 Record this. So folks, if you don't mind to post below and just let us know, and maybe Kim, you can look at your phone. If you have your phone handy. I see it, yeah, I see it. Are we actually live? Yeah! That's great, because we want to interact with you guys. We'll also probably do a watch party because that's how we roll. And we like to hit you, come in and go in. And you can do that today with media. And Kimmy and I, first of all- So folks, if you don't mind to post below- Oh, isn't that funny? And just let us know. And maybe Kim, you can look at your phone. If you have your phone handy. I see it. Bye-bye. There you go. So, I will do my best to interact with people, but this is actually, we're running some mega technology here right now, to be honest with you. I've got Zoom going, I've got Facebook live going, and I've got Facebook watch party going. So, I don't know if I just did something hilarious, but if you're with us, you know, right below, and I am going to watch for the comments. How's that? And the reason why Kim and I are here today is because we can. And we said, let's do this. And because we have a really cool synergy together and friendship, and we wanted to offer you guys some things at this time. And what's really beautiful, I think, is that Kim is here to represent the people who are either in or out of relationship, because that's her expertise. And why don't you tell the people what you do out in the world so they understand what it is they can ask you, or the kind of tips you can give them right now? Oh yeah, absolutely. Well, so for those of you who don't know me, I am a dating and makeover expert, and I actually draw upon my experiences with therapists to do an outside-in approach and helping people look and feel their best so they attract what they want. I, you know, I do some styling, I do wing-gall sessions, and yes, I can even do that online. I work on flirting and putting together dating plans, but also really self-love as well. Like, you know, that's really where it all starts. And I think that's where we can have such a juicy conversation today, because at the end of the day, it really isn't about who we're attracting, it's about us. And when we feel good about us, that's when we start, you know, attracting what we want. Hmm, awesome. I think that's so prevalent right now. My big joke, and we'll dive in a minute. My big joke is nine months from now, we're gonna have a whole new slew of babies. It's gonna be a whole new baby boomer, right? Because you know we're not talking about, half of them are making love, right? So we're gonna have a whole new baby boomer. God knows what their names will be. And then also in nine months, we're gonna have divorces. I have no doubt. Because people who used to being at jobs and having a million distractions are suddenly stuck together. And some people are struggling with that. And then the other contingency I definitely wanna address with you, Kim, is about the people like myself who are single. And I mean, I would actually love to be, hold up with somebody that I'm madly in love with and is madly in love with me. Thankfully, I've got my dog, but being single is interesting to navigate, especially for someone who's mostly extroverted. So we're gonna talk about that too. And I'll tell you folks what I do. And then we're gonna have some fun. And I wanna also say that I'm going to also address some regular at home mega tips besides some really heart-based things. Where you can go with me is around visibility. I'm a visibility shaman out in the world. What that means is I help you with the inside job of being fully seen and fully you in the most exquisite way out in the world while doing that through books, through interviews, through bestsellers and any way that it is incumbent on you or you're called to to present yourself how you express your song out into the world. Most people have a jar, no matter how high functioning or not they are to which they are willing to show the world who they are and willing to take risks out in the media visibility world. And for wherever that is that's stopping you and you're ready for the next step, that's where I show up again the inner healing so you can do the outer work. Okay. So Kim, I guess let's just start there because that was like clearly something for me is what I would like to know what are you hearing from your clients? What are their issues right now? What's really prevalent? Yeah, it's a good question and I actually just did a podcast on this myself because I've been getting so many emails and inquiries about what do I do about my dating life, about my love life, about my relationships? Some people are wanting to put their love life on hold and say, you know what? I will wait till this whole thing is over and then I'll work on dating again when we can all go out and about. I have some people who are like, you know what? This is a time for me to just kind of pull in and work on myself but I'm not really interested in meeting anybody right now. I just wanna like work on me. And then I have some people say, hey, I wanna date. I still wanna keep this party going but I just don't know how, especially out in the virtual world. And so, you know, what my answer has been to everybody, no matter where people are at in their love life, is that now is the perfect time to work on your love life more so than ever before. I mean, what this is really forcing us all to do and you kind of alluded to this is to slow down. So really slow down and pay attention to what it is that we want right now. And I don't think it's black or white. Like I don't think it's, well, I'm just gonna work on myself or I'm gonna date. I actually think it's all in one. And this is what I've been preaching before all of this stuff happened is that when you pull in and you focus on you and you get really crystal clear on what it is that you want. And also the challenges that you're having when it comes to dating and relationships, the patterns that haven't been working for you, this is an opportunity to start practicing, breaking some of those habits, breaking some of those patterns. And you can still do that virtually. So I've been having a lot of fun with my clients just to give everyone some hope out there. And we'll start here with what they can do to practice some of these things. Maybe I think it's like a mindset shift instead of thinking of it like, okay, how am I gonna find the one right now? It's like, well, what am I gonna do to have some fun to practice maybe some things that I've never practiced before so that I can get the results I want either now or out in the real world and we all will be out there. I mean, here's the thing. There will be a day that we will all come out to play again. And that's the truth. It may look like a different world. Maybe we're doing it in a different way, but the problems that you had before all this happened is still gonna exist if you don't work on it. So this is the time to work on it. What does that mean? I wanna get really specific. Because I don't know, I can't go meet somebody. I don't think I'm gonna start online dating right now because where would I go from that? I suppose I could have a few phone conversations. I feel limited about what's possible. And I mean, why don't you tell me what are your thoughts around this? Yeah, so I've been putting together like dating plans for people while they are quarantined. And one of the things that we're talking about, and obviously like everybody's in a different spot in a different part of their journey. Like where you are, it is, you're still kind of transitioning, right? And so that's a different place than somebody who has been single for like a year, two years, three years. So again, like take everything with a grain of salt and that's why I encourage people to really just get clear on their mission. But the practical things that you can do is number one, write down on a list of all the things that you would like to work on right now, in terms of your dating life. Maybe some of the things that didn't work for you in the last relationship, write down the things that you want for yourself. And what are the things that you're gonna work on for yourself that might change some of the results and who you're attracting? So that's the first and foremost. The second thing is, maybe it doesn't look like pure dating, like in your instance, maybe it's just like getting social, getting reacquainted. And let's give them some context just so they understand who you and I are friends. So she's addressing me in a familial way, but people may not know, I had a one year, three month relationship that literally ended the seven, excuse me, Sunday before the quarantine. So we had a breakup and you can imagine the impact, extrovert alone, plus going through a breakup. So when she reversed that, she's saying tender heart, maybe I'm not fully ready to be out there. Right, exactly. And I think that's real because somebody who maybe isn't ready to just fully go date, like you said, go online and hard date again. Think about ways that you can just, and I would have said this to you even if we were able to go out, how can you connect with people socially? And yes, that it can include men. I mean, you don't have to think of it necessarily as like dating. I always say maybe you wanna replace the word dating with just being social right now. And you can form, meetups online, you can do like watch parties with friends. A lot of people are getting really creative with the way that they're dating online or just becoming like more social online. Can you give us some examples? Yeah, I had it, wait, this is so cute. Now this is from, what's really interesting about what's happening and cause you've been referring yourself as an extrovert and I'm pretty much am too. I think that's why we're like sisters is that I think we can learn a lot from the introverts and what I'm finding is that the introverts, it's like they're in their element right now. And I'm loving it. So I'm like, a lot of my clients are introverts are like, Kim, I'm loving this. Like everyone's kind of coming into my world. And so I have one client just to give you some like fun hope. She is in Seattle. So obviously hit hard, obviously earlier than all of us, but so she, they've been quarantined a little bit longer and she was gonna just give up dating and we were getting so, we were having so much traction with her profile and really helping her with like building conversations. Now her problem was her conversation skills. So she was having a hard time connecting with guys. She was trying to just get to the date. So this has really been forcing her to slow down and learn how to create connections in a more emotional way with her conversation. So I've been actually hopping on her mumbo. We've been looking at her conversations. I've been helping her progress. And I'm happy to say that there's this one guy, well, first of all, she's been getting a lot more traction and there's one guy who's been really special. So they've been kind of dating, right? And they haven't seen each other yet. And I was helping her kind of progress in the same way that you would in a normal day. You know, they were texting a lot and they moved to the phone. Yes, everybody, everyone's gonna have to learn how to use the phone again. I'm just saying like this is an opportunity. That thing that rings, yeah. Like it's a great tool. And then she's like, well, I can't date. So now what do I do? I said just do a virtual date. So they had their first virtual date. It went really, really well. Wait, I have a question about that. Yeah. When you virtual date, because I'm an energy person and if something's going on, I'll feel it and if not, how do you feel that chemistry through a screen? Like don't you think that's an in-person thing or do you have another point of view? Well, Debbie, I'm feeling like chemistry with you and I right now. Like I think that, you know, it's forcing people who maybe relied on physicality before to hone in on other ways of creating chemistry. So I actually think it's a really interesting time. So people who are more reliant on that like touch point and being in person, well, what can you do in ways of conversation? What about your non-verbal signals that you're sending people? You know, I just posted something about smiling, being contagious. And it's the one thing that is a good kind of contagious right now, you know, I see people walking. And even though we have to create distance or even on camera, we can still smile at each other. And that creates warmth that still creates connection. I mean, 93% of communication is non-verbal. We can still engage in that. So, you know, this is a really interesting time to build an emotional chemistry with somebody. And so this particular client that I'm talking about, that was her problem is that she didn't know how to build emotional chemistry and she was relying too much on the physical and just trying to land dates, but nothing was happening. So she is building an emotional chemistry with this guy. So you wanna hear something so cute? I just got an email from her. She said, Kim, oh my gosh. So we're moving, we moved to our second date. They went online and she's really into dancing and they found like a dancing kind of class or meetup online. They both entered it at the same time and they were like dancing with each other. And she's like, Kim, he likes my dancing. And she was, you know, she was having a hard time finding a guy that liked her kind of dancing. So she's connecting in a way she never dreamed was possible. And so that's the point of this, is that we can come at it at more of a scarcity mindset or we can look at this as a state of abundance. And I actually think there's an abundance of like ways that we can connect now and things that we just never did before. And it's causing us all to really look at each other differently. The other thing I'm gonna say, a benefit that's coming out of this and you and I kind of talked about it, is that look at how vulnerable everybody is. I mean, all the barriers are being stripped down now. Look at the celebrities that are going on the talk shows with no makeup and like we're seeing their homes in the background. Like everyone's becoming more human and real. And we're all kind of like coming together on that. And that's not necessarily a bad thing. That's beautiful. And I really appreciate what you've said so much. And the part that speaks to me I suppose the most that just gave me some hope is when you talked about you're developing something emotionally with somebody, I'm a slow mover. Whether it's a man romantic relationship or a female, it is inherent in who I am. I plot along because safety for me is everything. And then there's a certain point when like a flower, you know, I just open up because it's safe, safe, safe, safe, safe, safe. Good human, right? Connection. And so that's really hopeful for me because that makes me realize if I utilize that tool and I do zooms or Skype or FaceTime with somebody that I can start to create an intimacy. And I've always heard about people said, oh, we were friends first and then we became a relationship. And I've always thought that was really kind of cool that at some point there was a pivot maybe even unexpectedly for both people and they're like, ooh, you're kind of hot and sexy. And I really like, I have a very strong heart-based relationship with you already, like we're already friends and the architecture is there to build something. I've always thought that sounded like amazing. So thank you for that because I will proceed way more open when that is available to me to develop that kind of connection. And God knows maybe that alone will lower the divorce rate or the separation rate because people will have something unbonded with so much more integrity that keeps them together. That's really beautiful. And I love that you shared that because that is what I was talking about in the beginning is like thinking about maybe what was challenging for you or just like kind of your MO before all this happened. And like for you, if you had a slower time warming up and you had to like to give yourself more time to trust until you were more vulnerable, maybe this is a time to practice being more vulnerable more like kind of early on and starting conversations in that way, and practicing that with men and seeing if there's a difference between your interactions. And maybe that there will help you break your patterns. For instance, I have a client who was attracting a lot of narcissists in her life. And part of her problem is that she's very guarded and she doesn't share emotion. And so before all this happened, we were practicing just sharing feelings and opening up and learning how to let people in. So it doesn't kind of create this like lopsided situation where she was the giver and he is the taker. And so by her learning how to open up earlier on and conversations and on first dates, it is really allowed her to see who's paying attention to her. Who is the guy that cares? Who can she let in? And it's actually helping her look at trust in a whole different way. So like same thing for you. I'm not saying that you attracted that necessarily, but just like what difference will it make in who you attract when you allow people in earlier? Yeah, that's good. Cause I know my behavior generally turns men on to be honest, cause that hunter and them sort of comes out. So I'm not, I think you know me. I'm not terribly guarded, but I don't, you know, some people move quickly, whether it's into bed with somebody or you know, into a relationship, but I just, I need to go at a level that like each piece feels right and light to me. But yeah, I really can feel this, what you're saying and even this last piece without a doubt that there's more, I think the less almost there's sexuality involved that the easier it is to really be able to suss out somebody and see what you enjoy or don't enjoy or is this working or not working? I love what I'm hearing. It's really very hopeful. Good. Yay. Well, no, and I also think this is an opportunity to get more playful and have fun. Another phenomenon that I'm saying that's happening is like think about first dates, right? A lot of people are on really good behavior. You know, there tends to be a little more stiffness. A lot of people complain about being a Q and A session. It becomes like this interview. I mean, we can't really do that now. Like we are being forced to be more like playful in the way that we're engaging. So yeah, I mean, like if you're seeing something goofy in the background or people are showing up, not as dressed up and I mean, again, it's breaking the barriers, but like what if you played a game online together? You know, what if you did something really cute? I had another person do a first date and I said, just share an appetizer together. Like what if you made the same appetizer and then you sat there and you ate it together? Like you were, you know, there's something very playful about that. And that is the crust of flirtation. That's the crust of like, you know, what we find so attractive in one another. So use this time to your potential. Wow. Well, thank you. And, you know, this is also an amazing opportunity for people to do when you're talking about an abundance and what's available. Yeah. I still agree with you, right? Because I get, I get it, I get it. I have a lot of people calling me, I get it. I know you could be glued to your TV and the worry and the concern and you could be in so much darkness and fear. Although I don't think if you were to think back on a memory sometime in your life when you were really, really worried about something in the past and think about that for a minute, what did that create for you? Did it change the outcome? Did it really mess you up while you're going through the experience? I'm guessing it's a yes. Because worry and overwhelming concern and taxing ourselves is really unfortunate, especially when we need to do is show up as champions. And if I may say right now, more than ever we can't tax our health systems. We need to be really healthy through this. And part of being healthy is to, yes, acknowledge the reality, take precedence. You know, I go out with my scarf. I go out with my gloves, right? I'm taking care. I don't, I have to walk my dog. I try to stay the six feet. La-La, I try to smile at people too. But at the same time, what am I gonna do with my time here? So I do connect with people. I'm keeping that alive. I am doing very healthy practices. I see my opportunity. And I want to say for people who have always wanted to write a book. What are you gonna do? Oh my gosh. Yes. Oh, that's so good. Yeah. It is an amazing time to write. And so, first of all, you could just sit down and start writing, period, or typing however you wanna do it. And if you want guidance, I'm totally here to help you do that. And, you know, I've got online programs and the me programs, the privates and the group coaching. And, you know, this is an amazing time because here's what's funny. 85% of people who say they're gonna write a book never do. That's what used to be the real world. God knows what the world would be like after this. And I assume better on many levels. So if that's true, it was happening because we were all so busy. We couldn't stop long enough to say, you know, I'm gonna set aside 30 minutes to 16 minutes every day to write. People got caught up in all sorts of minutiae and they couldn't stop the busy cycle in order to produce their books. Now, obviously that means the other 15% did do their book. So wouldn't it be wonderful to be part of 100% of people who say, I have a book inside of me. It's literally calling to me to write it. And I wanna get that book out into the world. So if that's true, this is your time. I have, go to my website, it's so much easier. I don't wanna point you in a million different places. But I also wanna say to people who feel like, you know, I've been written a book but I think I'd really like to write a chapter. I've got a dog anthology. How does it get any better than that? Like, what a great conversation at a time like this. Talk about canines, right? I don't care if you're a vet who trained dogs or needs dogs, have a service dog, a veterinarian. If you're a canine person, if you're a pet psychic, if you've had a dog, if you feel like a dog and you wanna write a chapter from the point of view of a dog, there's so many amazing ways you could go into this. And that's debbie.net slash anthology. People have taken the chapters. If you wanna be an author, I do all the work for you. I even help you through the writing. That's available. What I'm saying is that this is a time of gestation. This is a time of fuller creativity. Of actually saying like Kim was talking about, what is your voice? Why are you here? What is going on that hasn't been taken care of? But now you're forced to be with. I feel that if darkness, worry, fear is coming up. I will tell you really clearly, it's not coming up to F up your life. It is coming up because it's begging to be healed. It is begging to be healed. And it means that you probably operate there a lot. Overwhelm is probably a default. Worry is probably a default. Whatever it is that you feel plagued by or I'm sitting in front of the TV and numbing out and I'm not gonna take advantage of this time to actually create why I'm here. This is like your soul's calling. And I swear, I think it's so powerful. If we shut down the world and shut ourselves in, what have we not been facing? And I'm just gonna end with this really powerful question. What is it that you know that you don't want to know that if you told yourself would free you and change your life? Maybe about relationships. It may be about behaviors you have. It may be about something you need to end. It may be about something you've never done and keep holding yourself back. So I just leave it with that. What do you really know, but you choose not to know? And you're willing right now to at least write down and admit to yourself that is your fact, your truth. Just write your truth. And again, amazing time to write and write a book or a chapter. I love that. You know, I'm guilty of wanting to write a book right off because you were talking, I'm like, yeah, that's me, that's me. So you totally inspired me and you're so right. I mean, like pulling in and really figuring out what it is, like, you know, figuring out our why, our purpose, what it is we wanna know. And, you know, I think that also will be the foundation of any book. Like that, and you're so good at that. Like anybody should take advantage of you. I might take advantage of you right now with all that. So. Thank you. I really appreciate that. And you know, and I'm finding ways, let's be honest because a lot of people are freaking out about money and should I sell, should I not sell? That was not a time to sell. People are, it's really interesting the underbelly of what's coming up. And I wanna say, I think we are still due to make a living. And there are people out there who have reserves and are okay. There are people who are in a lot of not so okay right now and don't know what's gonna happen or don't have anything coming in. And then there are some people who are like, yeah, they're pretty set, they'll be okay through this. So whatever it is, you know, I already have talked to my tech person and I'm gonna be rolling out a book writing membership for people that is at a price point, like really, everybody can do just so I, because my human design and all of that, I'm here to serve. And if I'm not serving, you know, my life's not gonna work, but of course I gotta pay my Amazon bill too. So. As we all dare, yes, the reality. So Kim, tell me some of the things you're doing from home that are really unique, things you've never done before, but are actually really working for you and are causing a positive shift or contribution to your life. You know what's so funny? And I was talking to some other entrepreneurs about this. I don't know if this is true for you, but I mean, I have to say like life hasn't changed much because I'm doing what I'm normally do all the time. You know, my routine is the same. I, you know, I work so much from home, but one thing that has come out of this has been kind of interesting. So I love going to the gym and it's part of my routine in the morning. And I have learned all these amazing streamings. I don't know if you've seen like, oh my gosh, and a lot of people are offering fitness for free right now. And so I've been enjoying not only getting to know some different, you know, kind of fitness exercise routines that are out there, but it made me think about the bigger picture of what that all means is that like, how much is out there what we don't know? You know, I think a lot of us get caught up in our hamster wheel and our daily routine. And we just, I mean, we fall into a state of complacency, but