 He's got my answer, watch. It's not a film I ever call any dude. He ain't gonna answer. Come on! Did you supposed to text first? Really? Yeah, I was like, hey, I'm gonna call you, alright? You good? I'm gonna call you. Oh, wait. Hello? Hey! Oh, how you doing? Good, this is Shannon Boudram. Oh, nice to meet you. Nice to meet you too. And... Oh, what's up, man? Timothy DeLaGhetto here. Oh, what's up, man? What's up, bro? Me, I don't know why. I don't know how. I feel like I do the right things. But I just always end up there. Okay, this girl I was talking to a couple months ago. I mean, I still talk to her, but I'm just a friend of hers. It started off in another year. We was FaceTime and maybe six hours a night. Oh, damn. We was... terms... You spent the night and what happened on those nights? Y'all have sex? No. Oh, interesting. Did you guys cuddle or you just... How did it go down? She told me, she was like, she don't have sex with just anybody. I was like, okay, that's cool, that's fine. Shit, right now, I just want to be free. And I was like... Do you wear deodorant? Because I'm trying to make sense of it because I feel like if they FaceTime and they did it plenty of times, that means she found them attractive. You know what I'm saying? They kicked it. Well, you swiped. That means that the interaction was there. Yeah, it's like if they FaceTime for a long time, that means they communicated. Shit was cool. So I feel like it had to be something in person that threw it off. You know what I'm saying? I feel like there's no... Where is the... Where is the yin to the yang? You know what I mean? Like, where are you giving a little bit of pushback or tension or discomfort? Because at the end of the day, like we don't value things that come too easy. So where did you make yourself a little bit less available or hard to please in some kind of way? For women as well too, like there has to be... I mean, are you like... If you're saying you can't be too nice to girls sometimes and that's facts. That is facts. That's not girls though, it's everybody. People always tell me I'm too nice to girls but I never take it so far. Man, look. I mean, here's the thing. I learned this a long time ago and sometimes... It's not that you got to be a dick to girls because that's not what it is but you for sure sometimes you can't give them everything at too soon. Is she attractive? Attractive girls I feel are so used to guys just trying to do extra sweet shit that it's almost kind of played out if you do it too quick. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, they might complain that there's no nice guys on Twitter but if you're too nice right off the bat they're gonna be like this is the same shit I get all the time. There's nothing really new here. Like sometimes they want to challenge too, you know? Has this happened before where people have told you you're too nice to a girl and that's what messed it up? Yes, absolutely. See, I'm gonna intervene. I don't think it's too nice. I think it's too inauthentic. What does that mean? Because nobody is perfect. I said this before everybody needs a balance of the yin and the yang. So I don't think it's a female thing in my partnership. For example, I'll tell my partner in one breath. Like I think you're so beautiful in the next. I'm like trim your nose hair because I'm aware that that balance has to exist where it's not all praise. Like the only place which is a kind of unfortunate is in the school system where teachers prefer kids who don't have imagination who listen who do as they're told that's because they have motherfucking 80 students. Okay, so they don't want to spend the time on somebody who's going to give them challenges but everywhere else in the world. We want a best friend who tells us what's real. We want somebody and that's what I mean about because nothing is perfect. So if you're always being nice, you're not being real. Okay, that makes sense. But this is but he's only been on two days with her. This is when you suppose for six hours. Yeah. The time that you said in there. Wait, what? Huh? It's more than two days. It's more than two days. But I mean this thing for like three months. Damn. We're getting something. What happened? What happened? I feel like it came too easy. There was no pushback and people don't feel like they can grow into their best self. Speaking of somebody who don't challenge. Speaking of coming too easy. Did you guys have sex? No. Never in three months? No. Damn. So that's okay. That's some people's rules. I don't know, man. Some people have a three month rule. That sounds crazy. One thing she did tell me though is the fact that I'm in the military. She didn't even written like that. That sounds like a made up excuse. As much as people say that they want the nice person or the easy going person and don't get me wrong. It should be like 80, 20. 80% agreeableness, cool. And I don't mean be a dick. I'm gonna be honest because there's probably some things about this person that's not perfect. Don't be afraid to call him out on it. Did you go down on her? Damn. Was it, were you, are you good at it? That's always debatable though. But then what? Ugh. You know what? Then you're better off without her, bro. That's the end of the story. But we're not talking about just her. She is the Y factor, the X. Right, right, right. And Y keeps coming up with the same variable. Okay. What is the variable? Cause I'm trying to figure it out because like, okay, well first of all, be glad you're not with her anymore because you don't need to be dealing with a girl that don't give a head, all right? Like that's, that's. That's not to say that she doesn't but she didn't feel compelled. I don't think there was enough seduction there. And everyone's seduction style is different. Even if you're not having sex, she has to want to have sex with you. She has to picture that. You know what I'm saying? Cause like, they always say it's impossible to get out of the friend zone, but I feel like that's not true. I feel like if you can get to a point with a home girl where you get her curious, like where you can flirt and do it enough where she's like, you know, what would it be like to fuck this dude? Then you can get yourself out of the friend zone. But I feel like with this dude, what happened where she was like, I'm not even trying to try that out. It was three months of kissing, cuddling. He ate her coochie, licking. And she was like, I'm not even trying to suck his dick for whatever reason. Like what went wrong? You know, I feel like I'm not curious at all. I think that there just needs to be a bit more of assertiveness. I think that the nice person cop out is a cop out for saying that you're afraid of confrontation or that you're afraid that people won't like you if you're honest and people don't like inauthenticity and if they can tell that you're holding back or you're not being real, they can't attach to you because you can't attach something that you don't 100% believe is real. And they have to think your time is valuable. You know, if you're available for six hour face times and you know, whenever the person wants, whenever they say, you know, jump, you say how high, after a while, it's like, you know, we want to go to the club that has the lineup in front of it. There's a balance to be played with gaming and being real. No, that's totally facts. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I agree. I agree. So you got to create that lineup. You got to create that line in front of your club that makes it look like I have shit going on. We only let in certain people here, not just everybody with a fake ID can just waltz right in and we don't give up free drink tickets. So, so don't be too, don't be too nice. Don't be too accessible. I get that. I get that. I get that. And that was after how long? Yeah, we should also acknowledge that being friend zoned is a compliment because you could be ghosted. So what they're saying is that we like quality and character risks about you. We feel you agreeable. We enjoy being around you. We just don't feel any seductive. Man, no, but I feel like after six months because when people think of friends on then that's not friends on you. That's just breaking up with you, man. A lot of dudes are not comfortable with male friends. So that may have been a requirement of the new. Yeah, true. It's a bad dude, but that's the kind of a dude who's making demands, right? I mean, a dude who swoops in and says, look, this is what it's going to be. I mean, that's true. I mean, I'm cool with everybody I've dealt with in the past. Even Klondike girl? Klondike girl, we're cool. We're not. I don't even call it. We don't kick it, but we're cool. That's how I was introduced to Tim, by the way, that video. So it's in my mind forever. That's my first ever watched of yours. The Klondike video. Why? I don't know. It just popped up on my ex-workie. Okay. That's all this shit. What was your first Tim video? Oh, that's my video. You don't watch your videos? You don't put him in that position? No, he wrote me and said, I'm such a big fan of Tim. Oh, get out of here. He's nervous right now. Shit, man. See, this is exactly what's going on, Damon. You're not performing on the spot. You got to be there. If you are called into action, you got to spring up and you're from the military. You know this. Make something up right now. Tim talks about booty all the time. Just say the booty one. I don't know. I feel like success is pretty. The qualities for success are oddly similar in all fields. Would you agree with that? That makes sense. That what you do to be successful in your career does somewhat apply to your relationship. No, totally. Yeah. So you're wrong again. All right, Damon. Thank you so much for being like dope and forthcoming and honest. This was awesome. And I will let you know when this comes out. But be great. I have a video on my full-screen show, which is really about the two nice guy problem that you should check out. Next week, I'm going to take some friends to this really cool place. It's a jazz club. Oh my God, I love jazz. It's so cool. Some nights they do salsa like the... I love salsa as well too. And I love jazz. Are you into that genre of kingdoms and kings and knights and queens? Are you? Not first. Yeah, me neither. What are your like your biggest pet peeves? Someone who's like a little passive aggressive. I guess I don't like that. I agree, yeah. Or like, you know, dramatic. 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