 Now look, it may seem like if you are a guy right now not getting the success he wants with women that all you have to do as the alpha male is get some muscles and be rich and then just tear off your shirt before dinner with a girl and she's magically going to want to pounce you and you're going to have your model girlfriend. But in this video I want to introduce a different concept that other people have before me have talked about the omega male. The omega male is a fusion of the alpha male with being an evolved intellectual spiritually developed person. In other words, a well rounded advanced human being. So in this video let's talk about the three traits that you need if you want to upgrade yourself and you're not having the success you want both in your life and you're getting taken advantage of because you're way too nice. What's up guys? Alex Hine here author of the book Master of the Day. Now look as a recovering nice guy there were a lot of traits about myself I didn't like and honestly if I'm being real with you I hated number one that I never got the girl I wanted or any girl really before 20 my early 20s I never spoke up even when I knew I was right I was always pushed around easily metaphorically and literally and honestly I didn't value my own opinion I didn't value myself because I didn't have the self confidence to actually say anything and stand up and be a grown man. So the first trait you need that I use to reinvent myself is to think about consciously what you want and regardless of what your friends and your family think go do it for example you might be sitting around the dinner table with mom and dad and you know where you want to go to school or what you want to do or what you want to pursue and your mom says well that's great honey but are you going to be able to make a living doing that and your dad wants you to go into the family business and do accounting just like he and his dad did well if you're an artist or maybe you want to be a doctor maybe you want to be a musician maybe you want to be a photographer do what you want to do it doesn't mean you're acting like an a-hole to your parents it doesn't mean you just don't listen to their wishes but it means when you want something do it and actually follow through there's nothing worse than a wishy washy person that says they want to do something and they either don't do it or they flop back and forth it's like yeah I want that I want that maybe I'll do that it is the most irritating thing ever when you yourself become decisive you will also be repulsed by your former self when you see it in other people if you want to book a one-way ticket to China like I did when I was 21 screw it go do it basically if you have a conviction and you want to do something actually do it and remember it's not about being rude to people it's about putting your own goals and dreams first and then being alpha and omega enough to actually walk your talk in a world where everybody just talks habit number two all right the second habit here is you do not get to criticize unless you are already in the arena and like I said this is the era in history where everybody knows everything and yet no one does anything finding people that walk the talk are so much rarer than ever before because now anyone can google the answer to anything without having earned it or how having done it they can tell you what it takes to be an olympian what it takes to be a doctor what it takes to be successful and yet they themselves have not done it for example it's real easy to see that person a fat person running along the side of the street and say something negative or critical about that person well if you're going to become the omega you got to walk your talk first and walking the talk takes years instead of just saying like look at this chubby person running are you your dream body do you have your ideal figure if not shut your piehole and do the work it's easy to criticize a public figure for something you see on the news about one thing they said or one thing they did well have you done the work to actually become a public figure in the industry that you want to be really good at if not time to put your head down get in the arena and do the damn work every day for years or decades until you are that person otherwise you're not in the arena the spectator watching the gladiators in the arena can never criticize a gladiator for something that's happening when they are still one sweating and bleeding so the second trait here with the omega is that walking the talk being in the arena it is way harder than just saying something you can say i'm going to be a successful person in one second and yet it can take you 15 years of daily suffering to get there and yet when you get there if you commit to that process of being in the arena you will have the respect and whatever admiration you want and that you deserve because you've been in the arena for literally decades and then the third trait is to come up with your own personal code of honor and actually stick with it these are the rare people who stand up for their beliefs or like miyamoto musashi creating the hagakure this book that's like a personal code of honor personal code of ethics you know for example i had friends recently go out to get fast food and i don't eat fast food at all ever nada is not my thing all right because for me i need to walk my talk and be fit and eat well at least 80 percent of the time and not drink soda or eat crap and it's funny because when you encounter the average person what are they going to try to get you to do violate your personal code of ethics because they look like crap because they are the weak ones that decided that they're going to cave on whatever this is they don't want to walk their talk that's fine but you are going for the omega status doesn't matter if you're omega female or omega male you are literally holding yourself to a higher standard it is your responsibility to be the one person who walks their talk so guess what when i refuse the fast food what happened oh i just have one oh you sure you don't want this oh come on like what's the big deal and you know what i wanted to do i mean they're my friends so i'd probably just like like half slap but in all seriousness they feel guilty because they know they were indulging in a bad trait and for me doesn't bother me at all i'm supposed to be the leader or you know what maybe you have friends saying to you you know alex you shouldn't be working on the weekend man like you're just working too hard you're doing too much guess what i'm in a four-year doctorate become dr alex and i'm running and building my damn empire why should i be threatened by somebody else that's saying you shouldn't do this you work too much that's cool i'm not threatened by that i'm here to be the leader i'm not here to be following everyone else's dreams and their visions or whatever they want me to be i'm here to lead people therefore i it's okay it's okay if i'm not understood it's okay if i'm not even liked well let's say your friends say that you're way too picky with dating you should do this like like what you're not you're not gonna sleep around at all like i think you should sleep around before you get married you know get it out of your system you haven't had a one night stand what's the matter with you you haven't tried acid or donex to see come on man just try just try a little bit of coke you as the omega are the leader you don't need to indulge in any of that if it violates your personal code of ethics because you are here to lead the people you don't need any of that you should never feel pressure your goal is not to blend in your goal is not to be liked your goal is to be yourself and to set your personal code of honor your personal code of ethics and to lead the other people that are more comfortable following there's nothing wrong with following but you as the omega female or the omega male you are the leader and indulging and following prey to these people with their low expectations of themselves it is not your game so the final trait is to come up with what you think is your personal code of honor and then sticking to it and enjoying the process of watching all your friends and family try to con you into doing the bad crap that violates your own personal code and just tell yourself there's no need to get upset there's no need to get angry just remind yourself you are the omega you are the leader you are here to be leading the people so you should never feel threatened or emotional or agitated by these people remind yourself you are the leader therefore you need to lead with your code of honor and your behavior remind yourself you need to be that one in a million in the arena every day doing the work leading by example leading with your character because now in this era character this trait is the most absent in history and a person like you who's in the arena every single day is going to stand head and shoulders above every other human on earth so that was a way too intense rant about how to become the omega version of yourself i hope that helps check out this last video i did on how to stop being a nice guy you can check out that video there and the other video right here and again if you want to stay in touch the best way is to grab my free personal development and seven day weight loss challenge at modernhealthmonk.com forward slash youtube and otherwise i will catch you soon