that's not always good. I think what this is forcing me to do, and hopefully all of you is to look at other things that have been right in front of you all along that maybe will even better your life in the alcoca. So like one benefit that's coming from this, I'm learning new exercises. I also have more time because I was spending a half hour going back and forth to the gym, right? And this time I wake up, I can do it whenever I want. I do it in 30 to 40 minutes and then I can get back to work. So I don't, you know, that's just like a little small example. The other thing that I'm excited about is that I'm thinking of a lot of fun ways that I can support people during this time with dating. And I'm thinking about a lot of fun things. I have some challenges coming up with being fit and flirty during this time. I'm gonna maybe create some Zoom parties and wing girl sessions and speed dating and online. And like, I'm thinking of all kinds of things that I think we can all have a lot of fun with. Okay, can you teach me how to flirt? You are such a flirt, Debbie. What? I knew you would mess up. Like, what? Do you not think you're a flirt? No, I don't, I don't know. I don't think so. I'm not mindfully a flirt. Tell me. Oh my gosh, you are such a flirt. And this is the thing that like, and I think you and I had talked about this before. It's how you define flirting, right? And so when you look in the dictionary, because I teach a lot of flirt workshops, when you look in the dictionary, the definition of flirting is to behave as though you are attracted to someone without the serious intention of an outcome. And so a lot of us have these associations around flirting that really isn't what flirting is supposed to be about. And we get attached to the outcome. So like, there's all these excuses and worries around it. Like, I don't know how to flirt. I don't do a good job. I only will flirt with people that I'm interested in. I don't wanna give him the wrong impression. I don't want him to like me for my sexuality. I want him to like me for my intelligence. I mean, it goes on and on. I hear every excuse under the sun, but that's really not what flirting's supposed to be about. So now is the time actually online to practice like flirting with everybody. Like flirting, have fun, be playful. It's that playfulness element. It's that magnetism that just draws people to you. And that's why I think you're such a good flirt. You are such a magnetic personality. Like you just draw people into you like no one else. And that's your style. Like we all have different flirty styles. So, that's something that's been fun. I've been actually teaching a lot of like flirt workshops online too lately with other groups. And that's been super fun. Where can people do that? Where can they find your flirt workshop? Well, I haven't had like any official online. Like I've had other experts ask me to come into their group and do some workshops. So I'm thinking of, you know, doing my own. Cause I was doing these flirt academies online or out in the real world and I was flying all over. So maybe I'll just bring the flirt academy online and do those like on a regular basis and people can enter that. So, but I mean, if you just go to my site, SeltzerStyle.com, like get in touch with me. And of course I'm my podcast's Prisma Quotient. So you can hear a little bit about what I do. And I'm always like updating people on what's going on. I love that. Oh my gosh. I think like, I picture this like, see what I mean? Like, okay, y'all who's watching it. Look at what she just did. Is that not flirty or what, right? But that's like, that's like highly dramatized version of a flirty girl, right? And I thought when I first was lying how to flirt myself after my divorce, I just thought like men were aliens. I did not know what to do. I like, I don't know how to talk to the aliens. But what I figured out is that it's not, you don't have to be Meryl Monroe and do like all the like, you know, and worse, that's you. Like I have a friend who does that and she does like the googly eyes and the twirling of the hair. And it so works for her because she owns it. Like that's where her confidence lives. So it's like whatever you're confident in, that's what you need to hone in on and own. So that's part of what I teach. I have these like three like ingredients to flirting. And once you zone in on those three areas, it's kind of finding your own style with it. But like what you just did and you're wearing red and you have the red lipstick going on, like you could go flirting right now anywhere. Like just, just go into one of like your zoom chats or go online and just start flirting. Like maybe that's what your mission is right now, Debbie. That'd be fun. Yeah, I like it. That, you know, that's cool. I've built some confidence around that. I'm open. You know, thank you so much for that. This is so helpful. I will say that one of the things I'm doing right now, I have actually a lot of changes going on. One of the big ones is that I am now Marie Kondo's adopted daughter. Oh, fun. It's official. I have cleaned and uncluttered in a way that Marie Kondo herself is going to come find me and say, truly, you are a girl after my heart. I must adopt you. Oh my God, you have to show us. Like, it's so funny. I think you had posted way back a couple of months ago. You were, oh, I remember, it was around the holidays and you were posting about uncluttering, right? Yeah. And I was like, whoa, I love doing that. And I'm often so busy. I don't, I just don't have the capacity. The thing is, and it's always precipitated that I've lost something. It happened once with a passport. Well, it just happened, it's happening now. I have a new car. I would like to, when the madness is over, sell my Mini Cooper. I have one key and a valet key and the second Mini Cooper key is missing. I take care of everything. Nothing ever goes missing. It doesn't, but it's missing. So I'm going through, first it started with the jacket pockets, then it went to the entire desk, then it went to the whole closet. I mean, pieces of my home are being dismantled, Oh my gosh. Recycled, uncluttered. Oh, here's this. Oh, here's that. Oh, what is that? I don't even need this. This is so weird and old. Why do I still have it? I'm getting rid of stuff. I'm cleaning it up, putting it all back. I'm also, plus I love beauty and clean, clean, clean lines. I can't have chaos in my home. I really can't. It energetically messes with me. And so all this stuff I'm finding new homes for and reappropriating, seriously, Marie Kondo would send me a certificate right now. I think honestly, I'm going to do my closet too. I'm going to go through all my clothes because I've lost a bunch of weight lately. I'm going to yes, no, yes, no. And then the other thing I want to do because I can't go buy them, so I'll have them shipped. I want to get some boxes for my closet so I can have my purses really arranged. I know this sounds nuts, but for anybody who really understands Feng Shui or energy or frankly attracting things, abundance in your life, you have to get rid of the clutter and the chaos so there is literally the space and capacity in your being and your home environment to invite it in. I want to be a big ass invitation right now. So I'm getting rid and cleaning up. I love that. See, that's another thing you can do to prepare yourself for out in the real world. When you get rid of all that clutter in your mind, in your body, in your soul, you have new energy coming in. There's space for that now. And so the closet is great and all the home stuff that you're doing. And yes, I just want to highlight what you said about the shopping piece. Y'all, you can still shop online. There's amazing sales right now. I do these virtual makeovers. Oh, really? Yeah, we're big a pop. And it's so fun. I have these, the software that I got is incredible because I can create virtual closets for people. And then we go shopping together and I teach you about your body type and your colors. And so I've been having so much fun with my clients getting new wardrobes. I create little lookbooks for them, so that they can still collect all these outfits. And I just had a client text me as we're talking. She just took some new online photos with some of the new clothes that she just bought in our virtual makeover and she looks great. So there's still things you can do right now with all that uncluttering and create new energy for yourself. Oh, I hadn't even thought about clothes, right? That's an answer for sales. That's very interesting. I notice airlines. I have a flight a week, like next week, Wednesday. And I'm sitting in it. I'm not moving, but I did look at the airlines and they are very graciously refunding right now or rescheduling, which I appreciate. But I have a couple of trips coming up and I thought, oh, just for the heck of it, let me see the same airline this trip. In May, I'm telling you right now the airline ticket. And it's not far. It's just from Southern California to Northern California, which is typically baseline 150 and all the way up. $38 right now. What? Oh, my gosh, that's crazy. There are sales for Shella. Tim, give us another tip. I know you have to go soon. So I want to hit us with your wisdom. It would be awesome. Well, you know, I think this is another time that, because I've been hearing a lot of people talk about this, like, oh, what's the use of like doing my hair or taking a shower or putting my, because you and I were talking about visibility and I was kind of joking. Yeah, like, how do you remain visible when we're all hiding? So I just want to encourage people to keep just that going for yourself. Again, it's not even about anybody else who sees you. You can still have self-care days and pamper yourself. You can still have photo days where you like get dressed up, put makeup on, put your hair, you know, in a place that makes you feel confident. This stuff matters. We have to maintain, you know, just that sense of well-being both outside and in. I mean, everyone's talking about their inner health, but the outer is just as important and it's not superficial. It's something that, you know, really does make a difference in, you know, maintaining that confidence and the energy. Like, I was excited to take a shower today to see you, Debbie. Like, I'm not going to lie. Like, I was excited to put my curly dye on and curl my hair. Like, after having it in a ratty bun for five days, like, do this for yourself. That's why creating Zoom dates and all of that is so important right now. Oh, that's so cool. Somebody posted a friend of mine who's a high-end coach posted the other day. One of the glories of right now is going brawless for days. And I had a laugh because I said, yes, I feel you, girlfriend. It has to be anything. But thank you. Thank you. And I'm glad that we inspired each other to get a little, you know, zhuzh, just to put you through. Yeah, zhuzh down there. Right. And, Jimmy, I know you need to go. I just love you so much. And thank you for doing this with me. Love you too. And thanks for including me and having me. And this is so fun. And like, I think it's just important to keep all this conversation going and provide support for each other at this really trying time. So thanks for allowing me to be there with you and for everyone else. Absolutely. I will talk to you soon, my friend. Okay. And as Kimmy leaves, I just want to remind you that her website is there at the bottom. And I'm going to keep going here for a minute. There's a couple more things I want to share with you all about what's possible. You know, I might also just have some fun here and let you know this scene is for you, for those who can't get outside right now, but feel like they would really like to be. There's, I want to kind of give you, make you feel like we're in different places. So isn't this gorge? I think it's gorge. We can almost smell the flowers. So I want to give you some more tips about things that are going on that I recommend. One of the things I'm doing today is I'm replacing everything. I am not kidding. I was thinking about my coffee machine. You know, another thing, you're so busy, you don't think about these things like filters. And I thought, oh yeah. So I took out my coffee filter, boy, did I need to. And I'm replacing that with a fresh filter. I'm also going to run water and white vinegar through it before I put in the new filter because it cleans out all the acid and the oils from the coffee machine. I am replacing, I have a sonic toothbrush and I'm replacing the toothbrush. I have, well, I can't remember the name of it, but you guys know and it cleans your face and it's got a little brush on it. And I just completely can't remember the name, but it doesn't matter. But yeah, I'm replacing the brush that cleans the face. So that's going to be nice. Like, woof, clean, clean, clean. I have a diffuser that just went and stopped working. And I've had a few people because I have so many amazing healers in my life who have said, you really need essential oils right now. And some of you know, my dog has been sick. Thankfully, my baby, who's only four years old, her blood test results have come back normal. Thank God, thank God. But she's still even on her pills, even on her special food, she's still throwing up. So it is my contention. A lot of the healers who have gone into like, suss her out have said, it's anxiety. And this is not an anxious dog, but my recognition is Shelby