 What's going on you guys? Welcome to the Single Guy Channel. My name's Lloyd. Today we're going to be talking about how to be successful with women when you have anxiety problems, you have emotional problems, you have a lot of issues that are going on in your life that are associated with those things. You know, I myself have had these problems for a very long time. So in this video what I'm going to be talking about is I'm going to be talking about my story and kind of how I overcame my anxiety problems or was able to manage them to a level where I was able to be extremely successful with women. And I think if you're a guy who's suffering from these issues too, if you watch this video, hopefully this will give you an idea about something that you can try to help get over this. Okay cool. So before I get into this, if you guys are looking to get trained by me in person, check out my live training schedule you guys. I'm going to be hitting up San Francisco in early January. I'm also going to be hitting Toronto, Los Angeles, Miami, New York City and Scottsdale. So take a look at that. If any of those cities sound familiar to you, I would take a look at my live training schedule. We'd love to see you. Okay cool. So let's talk about my story and my struggles with anxiety and how I overcame them to be able to be successful with women. Okay so the first thing that I'm going to tell you here is that what is the level of anxiety that I had? Okay so I've taken several personality tests and the last personality test I took I got 89 out of 100 in terms of emotionality and 89 out of 100 in terms of anxiety. Now I've taken a bunch of other tests such as Jordan Peterson's test. I think I got 99 out of 100 in terms of like very anxious behavior. There's another one that I took like the Myers-Briggs also showed that I had a high levels of of anxiousness and anxiety and people will tell me you know even my mother will tell you that I've always been a very anxious person. Okay my anxiety has gotten a lot better. Okay the 89 out of 100 I got is probably would have been 100 out of 100 if I had taken that test two to three years ago and in fact I took a couple tests five years ago and when I was in college and basically it told me that I was extremely at risk for suicide and depression well I was depressed at the time extremely at risk for suicide because of my extreme high levels of anxiety so I've improved but I still have overall a very very anxious person. So how did I succeed with women despite these challenges? Okay well the first thing that I did was I didn't use my anxiety as an excuse ever for why I can't achieve my dreams and I know that can be trouble for some people but for me it was something that I either dealt with this issue or I'm just not successful you know and it was either those two choices so what the first thing that I started doing was I started saying okay I have extreme high levels of anxiety how are ways that I can cut down on my anxiety levels. So one thing that I noticed about myself was that and I noticed this in a lot of other people too was that if I thought too far into the future then I would start to get upset so I would look at my current situation right now and I didn't have at the time I didn't have any friends I didn't have anybody who I could trust I didn't have any girls that liked me none none that I liked back and that made me really upset because there was tons of girls that I liked around that didn't like me so I would think okay how can I get these girls or one of these girls to like me to date me to do something like that that was so far into the future that when I thought about it and thought how unachievable it was I would get really upset so what I started to do is I started to think okay can I get one girl to maybe laugh at my joke okay alright I couldn't get one girl to laugh my joke could I get one girl to talk to me alright awesome I was able to do that today so that's a win then I would start by planning it step by step I could get a girl to laugh at my joke I could get a girl to talk to me for a while I could get a girl to give me her phone number I could get a girl to show up to a party that I was going to I could get a girl to you know go out on a date with me and then so on and so forth when I broke it down in baby steps I was able to actually see things and they seemed achievable to me so that cut down on my anxiety a little bit too the other thing that I started doing was I started exposing myself to uncomfortable situations and I think this is a big thing that a lot of anxious people should start doing more and more because the first time you do something it's so like paralyzingly scary that after you do it everything else seems a little bit easier so if you spend time not doing anything not taking action and not doing it I found that that actually made my anxiety a lot worse if I was willing to push through the the little bit of burst of anxiety that I would get to talk to a new girl or something like that and actually got better and better over time so even though I was really really anxious and crippled with anxiety at the beginning if I would do one thing maybe like maybe I would talk to a girl who was working as opposed to a girl who was like just on the street or something like that that would help me get over my nerves a little bit because usually the people that are working are very nice to you I mean they're they're on the job so they're not going to say anything too mean to you because they don't want to get fired so I would start with them and then I would work my way up okay or maybe we'll talk to some girls that I wasn't terribly attracted to so that way that would cut down the nerves a little bit I would take baby steps okay so I took baby steps when it came to the steps that I would take for you know making strides with women and then I would practice getting over my anxiety by actually executing on those baby steps slowly but surely and the final thing that I did which I think a lot of people can start doing is that we tend to fight things so when a doctor tells you that you're a very anxious person when your parents or a test or a personality quiz tell you that you're you have anxiety problems that you're suffering from them and you need this medication to get over them you know I just feel like for me that's not a good way of looking at the problem there's actually a lot of cool things to being an anxious person I actually like this side of myself you know I have a lot of sleepless nights I have to suffer from insomnia don't like that but at the same time too I'm I'm kind of a perfectionist you know I want to get things right and because I worry a lot and I'm anxious in certain areas although it might cause me a little bit of discomfort at the time overall I think it could be good for performance I want to wait like if I'm like if I'm coming out with a program or if I'm coaching a student or been growing my business or doing jujitsu I really want to make sure that I get things right and I noticed that my anxiety pushes me harder and motivates me more than a lot of other guys so my anxiety is not all bad I actually don't see it as a disorder or I don't see it as a problem quite as much as I think some other people might if maybe a doctor told them or the way I used to see it in the past I used to see it as just a horrible thing that wasn't gonna wasn't gonna be good for anybody okay so I'm more at ease with my anxiety and because of that one thing that I do that I think is a lot different than a lot of other people that suffer from this is if I'm anxious I'm anxious that's okay like if I'm gonna be scared before I go up and talk to a girl or if I'm feeling really I have a lot of high levels of anxiety at the moment I'm okay with it okay and what I mean I'm not okay with it like it's totally great I'm skipping around happy but I but I try not to fight the feelings because I've noticed that if I try and fight my anxiety it takes a lot more energy for me to do that and then pretend like I'm not anxious then it is for me to just be nervous just embrace the feelings and say oh you know a feeling kind of nervous we'll see what happens when I go talk to this girl and so for me if I embrace the feelings and learn how to live with them and learn how to be better then I find it helps a lot and so sure my anxiety has come down as meditation has helped you know being not reacting to things in the same way learning mindset shifts but overall I'm still an anxious person I don't think that's going to change anytime soon so me living with it has become extremely important and if you're a person who's living with that I encourage you maybe at times it might be good to stop fighting or anxiety and you know just preventing yourself from doing anything but just being able to carry on with your day and accepting it you know I'm gonna be a little anxious today that's okay I can still get my work done I can still talk to that girl I can still make the take the actions that I need to take to improve my life so if that helps you guys I hope it did you know I've been a person that's suffering from this for ages a lot of my students and clients suffer from this too so I help them with it with it too if you're a person who suffers from a high level of anxiety please post in the comment section below and if you're wondering how to get coached by me one on one please fill out my form down below and if you feel like you're a good fit then hit me up oh sorry we'll hit you up if that's what happens okay cool thanks a lot you guys good luck out there