 Why does someone begin to pull away from a relationship? Let's go back to the beginning of what I talked about. What is a relationship? If you're in the dating process of getting to know one another, they probably didn't fall in love with you. They might like you. They certainly might appreciate the companionship, the connection, the sex. They might appreciate those things. They might like those things, but they like those things. Did they really like you? Or did they like what you gave for them?