is her name. She's a 14.3 pound cockapoo. She's adorable with long supermodel legs. And you know, Shelby's whole purpose is joy and love. She is hilarious, she's a hugger, but she's also quarantined and she is way more even extroverted than I. And so what does she get to do? How does she express herself out in the world? Even being with me all the time, which you might think would quell her anxiety, she's not getting the interaction she actually requires. So I'm finding really inventive ways, like I'm in a building where she can run up and down the hallways and it's fine, she can't escape, but she can get the running out. You know, last night we came back from our walk outside and we were running around the lobby together. I was just trying, and she was able to bark. I thought, just bark girl, because nobody can hear you in the lobby. And then we went into the parking garage and just ran around, around. It's big enough that we could get some good runs back and forth and just let her get that energy out of her system. And you know, she likes to wrestle, so I'm gonna find a way to pop her on the bed and do some wrestling. I need to get her back in touch with her joy. So that's something else. Oh, when I was cleaning up one of my Marie Kondo moments, so I have a drawer full of greeting cards and writing paper, beautiful stationery. I mean, I even have Cartier stationery. I don't ever use it. So what would that be like? What are the possibilities at a time when people actually need love and connection if I were to use those cards to mail to people? Maybe if it's one a day, one a week, it doesn't matter. But if you have cards on hand, because who writes anymore, right? And I think it's one of the most beautiful art forms to receive an actual card from somebody. So instead of those cards just sitting there, collecting space, use them. Start mailing things out to people and let them know I'm thinking about them or express some gratitudes and love and care and all of that. So that's another one. Oh, I'm so proud of myself. I almost wanted to show you. Maybe I have to run in the other room to show you this. I made seaweed salad. Ta-da! I made seaweed salad. I think we need a scenery change right now. I like changes. So let's see, where should we go next? How about this? For my book coaching. See the freedom you'll feel with the butterflies when you write your book? Hmm. Okay. So my ex had bought me some dehydrated seaweed from a Korean market and there were just two really small bags of it. I didn't understand it as major expanding capability and could basically take over the world. I'm not kidding you. I literally, I soaked it in water and I thought, oh my two packages it'll make this thing of seaweed. It went from this to like ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da. Holy moly. Y'all can come over and eat because I got enough seaweed for all of us. And I love seaweed salad and if you don't it's fine but I really love it. So I put in my sesame seeds. I put in some rice vinegar. I put in some stevia. I think it said sesame oil but I don't have any on hand. So bleh I pass. But anyway, it's been really fun to have a few bites of every day and of course it's super good for you. The other thing I did that I'm all proud of is I made homemade bone broth. So with Shelby being sick, I had a carcass of a chicken. I put it in my crock pot and with, you know, water, clean water and then I just let it, it was actually two days of crock pot so everything would fall off and get so tender. I put it all in the NutriBullet one after another and blended it and made her a concoction. Sadly, her stomach is still a little not ready for that. It's probably got a little too much fat in it and richness, but I can freeze it. I think you could tell me if I'm wrong, but I think I can freeze it. And then when I'm ready to rock and roll, I can defrost it and she can have literally like so full of minerals and deliciousness is so good for the body, this bone broth. I was really proud of myself for doing it. Another thing, oh yeah. I would have to say, you know, I think consumerism is really interesting. I think it's a time when we can think about what have I spent money on? Because so many people have in a way that we maybe haven't preferred, right? We've been spending money in ways that we, a lot of money has been going out. Let's just say that. Trying to keep up and, you know, Kim was talking about hair and stuff. I mean, Lord Jesus, like for women alone, I mean, guys, you're not exonerated from this. We all have, whether it's cars and clothing or if it is your hair, mine is really growing out. So I guess we're gonna just keep going there till we're not. I did speak to my hairdresser yesterday, but you know, it is what it is, right? Till it's not. I don't have my nails professionally done. I have always done them myself, but I know a lot of women do. A lot of women have eyelash extensions. I guess some women have hair extensions. I don't think about that, because this is my hair. But anyway, it's not the point. And I'm not saying it's wrong. Never, never, never hear that. Like just express your being out in the world. And if you love that and it works for you and it makes you feel like a rockstar, do it. I also think it's a time of contemplation. Where is our time and energy going? And are there things you haven't been creating that you've really longed to create that have been taken up by things like this that are just materialistic and you're reevaluating now that you're here. And it's not that important. Like, I mean, clothing is actually something I'm thinking about right now. I love the idea of like paring down and having less, less is more. Like having things I really love and giving up a whole bunch of things that are just taking space. What would that be like to walk in my closet and see a lot of space and a lot of fabulous things as opposed to a lot of things, right? So there's that. Also, I wanna talk about, I wanna get kind of deep right now. Can we go there? So if we're gonna go deep, I think we're gonna take off the book thing for a minute. We're gonna get a little more change here. And for those who see this here, this in the future, I just wanna say you can go to youtube.com slash Debbie Dashinger and absolutely watch this. So let's land on that for a minute. Yeah, I wanna go a little deep because I wanna go metaphysical with you and just say, for those of us who are metaphysicians, this is a time, whoops. This is a time when I feel, I'm just gonna speak for myself. If I create everything, and if it's all an illusion and my projection of a movie out there that I just get to experience, then what is right about this that I'm not getting? And that's a big question to be asking right now because there are people going through some things. And I wanna be clear. I have a friend that I am still very much in touch with that I went to USC with whose sister has coronavirus and her sister's husband is in the hospital struggling for his life. So I'm not saying any of this lightly at all for people who are going through devastation or who are just scared. I wanna say just as an interesting point of view to offer to you that if there was something also concurrently right about this, what could it be about being sequestered specifically not about that something is out there killing people. I'm talking about the fact that we're sequestered right quarantined. And what I mean by that is it is a time to face ourselves. I am clear. I know for myself and I'll just be really transparent. The one thing I've wanted to do so much is connect with my own healing abilities. Haven't had an opportunity was looking forward to a bunch of workshops that we're supposed to start right now and or not because they've all been canceled until further notice. And what if being sequestered, what if being quarantined means that I just get to hang out with source energy and say, hey, activate me. I've already had enough friends in the healing world who have said to me, oh baby, you don't even need those classes. You've already, you came here activated. So if that's so, I'm ready. And that means I have to create the space to do that. So that means amidst the uncluttering that I'm doing in my home and amidst the other really wonderful things that will be game changers and already are to also make it a sacred time every day to just be. I have certain processes from Dr. Sue Mortier. I love her work that I wanna do that include mulabanda and meditation that are game changers. And I really wanna incorporate them. I have other visionings that I wanna do. I was playing around with some sacred tobacco. Basically specifically sacred tobacco is something you use a lot after ceremony in order to integrate. It's plant medicine ceremony. And so there's a sweet tobacco that you spray. It's a liquid in the morning over yourself and a bitter tobacco that you spray at night. I used some of that and I was just trying it to see what kind of effect it would have. And so I'm not really sure I'm gonna keep going with that because I feel like there are other things that are much more powerful for me. I also do EFT emotional freedom technique tapping every single day. It's a game changer. You're accessing your meridians, your acupuncture points. You're literally rewiring every time you tap. And I did a tapping actually video if you wanna look back at some of those. So what is it for you? So what I'm saying is in this time, if I create everything, if this is happening for a reason, that I would actually almost shut down the world in order to have to face my demon. And my demon is busyness. And my busyness is a sabotage that I keep going in a groove of so busy while I have this incredible soul crying desire to stop and be still. And it's not even a mindful, I'm not allowing myself. It is such a deep life habit, way of being that I've not been able to extricate myself at the level I deeply desire to. Certainly when I go to workshops, I hit the remote control of my life and I'm there. But outside of that, I have not. And now it is a yes because here I am with, what are my choices? I could sit in front of the television for 12 hours. I could watch show after show, movie after movie. And it's interesting because I'm a big movie TV person. But right now I'm not called to that. Right now I'm really called to be with source energy and to do some major healing, major introspective time. And just to see what is mine right now, I will never know if I'm not still. So I'm curious, what is yours? And something that I said with Kim earlier and I'll reiterate, which is if things are coming up and it feels dark, first of all, get help, don't be alone. There are so many people who can Skype, zoom, call, FaceTime, we have a million options. Use all of the above. And if it's coming up, it's probably been running your life anyway. Just like my busy has been running my life and not having time for the very thing I've wanted, which is stillness and beingness. So it comes up not to hurt you, not to make you feel as uncomfortable as I'm sure you feel, but it really comes up because it's saying, heal me. I'm begging to be healed. And it's an amazing time. Sometimes healing needs to just sit in something to allow it to be exactly what it is as uncomfortable as that is. So those are things that I'm looking at as being really abundant opportunities. And it's uncomfortable for me too, because you cannot be a woman who's been running around for as long as I have, creating, creating, creating, being, being, being, dar, dar, dar, dar, dar, out into the world, which has been an awesome life. But you can't be doing that without there being something about getting in the way of your really fully being still. Whether it's even a thought and thoughts are not things that keeps telling you, I can't be still because and fill in the blank. So I'm here, I'm willing, and I'm asking you, and post below, what is it you haven't been willing to do that you're willing to do now? It's your time. So I'm gonna go back to a beach setting because it's sort of this all about the beach, I feel. And it's, I'm a cancer in the Scorpio moon, a Leo rising. And with all that water in my signs, I love the water. And I know we're not really allowed to be at the beach right now. So I adore you guys. I hope you enjoyed this. And oh, you wanna meet somebody special to me. This is my dog Shelby. And ooh, this big puppy. You could send her some love. Shelby say hi to everybody and say, I need help, could I keep throwing up? It might tell me hurt a lot. This is my baby. So please send her a lot of love. Shelby the dog. She's a cockapoo and she's usually so animated and hilarious and she's my best friend, you know? I love her. I love her so much. And thank you guys who have been praying for her. And a lot of you have been sending her the most beautiful love and energy and healing vibes. And some of you are very talented. You've been sending them to her and sending them to me. And this is how we come together at a time like this. When people say, I need this, I need that. There are even Facebook groups for what do you need? So there's a lot available to us and a lot of ways we're coming together that I find really moving. And it's been a joy to be with you. Let me know what you got out of this. Well, let me know what your takeaway is. And I wish you guys the best, right? In finding and creating opportunities through what is happening right now, I am so very much with you. Much love.