at all they're dead inside they're nothing but an empty shell of who they used to be and deep down they know that that's why they created the false self in the first place so that they could feel something because even for a narcissist they know feeling something is better than feeling nothing they're doing everything they can to escape from that void within them and if they have to hurt you if they have to invalidate you gas like you they will do that if it will make them feel better because remember all they care about is themselves they don't care about you but you shouldn't worry don't worry if the narcissist ghosts you on Valentine's Day they discard you they start a fight with you if they cheat on you if they triangulate you with someone else they try and get you fired from your job whatever they try to do because even if they were nice and cooperative they try to make Valentine's Day special for you you should already know it's fake because yeah I mean they can't be intimate not really they can't develop a deep connection they can't attach to you and that's why you could never have a successful relationship with them they don't even want to attach to you they want you to attach to them well they remain detached so that they can just extract what they need from you and go in a go about what they want to do while leaving you holding on for them whenever they're ready to give you whatever breadcrumbs they're willing to give you because it's always bread crumbs with them it's never an equal exchange there's rarely any reciprocation I mean if you look back 99% of it was all you you were keeping it together you were keeping them alive and that's all it really was it was just a leech bottom feeder they were just leeching off you for their own survival there was no loving that they never loved you and of course when someone doesn't really love you it's that much easier for them to walk away especially when they didn't even invest anything into you you invested everything you had into them all of your time energy and money and you got back nothing in return so of course it's hard for you to walk away you gave everything you had because you weren't a genuine authentic person that's why you put in the work because you wanted something for real but they weren't about any of that it was all fake they lied they gave you false promises they future faked they acted like there was something real and you know what I think many of them deep down they wish they could be something real but not so much so they can build something with someone and do things for another person it's just still what about them just something they could further use as a manipulation tactic a narcissist will never care about anyone they will never love anyone not just you it doesn't matter who it is they don't even love themselves they act like they do they act arrogant and entitled but that's only to compensate for their true feelings because really they feel like they don't deserve anything in life because they know they haven't put the work in deep down they know they ain't nothing that's why they had to manipulate you they tricked you and they know fully well that they took the place of someone who could have been so much better for you they stole that position not only did they destroy things for you but they robbed a perfect opportunity from someone else who was looking for love and commitment and many people don't talk about that but it's true because if they didn't come into your life with the mask with their false image you still would have been alone you would have been single and that would have left the door open for someone better but they robbed that from you and they robbed that from the other person too it's like I've said before all of these things that they do all of these crazy things it's never isolated where it only affects you this has a knock-on effect it's a chain reaction of events and it affects a lot of people not just you it affects everyone you come into contact with that's how you know they have no concern no consideration for anyone because of course they know that and knowing that they would consider the effect of what they do to you and how that would affect other people that you come into contact with but they just don't care they don't care about anyone but themselves but that's carelessness that's what ultimately leads them to their demise because when you're going around without a care in the world you don't give a shit about anyone you're acting recklessly that way of life that lifestyle is gonna come back to hurt you at some point but this is what they don't realize they think they can just go wrong go go go around bombing everything and it's never gonna come back to get them but if they're burning bridges everywhere they're destroying everyone and everything where are they supposed to go in the end and who's gonna want to be with someone who has a history like that someone who's done all of these fucked up things I mean maybe you might make one mistake you might make two but this is like an endless cycle for them it just goes on and on and that's how you know that at some point the only person who would even desire to be with them is someone who is fully aware of what they're trying to do someone who is two steps ahead of them someone who is going to manipulate them and use them for their own selfish needs a narcissist and I think that in the end is their karma but yeah narcissists will be plotting to destroy your Valentine's Day you can be sure of that no matter how over or cover it may be they will be plotting to do something that's what they always do they can't stand special occasions because they can't partake they hate any form of functionality because they're dysfunctional and then it triggers them to reflect on just how dysfunctional they are how weird how not normal but yeah I mean the best thing you can do is just make this day about yourself pamper yourself take care of yourself go to a spa go for a walk in the park or just stay at home and have a hot bath with some scented candles just do little things for yourself today little things that make you feel good make Valentine's Day about you because after everything you've been through with the narcissist you deserve it so yeah happy Valentine's Day everyone 116 live viewers only 40 thumbs up please hit that thumbs up button down below and I'll catch you in another one very soon