 Hey survivors in this video. I'm going to be giving you nine secrets the narcissist doesn't want you to know Please like comment share and subscribe Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos if you would like to donate My PayPal links in a video description If you are interested in one-on-one coaching you can email me at nazfabacoachinadjuma.com Nine secrets the narcissist doesn't want you to know Narciss hate rules. They believe that they are the exception They believe that they are excluded from a general statement Or that they are not required to follow a rule or law They believe that they are perfect just as they are and they do not need to change Everyone else needs to change to accommodate them They hate authority They hate anyone who tries to impose a decision or ruling on them They hate any demands of their attention or commitment They will try to manipulate you or their supervisors And to bend in the rules for them They hate rules because they hate responsibility and accountability If they can change the rules they can avoid being held accountable for their actions Narciss hate deep conversations They don't engage in deep meaningful Conversations unless they are the center of it Deep conversations about life or the world Takes the attention away from them. They feel uncomfortable talking about things. They don't have much knowledge of They have a fear of being proven wrong In their minds they can never be wrong They will avoid any conversation that they can't win Narciss argue with their feelings rather than facts or logic If you are trying to have a deep conversation with a narcissist They will try to change the topic Or give their own irrelevant or morally superior perspective Narciss are only interested in high value or attractive people Whoever the narcissist be friends or engages with Must benefit them in some way They choose high value and physically attractive friends or partners To feel superior to the people around them They will often name drop in conversations as a way of obtaining narcissistic supply They believe that by being around desirable and powerful people It will transfer their desirability and power onto them Narciss prefer to avoid anyone who is unfortunate or unattractive They are not interested in being around anyone who doesn't benefit them They will only engage with people Who are unfortunate As a way of displaying their moral superiority Narciss compartmentalize people They divide people into discrete sections and categories They see people as objects And these objects are categorized according to their specific function They compartmentalize people according to their usability in performance specific tasks or functions They might have a friend to go out with when they're bored People to advance their career or finances People to have sex with And people they can use as an emotional punching bag The narcissist beliefs values and emotions change depending on who they are with They will often use their primary source of supply as an emotional punching bag While they will have a secondary source of supply to use for sex They will be annoyed or irritated if you try to deviate from your assigned task If you are their primary source of supply You are there to clean the home look after the children or carry their emotional baggage If you are their secondary source of supply You are a sex toy They hate it when their primary source of supply tries to initiate sex Just as they hate it when their secondary source wants to talk about traveling or moving in together It would be like having a knife and fork when you are eating But using your fork to cut your food Narcissists have multiple personalities They have specific personalities for each person they associate with They will have a different personality at home with the primary source Than when they are with the secondary source They will also have another personality when they are at work or with it with friends Not only do they have a different personality But they will also display different beliefs, values and emotions They might dress differently They might talk in a different way Their lives revolve around getting attention and admiration And exploiting people for their own benefit or gain Each personality is assigned for a specific purpose And is designed to achieve specific goals or personal benefits Narcissists use your secrets against you At the beginning of the relationship you might open up to the narcissist And tell them something that you have experienced Or something that you have done Involving family, friends or previous relationship partner They will act very trustworthy and make you believe that it could benefit you by opening up to them They will often get to reveal personal information Or something that they can later use against you as ammo Once you are no longer useful to them Or if you threaten to leave them They will then use this information against you They will then triangulate you with a family, friend or relationship partner Or they will reveal whatever you confided in them This will then be used to enforce fly monkeys and create a smear campaign It is designed to prevent you from moving on Or trying to begin a new life without them Narcissists always have a backup They will not leave until they have secured a backup source of supply During the devaluation phase They are receiving attention and admiration from someone else They are grooming this person to be the new primary source Once they have discarded you You will often notice that a few months before the discard You don't see the narcissist as much Or they become cold and distant This is when they are targeting their new source of supply The discard phase is an illusion They want you to believe that once they have discarded you It is over and they are not coming back But what happens What often happens is that once they have loved bomb the new source And extracted whatever resources they wanted from them They will often go back to whoever they just discarded This could be weeks months or even years after the discard But if you have figured them out and they know that you know They usually won't put themselves in that position Where you can outsmart them Or where you are not going to be a suitable target for their manipulation Even then it's not that they don't want to come back It's just that they know they can't Narcissists don't want to change or grow They want to be something great But they don't want to work hard for it For them to progress They would need to self reflect or look within They would need to be accountable for their actions That is the only way that they could learn from their faults and mistakes And then develop it into something more respectable or productive Instead they choose to put other people down To display themselves as being superior They don't want to change or grow They want you to adjust and adapt your natural way of living To accommodate them Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos If you would like to donate, my PayPal links in the video description Coaching inquiries you can email me at narcisfevercoaching at gmail.com Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon