 How do narcissists fake being normal when you first met the narcissist? They were kind and helpful They were eager to know more about you They were always there for you, but as time went by You saw a different side to them They no longer displayed sympathy or concern for you They seem to lack feeling They may even have laughed at your pain And it's like you were dealing with a completely different person Like they had suddenly changed Because now they're very mean to you They lack interest in you They're showing determination to not change their attitude and position in spite of good arguments and reasons to do so But now you see that they've moved on to someone else and now they're really friendly They know how to act normal They know how to be kind and helpful And it leaves you very confused Because they're not that way with you They can turn on this quality of delight in attracting and fascinating other people whenever they need to But it's fake It isn't real It's just something they use to manipulate people So that they can get what they want Because they want attention and admiration They want people to have a favorable opinion of them They want to have a good reputation But they're not really connecting with anyone They see people as objects that exist to meet their needs that exist to make them feel better about themselves and That's really your only purpose If you're involved with a narcissist Which is why when you first met them They showed a lot of interest in you They were friendly and helpful But it was like they wanted to rush things They were very impatient and then it wasn't long until they turned against you Until they began to devalue you And then before you knew it They were repeating the same cycle with someone else But they're actually very selective about who they choose to fake being normal around It's only people who they have a use for People that they're able to manipulate People who are powerful and successful People who are physically attractive They're quick to be friendly to those people Because they can gain an advantage by being around them So they're going to be extra nice to them. They will ask personal questions They will try to learn personal information about those people So that they can later gossip and use it against them But when there's a problem or argument They will brush it aside They will dismiss it as being unimportant And not worth their consideration They won't want to talk about it Because it's difficult for them to act normal in those types of situations. They don't have good conflict resolution skills And they don't really want to do the work to make it happen So they just pretend like it wasn't a big deal They will try to keep things positive and friendly They will act like nothing is wrong So that it appears normal But really It's all a facade It's badly organized and pleasant and full of confusion And beneath what they display to people It's a messy situation But they sweep it under the rug They hide it and try to keep it a secret They conceal it from public view But they don't really want to connect with other people They're very shallow and superficial They just want to have fun They just want everyone to provide what they need Which is why they will change their opinions and behavior According to the situation They will fake being normal Because everything revolves around their own personal gain And they're just looking for attention and validation Which is why everything is so superficial with them There's nothing of a deeper meaning or purpose Which is why you cannot have a relationship with them Because when it gets difficult to continue or to make progress They're just going to abandon you Be very cautious When people are too friendly or helpful to you early on They may have a hidden agenda Take things slowly Because time will show you who they really are Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you Please like comment share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coach the inquiries You can email me at coaching at narksurviver.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon