 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder of commitment connection calm and in today's video We're gonna talk about how to love a man So if you don't understand how to love a man the right way He could end up You could show him love and he won't even like experience it He won't even realize that you're showing him love and this is a a huge problem that happens in a lot of Relationships where you know a woman's like I give you so much and he's like I don't you know You don't love me and it happens all the time and so this is a very important topic And here's the key to this you need to figure out how he wants to be loved so, you know the biggest mistake that we tend to make is to Love others and the way that we want to be shown love and we don't realize that they have their own You know, they have their own preference of how they want to experience love from other people and You know, and so what you need to do is you need to find out How he wants to be shown love and there's a very simple way to find this out And it's this he'll usually show you love in the way that he wants to be shown love Okay, so that's very simple and let me explain a little bit more about this so you know what to look for so There's there's multiple types of love. There's actually a book that was written on this and it's called the five love languages and I think it's by Gary Chapman and There's really What he talks about in his book is that there's five different ways that people show love and and he calls them languages And so here's the different here's the five different ones The first one's physical touch and physical touches like you know giving massages having sex You know all that kind of stuff like any any type of physical touch back rubs, you know You know touching on the arm or you know gently stroking somebody that's physical touch Right, and that's that's one of the love language The next one is called receiving gifts, right? And so typically if somebody likes to receive gifts, they'll give a lot of gifts to other people And if they don't receive a gift, they don't feel like they're being loved And the third way is called acts of service and that's basically doing things for another person so Could be mowing the lawn it could be fixing something it could be You know working on something for somebody You know, that's a typical guy thing that a lot of guys like to do is acts of service and So that that's another way to show love Another one is quality time and that's like wanting to get one-on-one with somebody You know everything else off and just you know connecting with them one-on-one and just talking to them That's the fourth type of love Language and then the last one is called words of affirmation and that's just you know compliments and stuff You know telling somebody that you love them telling somebody, you know, how amazing they are and beautiful and all that kind of stuff And so those are the five love languages physical touch receiving gifts acts of service quality time words of affirmation So what you what you want to do here is you want to find out what he tries to do for you Or he tries to do for other people if you notice him giving gifts all the time If you notice that he'll come over and like rub a person's shoulders and pat him and you know touch him You know if you see that he's he's always trying to do something for somebody You know like mow their lawn or fix something that they have going on with them Or help them out with you know some type of chore that they have If you notice that he tries to get somebody, you know one-on-one for you know solid quality time together You know walking in the park or you know Whatever Or if you notice that he's constantly complimenting people that he really likes, you know, they these are the different types of Languages of love and you need to figure out which one he does for other people the most often and that will give you a key indication of What he wants and so what you need to do is start with what he does for you most often And start doing that for him and a lot of times Relationship can get turned around immediately just by showing a man the type of love that he wants to be shown So that's it for this video if you want more information on how to attract mr. Right into a committed lasting relationship Make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon